Saturday, October 14, 2017
People, people, people! How is everyone doing out there? This is your boy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! It is time to rejoice and dance uncontrollably now isn't it? Nah, I'm just kidding with that point, but yes I am here for another week to give my perspective on a topic that has been on my mind as of late. Before getting into the topic at hand, I'd like to give my thoughts to the people of California that are dealing with the wildfires that have been occurring out there. I saw some images on the Weather Channel a few days ago, and I was totally appalled at how scary it looked in some of those areas. I read that that death toll is around 26 now, and that it is expected to rise. There are also hundreds of people there that are still missing. This is truly a disheartening situation that hopefully ends soon. Also since my last writing, there was a mass shooting that took place in Las Vegas on October 1st. Again my thoughts are with everyone that was affected by this tragedy. as well as those that lost their lives. Although we've had these kinds of tragic events happen before, it cannot be said enough how crazy they are. I mean an event that is supposed to be enjoyable and fun turns into an unfortunate incident where 59 people lose their lives, and nearly 500 were injured. I guess there isn't much that can be said besides the fact that these are truly some dangerous and unpredictable times that we are currently living in. I hope that everyone is staying safe out there, and make sure to keep it tight with everyone that you're close to in your life. Sticking together is the best way that we can endure these trying times. That said, lets go ahead and transition into this week's topic of focusing on what we can do for ourselves, rather than what others can do for us.
Before we go forward with this week's topic, I'd like to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I mention before putting my thoughts out there. We all have different views and opinions when it comes to various topics. The main idea here is not to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but to hopefully provide inspiration to others that will help in encouraging us all to see topics in a way that we have yet to. I'm just one person with an opinion, so I understand that not everyone will share in my thoughts. That is perfectly okay, and I welcome any feedback and opinions by anyone that wants to share those. We're all here to educate and inspire one another, and the best way to do that is by having a willingness to be open to what others have to say. So for how this topic came to be; there wasn't anything in particular that I can point to in regards to why I chose to talk about this topic. As with a good portion of the topics I talk about, I can attribute general thought to how it came to mind. I will say however that I wanted to write about this particular topic in part of how relevant that I believe it to be. As I stated earlier in this post, we all have times where we feel like we're overextending ourselves to other people without getting anything back in return. Even if you don't feel as if you're getting something in return for being there for others, you probably have occasional bouts of feeling like the people that you're going all out for aren't always willing to do the same for you. If you have those feelings, this post is likely for you.
Picture this scenario for a moment; you have a friend or relative that relies on you quite a bit. This is a person that probably has a hard time dealing with various aspects of their life, and talking to you helps them in easing their burdens. Regardless of how early or late in the day or night it may be, you are there to answer the call whenever they call you. If you're busy or tied up with something and they reach out to you, you stop what you are doing to see what is going on, or you call them right back whenever you get the first chance. You truly love and care for this person and their well being. Now lets just say that you yourself start experiencing some difficulties in life, and the same way that this aforementioned person relies on you in their time of need, you are now needing their support and positive energy. However, this person is too busy and tied up to give you the same time and attention that you're accustomed to giving them. Of course they don't throw you entirely to the wolves, and they do make an effort to help you through your troubles. However, deep down inside of you, you can't help but feel as if they're not as devoted to being there for you in the same manner that you are for them. Now with all of that said, who is in the wrong when it comes to this situation? Are you wrong for overextending yourself, or is the person that you are always there for wrong for not doing the same for you? I personally don't think anyone is particular wrong depending on the understanding the two have, but I'll leave it up to you to determine what you think. Now in painting the picture of this particular scenario, there is something that I want you all to consider, which is the heart of what this week's topic is about. While it is okay to receive help from other people, expectations from others is never wise.
For those that may struggle in dealing with how unfair and frustrating it can be to constantly go out of your way for others, only not to receive the same back, expecting things from other people will often lead you to disappointment. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but it is also a reality. Regardless if it may be a family member or a friend, no matter how close of a relationship you may have with an individual, there will likely be moments where those people won't be able to be there for you. It doesn't necessarily mean they are bad people, or they don't care about you. It simply means that for that particular moment when you needed them, they weren't able to be there. The fact is that often the disappointments that we experience from those we care for is through no fault of their own. I'm not saying that there are cases where this isn't true, because we all know that even the people we love and care for can be shady at times. This is exactly the reason why I want to stress the importance of focusing on what we can do for ourselves, rather than what others can do for us. While it is true that none of us can totally navigate through this life alone and experience all the things we desire, there are times when we have to look within ourselves to solve some of our issues. As I mention in what feels like every topic that I bring up on here, it all starts with empowering and conditioning our minds to adapt. If you're accustomed to expecting other people to always to be there in your time of need, you have to work on training yourself to tone back on this.
Now as I stated earlier, one of the best ways that I feel to obtain peace in your life is to focus on what you can do for yourself. You may wonder; how exactly does this bring peace to your life? Well from my perspective, when you focus on yourself and what you can do for yourself to better yourself, you put everything on yourself. Yes, the key word that was mentioned several times was YOURSELF! When you put thing on yourself and take responsibility for yourself, you no longer have the option of blaming others. This gives us an added sense of peace, because you learn how to become comfortable with yourself and your abilities. Now I'm in no way saying that we needed to be selfish and vain. I'm also not saying that you should never ask others for help, nor am I implying that you should treat others badly when they're not able to come through for you. The mission is to put more emphasis on the things that we're able to do for ourselves and through that process, we hope to gain an added sense of peace and responsibility in our lives. Before I go, I want you all that may struggle with this to do me and favor and tell yourself the following: Instead of focusing on what others can do for me, today I'm going to focus on what I can do for myself. Alright, the quote that I came across that I felt sums up this week's topic comes from Dr. Steve Maraboli. The quote read; Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don't.
Well we have arrived at the end of another topic folks. Thank you as always to those of you that came through for another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that some of you were able to identify and relate to this week's topic, and I hope it provided you some meaning in your life. The weekend is here, so I hope you all enjoy. Whether it is time with the family, watching football or whatever it is you got going on, try to have fun in whatever you do. As I mentioned last time, there is definitely a lot of unsettling things happening around the world. However, we can choose make our own peace and happiness in the midst of chaos if we choose to. It's all about the mind baby! Keep on pressing forward everyone, and I look forward to seeing you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best. Peace!
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Saturday, September 30, 2017
Hey, how's it going people? This is Brad H. once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that things have been going well for everyone as of late. I know that the planet has been dealing with some trying times as of late, but hopefully you all are maintaining wherever you are. As some of you may already be aware of, I'm here once again to give my perspective on a particular topic for the week that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to quickly give my opinion on something that I'm sure many of you are aware of; the protests that took place in the NFL last Sunday. Again, this is just my opinion, so I don't expect everyone to agree with me in regards to this. Now from what I've seen so far, the response to the protests by the NFL players and owners has been fairly positive. However, there has also been quite a bit of criticism as well. Now I'm not in the heads of the players that protested and spoke out against the president, but just from a solely generalized perspective, I don't personally feel that the players not standing for the American flag and national anthem means they are not patriotic or un-American. Part of being an American in my opinion means holding onto the values and principles that you believe in. Some of the greatest leaders that we've had in the history of our country had views that went against the grain, but still maintained respect for American culture. We have the freedom of speech here, but it feels like we only have freedom of speech for as long as it doesn't go against what the majority wants. It shouldn't like that in my opinion. Even if you disagree with the protesters, or someone that doesn't share the same beliefs as you do, those people have the right to peacefully protest if they choose to do so. That's pretty much what I wanted to say real quick in regards to that topic. Now it's time to move onto the real topic for the week that deals with using our struggles for experience.
Now that I've gotten all of that out of the way, I'd like to go ahead and give my weekly disclaimer before diving into the week's topic. We're all aware of the fact that we all have different views and opinions when it comes to life. The idea here is not to focus on what is deemed to be right or wrong, but rather to give some inspiration and hope to others that will aid in helping encourage us all to view topics in a manner that we not not have before. As always, any feedback or thoughts are welcome. I'm just one individual, and since there are various ways of viewing things, the feedback of others is something that I can learn from as well. Now onto how this week's topic came to be. I recall having a conversation with my sister about a week and a half ago, and I remember telling her something along the lines of how our struggles can help us in the future. Besides the dialogue of the discussion that we were having, I honestly have no idea where I came up with this. Then I got to thinking about how most people try to save money for later on down the road, and then the idea came together of tying the two together. I personally think this is a pretty good analogy to compare these two things to. Although saving money and struggles may be two different things, there is one main similarity they have; the ability to help alleviate the damage that may occur when emergencies strike. I want to stress again that these are just my own personal opinions, so there isn't any right or wrong. Hopefully some of you can identify with where I'm coming from.
One of the ideas that I've mentioned and tried to convey on many occasions in previous posts deals with the idea of we as people not seeing things clearly when we're facing struggles. Often times when we find ourselves in the middle of a stressful situation, we allow our emotions to overtake our ability to rationally see things. There are different degrees to this, and everyone different when it comes to this but from a general perspective, this is often the case. The reason I bring this is up is to show that most people only see the bad and darkness whenever things are going bad, which is totally understandable. But with that said, for everything that happens whether it is for good or for bad, there is always something that can be learned from it. I'm sure many of you have heard the famous quote by Nelson Mandela that goes; "I never lose, I either win or learn." Learning from an experience isn't always guaranteed, but it is something that can happen if you're willing to open your mind up to it. Now when we find ourselves in hardships, we often allow the negative that comes from it to cloud our minds to the point where the negative is the only thing we see. The ability or willingness to try and learn from the situation often gets thrown completely out of the window. In my opinion, this is exactly why we need to try and work on changing our mindsets. Is it easy? Absolutely not, but as with anything else in life, consistency and practice can help get us there.
Now I'm sure that some of you may not equate struggles with anything positive. However, if you work on changing your mindset to see that there is hope even in the darkness, the idea of changing can become a reality. Now in order for us to see our struggles as experience for down the road in life, we have to start looking at our lives as if it were a savings account. The same way that you acquire money and save it is the same mentality when it comes to the experiences we have in life. So in order for us to bank those experiences into our life savings, we have to be willing to not only endure the struggles in our lives, but also willing to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations that can help us to grow. As I mentioned earlier, it is not easy to see things this way in the midst of uncomfortable times. Now going back to the banking analogy, your money grows as you continue to deposit money into savings right? The same thing can apply when it comes to our struggles as well. From my perspective, when we endure our struggles and come through them, we not only come away with an added sense of confidence and pride from being willing to endure. We also gain knowledge and wisdom that we can use towards other things that may come our way in the future. Just like you put away money for a rainy day, the struggles and experiences that we go through can be deposited for future events as well. Again, it is all changing your mindset. That is something that I'm probably going to say on here till I'm blue in the face. It's all about the mindset folks.
The goal with this topic isn't necessarily to tell anyone that they should change their viewpoints. The main thing that I'm hoping for others to see is that everything that we go through that we see as being bad isn't always the case. Yes it is true that it can be very difficult to see the glass half full when you're going through things. However, you'll find that when you continue to stick with life and not give up on yourself when things are tough, you'll find that you'll be a better person for it in the future. Just like that bank account will grow with investing, your life will grow when you continue to look at those struggles like investments. I'm a firm believer that everything that we have been through already, as well as the things we are going through at this moment is just preparation for the future. Some may not feel that this is the case, but I do believe that our struggles can be seen in a different light when we open up our minds to change. Difficult, yes. Impossible, no. The quote for the week that I came across and I'm going to bring this to a close with comes courtesy of Napoleon Hill. It reads; "Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle". I think this quote reaffirms the idea that there is something positive that can come from the struggles that we have to endure.
Well that is all that I have for this week my people. Thank you all once again to those of you that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! As I always mention before signing off for the week, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. I hope again that some of you out there can relate. We have arrived at another weekend, so I hope that everyone enjoys themselves. There is a lot happening across the globe, and things are even more unsettling here in the states as of late. Despite all the negativity happening, we all have to be positive and resolute in becoming the best version of ourselves. Stick to the plan my people, and lets keep on pressing forward. I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best. Peace!
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Saturday, September 16, 2017
Hello once again to everyone out there. It is me Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that everyone has been doing well and staying up since the last time we met up on here. If that hasn't been the case for any of you, just continue to keep on holding your head up and believe that things can and will get better. That is something that I have to tell myself often as well. So there are quite a few happenings that have been taking place in the world as of late. I talked a lot about Hurricane Harvey and the effect that it had on Texas in the last topic. Since then, we saw another devastating hurricane named Irma hit the state of Florida. Not only Florida, Irma totally destroyed many parts of the islands south of the U.S. mainland. In my personal opinion, this has been one of the craziest hurricane seasons that I've ever seen. The thing that is even more worrisome is that hurricane season is nowhere close to being over with, and there are storms still forming in the Atlantic right now. I guess I just want to use my soapbox this week to piggyback off of last week's topic of being resilient. There isn't anything that any of us can do to prevent these storms from forming, but what we can do is prepare for them as best we can. The biggest thing I would suggest is to try and stay informed on what is happening in the ocean in regards to when storms are beginning to form. The days of relying on the news to tell us exactly what is going on and when to prepare are pretty much nonexistent now, so we have to always be aware of what is going on. My thoughts go out to everyone that was affected by Irma, as well as those still feeling the after effect of Hurricane Harvey. Stay resilient everyone. Alright, now it is time to get into this week's topic of how everything you may want in this world isn't for you.
Now that I've gotten on the weekly soapbox, it's time for the normal disclaimer that I give before going into the topic for the week. We all have different views and opinions when it comes to life. The primary mission here is not to focus or give credence to what is right or wrong, but rather to give inspiration to others that will hopefully encourage people to view a topic in a manner which they may not have thought of before. I'm just one person with an opinion, so I don't expect everyone to see things the same way that I do. Any feedback or thoughts that anyone has is always welcome here. As I've stated plenty of times before, I see this as platform where we're all here to learn from one another. So as to how this topic came to be, I would just attribute it to another one of the many things that I think about on a regular basis. I think that there are so many of us out there that often focus primarily on the pros when it comes to the things we want in life. Since we put so much emphasis on the potential good that comes from things, I think we don't always see that there is also bad that can potentially come from the things we desire. Because I have the belief that everything has pros and cons, I think that everything that we may want or think we want may be good for isn't always. Again, this isn't to discourage anyone from pursuing anything that they're interested in, just something to hopefully give some thought to.
So as we have already established, we all have things that we want and desire in life. Another thing that we should all be aware by now is that life isn't always fair. This is something that can be hard for some to accept, especially when we're younger and don't fully have a grasp on how life works. So with knowing that life isn't fair, the idea or belief that everything we want should be ours isn't always true. However, there are some of us that still hopelessly chase after the things we believe that we want, and some of us continue to do this even when the very things we want continue to elude us. A prime example that most of us, especially guys can relate to deals with women. I'd say that at least 99.9% of us men have had a woman that we really liked, but she continued to not be within our grasp. She may have told you straight up that she wasn't interested, or she may have even played hard to get, but we still felt like there was something we could do to get her to admire her in the same manner that we do her. Some people say that persistence pays off, and I do believe that is true in the majority of cases. However, excessive persistence without ever seeing the results that you desire should be a sign that maybe what you believe that you want isn't for you. So in the example of chasing after a girl, the fact that she didn't share the same sentiments as you probably means that she isn't the one for you. This same ideology goes for anything else in life as well. Everything that you believe is for you isn't.
Now there are several ways I believe of handling being able to accept that some things in life aren't for you. The biggest thing that I want to bring up deals with changing your mindset. Those of you that often read my posts already know that I talk about the mind and how it is important to focus on adapting it to adjust to life changes. I believe that the main reason that many of us struggle with believing that everything that we want is for us comes from the fact that many of us don't know exactly what we want. This is exactly why I've said the words "think we may want" several times throughout this post. The fact is that many of us don't know exactly what we want, which means that we're often chasing after a lot of the wrong things. When you're chasing after the wrong things, you're likely never going to get back the results your hoping for. As I've alluded to, we all have had disappointments and setbacks when it came to something that we wanted. It is normal and okay to feel disappointed when something doesn't go our way, but instead of focusing on the cons that came with that disappointment, focus on the pros that came with it. Again, I believe there are pros and cons to everything, and that applies as well it comes to disappointments and heartache. It is difficult to see that when you're in the midst of that setback, but it something that comes to light in due time.
Besides just informing others that everything that you want in this world isn't for you, I want us as people, including myself to change our mindsets and figure out exactly what you want in this world. No one is perfect, and I do believe that the journey to finding out exactly who you are and what you want is a constant one. However, if you find yourself and learn exactly what you want in this life, you'll do a better job at preventing yourself from experiencing disappointments. Because you know who you are and exactly what you want, you'll know exactly the things and people to go after in your life. Again, I want to reiterate that this doesn't guarantee that you'll never experience disappointment. Life is always unpredictable and changing, so nothing is guaranteed. However, I do believe that we can do much better at avoiding disappointments when you find ourselves and know exactly what we want. The quote that I came across that I think goes well with this topic comes from the telephone man, Alexander Graham Bell. I think it's a pretty good one and goes; "What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists...and it becomes available only when you are in that state of mind in which you know exactly what you want...and are fully determined not to quit until you get it."
Well we have once again arrived at the end of another topic. Thank you all to those of you that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H's Perspective'! As I always say before signing off, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. Hopefully some of you can relate, and it gives you a bit of inspiration. The weekend is here, so hope everyone does something fun. Also, I know I haven't mentioned anything NFL related, but the hurricanes have kinda overshadowed that. Life is all about priorities, so the safety and recovery of our fellow man are far more important than sports. But for those of you that are football fans, I hope you enjoy the second week of the NFL this weekend. I know that I most certainly will. Alright, I'm out for this week, so I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best. Peace!
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Saturday, September 2, 2017
Hello once again people! It is your guy Brad H. back at you once again with another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that all of you have been maintaining and keeping your heads up since the last topic I discussed. In the last topic that I talked about, I mentioned the unfortunate happenings that have been going on in the United States as of late. I wish that I was talking about something more positive on my soapbox, but that definitely isn't the case for this week either. I'm sure most of you know about the natural disaster that was Hurricane Harvey that made landfall in Texas on three separate occasions. This storm left catastrophic damage to most of the Texas coast. The biggest impact made was in Houston, which we all know is the largest state in Texas. So many residents in Houston and along the Gulf Coast has been impacted negatively by this storm. Some of you may know that I'm a Texas resident myself, and I do live in the Gulf Coast region also. My specific area received a lot of rain and flooding, but nothing major like in Houston and others areas along the gulf. I just want to say to everyone that may not have been affected directly by Harvey to please keep everyone in Texas and along the Gulf Coast in your thoughts and prayers. Even if you weren't affected directly, you probably know someone that was. Keep in mind that Houston is the 4th largest city in the United States, so there are many people that live there and in the surrounding metropolitan areas in Houston. Being that I have family and friends in this region, I know that some people in the areas hit by the storm have been affected personally. So yea, that's pretty much what I wanted to use my soapbox for this week. I wish I could be talking about something less gloomy, however, we all know by now that hardships are part of life. Now it is time to transition into this week's topic of being resilient, and how we're here to rise and overcome.
Now for my normal disclaimer that I give before talking on the topic at hand for the week. We're all aware that we all have different ways of viewing and seeing things. The primary focus on here isn't to focus on what's right or wrong, but rather to offer some inspiration to others that will hopefully inspire them to see a topic in a manner that may not have been thought of before. I don't expect everyone to share in my views or thoughts, and it is totally okay if you happen not to. Whatever feedback and thoughts that anyone may have are always welcome here on this platform. As for how I came to want to talk about resiliency for the week, it's quite simple really. Seeing the devastation that Hurricane Harvey left along Texas is the biggest inspiration for why I want to talk about this topic. After all the stories and videos I've seen and read about how people have come together to help one another through this crises, how can you not believe that we as humans are resilient? Harvey may have been a strong category 4 hurricane when it made landfall, but I know firsthand that the people of Texas are even more stronger. This is an experience that will take time to get over, and it may even be years before certain areas of Texas are back to their normal state. However, I do believe that along with the help and support of everyone in this country, the people of Texas will bounce back and show that resiliency that is being discussed in this week's topic.
So now that we've gotten the definition of resiliency and established what it entails, I want to get more into the kind of qualities I feel people who are resilient exhibit. From my perspective, people who are resilient keep on going until they find a way to conquer the obstacles they're facing. A resilient person in my opinion persevere till the end and doesn't make excuses in my opinion. Seeing things through to their end is what resiliency personifies in my opinion. I know this is fiction, but being that I'm a huge fan of this character, I'm going to use Batman from the film 'The Dark Knight Rises' as an example. After being battered, bruised and broken by the villain in the film, Batman finds a way to come back to Gotham and save his city. People that are resilient throw everything they have at this life, and even when their all isn't enough, they still find a way to get back up and keep on trying. Now do any of these qualities resonate with any of you? I'm almost positive that most of you can identify with these qualities, and there is a reason for that in my opinion. I don't have any scientific proof or evidence of this, but I believe that the reason most if not all you can probably relate is due to my belief that we all have a natural instinct within ourselves to be resilient. I believe that it is our natural state to be resilient, and believe I believe this, I believe that we possess the power to rise and overcome.
So why do I believe that we're naturally resilient and here to rise and overcome? Well, I'm just one of those people that believes in the power of the human spirit and what it can do. When we look back at history, we have seen human-beings that have overcome all kinds of odds and obstacles. There are clearly too many examples to name when it comes to this, but some of you can probably take a look at your own life and think back to something that you may have felt insurmountable, but you still managed to overcome. Think about all the people here in Texas that have been affected by the storm. I'm sure there are many that have lost their homes and livelihoods that feel that they won't be able to get through this right now. It's okay to feel like that for awhile. However, it is in our nature to eventually act and exhibit the resiliency that is necessary to pick ourselves up and keep on moving forward. I may have mentioned this before in a previous entry, but I always like to think about this one particular thing when it comes to getting through the issues that we face in our lives. As I mentioned earlier, just think back to a time when you thought you wouldn't be able to make it through whatever you're facing. If you are here and still going, what does that mean? It means you made it through whatever you were dealing with, and if you can get through whatever it was then, you can also do it now.
Now I want to make sure and say that just because I'm talking about being resilient and the human spirit, that doesn't mean that life can't break us from time to time. There are always going to be times where life is going to throw up for a loop and leave us reeling, and unfortunately, there have been times where some people we broken to the point where they just chose to give it all up. Because we are all different and process things individually, some peoples level of resiliency and belief may vary, and that is okay. The main mission this week is to encourage and inspire everyone to see that we all have something deep within us that makes us want to persevere. So to sum it up for this week, we're all here to rise and overcome the challenges in our lives. We have to have belief that resiliency exists within us at all times. Finally, the people of Texas will rise above the devastation that Hurricane Harvey left us with. As I stated previously, the people of Texas are very strong, and will not allow this incident to keep us down. Now for the quote that I'm going to leave for this week that relates to the topic. The quote comes courtesy of Darwin, and goes; "It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the ones most resilient and responsive to change."
Well we have arrived at the end of another entry of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Thank you all to everyone that took out the time to read what I had to say. As I always like to close out with, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. I also hope that it gives some encouragement to your everyday life. We have some difficult and rough roads ahead of us, but we can definitely overcome those times together. Lets not allow these trying times to defeat us, but rather empower us to reach deep within to find the strength to conquer them. Alright, I'm signing off for now, so I hope you all have a great weekend and don't forget to keep Texas in your thoughts. I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, peace and love to everyone.
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Saturday, August 19, 2017
Here ye, come one come all! How is it going everybody? It is Brad H. back with another topic once again, which means that it is time for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope that everything has been going great for everyone as of late. In the event that this hasn't been happening for you recently, keep on holding your head up and have belief that things can and will get better. So I'm back for another week to give my perspective on a particular topic that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to talk a little bit about the unfortunate happenings taking place in the United States. I'm sure that most if not all of you have heard about the violent incident that happened in Charlottesville, Virginia last week. Condolences and thoughts go to everyone that was negatively affected by what happened. I'm not going to talk about the incident itself, but I want to address the underlying hate that is taking place in our country. Things like racism and bigotry has been happening for centuries now, and I highly doubt that we'll ever get to a point where it stops completely. There are always going to be groups of people that hates or feels superior to other groups of people. I just want to encourage everyone out there to not allow your spirit to give into the negative and hateful acts that are occurring not only stateside, but around the world as well. With so much hatred, suffering and strife taking place everywhere, it becomes much more easier to fall into the pitfalls of negativity happening everywhere. My advice is to focus on filling your heart and minds with so much peace that these negative acts have no bad effect on you. Again, condolences to the lives that were lost during the incident. Alright folks, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets go ahead and talk about the topic of owning every issues in your life.
For my normal disclaimer that I give before talking on the topic at hand, I'd like to say that we all have various viewpoints and ways of thinking when it comes to anything. The main focus here isn't to focus on right or wrong, but rather to give a bit of inspiration to others that will hopefully inspire you to see a topic in a manner that you may not have before. Of course I don't expect everyone to have similar views as myself, and it is totally okay if anyone that reads this disagrees with my perspective. This is a platform that welcomes any and everyone, even if there are potentially different views. Thank you to all that stop by. As for some insight into how I came to writing about this particular topic, I'd probably just point to a few conversations that I've had with some people as of late. A few of those talks dealt with how so many of us constantly blame others for the problems that we have. Now it is very true that there are some cases where other people are responsible certain circumstances that we find ourselves in. I'm in no way saying that everything is always our own doing. The mission for this week is to hopefully encourage a change in mindset when it comes to our problems. Much of what I plan on discussing won't apply to many of you. However, if this discussion does happen to resonate within you in some way, I hope it offers a bit of inspiration for you. As always, anything that I mention applies to myself as well.
So as many of us are already aware, as well as me establishing this earlier, many of us look to deflect the issues we deal with towards others. If it's not other people that we're putting it on, we're putting it on the circumstances that we're in. Again, I want to stress that this may not be the case in some instances for some people. That said, from my perspective, there is one key reason why it's not good to put our issues on other people. In my opinion, constant deflection of problems towards others and circumstances can develop into a crutch in our lives. You may ask, "why is this bad?" From my perspective, I see this act as a bad thing because it aids in denying ourselves accountability for our problems. I'm a believer that we can not only hinder ourselves from solving our problems if we do not own them, but it also keeps us from growing mentally as individuals. We are basically training our minds to believe that whenever that we are facing challenging personal issues, we don't have to responsible for them because other people and circumstances are causing them. In my opinion, there is absolutely no way to grow as an individual if you're constantly doing this. This is why it is important to have a shift in our way of thinking. It's not just about blame, it's about growing as a person as well.
Consider this example for minute. Imagine that a person purchases or rents something from a business. Now the time has come for that person to pay for whatever the item is, but a week before having to pay, the person at hand has the money for the item stolen from them. Now this is an example of how circumstances can play a factor right? It may not be the person at hand's fault that their money was stolen, and the business or person that is expecting their money may be sympathetic to what happened. However, do you really think they care a whole lot about the reasons why you can't pay them? Probably not! The incident may not be the person at hand's doing, but it is still their issue right? This person can blame the person that stole from them, or the circumstances their in but at the end of the day, it is still their issue. Being able to accept that it is their issue and owning it will likely allow this person to learn from what happened. If there is something learned from the incident, the probability of being more prepared or preventing something similar happening again in the future becomes greater.
So why is it important that we learn to own every issue in our life? Simply stated, not owning our the problems in our lives keeps us from solving them. This way of thinking is a crutch in our lives because it helps us to deny accountability for the part we play in creating our issues. Real change starts within ourselves first and foremost, so taking a deep look within and owning up to the issues we deal with is the only way to help solve those issues. So for those of us that struggle occasionally or all the time with owning the issues that we face in our lives, we have to work on changing that mentality. Some may agree or disagree, but I believe that the majority of the problems we face are mental. Changing our mindsets and viewing our problems in a different light is a possibility. We just have to be willing to own up to them. That's pretty much all I have to say for this week's topic, so I'm going to go ahead and give the quote for the week that goes along with this week's discussion. The quote I found comes courtesy of Louise L. Haye. It is short and sweet and it reads; "I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves."
Well that is it for this week my folks! As always, I'd like to thank everyone that once again stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like I always say, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. Although there is a lot happening in this world, those of us who try to remain positive and uplift one another have to stick together. It is now Saturday, so I hope everyone enjoys this weekend. If it isn't too hot where you are, try to get outside and have some fun. Even if you can't be outdoors this weekend, I hope that you all have a good time in whatever you end up doing. Alright, as in the word of Logic the rapper, "I'm gone, so long." I'll see you all in the next one. Stay strong everyone and till we meet again, I will you all peace and love!
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Saturday, August 5, 2017
Ladies and gentlemen! How is everyone doing? It is me Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Hope things have been going well for everyone since the last topic. If that hasn't been the reality for any of you recently, try to keep on holding you head up, and have belief that things will begin to improve. As with the normal format on here, I am back to share my thoughts on a topic for the week that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I wanna get on my soapbox and talk about something that will be here really soon; NFL FOOTBALL! So last night, the preseason for the NFL kicked off with the Hall of Fame Game. We had my favorite team the Dallas Cowboys taking on the Arizona Cardinals. Of course it was preseason, so the starters didn't see the field besides standing on the sidelines. I know most football fans don't get too riled up for the preseason, but there are many people that do because preseason signals the start of the regular season real soon. I can't really explain what it is, but there is something about the time of the year when football comes around that excites me. I don't know if it's because most of us are somewhat eager due to sports being slow during the summer months, or if the season beginning to change during football season. Whatever it may be, I truly enjoy it. I'll likely be using the soapbox section of my writings to talk about certain stories related to the NFL in the coming months. Also, if any of you are football fans, feel free to comment on who your favorite team(s) are in the comment section. I would also like to hear what expectations you have for your team during the upcoming season. I'll likely give my prediction of what I think the Cowboys will do this season in the coming weeks. Alright, now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets go ahead and talk about the importance of watching what you say and think.
Now before getting deeper into the topic for the week, I'd like to give my usual disclaimer. We all have varying viewpoints and ways of thinking when it comes to life. The main focus here isn't to focus on right or wrong, but rather offering a bit of inspiration to others. My hope is that I am able to encourage others to view a topic in a way that they may not have viewed before. I don't expect everyone to have similar views as myself, and it is perfectly fine if anyone happens to disagree with my thoughts. This platform isn't here for division, but rather to include everyone despite potentially having different views. Now for some insight on how this topic came to be. Besides the normal conversations that I have with the people that are near and dear to me, I can't really point to anything specific that lead to me wanting to discuss the importance of watching what we say and think. If there is anything that I can probably attribute to what made me want to get into this topic, I would probably attest it to the fact that I've been thinking a lot about the various struggles that not only myself, but also others that I know have faced so far this year. I've been thinking lately about how it may be time to feed more energy into believing that the remaining months of this year will be much better going forward. If there is anyone else out there that feels that 2017 has been a rough year also, this topic may give you a little bit of hope going forward. Again, I'm far from an expert, so anything that I mention applies to my life first.
So we all have heard the saying; "You are what you eat" right? Could it also be possible that this applies to our minds and the things that we give thought to as well? Again, I'm not coming from a scientific perspective on this topic, so I have no scientific evidence to back up my belief. But with that said, I do believe that whatever we give energy and thought to can potentially come to fruition. From my perspective, this is probably the most important reason why we have to be aware of what we put into our minds. So many people in our world give thought and energy to a lot of negative forces right? I'm sure most of you can relate to this, but do you ever go around people and whenever they are talking, they are talking about how bad things have been going in their lives? Even using myself as an example, I've been giving a lot of energy and thought to the fact that 2017 has been a year of challenges. The fact that I've spent a good portion of this year harping on this has likely contributed to the reason why I feel this way. Like I mentioned earlier, things have a funny way of working out when it comes to thinking about certain things. Some people say that thinking too much is bad, and while I do believe that is true in some cases, I don't see thinking in itself as the biggest issue. From my perspective, the biggest issue is we give too much power to negative thinking, and then we wonder why things in our lives aren't going as well as we'd like. Thinking may not always be the sole reason, but I do believe it is a factor.
Just as everything in this world has an opposite, the same applies when it comes to speaking and thinking. Of course the opposite of negative is positive right? So instead of constantly thinking of and feeding into negative things, why don't we flip it around and give more thought to the more positive aspects of life? Well of course everyone is different, as well as everyone's circumstances, so there is no definitive way to give an answer to that. However, what we do know is that this world that we're living in today is full of negative things taking place on a regular. Whenever we turn on the television, go outside or go online, these negative happenings are constantly being fed into our minds. And as I stated in previously written topics on here, even when we believe the things that we see and hear don't affect us directly, they can affect us on a subconscious level. Now when it comes to watching what you say, it all coincides with the mind. The things that we think about often translate into the things that we say. If you constantly think about the negative and bad, that is likely all you're going to talk about and vice versa. We have to learn how to be aware of the realities that create for ourselves, because it is indeed a fact that there is power in the mind and the tongue. We have to be more positive in order to create a more positive reality for ourselves. Again, in a negative world this is hard, but we have to try and be more positive for ourselves.
The message for this week is plain and straightforward. Watch what you say, as well as what you think. The things that you give energy to can ultimately be spoken and thought into existence. You don't want to be one of those people that thinks and speaks negatively so often that it becomes a self-fulfilled prophecy. We want to be individuals that think and speak positively as often as we can. Some of you may not believe that there is power in the mind and tongue when it comes to bringing things into our lives, and that is totally fine. Even if I don't have any proof besides my own personal experiences, I am a believer that nothing good comes from thinking negative. With that said, I figure that I may as well think and speak as positively as positive. It definitely can't hurt, and I encourage anyone out there that struggles with negativity to try and do the same. That's pretty much all I have to say for this week in regards to the topic for the week. It is now time for me to leave the quote for the week that I found and feel speaks to what this topic is about. It comes courtesy of livehappy.com, and the person who stated this is named Leon Brown. The quote goes; "Your words can be powerful, they can hurt or uplift, so think before you speak as every word you say counts."
We have once again arrived at the end of another topic. Before going on my way, I'd like to thank everyone once again that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I appreciate those of you that show a brother love. As always, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. We are all in this joint together, so we have to try and keep each other inspired. Before going, I'd like to say Happy belated birthday to my younger cousin Derion(Biggie). He had a birthday recently, and it was after the last topic that I wrote about. I just wanna make sure that I acknowledge him on here as well. Love you bro, and keep on doing good things. Alright, I'm out, so I hope everyone has a great weekend and week ahead. Keep on fighting the good fight, and I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, peace!
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Saturday, July 22, 2017
Hey, what's going on ladies and gentlemen? It is me Brad H. back on here once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope everyone has been doing pretty good as of late. Of course if that hasn't been happening in your life as of late, keep on trying to hold your head up, and continue to have belief that things can and will change for you soon. So I'm back for another week to give my perspective on a topic that I've been thinking about in recent days. Before diving into this week's topic at hand, I'd like to use this portion to get on my soapbox for a minute and give my opinion on a current event that recently happened. As I'm sure most of you already know, former NFL running back O.J. Simpson was granted parole from prison this week. Whatever you may think about Simpson himself, we cannot deny the fact that there is something that captivates the world about him. I think most of it mainly stems from the fact that his murder trial from the early 90's is the most infamous trials of a public figure in American history. Not going to get into what I thought of the trial, but I want to give my opinion on him being paroled. I've seen a lot of mixed reactions online, so I guess I'll chime in myself. Now I personally didn't see what I would consider to be a remorseful person when he spoke to the parole board that was considering his case. However, something that stood out to me was when one of the board members confused Simpson for being 90 years old. She quickly apologized, to which there was some laughter in the building. But it was Simpson, who is actually 70 years old reaction that really caught my ear. Simpson jokingly replied that he feels like he's 90. Now I imagine a man in his condition, along with the mental stress that he has put himself through does feel much older than his actual age. So I guess what I'm saying here is that regardless of what people think of Simpson, I think it was okay that he was granted parole. The truth is that the guy may not have many more years left, and if the justice system feels that he has served enough time to be granted parole, then so be it. At his age and his condition of health, there's probably not much the guy can do anyway. Well I think I've rambled enough, so lets go ahead and talk about this week's topic of acquiring a wealth of knowledge.
As always before going more in depth on the topic for the week, I want to give the regular disclaimer and say that everyone will have varying viewpoints when it comes to topics. My objective here is isn't to focus on what may be considered right or wrong, but rather to hopefully encourage the people that read to think about a topic from a different approach than they normal. Of course I don't expect everyone to share in my views, but the goal of hoping to inspire others and myself through that process remains the same. As for insight on how I came to wanting to talk about this particular topic for the week, I have to attest it to a video by Dr. Boyce Watkins that I listened to on Youtube recently. The video itself pretty much dealt with finance, but it's something that he said during the video that really resonated with me, which lead to me writing about the topic at hand. He mentioned how we as people don't always have to leave or give money to others in order to help them. Sometimes the knowledge and wisdom that we are able to pass onto others is even more important than the money itself. I personally thought him saying this was pretty inspirational, so I figured it would be a pretty good topic for me to try and expand upon. Hopefully you all can relate a bit to what I'm going to talk about. Remember that I'm far from an expert, so keep in mind that anything that I talk about applies to myself. I'm a firm believer that we have to be willing to follow the advice we give to others.
So we've established that most of us equate money to having wealth. Yes it is indeed true that the most popular form of wealth primarily deals with money, but I'm not here to talk about money because I'll admit that I'm one of those people that isn't really as good as I should be at managing it. However, what I do know is that regardless of how much financial wealth a person has, they likely won't be able to make it sustainable if they're not knowledgeable when it comes to finance. I'm sure most of you have heard the saying "a fool and his money will eventually part ways." If not those exact words, I'm sure you've heard some sort of variation of it. But it is true that someone that spends constantly without being equipped with the knowledge to make their money work for them. This same concept applies to everyone in life from my perspective. We all are going to make mistakes right? That is just a fact and a part of life. However, we all know and are aware that when we are knowledgeable about whatever aspect of life that we have to make decisions in, we are able to limit the chances of making mistakes. I see life as a game of both wins and losses. We all know that we won't always win in the things that we want, which means that we're going to have occasional losses. We also know that losing doesn't last forever, which means that we have to work towards limiting the losses and hopefully increasing the wins. In my opinion, it is much easier to win when you have the knowledge and tools you need to do so.
So how do we acquire wealth through knowledge? Well from my perspective, there are two ways to primarily do so. The first is the easiest way, as well as the way that puts more of it on you. This way involves us going to acquire the knowledge on our own. A person that does this likely reads books, watches videos, and seeks out people that are experts in whatever they're looking to become more knowledgeable at. The second method deals more with what Dr. Boyce was talking about, which deals with being lucky enough to have people that we know to pass down knowledge to us. Now because this method involves having to depend on others, it isn't the most recommended, which is exactly why I wanted to talk about this topic. Now both methods can be interchangeable, meaning that depending on where you are in life, either or both can apply to you at various times. My mission for this week is to show that you don't always have to have money to help out others. You see, since we live in a society that equates money with wealth, most of our society believes that having money is the only way to help others. This is something that we've all heard before, and it is something that I've talked about on here in the past. The bottom line is that regardless of who you are or what you have, you can always drop trinkets of wisdom to others either help them move forward towards something, or keep them from making the same mistakes you did. This is why it is important to have a wealth of knowledge in my opinion.
Regardless of who you are or your relationship with others, you can always have some kind of wisdom to pass onto others. I also want to make it clear that I also feel that no matter how wise you are, you are never so wise that you can't listen to others as well. Wealth can come in all kinds of forms, but there is no price tag in my opinion that can be put on being knowledgeable. The goal for this week is to hopefully let others know that having wealth doesn't always have to be about money. If you are a person that is skilled or well versed in an area of your life, don't hesitate to pass on your knowledge to others. If you're a person that may not be all that capable when it comes to dealing with finance, seek out others that can give you the knowledge and tools to help you become better. In my opinion, the best thing about knowledge is that it is infinite. There is always something new out there can be learned, so remember that wealth is important, but having a wealth of knowledge can mentally take us to an even higher state of mind. The quote that I found and will leave you all with this week that I feel applies to this week's topic comes from innovator and author Peter Schwartz. The quote goes; "Knowledge is the only kind of wealth that multiplies when you give it away." Be mindful of that my friends.
Well my peeps, we have arrived at the end of another post. Before I leave for this week, I'd really like to thank everyone for stopping by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I really, really appreciate all of you, especially those people that let me know on Twitter that they've read some of my material and found it helpful. I'm truly grateful to you all. Like always, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. I hope everyone has a good weekend, and hopefully an even better week ahead. Also, Happy Birthday goes to my little cousin Xzavier(Zay), and to my great uncle Grover. Alright, I'm out everyone, so stay strong and keep on fighting the good fight everyone. Till we meet again, I wish you all the best. Peace and love!
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