Friday, April 14, 2017

Avoid Making Negative Thinking Habitual.

Most people that look to inspire other people, or seek inspiration for themselves are happy with pushing and promoting the power of positive thinking. I'm a firm believer and advocate of positive thinking and actions, but I'm also aware that we all have times in our lives where negativity rears its head. We are often taught to believe that we should always be positive individuals regardless of what we're facing, but we know from experience that isn't always the case. Like I've stated before, regardless of how positive an individual may be, we all have moments and incidents that can contribute to putting us in a negative mindset for a brief period. Now although I believe in and push positive thinking, I think that occasional bouts of negativity can be somewhat healthy. I know that probably sounds a bit weird. For me, the problems creep in when we take those stints of negativity and turn them into negative habits. This is something that we all see and hear about much too often in our world today. It's almost like a snowball effect in some ways. You have this tiny snowball that is negativity, and then it balloons into something bigger. Then before you know it, you've went from someone that is occasional negative to someone that is constantly negative. As with most things in life, negative thinking can become habitual, and this is something that we should aim to stop before it gets out of hand.

What's good ladies and gentlemen? It is I Brad H. back at it once again, and welcome to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Thanks to everyone that stopped by once again. Hope everyone has been doing great since the last edition. If you happen to have negative things going on in your life right now, try to keep on holding your head high. Most importantly, keep on striving towards changing your life for the better. As for me personally, I've doing okay, but I haven't been as great as I'd like. In my last post, I mentioned how 2017 has been a challenging year so far. The challenges have continued as there have been some unfortunate events happen to people that I care for. I can't speak for anyone else, but I feel somewhat inadequate whenever someone that I love is going through trials. It's like despite things going well for me, I sometimes feel that I should be suffering along with them. I know that isn't the right way to think, but it's very hard to feel fulfilled when people you care for are experiencing pain. If there is any advice I can give to anyone out there going through something similar, I would say to please be sensitive to what other people are going through. You may not have all the answers, and you honestly don't need to have all the answers. All you have to do is be there for others to the best of your ability. Believe it or not, your presence will do all the speaking for you. Just wanted to throw that out there. Alright now, lets go ahead and talk a bit more about the avoidance of making negativity habitual.

As with the normal disclaimer that I give, I'd like to say that our individual viewpoints and opinions will always vary. The objective here is isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to hopefully encourage readers to view various topics in a different light than they normally would. The way that I view or see things isn't the only way of viewing things, and I don't expect everyone to agree with me. The goal is first inspire myself, and through the process of writing out my thoughts, hopefully inspire others as well. It is perfectly okay if anyone disagrees or feels differently, and whatever thoughts and feedback that anyone has is totally welcome. I really don't have much to contribute in regards as to how this particular topic came about. I would mainly credit thought as to how this topic came about. A few nights ago before heading off to sleep, I was thinking as I often do, and about how so many of us fall into the pattern of constantly being negative. I thought to myself that negativity isn't totally bad since there are a few good things that can come from it. However, one of the things that can expand and make negativity worse is when we allow it to become a habit that we develop. In my opinion, when negativity runs your life and you find yourself thinking nothing but negative thoughts, you've probably gone a bit too far with it. Because I feel this is so rampant in our society today, I want to try and do my part in addressing it.

Now as I mentioned earlier, I feel that it is perfectly normal for us to experience negative thoughts and emotions. Many of us attempt to see the good in everything that we experience, and there's nothing wrong with that. However, the truth is that we sometimes need to experience negative events in our lives. The reason I feel this way stems from the idea of being appreciative. Life is all about being balanced and not letting the pendulum swing too far away from it's opposite. We have to experience negative emotions occasionally, because if we didn't experience them at all, we wouldn't be able to appreciate the positive things that happen in our lives. Think about this as an example. Imagine that you have a nice car that you end up crashing or something of that nature. Because of this event, you will maybe find yourself without the car or a car in general for sometime. Crashing the car and losing it could be classified as something negative right? Now if you're the type of person that is always having a car or never knowing the feeling of being without one, you probably wouldn't handle this too well since you're not used to it. Now if you're smart and learn from the things that happen in your life, you will likely have a greater appreciation for the next car you have because you know what is is like to have and lost. All of this stemmed from something negative that happened, but if you were able to learn from the experience, it likely put everything into perspective.

Now that I've established why I believe it is necessary to experience negativity occasionally, I want to talk about making negative thinking a habit. Now some of us find ourselves developing a habit of negative thinking when we find bad events happening in our lives more often than we would like. It's like when you feel like things are going bad for you more often than not, you start to expect bad things to constantly happen. From my perspective, this is exactly how a negative mindset can become a habit forming routine and before you know it, you've become a person that is negative on a regular basis. Instead of being able to see the things that happen for what they are, which are often just circumstances, we allow those circumstances to dictate how we view other aspects of life. Now remember when I stated in the car example earlier that a negative event that occurs can be put into perspective if something was learned from it? From my perspective, a negative can become a positive if we're able to take anything that happened from that negative and learn from it. If you're constantly stuck in a habitual routine of being negative, then you're mind will probably be too clouded to be able to learn anything from the unfortunate events that may happen in life. Again, it is all about perspective and being able to view things for what they are. In my opinion, and this is just my opinion; a negative state of mind is formed over time. I could be wrong about this, but that is how I see it.

So why do we not want to make negative thinking become habitual? Well besides the obvious things like people likely not wanting to be around you because you push them away, or the fact that being negative all the time is such a waste of energy, a routine of negative thinking takes away our ability to appreciate things. If you're the type of person that always expects the worse to happen or only sees the bad in life, how will you be able to appreciate the good things that happen? You probably won't be able to. I understand and realize that we all deal with negative things happening in our lives, but at the end of the day, these things are all a part of life. More importantly, I believe that regardless of how many negative events happen in our lives, we always have things to be appreciative for. I'm not saying that we should always be overly positive to the point where we become delusional. I just feel that it is important to stay positive and balanced, but also be able to take something away from whatever negative events that happen in our lives. So lets try focus on and avoid making negative thinking a habit. The negative is out there and will always be around, but I always say that you don't have to give into something just because it is there. The quote that I'm going to end with a quote by Chikku George Thomas that goes; "A negative thinker see a difficulty in every opportunity, a positve thinker see an opporunity in every difficulty."

Well that is all I have for this time around folks. Thank you all once again to all that stopped through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this post. I hope everyone has an enjoyable Easter weekend. I'm pretty excited that the NBA Playoffs are starting tomorrow. My team (San Antonio Spurs) are facing the Memphis Grizzlies in the first round. I have faith in my team, but I will admit that Memphis always gives the Spurs problems. We'll see how it goes, but I think the Spurs will win the series. Hope everyone else that watches basketball enjoys the playoffs as well. Well I'm gone, so till next time we meet, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.

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Friday, March 31, 2017

It's Nobody's Responsibility To Solve Your Problems (The Answers Are Often Within).

Everyone has moments in our lives where we find ourselves searching for answers. Life can sometimes turn our worlds upside down to the point where we finding ourselves bumbling and stumbling for answers. When these moments normally happen in our lives, the average person often seeks out the help of others. We look towards these people to give us the guidance we need to navigate the issues we're facing. While I feel it is necessary to ask for help from others from time to time, there are too many of us that look for others to solve our problems completely. It's like instead of seeking help and working together with someone to get our issues straightened out, we want others to just give us all the answers without having to do much. This is a mentality that can trickle down from one area of our lives to another, which can lead to a downward spiral of always counting on others to solve our problems. From the spiral that occurs within this mentality, a potential decline in our relationships with others can happen when the people that we count on are not always able to be there. Again, there is nothing wrong with asking for or seeking help in times of need, but it also behooves us to understand that it's not the responsibility of others to solve our problems. Furthermore, many of us would probably be surprised at how many of the answers we're seeking are already within us.

What's good my people out there? It is your guy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' once again. Respect and thanks goes out to those of you that came through to see what I'm discussing for the week. As always, I hope everyone has been doing well and maintaining. Don't really have a lot to touch on this week in regards to things that are happening in life. However, I do want to mention something about the year 2017 that I've been dealing with thus far. You know how we all have certain vibes and feelings about certain things that we can't quite explain? Well heading into this year, I had a feeling that it would be a year of both change and hardship. Not going to get into details, but I will say that 2017 has been a challenging year for me personally thus far. There has been a lot of things going on with people that I'm close to that has been affecting me as well. I'm pointing this out to let everyone know that although I come on here to talk about positive issues and topics most of the time, I have struggles that I have to deal with in my life like we all do. Staying positive can sometimes be a challenge, but the most important thing to remember is the importance of not giving up. Regardless of what is happening in our lives whether it is for good or bad, we have to continue to keep on showing up and fighting those internal battles. I just wanted to touch on that real quick, and I'll probably do a post in the future about the importance of not giving up. Now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets talk a bit more about the topic at hand on how the answers we're seeking are often within.

As with the normal standard that I've set on here, I want to point out that a person's individual viewpoints will always differ from person to person. The main point here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to hopefully stimulate the minds of others to view certain topics in a way that they may have never considered. I'm in no way saying that my viewpoint is right, nor am I implying that the way I see things is the correct way of looking at things. I'm just hoping to first help and inspire myself, and through that process, hopefully inspire others as well. If you agree with me, cool, if not, that's fine and well and I appreciate your visit. If anyone has any feedback to contribute on this or any other topic that I've talked about, please feel free to do so in the comment box. As for insight on how I arrived at talking about this topic, I would contribute it to a combination of my thoughts, along with seeing this habit happen from others. Now because I said that, I don't want people to think or assume that I'm criticizing others that maybe engage in this habit. Heck, I myself has struggled with this before, and it took me some time to understand that my problems are not other peoples problems. Again, the goal here is to inspire and encourage. We're not here to condemn others at all. As I've stated before, and I will continue to maintain, my eyes and ears are closest to me so anything that I talk about here applies to myself as well.

Now as I stated earlier in this post, there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others for help occasionally. We all need help from time to time, and if you happen to believe that not to be fact, you are probably kidding yourself. I realize that a lot of people like to feel like they know everything, but lets be real here, none of us have everything figured out. From my perspective, the asking of help isn't the issue at hand when it comes to solving our problems. The problem is when we feel that other people are obligated to provide us all the answers for solving our own issues. There are several reasons why this is a problem in my opinion, but there are two that I really want to put emphasis on for the sake of the topic at hand. First off, our problems and issues are ours and ours alone, which means that no one else will see nor experience our problems the same way we do. Ever heard the saying; "Your life is yours and yours alone"? The same mentality applies when it comes to your problems. Because other people aren't you and will never truly see the world you do, there is only so much that they can understand when it comes to you and how you view things. Of course people can relate and offer guidance and support, but the fact is that your issues are yours and yours alone. The second point I want to touch on is the fact that other people can't always stop what they're doing to help us.

I'm a firm believer in the old adage that no one owes anyone any help in this life, so be grateful for any help you receive along the way. This mentality is huge when it comes to handling our problems. There are people in this world that really believe that people should stop what they're doing to help them. Think about how selfish of a mentality that is for second. You really want people to not worry about the things they have to face in their own lives because you're in need? Not only is that selfish behavior, but it is also not realistic. Everyone is facing things in their lives in some form or another, and it's not morally right to expect others to be at your every beck and call. Now what I want to focus on next is the idea that the answers and solutions to our problems are often already within. What do I mean by this you may wonder? As I stated previously, only you know what is truly right for you. Again, your journey throughout life is yours and yours alone. This is exactly why I believe that most of the answers that we are looking for are already within. The thing is that we have to search within ourselves for them, which often requires a bit of something that a lot of us don't like to do anymore; thinking for ourselves. Because we've become so reliant on others for help and guidance, many of us neglect thinking for ourselves. This is something that we have to work on changing.

Again, I want to make clear that I'm not saying that we shouldn't be seeking help from others. I'd like to think that we should view any help that we receive from others as a guide or map that can help lead us down the right path. Think of an athlete that has a trainer or mentor that helps them reach their full potential in whatever sport they're in. The mentor helps give the blueprint for becoming successful, but it's the athlete that has to follow the blueprint. Whether or not the athlete succeeds all boils down to them and how much effort they're willing to put in. From my perspective, that is exactly how we should be viewing our problems. So if any of this applies to anyone out there, just remember that it's not any else responsibility to solve your issues. We have to work on exercising a bit of thought and critical thinking instead of being so reliant on others for their help. Finally, if you do have people in your life that don't mind extending themselves to help you, always be grateful to them, because they definitely don't have to do it. The quote that I'm going to leave that I think applies to this topic comes from Bev Haworth. "I am learning not to feel responsible for the problems, issues, circumstances or behavior of others. I am learning that I can show empathy & understanding and listen with care & attention without feeling the need to fix things or make them right."

Alright ladies and gentlemen, we have arrived at the end of this week's topic. Thank you once again to everyone that came through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that some meaning and understanding could be gained from this. Before I get out of here, I want to give a shout out to my younger cousin Derion. He recently went off to Navy boot camp, and I've been missing him like crazy as of late. In the month leading up to his leaving, he and I had hung out a lot and worked out together. It feels a little more lonely going on my runs now without him, but I'm happy that he is doing something to better himself. I know he probably won't see this anything soon, but I love and miss you bro. Well I hope everyone has a great weekend ahead, and till next time, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.

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Friday, March 17, 2017

Maintaining Discipline Requires Sacrifice, But It's Worth It.

Most of us know by now that there are always pros and cons that come along with the decisions that we make. With nearly every choice that we make in our live regardless of how much it may benefit us, there will always be some kind of sacrifice that comes along with it. If you look at or study anyone that has achieved a significant amount of success at something they're good at, most of them mention the amount of sacrifice that was required on their part to reach their peak. I believe that this also applies when it comes to maintaining discipline in our lives as well. We all hear or have heard about the importance of being disciplined in life, but how many of us really know what discipline is? By definition, discipline is defined as being able to "train oneself to do something in a controlled and habitual way." There are other definitions and meanings as well, however for the sake of the point that I will be discussing this week, I'm going to stick to the aforementioned definition since I think it aligns more with this week's topic. The ability for one to trains themselves to have discipline is certain aspects of life can be constant challenge, and it's a journey that isn't for the faint of heart. There is an often extreme level of sacrifice and time required to maintain discipline, but the work and effort put towards it will be worth it in the end.

Hey, what's good my folks out there? It is I Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! A big thanks goes to everyone that stopped by to tune in once again to what I have to say for another week. Hope everyone has been staying strong, maintaining, and keep things positive in your world since the last post. In the previous post before this one, I had mentioned that I had an upcoming birthday. It's been nearly a week since it past, and I must say that I had a great birthday this year. I mentioned earlier that I'm not one to get super enthusiastic about my birthday, but I must admit that my family truly went out of their way to make the day special for me. I'm truly grateful for them, as well as being able to live and see another year on this Earth. In a time where so many are dying young, it is a blessing to us all being able to inhale and exhale daily. Another thing I briefly talked about was the 5K that took place earlier this month back on the 4th. This is the annual Kinsel Ford 5K that I've been doing since 2012. I always try to participate in this yearly race since it always falls near my birthday. This year's event was another success. I moved into another age group since first running in it, and I finished 10th in the men for my group this year. That was a pleasant surprise since I really didn't push it too hard this year. The most important thing was to have fun. Well I've talked enough for me for now, so it's time to delve more into this week's topic of maintaining discipline.

As I normally do with any of the topics that I talk about on here, I want to point out that a person's individual viewpoints will always differ from person to person. The idea with this topic and the rest isn't to focus too much on what is right or wrong, but rather to encourage others to view certain topics in a light they may not have considered before. I'm not saying that my viewpoint is right, nor am I implying that the way I see things is the correct way of looking at life. I'm just an everyday average guy hoping to inspire myself and others. If anyone has any comments or feedback on this or any other topic that I've talked about, please feel free to leave them in the comment box. Now for some insight on how this week's topic came to be. Normally I can point to a life experience or someone that I'm close to as to how I came to talk about a specific topic. That happens to not be the case this week. This week's topic on maintaining discipline is just something that came to my mind out of the blue, and I figured that it would be something that could maybe inspire those that struggle with maintaining discipline. As I've stated before in past posts, my eyes and ears are closest to me so anything that I write about here applies to myself as well. The art of maintaining discipline can be a tough habit to maintain, but doing it consistently can definitely help in improving our lives for the better.

So now that we've established what entails having discipline, I think it is necessary to talk about why having discipline in our lives is so important. From my perspective, the task of practicing discipline daily helps greatly in strengthening our minds and organizing our lives. An individual that disciplines him or herself consistently practices routines that increases their potential to improve their life daily. Like I mentioned earlier, most people that are skilled at something often have developed and maintained a level of discipline that has helped make them successful in whatever their particular craft may be. There is a saying that goes "repetition is the mother of skill." I believe that saying totally coincides with being a disciplined individual. Think about boxers that have had success in the sport of boxing. I'm sure that none of those guys woke up instantly skilled at their craft. Like every other athlete or person that has achieved greatness, it took daily trips to the gym and working with their trainers in order to become skilled at boxing. In order to get to that point, strict discipline is required. But as I stated earlier, with every pro that comes in life, there will always be a con that comes along with it. Being a disciplined individual is truly great, but it does come with a lot of sacrifice.

Now making sacrifices may not be hard for some people. However, I think that most of us struggle with sometimes having to give up certain things in order to become better at something. For example, lets say that you're a person that is trying to lose weight and become healthier, but you also loves eating sweets. You already know that in order to become a more healthier person, you're going to have to either give up on or cut back on eating sweets. This is a prime example of being willing to sacrifice in order to get to a better place. This is exactly where the being worth it aspect comes into play. There can often be a great deal of discomfort and even pain sometimes when it comes to making sacrifices, however, any sacrifice that a person is willing to make that makes their life better is worth it. From my perspective, most of us look at the sum of all the parts rather than the individual parts that lead to something greater. Many of us focus too much on what we're losing when we make sacrifices rather than what could be gained from them. It's kinda like the glass half full of empty mentality; we direct too much energy towards the things we don't have instead of appreciating the things we do. In some ways, discipline and sacrifice go hand in had with this.

Now I'm sure that many of you that may be reading this have no problem with maintaining discipline in your lives. If that's the case for you, then I truly applaud and commend you for that. For others that may struggle with being disciplined in various aspects of life, I want you to know that you are not alone. I classify myself as a fairly disciplined person, but I do have lapses when I fall into bad habits. If that is something that you can identify with, it's totally okay. We are all human and fall short at times. The biggest point that I want to get across in this week's post is the importance of recognizing the benefits of practicing discipline. If you are looking to better yourself in certain aspects of your life, my suggestion would be to take that step and really push it. Just be aware that there will be a sacrifice that is required whenever you're striving to become more disciplined. The sacrifices that are required may be your time, certain pleasure or indulgences that you enjoy, and even relationships with others. Be cognizant of that before you take on the task of being more disciplined. Keeping with the theme of boxing that I referenced to earlier, I'm going to leave this week's topic with a quote from legendary boxer Mike Tyson that deals with being disciplined. The quote goes; "Discipline is going in there and doing something that you don't wanna do, but you do it like you love it."

Well we've arrived at the end of this week topic folks. I wanna give thanks to everyone that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, my wish is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic, as well as the rest of the topics that I've talked about. If anyone has any comments or feedback on this or any other topics, please feel free to drop them in the comment box. Well depending on where you live, it is beginning to get warmer so try to get outdoors this weekend and enjoy the weather. Summer will be right around the corner, and we all know how brutal it can get during those months. Go ahead and enjoy before it gets here. Alright I'm out for this time folks, so until next time, I wish you all peace, wellness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.

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Friday, March 3, 2017

Seeing Our Struggles As Tests Of Our Character And Will (Things Can Always Get Worse).

There is a phrase that my mom once said to me as a child that I highly doubt I'll ever forget. I'm sure that most of you have heard this phrase or one of the many variations of it mentioned as well. "You don't ever wanna test worse" is the phrase that I'm referring to. As I mentioned, there are various ways of saying that things can always get worse, but this particular phrase was the one that my mom used to say to me whenever I would complain about certain things that weren't going well for me at a particular time. As I child I didn't totally grasp what exactly she meant by those words, however, now as a more wiser young adult, I can honestly say now that I understand what she meant. It is indeed true that many of us do not realize that while as bad as things may be going for us at a particular time, things can always get even worse in our lives. Because our judgement and rationale is often clouded whenever things aren't going well, we fail to see that sometimes as bad as things may be at that moment, they're often not as bad as we think. Not speaking for anyone else, but I'm personally beginning to see that a good portion of the struggles that we consistently endure are tests. From my perspective, these are tests of our character and will to keep pushing forward.

Hello once again good people. How has everything been going for you all? It is me Brad H. coming back at you all once again with another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! For anyone out there that reads regularly, thank you for stopping by once again, and I'd like to extend a big welcome to those of you that may be here for the first time. No matter who you are or how often you've visited here, I hope that you all have been doing well and staying positive since the last posting. Don't really have a lot to talk about this week besides the topic at hand. Next week on the 11th of March, I'll be celebrating another birthday. When March arrived a couple of days ago, someone asked me if I was excited for my upcoming birthday. Because I don't really display an overly enthusiastic type of persona when it comes to my birthday, I told them that it is just another day. But the truth is that I subtly always look forward to my birthday, but not for the reasons that most people do. While I do see it as just another day, I truly value what they signify as you get more and more them under your belt. For me personally, the importance of birthdays transcends partying, drinking, etc; but it signifies me being thankful for being here in a time where so many people are dying young. So while I don't get all hyped in ways that others do when it comes to birthdays, you can trust that I'm truly grateful. Alright, lets go ahead and talk a bit about viewing struggles as tests of character and will.

As I normally do before discussing my topics, I want to point out that a person's individual viewpoints and thoughts will always vary. The general concept with these posts isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to encourage others to view various topics in a manner that they may not have before. I never expect everyone to share the same views as I do, however, I do hope that the way I view certain topics can leave others with something to walk away thinking about more. If anyone has any comments or feedback on this or any other topic, please feel free to drop them in the comment box. As for insight on how this topic came to be for this week's installment, there isn't anything in particular that I can point to that made me want to write about this. You know what, scratch that; while I'm sitting here thinking about it, I can definitely say that there is something that I can point to that made this come to fruition. Of course my thoughts were the main factor, but I would say that I have taken notice recently on how some people that I know have been reacting to the various struggles they're facing. I'm in no way judging them, in fact, I would say that their resolve has served as inspiration for me. It is not only been inspiration for this particular post, but also for my life as well.

Now we are all aware that we're all going to face struggles throughout various times in our lives. Similar to death and taxes, struggles are something that none of us can entirely escape. Saying that kinda makes me think of what the late actor Carroll O'Connor said to one of his officers as police chief Bill Gillespie on the classic show 'In The Heat of the Night'. I can't recall it exactly at the moment, but it was something along the lines of; "You tell me how anyone who's above the ground is done with their suffering." We're also aware that some of us will have similar struggles, and there will also be occasions where our struggles differ from others. That said, one thing that is will always be different is how we react to our struggles. I may view a particular challenge that I'm facing one way, and you may view that same challenge in a completely different manner. That the beauty of us being different as individuals and thinking for ourselves. Now as I stated earlier, many of us understandably so find our judgement clouded whenever we're facing challenges. I think this often causes us to forget that while things aren't good at the moment, there is always worse that can happen. For this reason, I believe that those of us that experience this during our struggles must learn to see our struggles tests.

Now as I've stated several times earlier, our rationale is often clouded whenever we're facing a difficult challenge. This often causes us to see whatever challenge that we're enduring as more than what it really is. Think of that phrase that we've all heard that goes "You're making a mountain out of molehill." This is exactly what many of us do by no fault of our own do at times. This way of thinking is reacting not only doesn't help the situation that we're in, but it can be damaging to our psyche when it comes to being able to handle future challenges. I want you to consider this for a second; Imagine that you have suffered a disappointment in your life. Maybe you got rejected by someone that you're interested in, or maybe you didn't excel at a project that you wanted to do well at. Both of these examples can be disappointments right? But, when you think about suffering a medical scare that nearly took your life, or having to find out that someone that you love has just passed, those aforementioned things that I used as examples don't compare right? This is why I'm saying that the struggles we face are often tests. There are always greater struggles that we will have to face, and how can we be able to meet them if we're allowing troubles that don't compare to keep us down? Something to think about isn't it?

Now I'm in no way saying that any of us should perfect being able to handle hardships in our lives. Again, and I want to be sure to make this clear, we all process and see things differently. The point I want to get across is that it is entirely up to us as individuals how we process and handle the struggles in our lives. I frequently talk about the power of our minds on this blog, and a topic such as this one all comes down to changing the way we process things. From my perspective, the reason it is so important to see struggles as tests comes down to knowing that regardless of how bad things may be, they can always get worse. There is no way to fully prepare for certain things that may happen in life, but I do know that if we allow ourselves to be taken down by the challenges of life, we will probably not be able to meet the bigger ones in the future. Like I stated earlier, these struggles we endure are some of the greatest tests of character we will face. Will we pass or fail is the question. I'm going to end this topic with a quote from Thomas Paine. The quote doesn't necessary deal with things getting worse, but rather the sense of accomplishment we can experience with going forward from them. It quotes goes; "The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph."

Well that is all for this week folks. Big thanks to everyone that came through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic, as well as the rest of the topics I've come on here to talk about. I'm just trying to do my part in spreading a little bit of motivation to others. Again, if anyone has any thoughts or feedback to contribute, please feel free to do so below. Well I hope everyone has a great weekend ahead. Got a 5K race tomorrow, so that should be pretty fun. I'll probably talk about that some in the next post. I will have also turned another year older by the next time, so I'll be sure to talk about that some as well. I'm gone folks, so until next time, I wish you all peace, wellness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.

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Friday, February 17, 2017

The Importance Of Laughing And Smiling As Often As Possible (Troubles Are Always Lurking).

Most of us have heard the saying "Laughter is good for soul" at sometime or another. As I have grown older and wiser, that saying has come to impact my life significantly. Smiling and laughter are probably two of the easiest things that we as people are able to do. They don't cost anything to do, and very little effort is required to engage in them. Growing up as kids, we were taught to smile for pictures, as well as laughing whenever we see or hear something that we find funny. Easy right? While I believe that it is important for kids to smile and laugh a lot, I also feel that it is just as important for us as adults to find things that smile us smile daily. Too many of us find ourselves caught up in the daily struggles of life that we often forget the importance of laughing and smiling. Most of us are aware of how smiling and laughing can benefit us mentally and psychologically. I mean we naturally feel good whenever we're able to engage in these acts genuinely. However, I've grown to realize that there is another benefit that these acts can potentially bring us; appreciation. Life is unpredictable, which means that troubles are always lurking. This is one of the main reasons why I've come to realize the importance of laughing and smiling as much as possible.

Hey, how's it going ladies and gentlemen? Brad H. back at it once again with another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Hope everyone has been doing well and staying positive since the last post. It's been nearly two weeks since the Super Bowl has taken place, and I thought I would quickly share my thoughts on the result. In my last post, I had mentioned how I didn't like neither team, but I was pulling for the Falcons since they had several local players. I also mentioned that I thought the Patriots would win, which was ultimately what happened unfortunately. While watching the game, I was very excited thinking that Atlanta was going to win once they took that commanding 28-3 lead. I was texting with several friends about how it was over, etc. Of course that turned out to be wrong in the end. I really have no explanation for why Atlanta basically conked out in the second half of that game. It really looked like an entirely different team that showed up in the second half. I jokingly told a friend that they clearly must have celebrated at halftime and had a few drinks or something. Anyway, although it is disappointing for me to accept, Patriots quarterback Tom Brady is now a 5 time Super Bowl champion. I really feel bad for the Atlanta fans out there. Its gotta suck to know that your team blew a lead that big. Anyway, I just wanted to give my thoughts on the game real quick. Now lets go ahead and talk more about the importance of laughing and smiling as often as possible.

As I always point out before discussing topics on here, peoples individual viewpoints and opinions will always vary. The goal here isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to paint a topic in a light that readers may not have looked at before. I don't expect everyone to share in my views, but I do hope that the way I view things can leave others with something to walk away thinking about more. Any comments or views on this or any other topic that anyone may have are always welcome here. There isn't much to get into on how this topic came about. As I stated previously, wisdom and age deserve the biggest credit for why I thought about this particular topic. This topic is one that I often talk about my family members of mine. I mainly discuss it often because I feel that we often don't appreciate how blessed we are whenever things are going fairly well for us. Many of us develop that complacent state of mind and forget that all it takes is a second for things to change. As with the majority of my writings, I hope that this topic can serve as a reality check for those of us that may be in need of it. If you are one of those people that this may apply to, there should be absolutely no shame in needing a reality check. I think it is something that we all need occasionally.

So we all know and hear about how small acts like laughing and smiling help regulate good vibes. For whatever reasons that may be, laughing and smiling just makes us feel happy for that present moment that we're engaging in them. From my perspective, I believe there is no price tag that can be placed upon seeing someone that you haven't seen in a long time that you care for, which fills us up with unspeakable happiness that causes us to grin from ear to ear. I also believe that there is no tangible value on seeing something that causes us to laugh uncontrollably until the point where we're crying tears of joy. All of these things make us feel good and happy right? Now we're all aware that in life, for everything that is good and makes us smile and laugh, there is also bad that comes with frowns and tears of pain. There is no getting around the fact that regardless of how much happiness and joy that life can bring, pain, heartache and sorrows are also a huge part of life as well. A huge chunk of the heartaches of life that we experience are things that happen outside of our control, but there are some people that bring a lot of these things upon themselves. Well bringing it upon themselves may not be the best characterization, but some people allow themselves to mentally remain in a state of depression when things aren't going so well.

So why is it important not to allow ourselves to remain in a negative state of mind constantly? Think about this for a second; one day you keep on living, someone that you know or love is going to die. More likely than not at some point in your life, you're going to know what it is like to fall in love with someone and experience a heartbreak. You're going have the experience of wanting to achieve a goal, only find that you're gonna experience failures occasionally. You probably get the gist of what I'm saying, but the thing that these things have in common is that they are guaranteed to happen eventually, and they also bring heartache and disappointment. So it's fairly plain and simple why it is important to laugh and smile as often as possible. We have to do these things have often as we can because troubles and hardships are always lurking. Death, strife and stress are all guaranteed in this life, so in between those sad moments that are guaranteed to happen in life, we have to be able to smile and enjoy life as best as we possibly can. As I mentioned earlier in the post, smiling and laughing can help give us a sense of appreciation. Since they are feel good acts, they can help teach us to appreciate the good moments in life, because the bad is always waiting in the cut.

Now with all of that said, I'm in no way saying that we should always be laughing and smiling. Life is all about balance, so of course we're going to face moments of sadness. All I'm saying is that we should always find something to smile or laugh about daily. Beyond just being a great act to engage in, smiling also has many benefits to us both physically and mentally. A few of them include the releasing of endorphins, lower stress and anxiety, and the increase of the immune system. So the message in this week's post is pretty clear and straightforward. Lets work on finding more reasons to laugh and smile daily, because troubles will always be lurking. I'm pretty sure that many of you out there don't have a problem laughing and smiling, so hopefully this can serve as a help to those that maybe have had a hard time finding reasons to smile as of late. Just know that no matter how much darkness you're facing, there is always something to smile about. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with today comes from a great song by India Arie called "There's Hope". There's a lyric in the chorus on the song that goes; "There's hope, it don't cost a thing to smile, you don't have to pay to laugh, you better thank God for that."

Well my peeps, we have arrived at the end of another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'. I thank everyone that stopped by to check out what I have to say once again. As always, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. In the event that isn't the case nor applies to you, your visit here is still appreciated. If anyone has any feedback or thoughts to contribute, feel free to leave those down below. Hope you all have a great and enjoyable weekend ahead. For those of you that are basketball fans, be sure to check out the NBA's All Star Weekend that starts today. Alright I'm out guys, so until next time, I wish you all peace, wellness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.

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Friday, February 3, 2017

Deserve Hasn't Got Anything To Do With Life (Bad Things Just Happen Sometimes).

There was an extremely popular show that aired in the mid 2000's that I'm pretty sure that many of you are familiar with called 'The Wire'. For those of you that maybe aren't as familiar with the show, I would highly suggest giving it a look if you can. Those of you that are fans of the show will probably know where I'm going next based on the title of this week's post. There was a popular character on show named Snoop that said something in one of the episodes that I found memorable. Now I'm not going to go into the details of the scene in which she remarked the statement that I'm referring to. I don't want to spoil anything for those of you that have yet to see the show. The statement she aggressively remarked to another character on the show was "Deserve got nothing do with it." Some of you may wonder why such a short and to the point statement stands out to me so much. The reason I feel this statement carries so much weight deals with the fact that so many of us feel that we deserve the things we desire in life because we're good people, etc. I myself will admit that I've maintained this state of mind for the majority of my life, and I've come to realize how this way of thinking can be a huge hindrance to our lives. It is true that none of us are entitled to anything in life, and it is also true that regardless of how good of a person you may be, bad things just sometimes happen in life.

What's going on everyone? It's ya boy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Hope everyone has been doing well, staying up, and maintaining since the last time I wrote. We have arrived at the month of February already, which means that it is time for the NFL's Super Bowl this upcoming weekend. I'm pretty sure that many of you are excited for the big game, but I'm personally not all that enthused since my Dallas Cowboys didn't make it. I'm just kidding with the Cowboys part, but in all seriousness I'm not too thrilled this year because of the two teams that are playing. I'm definitely not a Patriots fan, and I've never been a fan of the Atlanta Falcons either. Of course I will be watching the game like the majority of the world will be, but I'm kinda just like "meh" on this one. As for a prediction, I think the Patriots are going to win it. However, although I don't like either team, I will hoping that the Falcons win for a couple of reasons. One, although I'm not a Falcons fan, I do like their wide receiver Julio Jones. He is not only one of my favorite receivers, he is also one of my players in the entire league. Secondly, Falcons linebacker Sean Weatherspoon is from my hometown, and their kicker Matt Bryant along with defensive tackle Jonathon Babineaux are local guys as well. Good luck to all the local guys from the Falcons. Alright, time to get into this week's topic of bad things just happen sometimes.

As with the regular routine here, I always maintain that peoples individual viewpoints and opinions will always vary. The objective here is isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to hopefully encourage readers to view various topics differently than they normally would. I don't expect everyone to share in my views or beliefs, but I hope that something can be taken away from what I talk about here. For some brief insight into how this topic came about, it pretty much comes from a conversation that I recently had with a family member of mine. This particular family member was sharing with me some of their opinions on this topic, and how it applies to their life. That conversation truly struck a chord within me that inspired me to come on here and talk about this topic. As I stated earlier, I believe the belief of feeling that we are deserved certain things because of who we are is something that many of us can relate to. I see this as a pretty straight-forward topic, but I think it is one that can serve as a reminder for some of us, as well as a reality check for those that maybe struggle with this. Again, whatever your thoughts and beliefs may be, I appreciate those of you that read, and whatever thoughts and feedback you may have are welcome here.

So many of us will have moments where we get the feeling that we are owed the things we want in life right? I believe a few of the reasons we often feel this way can be attributed to the hard work that we put towards earning something, or maybe we've attempted to maintain a certain standard of living in hopes that it will pay off down the road. While I believe that no one deserves praise for exemplifying these kind of qualities, I do find them to be admirable. If you happen to be one of the people with these qualities that are of the belief that you get out of life what you put into it, then the way of thinking when it comes to the topic at hand probably applies to you. Probably the biggest thing to keep in mind when it comes to life is that it is extremely unpredictable. Life is something that is constantly changing and evolving, which means that we all are going to deal with our shares of highs and lows. Because of the volatility that life brings, there always exists the possibility that regardless of how hard you work or how good of a person you may be, you may not always get out of life that things you feel you're deserving of. This can be hard reality for many people to accept, especially those that may be accustomed to things happening for them frequently. However, it is a necessary reality that we all must occasionally face.

One thing that I think history has tried to teach us is that bad things sometimes happen to good people. There are countless accounts and stories out there of tragic and unfortunate events happening to people that didn't do anything to deserve those things. Sometimes people just happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time, or maybe they were victims of circumstances that someone else may have been facing. Whatever the case may be, it doesn't matter who you are or what you've done in your life, bad things can happen to anyone at anytime. This is why in my opinion that I feel that it is important to try and throw out that whole "I deserve" mentality. There is nothing wrong with wanting or expecting things to happen your way, but having the mentality of thinking that you deserve or are entitled to certain things will always leave you disappointed. Saying all of that doesn't mean that I'm saying that we should be bad people. Of course we should strive to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. I'm simply saying that we should never rely on being good people as a means of thinking we're deserved things. Focus on trying to be the best person you can be, but never count on that for receiving good fortunes in your life.

So if you're one of those people that feels you're deserving of things, I encourage you to try and see things a little bit differently. Again, I'm not trying to discourage anyone or be negative with this topic; I'm just saying that in reality, bad things can and will always occur in our lives. But for all the bad that is in the world, there is always good that is going to come as well. I think that it's importance to appreciate any breaks that we may receive along this journey of life. However, see them for what they are and enjoy them when they come, because they can be far and few in between. I always try to leave a quote that I feel coincides with these topics before I end these posts. This is the one that I found for this topic that I feel resonates deeply with what I'm trying to express. The quote comes courtesy of Dennis Wholely and goes: "Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is like expecting the Lion not to attack you because you area vegetarian." We should all know by now that life is not always fair; we just have to learn how to live with that.

Well that's it for this week's topic folks! I'm going to go ahead and sign off for now, but thank you once again for all that stopped by to read another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'. As always, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding gained from this, and I really hope that some of you out there can feel where I'm coming from with this. Hope 2017 has been treating you all well so far, and I hope everyone enjoys the big game this weekend. I'll be back soon, so until that time comes, I hope everyone stays safe. Have a great weekend everyone, and I wish you all peace, wellness, and positive thoughts.

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Friday, January 20, 2017

It Is Perfect Okay To Be Yourself (Not Conforming To Society's Standards).

There is a trend that I'm sure has been around for ages that I notice happening more and more on a regular basis. I'm sure many of you notice it quite a bit as well. It is something that is discussed and talked about frequently, yet regardless of how many times the downfalls of this practice are mentioned, our society still keeps it relevant. What exactly am I talking about you may wonder? I'm referring to how the world often conveys the illusion that everyone should look and act the same. No matter where you go or what you may read, there are always people putting out information on how we should be. Within our society, it seems that the only kind of male to be is an "alpha male." By society standards, for a woman to be classified as beautiful, she should be a certain size or dress a certain way. These are just a couple of examples, but I think you get where I'm going with this. People everywhere are doing all kinds of extreme things to fit into society's bubble when it comes to what is acceptable. This happens so much so that many people begin to lose themselves in the process of trying to change. Of course there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve ourselves, but should it not be happening to conform to society standards. I feel that is okay to just be yourself.

Hey, how's it going everyone? It is me Brad H. back at it once again, and welcome to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Hope everyone has been doing well, staying up, and continuing to maintain. I also hope that 2017 has been treating you all well so far, and for those of you that make those resolutions for the new year, I hope you're sticking to them. Not a whole lot to talk about this week besides the disappointment that was the Dallas Cowboys this past weekend. Some of you may already know this, but I'm a fan of the Dallas Cowboys. Unlike many other Dallas fans that I know, I was actually a bit nervous about them playing Green Bay. Although Dallas beat Green Bay during the regular season and lost to the New York Giants twice, I just felt like it would have been harder for New York to beat the Cowboys three times. Also, we all know how well Aaron Rodgers had been playing leading up to the game. Of course the Cowboys would go on to lose, and although it was a disappointment, they have a lot to look forward towards in the future. I feel that both Ezekiel Elliot and Dak Prescott are the real deal based on how well they both played for being rookies. I'm not a Packers fan at all, but congrats to them for pulling off the victory. It was a great game overall, period. Alright, lets go ahead and get into this week's topic of not conforming to society's standards.

As I normally do before getting into the topic for the week, a person's individual viewpoints will always differ. The goal here isn't to focus too much on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather encourage others to think about various topics differently from the norm. Of course I don't expect everyone to agree with me, and that is totally fine. Whatever thoughts and opinions others may have are welcomed here. As for how I arrived at this topic for this week, it's just something that I happen to ponder on quite a bit. I think it's a topic that many of us that probably go against the normal standards of society think about on occasion. Also, I believe regardless of who you may be, I think it is normal for all to us to feel out of place or different from everyone else. We are all indeed and unique in our own ways, but so many of us try to fit in to be accepted. This week's topic's goal is to hopefully serve as inspiration to those that maybe struggle with this to realize that it is perfectly fine to be just how are you. It is okay if you want to change certain aspects of your life in order to better yourself, however, that isn't the same as aiming to impress society.

Now getting into the topic at hand, I feel that there is a distinct difference between an individual wanting to better themselves compared to changing themselves in order to conform to others. When I personally think of a person wanting to better themselves or aiming to become more well versed in certain aspects of their lives, I think of a person that is wanting to improve to feel better about themselves first. This is something that begins from within a person, and starts with something that is emotionally compelling from my perspective. On the other hand, a person that wants to change for the sake of fitting in and impressing others is doing it for all the wrong reasons in my opinion. Now there are certain situations that may require us changing for others. For example, a couple that may have just had a child will likely want to change aspects of their lives for the sake of being the best parents they can for that child. Another example could be a man that maybe lives a reckless lifestyle, but decides he wants to change his ways to accommodate to his family or a woman he may be interested in. It is okay if you want to change for people that inspire you to change, which is something that society won't do for us most of the time.

Something else that we must keep in mind is that regardless of how much a person may want to change certain things about themselves, sometimes it may just not happen, or you may not reach society standards. And you know what? That is perfectly fine. If you are an introverted person that doesn't like to be around a lot of other people, that is a part of your personality that you can probably only change so much. You can go out and pick up books, manuals, hire coaches, etc and no matter how much you work towards becoming more extroverted, you will only improve so much if you're naturally an introvert. It's similar to doing a puzzle and trying to force a piece that doesn't fit. See, our society has created an illusion that there are certain traits and characteristics that we must possess in order to be accepted. I'm sure many of you have have of the term "alpha-male" right? By society's standards, an alpha-male is the only type of man that a man should be. You now see all kinds of guys going to all kinds of extreme measures in order to become one of these kind of men that society talks up so much, and it is honestly ridiculous. Again, if you're not hurting anyone or stepping on anyone else's toes, there is nothing wrong with just being who you are.

So for everyone out there regardless if you're male or female, it's okay to want to improve yourself, but always focus on remaining true to who you really are as a person. Every single one of us for all our flaws and shortcomings are unique in our own way, and the way that you are as a person should already be good enough. You never have to feel pressured into doing anything that you really may not want in order to impress others, nor should you have to. I realize that this is a topic that we hear about all the time, however, it seems to remain relevant despite so many people already knowing the potential pitfalls of conforming to the world. As I stated earlier, the most important thing is staying true to yourself regardless of what others may think. I'm going to end this topic by leaving a great and popular quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. I hope that it, along with my message on this topic can serve as inspiration to anyone that battles with this. "Real men don't conform to the beliefs of others, even when society has concluded on what is good and true but maintain the integrity of their own mind."

Alright, we've reached the end of this week's topic, so it is time for me to go ahead and sign off for now. Thank you once again for everyone that tuned in to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'. My hope is that it was able to reach someone else out there. As I stated earlier, I hope the new year has been treating everyone good so far, and hopefully you're sticking to those resolutions. It has been extremely warm here in Texas as of late, so if it is warmer in your area, try to get outdoors this weekend. Alright folks that is it for me this week, so have a great weekend everyone. Till next time, I wish you all peace, wellness, and positive thoughts.

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