Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Don't allow others opinions to define you.

What's up again good people? You already know who this is; It's ya man Brad H coming at you again with another weekly edition of "Brad H's Perspective". I hope everyone is doing fairly well, and had an enjoyable Memorial Day weekend. Before I get into this week's topic, I want to give a quick update on my progress with the goal I set on Runkeeper(runkeeper.com). To my delight, I found out that I'm able to post and share my running activities from Runkeeper on blogger. I've posted two running activities thus far, and I have two others that I've yet to post. I'm aiming to post those following this blog post here. As far as my progress with the goal itself, I've completed 23 out of the 25 mile goal that I set for this month. That means that I now have 2 more days to run two miles. Should be a piece of cake right? I'm pretty confident that I will be able to finish out the goal for the month. I never had any doubts in my mind that I could complete this goal. Mainly because I know the type of person that I am. Once I dedicate myself to doing something, I don't rest until it's done. I hope you will continue to stay tuned with my running progression. Alright it's time for this weeks topic.

We all know that everyone who is living and breathing are going to have opinions. We also know that we as a people have opinions on a variety of different things and topics. Opinions can be limitless when it comes to forming them. They also can be for good or for bad. Unfortunately, we live in a world where most people tend to form negative opinions and thoughts of others. It's like some people are constantly looking for the worst in other people. Instead of forming positive opinions and trying to find something good to say about others, people let negativity take them over. Here is a prime example of what I mean. I was at my younger cousins 8th grade graduation last Friday, and all I heard was negativity from various people that were sitting around me. Many of them were making comments about what others were wearing when they walking into the gym. Some were even criticizing some of the young students for what they were wearing. I was sitting there thinking to myself;"Yo this is ridiculous". However, as ignorant and non-important as I found it, I knew there was nothing I could do to stop it. People are going to say and think whatever they want, and that's just a fact of life. As bad and negative as this type of thinking can be at times, the great thing is that we don't have to let others opinions define who we are.

There are so many times where we worry about what others think of us. Now I'm not saying this is a bad thing when it comes to certain people. Of course we are going to care what our family and close friends think of us. That's because we know most of them mean well and have our best interests are heart. However, we shouldn't get caught up in what other people who don't matter think of us. As much as some people try it make life out to be a popularity contest, it's not. Our lives and how we view them should be based around how we view ourselves. Our opinions of ourselves are really all that matter in the end. We can only live our lives for ourselves. Nobody can live your life for you, so focus on your own thoughts, ideas, and opinions. Don't allow yourself to get caught up in what others think of you. The moment that we do that is the moment that we are allowing our minds to be controlled. We're not robots, so we aren't made to be controlled. Having our own thoughts and making our own choices are what life is all about. Allowing other peoples opinions of us be to a defining factor in our lives is guaranteed to make us miserable inside. I don't know about you, but I feel life is extremely too short to constantly be miserable. What do you think?

Alright folks that's it for this weeks edition of Brad H's Perspective. As I've mentioned in several blog posts before, I'm far from a perfect person, and I struggle with things as well. My goal with this blog is to motivate others, and motivate myself to become better in the that process. I want to learn from other people, and hopefully they are able to learn from me as well. Would love to hear feedback on what you think of this topic, so feel free to leave and drop comments. I will be headed out of town this upcoming weekend to visit family, so I may be late with next weeks post. However, I will be back again sometime next week with a posting, so be sure to stay tuned. Remember that life is what WE make of it. Don't worry about or stress over what others think of you. It's like a lyric that I heard in a song that I like. I don't know who the artist on the song is, but it's a track from on of K-Murdock's albums. The lyric goes; "Life is what you make of it and people will doubt you. It's not about them, it's really about you". I couldn't agree more, and that's probably the reason why I listen to that song so much. Alright everyone I'm out, so thanks for reading and I wish you continued peace, love, and blessings. Have a great week.

Friday, May 25, 2012



Monday, May 21, 2012

Be your own motivator!

Hello once again good people. It's ya man Brad H coming back at you again with another weekly edition of "Brad H's Perspective". As always I hope this blog post reaches everyone in great health and spirits. As for me, I'm doing better myself. I had gotten sick early last week, so that slowed me down for a few days. It was even more unfortunate because I had to miss a few days of running. Some of you may remember that I mentioned in a couple of blog posts ago that I set a goal of 25 total miles of running for the month of May. My little sick spell held me back a few days. However, I'm now back on track and feeling much better. I think that Runkeeper, which is the site I use to track my runs has a option of posting runs to a blog. I'll be sure to check next time, and if so, I'll start posting my running activities on here. There is also something else that happened recently that excited me. I got the opportunity to see "Marvels: The Avengers" yesterday. This was the first movie for 2012 that I was highly anticipating to go see, and it definitely didn't disappoint. Being a huge fan of comic book and hero movies, I enjoyed it a lot. I hope some of you have been able to see it also. Alright it's time to get into this weeks topic.

Many of us constantly look to other people to help keep us motivated. I'm in no way saying this is a bad thing, it most definitely isn't. I will be the first to admit that there are tons of information and sources I use to help keep myself motivated. When I'm working out or running, I think about and refer a lot of the videos I've watched of great athletes or personal trainers. People who excelled at whatever sport they were good at, or words of wisdom they use always inspires me. Sometimes I may read a blog or article about someone who got themselves into excellent shape, or became more healthier by losing weight. Things of this nature this play a large role in my motivation. As great as outside factors besides ourselves are for motivation, it's important for us to be our own motivators as well. I know this concept may sounds really simple to some, but many of us are solely using the motivation from others as our primary motivating factor. If there are goals we want to achieve or obstacles we are looking to get past, we have to look within ourselves first. Everything that we do must start within ourselves. Other factors that we use for motivation are only supposed to help enhance what we already have within us.

I could use this blog that I post on as a prime example. I have to have a passion for writing in this blog and keeping it updated on a regular basis. When I read other peoples blogs or watch others post video vlogs on various online platforms, it encourages me to want to step up my game. However, it doesn't matter how much I read or watch others if I'm not personally driven by something within me. We can't always use others to be our sole source of being motivation. We need to find things and interests that we like, and focus on being our own primary motivators. Use the motivation from others to help you create and enhance what you should already have inside of you. If you can't find that fire or drive to do something, then it's most likely not for you. There's no need to force anything. If it's really something that you're interested in, you will naturally enjoy doing it.

Alright folks that's it for this installment of Brad H's Perspective. Just to recap real quick, focus on being your primary motivator. Lets allow the things we want to do in life be all us and not about other people. Try to stay personally driven. There may come a time where others aren't around to push us, so we gotta look deep within ourselves and find that source of strength. It's a simple, but important concept. One that I don't think can be stressed enough. So what do you think about this topic? I would love to see others feedback on this along with my other topics in general. Feel free to drop comments and leave your opinions. We're all on here to learn. Well I'm out peeps, but we'll be back later on in the week, or early next week if God says the same. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog and post, and hopefully it helped provide some extra motivation. I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm already feeling more motivated. Till next time, peace, love, and blessings.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Focus on becoming better, not perfect.

What's up? What's up? What's up? It's ya boy Brad H coming back at you again with another edition of "Brad H's Perspective". How is everyone doing? I hope that you all are doing well, staying up, and maintaining. Before we get into this week's discussion, I want to apologize for this post being two days late. I normally try to write and update this blog every Sunday. However, with Mothers Day taking place this past Sunday, I ran out of time. I also want to say Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers out there. I hope you all enjoyed your special day. You women are truly the backbone of life, and you should be appreciated daily. Secondly, I ran out of time updating yesterday as well. I had to help my younger sister move some things out of her dorm room since the end of the college semester is closely approaching for her. Anyway, I'm back now and we are going to get into this week's topic.

Perfection is something that many of us look to achieve. I mean lets be honest, there is nothing wrong with wanting things to be perfect. If it were up to many of us, we would be living in a perfect world. Remember that song from the 80's "Perfect World" by Huey Lewis & The News? Oh man how I miss the music from the 80's and 90's. Okay I know I'm getting off topic, but at least the song coincides with what I'm talking about. There is nothing in life that will completely be perfect. No matter how perfect people claim to be, everything and everyone have flaws. I know that a lot of these Hollywood celebrities and entertainers want us to think they are perfect, but that's far from the truth. Maybe they feel that way because so many fans seem to worship them, which is something I don't understand. That's another topic for another day though. Health and fitness is another area that some people strive for perfection at. Some people almost kill themselves to develop and sculpt that perfect body that we see athletes, entertainers, and trainers have. Is it really worth it in the end though? Perfection is unattainable, so instead of focusing on becoming perfect, why not focus on becoming a better person? Don't you think that becoming a better person is more achievable than being perfect? I personally think so.

Becoming a better person is something that all of us can achieve if we want. One of the major problems that discourages people from taking steps towards becoming better is that "being perfect" mindset. Becoming an overall better person is so much easier than being perfect. All it takes is taking small steps daily, and a will to change for the better. I'm in no way saying it's an easy task bettering ourselves. Becoming a better person can definitely be a challenge for us all. We all have different things about our lives and ourselves that we want to change. No person's situation is the same when it comes to wanting to change. I see a lot of people who have the same mindset they had a few years ago. Some are still thinking the way they did 10 or 20 years ago. Shouldn't life about changing and evolving as we get older? Shouldn't becoming a wiser and better person before we leave this Earth be a goal of ours. Bettering ourselves isn't only limited to our mind and our thoughts. There are variety of ways we can look to better ourselves. The way we interact with those we care about and people in general can be something we strive to do better. Improving our situations and circumstances can be another example. There are so many ways we can better ourselves, the opportunities are limitless. We just have to evaluate who we are and the things we want to change about ourselves.

If you are one of those people that is striving for perfection, I admire you. As I mentioned before, there is nothing wrong with wanting things to be perfect or striving to become the perfect person. Just know and be aware that none of us are perfect, so in essence it's a losing battle. All we can do is focus on being the best individuals we can be. I personally don't strive for being perfect. I want to better myself with each and every step that life brings. If I can do that consistently, then I can be satisfied with who I am. Daily improvements are how we become better. It's not about becoming perfect, but becoming better. Well that's it for this post peeps. I hope that anyone who read this post enjoyed it, and hopefully you were able to find some inspiration in it. I know that I'm already feeling inspired just by writing it out. I'm planning on getting in a run later on, and I'm looking to slowly improve my time from my previous run. I'm not looking to become perfect, I'm just looking to be the best person I can be. I wish the same for you as well. I hope to see you all again later on in this week. Till then peace, love, and blessings.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Lets learn to roll with the punches.

Hello once again to all. You already know who it is, and what time it is. It's ya man Brad H. coming back at you again. Welcome to another edition of Brad H's Perspective. I hope that everyone had a positive and fulfilling week, and you're ready for another positive week ahead. I had a great run earlier this evening. It helped in getting me even more motivated to do this blog post. By the way, I set a goal on Runkeeper(runkeeper.com) earlier in the week. The goal is to run 25 total miles this month. I'm 12% of the way through with it, so I got a ways to go. However, i'll get there slowly through discipline and just showing up. I'll keep those interested with my progress throughout the month in future posts. Now lets get to what we're discussing today. In this post I want to discuss the term "rolling with the punches", and how we must learn to take the punches that life sometimes deals us. I think it's pretty fitting that I chose the right title for this particular post. We had a great night of boxing last night with Floyd Mayweather Jr. taking on Miguel Cotto. We also got to see Saul "Canelo" Alvarez take on "Sugar" Shane Mosley. I hope you all were able to catch the fights and enjoyed them. Now lets get into what we're discussing today.

First off, lets ask a question. If you happened to get into a physical altercation with someone, which type of punch do you think would hurt you most? Getting punched while you are standing still, or taking a punch that hits you while you are moving? I'm willing to bet you said the punch that hits you while standing still would hurt more. That's exactly right. As simple as that question may sound, it's a perfect example for being able to roll with the punches. We know that all punches hurt, but the ones that hit us while we are moving, or the ones that we are more prepared for hurt less. That's one of the reasons why boxers move so much in the ring. They know they are going to get hit, but the goal is to be able to absorb and take the shots. We can equate this logic to our everyday lives. It's a fact that no matter who you are, or how well off you are in this world, there are going to be times when life hits you. There is no way of getting around it. When life hits, it's often unexpected most of the time. There are a number of time in our lives when unexpected events will happen. Some can be for good, and some are bad. However, we must learn to roll with the blows that life sometimes deals us.

There are various unexpected events that can happen to catch us off guard. The death of someone close to us, finding out someone we love, or even ourselves having a terminal disease. A disappointment or setback in a job or something career related, or relationship problems can catch us off guard as well. There are no limits as to the tough times life can bring us. It reminds me a lot of Sylvester Stallone's speech to his son in the movie, "Rocky Balboa". He said that "Nobody hits harder than life". I found this to be such a true and powerful statement. When life hits, all we can do is keep moving forward. Yes it's sometimes going to hurt, but we can't allow the bad times keep us down. Any and all things can be overcome if we want to get through them. Wallowing in our problems is not the answer to solving them. Faith, belief, and effort are the keys.

Lets let today be the day we dust off our burdens and get up. Lets make an effort to roll with the punches that life brings us. Lets prepare ourselves to be as ready as we possibly can. Athletes train for competition to be prepared, so lets train our minds to be as ready as we possibly can for the hardships of life. We all know they are coming. I'm going to leave a link to the inspiration speech by Rock Balboa at the bottom. For those of you who haven't seen this movie, I hope you enjoy this clip. It's truly inspiring. Well that's it for this week of Brad H's Perspective. I already feel motivated by reading my own words. I hope that anyone who reads this finds it inspiring. I'm only focused on being as positive as I can be. I'm far from perfect, so like I've said before I want to push myself to be better. I hope you all have a great week, and we'll be back at it again later on in the week. Till then, I send peace, love, and blessings to all.