Saturday, April 14, 2018

Keeping Your Cool In Today's Society Is A Strength (Not Allowing Others To Get You Out Of Character).

Society at large defines both strengths and weaknesses in various ways. What one person may consider to be a strength could be classified as a weakness by another person and vice versa. We all have opinions on what we consider to be a strength or a weakness. Something that I've noticed throughout my life when it comes to people and how we tend to react towards others when we feel disrespected or threatened is that anger is viewed as a sign of strength. I'm sure that some of you may have noticed this as well. You've probably seen this form of strength through anger taking place between others, or there has likely been an encounter where you were dissing out anger towards someone else. Maybe you have found yourself on the other side of taking the brunt of another person's anger directed towards you. Regardless of how you may have experienced this form of strength, it is something that we all are familiar with, maybe even more often that we should be. As I have mentioned, we all have various ways of viewing strengths and weaknesses. What if something that our society deemed as being a strength was actually a weakness that is masquerading as a strength? What if you were believing all this time that blowing up on others and trying to exude strength through force or intimidation was actually a form of weakness? Again, we all have different perspectives, and some of us have been on both sides of a topic like this. However, as I lived and learned, I've also come to realize that being able to keep your cool in today's society is one of the greatest strengths a person can have.

What is going on good people? Your guy Brad H. is here once again to present you all with another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Welcome back for those that stop through frequently, and a big thanks for those of you that are first time readers here. We are here for another week of inspiration and perspective that will hopefully help us all to open our minds and keep on moving forward. I hope that all has been well with everyone out there, and if that hasn't been the case for you, keep your head up and stay trying to move in a direction that can hopefully change that. Before we get into the week's topic, I want to talk about something that I'm sure most of you sports fans out there are probably happy about. The NBA Playoffs are officially here ladies and gentlemen! After 82 games and several months of basketball, the road towards the NBA Finals has begun. For me personally, the first round is always the most exciting because of the volume of games on a daily basis. For those of you that may not already know, I'm a San Antonio Spurs fan. The Spurs will be facing off with the Golden States Warriors in the first round. I'll admit that this definitely wasn't one of the best seasons the Spurs have had since I've been a fan. We're accustomed to seeing the Spurs as a higher seed compared to the 7th seed they are this season. Though it was a mediocre regular season, I'm still proud of how well they have done considering that they've been without their best player (Kawhi Leonard) for nearly the entire season. Gotta give Coach Popovich a lot of credit for the coaching job he has done. So do I think the Spurs will get past the Warriors in the first round? I try to be a realist, so I still give the Warriors the edge despite their injuries and struggles as of late. However, I'll never count out Coach Pop's ability to game plan against another team. We'll see what happens in the coming weeks. Alright, it is now time to go ahead and get into this week's discussion of how keeping your cool can be a strength.

As per the usual format I use here, I'm going to go ahead and use this section to give my disclaimer and how this particular topic came to be. We all have different ways of viewing life. The main goal here isn't to focus on what is right or what is wrong. The goal is to hopefully provide some inspiration for those that may need it, and to also encourage others to consider seeing things in a manner in which they may not have before. I'm just a regular guy with an opinion, so I don't expect everyone to always agree with me when it comes to these topics. I personally believe that we're never too knowledgeable or too old to learn from other people, so hopefully what I have to say can be of use to another person. As for how I came to wanting to discuss this topic, I would mainly credit it to something I heard someone say a few days ago. I was on Youtube listening to a video, and the person in the video I was watching referenced how he prides himself on being able to stay calm despite people trying to be disrespectful towards him at times. Watching him make reference to this made me think about past occasions where I've had discussions of this manner with others. As a matter of fact as I think about it now, I have written previous entries on here where I talked about how anger isn't always beneficial to our health and well-being. Now in saying all of this, I'm in no way saying that anyone should be a pushover, nor am I implying that we should never get angry. That is unrealistic. However, what I am implying is that being able to stay calm and collected in the midst of a chaotic moment can keep a person from making a mistake(s) that could be detrimental to their lives. Again this is all subjective and depends on how you think, but regardless of what you may think or feel, I hope that you hear me out on some of my points.

Something that many of us both dislike and hate to acknowledge is that some people in this world just enjoy getting a rise out of other people. We've all been around a person at some point or another that gets under our skin. Maybe they tease and pick at something you did or have done before, or they just are annoying to be around for whatever reasons. What's even worse is when that person notices that they are getting under your skin, and then they continue to keep on doing whatever it is that they're doing to bother you. The normal and often usual reaction for most of us is to get angry and lash out when this happens. The emotion of being angry is seen as a show of strength and intimidation to let whomever that is bothering you to stop whatever their doing to get you to this point. Now there are a couple of factors to consider when someone gets you to the point where you're angry and ready to do something you may end up regretting later. First off, the individual that is getting under you skin may very well heed your warning and chill. However, and this is the second point, what if it is someone that doesn't take your warnings seriously? You can easily find yourself in a physical situation that could turn dangerous, or you may end up damaging a friendship or relationship by saying something that you'll be sorry for later. Now I do realize that there are going to be some people and situations where these kind of confrontations are unavoidable for the most part. However, I personally believe that many of us allow ourselves to lose our cool in these types of scenarios because society has painted this image that anger is strength, and remaining calm is a show of weakness. In other words, I think that most of us know we shouldn't allow others to get us out of our character, but we choose to do so because it has been conditioned.

Now I'm going to use an analogy here that is going to probably sound pretty weird, but hear me out on this as it relates to this topic. Think of a professional bodybuilder for a sec. A bodybuilder exudes strength through their sheer physical presence right? When you see a bodybuilder whether they're training at the moment or not, they're automatically deemed as being strong by society. Now think of someone that is a professional yoga practitioner. This is a person that maybe physically isn't intimidating, but because they're extremely flexible and able to hold poses that the average person cannot, they have a strength that many others don't. I believe that a good portion of people in our society would make the claim that something like yoga is a weaker activity compared to lifting weights. Now the reason I bring up these two examples is because although they're two different things, both have their share of strengths and weaknesses in the eye of others. The same ideology applies when it comes to anger and staying calm from my perspective. Though the display of anger can be considered a strength and intimidating by society's standards, is it really if you're allow someone else to get you out of your character? Again, there is nothing wrong with getting angry at times, but why exactly do we find ourselves getting angry at others? Again, is it because it is a part of who we are inside, or are why allowing what is judged as being a strength to bring us out of our character? Those are questions that only we as individuals can answer, and it is something that we have to look within ourselves to find out.

As with how I explained how I came to write about this topic, I personally pride myself on trying to remain as cool and calm as possible, even when the actions of others try to get me to do otherwise. Like I mentioned earlier, some people go out of their way to try to get us out of character and make us angry. If you already know this to be the case, don't you think you're likely in a better position to handle these kind of people if you're able to stay calm? The point I'm trying to get across this week is that it is okay to keep your cool and not wild out every single time you feel someone has wronged you. I personally believe that a wise individual knows what battles to fight and what battles to walk away from. Too many of us find ourselves in bad circumstances that we could have easily just walked away from. Now I want to reiterate again that I'm in no way saying that you have to allow people to run over you by staying calm. There are always better ways to calmly express yourself without using a lot of bravado. I'm also not telling anyone else what to do or how to live. I'm just trying to encourage others to see that society isn't always your friend when it comes to certain things. People have done some regretful things by just trying to show that their tough, or because they were egged on by others. Don't buy into the hype that the only sign of strength is through anger and intimidation. That is what society wants us to think, but we're not going to let society dictate how we carry ourselves. We're going to live and do things on our own terms to the best of our ability, so remember to try and keep your cool always, and don't allow other people to get you out of your character.

Well that is all I have for this week ladies and gentlemen. I'm going to go ahead and get off of here, but I'd like to thank everyone once again that came through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As with the usual, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding gained from this. If anyone has any feedback or concerns, please leave those in the comments, or you can hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH. I hope that each and every one of you has a great weekend and an even better week ahead. Also, for all the basketball fans out there, I hope you enjoy the playoffs. I'm sure that I'll be talking about them more in the weeks to come, so good luck to everyone's teams unless you're a Warriors fan right now. Well I hope everyone enjoys the rest of the weekend, and I'll see you all in the next topic. Take care everyone; stay strong and stay encouraged! Peace out!

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Saturday, March 31, 2018

The Importance Of Keeping Your Focus On Your Positive Habits And Attributes.

I think that most of us can agree that there is a lot of good and positive things to enjoy and embrace in this world that we're living in. There are simple things like laughter, smiling, nature, etc that we can associate as positive things. Though there is a lot of good and positive that comes along with life, we also know and realize that there is also a lot of negativity happening in this world. Beyond the negative events that we often see happening on the news and social media sites that we engage in, negativity often hits closer to home with so many people. I'm not going to address anything in particular that can be attributed to negativity in someone's life. Also, much of that depends on a person's perspective as to what they consider negative and what is not. Furthermore, everyone's circumstances and conditions are different, so what is considered negative and what not in a person's life is totally subjective. The main reason that I bring all of this up is due to the fact that it appears that many of the negative factors happening in life take precedence over the positive. Again this can be argued depending on who you are and how you think, but I do believe that a good portion of us can agree that this is often the case. Now beyond negativity just not being a good thing in my opinion, it can really have a damaging effect on us as people. Specifically, it can have an even greater effect on people that are striving to have more positive things happening in their lives. Because negativity can have a ripple-effect on us as people, it is of utmost importance for us to keep our focus on our positive habits and attributes.

Ladies and gentlemen; people here, people there and people everywhere, welcome to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! This is Brad H. back once again to hopefully dish out some knowledge and inspiration that can serve as some positive energy that inspires us to become better people. I hope that everyone has been doing great since the last topic as always. Spring is here, so I hope that things are beginning to look up for everyone that has been dealing with tough times as of late. So for this section where I briefly discuss something that isn't related to the topic for the week, I want to touch on the mainstream media and how it is total manipulation. Not unless you've been living under a rock, I'm sure that you've heard of this scandal involving the president of the United States and the adult actress. I'm not going to mention either of their names because we all know who the president is, and I don't want to bring anymore attention to the adult actress than she is already getting. Anyway, I'm sure that most of you have noticed how all of the major news networks have been constantly reporting on this story. Now I know that most people love gossip, etc, but my question is why should any of this matter to our lives personally? I'll admit that it is embarrassing for our country that our president is involved in something of this nature. However, the media constantly reporting on it doesn't do anything for us besides keeping our minds focused on it. In essence, this whole story in my opinion isn't really news, but rather entertainment. Only the individuals involved in this benefit from it, because they are the ones that are getting all of the attention and press that goes along with the media shoving it in our faces. The mainstream media is totally trying to manipulate us with this, so for those of you that really want to be informed about the things that are important in our country, I would advise you to seek out alternative forms of media. That's pretty much all I want to say about that, so now we're going to go ahead and transition in the topic for the week on the importance of keeping our focus on our positive habits.

Before beginning with the topic that I'm addressing this week, I'm going to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I give. Every single one of us has different views and opinions on life. We will rarely always agree with another person 100% of the time, and I think this is both normal and healthy. The main focus with this and all of the other topics that are discussed on here is to provide inspiration for everyone, as well as a hub that encourages others to ponder on things in ways they may not have before. I'll never expect everyone to always share in my viewpoints. Of course I appreciate those that do, as well as those that may not. Whatever you feel or believe is totally up to you, and I appreciate everyone regardless of where you may stand on the things I discuss. As for how we arrived at this particular topic, there wasn't anything in particular that happened or I saw that compelled me to want to get this topic out there. This was just something that I had been thinking on one day recently, so I figured that if I were thinking about it, then it may be a good idea to share it with others. Besides that, I feel it is something that can be beneficial to others and myself. If there is so much negativity happening and taking place in this world, then why should focusing on the things that may be good about you be of importance? Most of all know by now that what you choose to give energy to has a great impact on our lives and how we think. Anything that I mention here in regards to this topic also applies to my life as well.

We've already established that this world can be a negative place to exist within today's society. It is just one of those unfortunate facts of life that we all have to live with. There are many of us out here trying to help fix the amount of negativity that is going on, but try as we may, it will always exist in some way, shape or form. Although there may be much negativity happening daily throughout this planet, we all have the choice whether to engage in it or not. Now someone out there may be like Brad H., how can a person not engage in something that happens all the time and likely won't stop? What I mean by this is that yes, negativity does exist in our world, but a person that is able to elevate their mind above it won't be prone to engage in it. It's just another anything else in life that happens that most of us would consider to be bad or negative. Ah yes; the mind, something that I frequently make reference to on here. Whether you see the positive or negative in this world all comes down to your mind and how you process things. Now going back to the choices aspect of negativity, I'm going to give an example of choices and negativity. Now we all know that crime is considered to be a negative aspect of life right? Now because we are all exposed to crime in a sense that we hear of it all the time, does that mean that we are going to go out there and do it? Absolutely not right! The same way we make the choices to do the right things in life, we also have the option of choosing not to allow the negative factors of life to affect us. Remember, there are always choices in life.

Now from my perspective, probably the biggest and most crucial way to ward off negativity deals with where we choose to give our energy and focus to. Now I may be in the minority with my thinking here, but I believe that every single person on this planet regardless of what they've done whether for good or for bad have some good attributes about themselves. Now since we live in a world that consists of so many negative forces, most people nowadays are going to focus on the bad in others. I'm sure that most of you can think to a time recently in your life where you heard someone that you were around say something negative about someone else. Whether they were accurate in their criticism of whomever they may have been talking about isn't the point, but the fact that the criticism wasn't positive is what I want to focus on. This is exactly why I think that it is imperative to focus on your positive attributes and habits. When you are constantly giving energy to the positive aspects of your life, you'll find that you're better able to brush off any kind of negative behaviors that others display whether indirectly or not. Because society in general consumes people with the negativity that often happens, those that may not have elevated their minds will often try to tear down those that have expanded their viewpoints of the world. This is a win-win two-fold. Not only are you able to not be consumed with negative forces via television, social media, etc; you also don't allow the negative opinions and criticisms from others to bring you to their level. From my perspective, being able to do this means that you have totally elevated yourself above much of the negativity this world brings.

Now despite my talking of elevating yourself and focusing your positive habits and attributes, achieving an advanced mindset like this isn't always easy. As we have said multiple times throughout this topic, the negative forces of life aren't going anywhere, and the truth is that many of us mentally aren't ready for the elevated mindset that I've mentioned. There are going to be times where you are focusing on your positive attributes, but you'll probably still find yourself at various times in your life consumed with negative thoughts and emotions at the expense of others. We have to learn to think of positive thinking as muscle that constantly needs to be trained on in order to build. What better way than to build a powerful mind than with keeping your focus on the good things about yourself? Whatever habits you have that you think are good about yourself, keep on practicing them. Whatever attributes that you feel are good about you, keep on growing and expanding them. We want to turn ourselves into people that have an almost force-field like aura about ourselves that negativity forces flee whenever they come around us. I know that is a bit extreme on my part, but I'm sure that most of you get what I mean by this. Negative factors won't be going anywhere anytime soon, so it is best that we do all we can to fight those kinds of things off. Otherwise, we're going to find that we're in the same army as those that have allowed negativity to break them down. So with all of that said, keep on focusing on those positive habits folks.

Well it is time once again for me to go ahead and sign off for another week. I want to give extra thanks to everyone that once again stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Per the usual, I hope that there was some understanding and meaning that was able to be gained from this. If anyone has any feedback or concerns, please leave those in the comments, or you can hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH. I hope that everyone is having a great weekend thus far. I know a lot of you sports fans out there are excited since baseball started a few days ago, as well as the NCAA basketball finale being set, and the NBA playoffs starting soon. Good time of the year isn't it? Well I hope everyone enjoys, and I'll see you all in the next topic. Take care, stay strong, stay positive! Peace!

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Saturday, March 17, 2018

The Importance Of Why A Change Of Scenery On Occasion Is A Good Thing.

One thing that I believe that we all can agree with is that we all change as we get older. The changes that we all experience come in a variety of both good and bad things, but the idea of we as people staying the same way that we were when we're younger is just an illusion. Of course there are going to be traits that are particular about us as individuals that we will maintain even with age, but the acquisition of life experience and wisdom that we gain throughout our lives will naturally change us. I think that people for the most part grow into a certain state of monotony as we become older. What do I mean when I say this you may wonder? I think that we as people become accustomed to doing and seeing the same exact things on a daily basis. Our reality at various stages of our lives becomes somewhat of a comfort zone for us. We somewhat fall into a stage where we've become accustomed to doing and seeing the same things over and over again, and this becomes a repetition for our lives. Now this is totally fine and works for some people, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. There are some people that have seen and experienced so much in their lives that they're content with their reality. However, there are also those people that aren't totally at peace with whatever reality that they find themselves living in, and there is something inside them that is telling them that there is something more to experience. In today's world that we're living in, not everyone is able to constantly be on the go and seeing new things. However, a change of scenery sometimes can totally help with unrest of the monotony that many of us find ourselves in.

Greetings to everyone out there! This is your guy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Thank you in advance for everyone that stopped by for another week of positive vibes and and inspiration that can hopefully be some positive food to feed our spirits. Hopefully everyone has been doing pretty good since the last topic, and as always, keep your head up if that hasn't been happening for you as of late. Try to keep in mind that things are never as good or bad as they may seem. So there wasn't any specific news or event that I wanted to bring up in this portion of the topic, so I figured I would address something that happened to me personally this past weekend. I celebrated another birthday last Sunday, so I am now officially 37 years old (young). I must say that this was probably one of the more memorable birthday's that I've had in recent years. The reason I say this is due to the fact that this was one of the few birthday's in recent memory that I spent out of town. When I say spending out of town, I mean spending the night in another city rather than just going away for the day. So I spent the weekend in Ft. Worth with family, and I must say that although I'm not normally one to make a big deal out of my birthday, my folks really went above and beyond to make the weekend enjoyable for me. I finally got to see the movie 'Black Panther' in 3D, and I got to spend time with my folks that I only see a few times out of the year. The reason I bring all of this up for you guys is to remind you all that although people like myself see birthday's as just another day, many people do not. While your birthday is primarily about celebrating another year of being alive, it's always thoughtful to keep in mind what you mean to those that care for you. You being alive to see another year is not only a gift in its own right for you, it is also a gift for those that care about you. With all of that said, I want to thank all of my family and friends for a great birthday. Alright, now it is time to get into the topic for the week of why a change of scenery is good from time to time.

So now that I've gotten on my soapbox for the week, it is now time that I go ahead and get into the usual disclaimer that I give weekly before addressing the topic at hand for the week. I'll start by saying that we all have different viewpoints when it comes to life. None of us will always agree or see eye-to-eye, so the goal here isn't to focus my ideas and beliefs on anyone else. The primary goal here is to provide inspiration for us all, but also to hopefully encourage others to maybe see certain things in a manner in which they may not have before. I totally get and understand if others may not agree with me, and that is fine. If you happened to find yourself here reading this, I appreciate your coming by no matter what you happen to believe in. So how did I happen to arrive at discussing the importance of why a change of scenery is a good thing? Simply stated, it goes back to last weekend being my birthday and spending it away from my normal surroundings. Because I was in a different area besides what I am normally accustomed to, I was able to see things and meet people that I more than likely would not have had I not had that experience. Now as I mentioned previously in this topic, people that are used to traveling a lot will likely not be able to relate a lot to this topic. Just like the monotony of many of our lives is surrounded in one particular place, traveling frequently to a lesser extent probably feels somewhat monotonous for those that do it on a regular basis. For this week, I am mainly talking to those people that are stuck in the realm of monotony, and are finding that they aren't fully satisfied with it.

So as I have stated and established already for this week, many of us fall into a level of monotony as we get older. Some of you may find that you almost become ritualistic in the way that you go about doing things in your life. You probably watch television at the same time everyday, or you may eat dinner or go to sleep at the time that you're accustomed to. Now in talking about monotony when it comes to things such as this, I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing. I believe it can be beneficial to us to practice certain habits at specified times. I say this because when you find that you do things on a set schedule, you often know where all of your time goes, and you're able to plan your time more wisely. When I refer to monotonous behaviors, I'm in no way saying that they're bad. However, from my perspective, a life of monotony can be unhealthy to a certain degree. When I say this, I'm speaking in terms of being stagnated to the point where you're not experiencing anything else in your life besides the monotonous activities that you engage in daily. Now I want to stress again that living in this manner works for a lot of people, and that is totally fine. That said, there are also those out here in the world that live in this manner, but they are not truly happy and fulfilled living in this way. The reason that I say this is due to the fact that just a few years back, I was exactly this kind of person. I was living a life of monotony thinking all was good, but there was something inside of me that just didn't feel right. I didn't quite understand it at the time, but there was a desire to see and try out different things.

Since I frequently use health and fitness comparisons as examples on here, I'm going to go ahead and switch it up and do it again (sarcasm). Yes I was trying to be funny there. But I want you all to imagine someone that runs a few times a week at a track that is just one big circle. This runner goes round and round and doesn't see anything new or different during their workout. Now lets take that same runner and say that he or she decides to run in an area that is different from the track. Lets say they're running in an area where there are different sights and views around each corner, etc. Now of course everyone is different, but I'm almost willing to bet that the runner that we're using as an example in this scenario will find that their more invigorated after having that experience of seeing something different besides their normal routine. This is exactly why I think a change of scenery on occasion is a good thing. A change of scenery can help be a spark to help us become more alive on the inside. Also, a change of scenery or experiencing things that we're not always accustomed to can be a form of growth. From my perspective, life should always be about growing and learning new things. The problem for many of us is that when we become a certain age, we often feel that there is no need to for growth. I can't speak for anyone else, but this is a notion that I totally disagree with. As far as I'm concerned, regardless of your age or how much you've seen, there is always something new to learn as long as you're alive.

I get that monotony and being set in our ways with age is something that is part of life, and I'm in no way saying that anyone needs to switch up their lives or routines completely. I'm simply trying to encourage us all (myself included) to not be afraid to try and see new things every now and then. Again, from my perspective this is important because growth comes from experiencing things that we're not accustomed to. If you're the kind of person that only sticks to events in your area, try to go outside of your area and experience some of those things if you're able to. If you're trying to get into shape and you're doing the same exercises to get fit, I encourage you to try and learn of other exercises that can help keep you motivated to keep sticking with it. From my perspective, we should strive to be people that are constantly trying to grow and expand, so I believe that changing things up sometimes is one of the best ways that we can do this. For me personally, my birthday this year represented a change of scenery, and I am personally happy with the outcome that came from it. It was just another one of the many reminders that I've had over the years to remind me that there are so many things to do and experience in this world outside of what we're used to. So with all of that being said, a change of scenery is important to personal growth in my opinion. Be mindful that no matter where you are or what you're doing, there are so many things outside of your personal realm that are happening. You don't have to be a part of it all, but there is nothing wrong with sometimes making the effort to be a part of it as much as you can.

Well that is all that I got for this time around my people. It is time for ya boy to go ahead and sign off for another week. As always, thanks go to all that took out the time to read another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! That is really something that can't be said enough. I hope that there was some understanding and meaning that was gained from this that served as being helpful to someone's life. Any and all feedback is welcomed, and if you have any questions you can hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. I hope everyone is having a great weekend, and I'd like to give thanks to my family and friends for a wonderful birthday last weekend. I'm truly grateful. I wish everyone out there the best, and I hope everyone has a good week ahead. Take care, stay strong, and I'll see you all in the next post! Peace!

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Saturday, March 3, 2018

The Reverse Psychology Of Doing What Is Hard Compared To Doing What Is Easy.

If we're being completely honest with ourselves here, I think that most of us can agree that if given the option between doing something an easier way vs. a harder way that most of us would prefer the more easier way. Why is this the case for most of us? I don't know the scientific answer to this, but in my opinion, I just think that we've been conditioned over time to do what is considered the most convenient and quickest way possible. Now in saying that, I'm not implying that choosing the more easier way of doing something is always bad. There are always some instances where choosing the easier route is the best way to go. For example, if you were taking a trip and there were two ways of reaching your destination with one way being longer than the other, it would make the most sense to go the way that gets you to your destination quicker right? While taking the more easier path of doing things generally may be the most convenient and quicker way of making things happen, certain aspects of life can be more beneficial if we choose the road that is often less traveled. There is somewhat of a reverse psychology when it comes to this, but as I have pondered on this after hearing it, I do believe it is something that holds to be the truth. Although most of us prefer the easy way in most situations, we can't always see the potential betterment of our lives in this manner if self-improvement is one of our goals. In order to improve as a people, we have to realize that if we do what is easy, then our lives while be harder, and doing what is hard will often make our lives easier.

Yo! What is going on everyone? It is I Brad H. coming back at you all once again, and like always, I would like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Big ups to everyone that stopped by again for another week of potential knowledge and inspiration that will hopefully feed our souls a bit. I hope that things have been going well for everyone since the last topic that was addressed. In the event that hasn't been the case for some of you, just keep on holding your head up and work towards trying to change that. This is the section of my topics where I normally talk about something related to sports or world news. However, there wasn't anything that was noteworthy happening that I felt was worthy of bringing up. So for my soapbox that I normally use for this section to talk about something off the cuff, I'm going offer a bit of advice to some of you that may be in your 30's and up. So earlier this week I was out taking a routine jog right? There has been quite a bit of rain falling in this area during the month of February, so it kept me in from running for several days. So I'm out on this run, and although it was a fairly sunny evening, there was still water puddles on the street. So I'm nearly a mile into my run, and my left foot ends up going over some water that had dirt mixed in it from the grass right? Next thing I know I slip and take a tumble. My hands and my right arm were scraped up, but the brunt of the punishment went to my right knee, which was bruised and scraped up pretty good. Of course that ended the run, and I walked back home. The important thing about this story is that I hadn't planned on going running that evening, but I decided to do so since it was such a pretty evening. However, my gut told me not to go, and if I would have listened to my gut, the injury would not have happened. So the advice that I'm offering for those of you that may be a little older, always be careful when you are being active. Everyone needs to be careful regardless of age, but we all know that it takes a little longer to heal when you are older. Finally, and this applies to everyone no matter your age, always trust and listen to your gut. Your instincts will rarely fail you. Just something to keep in mind. Alright, now it is time to transition into the topic of the week on the reserve psychology of doing what is hard compared to easy.

It is now time for me to give the usual disclaimer that I give before delving more into the topic at hand. We all have various ways of seeing things, and the same applies to how we view serious topics. The standard that I've tried to set here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to maybe view things in a manner in which they may not have before. For those that may not share in my beliefs on this or anything else that I discuss on here, I still appreciate you stopping by. There is nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree when it is done in a dignified way. My hope is that these words that I write are able to inspire others, as well as myself. So how did we arrive at this particular topic? I was on Youtube watching a video, and I heard the person in the video say something that I thought was pretty profound. I can't quote it word for word at the moment, but he stated that if you do what is easy your life is gonna be hard, and if you do what is hard your life is going to be easy. I'm sure that many of you have heard some iteration of this phrase before. Me personally, I hadn't up until I encountered the video. After I pondered on those words, I thought it would be an interesting topic to explore a bit. Rather than just saying what he said, I want to expand upon it and give examples of what I think he could have been referring to in what he mentioned. Since he didn't go more in depth of what he meant in saying that in the video, I figured I would give my own personal take on it. For those of you that are aiming to improve yourself, this is probably something that will touch you.

So as I referenced to earlier in this post, for most of us if given the option of taking the easier option compared to the harder option, most of us would choose the easier option right? The more easier option often sounds more convenient and doesn't require the level of work that the harder option, but is the easier option really what is good for us in certain aspects? Again, there are certain times in life where you may not want to go the harder route as I touched on earlier with the traveling example. However, there are going to be situations in your life where doing what is harder will help your life drastically compared to taking the more easier route. This is where the reverse psychology aspect of what I'm talking about comes into play. If you think of it in standard and straightforward terms, you'd think that the easier choice is the best option compared to the harder option. Of course the easiest option is better because doing what is easy is exactly that; easy. We'd rather avoid doing something that is harder because it requires more effort right? Now I don't want to lump everyone into the same category, so I will acknowledge that there are some people out there that prefer the harder option because they already understand this psychology. These are the individuals that are already ahead of the curve. But again, most of us prefer the easier way if given a choice, so that is what we're going to focus on here. I want to hopefully show others examples of how the easier option isn't always the best choice.

Now what exactly does it mean when we say that if you do what is easy your life is going to be hard, and if you choose to do what is hard, then your life will be easier? We're all free to form our own opinion on this, but simply put and from my perspective, the easier choices of life will often be the ones that are hurtful to us in the long run. I know this may not sound right for many people, but it is a fact. As an example, think about it in terms of our health. I think we can all admit that sitting on the couch watching television is a lot easier than going to the gym or going for a walk daily right? Now there is nothing wrong with watching television, but imagine someone that watches television constantly without ever working on their health compared to someone that runs several times throughout the week. Watching television is the easier thing to do compared to actually going out there and exerting effort right? So who is really benefiting the most? Since working out requires effort and some discomfort to do, it may not necessarily benefit you at the moment. Of course relaxing and watching television is a more laid back activity, so of course it will likely be more beneficial to you at that particular moment. The problem with this is if you do it constantly and without balance, it hurts you in the long term. The person that is putting in the hard effort has to suffer for awhile, but this person knows that the investment that they're making at the moment, although it may be uncomfortable will benefit them down the road. It's all about what is best in the short term vs. the long term. The easier options often benefit us in the short term, while the harder route is better in the long term.

What I'm trying to get across this week is that while doing what is hard often comes with pain and suffering, it is the best choice if you're thinking long term. Doing what is hard isn't easy within itself, which is what the reverse psychology that we're addressing is about. Every time you lie to or manipulate others, you may often find that you'll get away with it in the short term. Being honest with others and having integrity can be a tough thing to do in this society, and it is something that many of us struggle with because we're focused on the short term. Lies, deceit and manipulation are all easier options compared to doing what is right. Sitting on the couch eating all the time is easier compared to putting in the effort that is required to stay healthy. None of us are perfect, and we all fall short at times of doing what is hard. The goal here is to inspire others (myself also) to focus more on making the harder choices for a better long term. Yes, there will be times when doing this is going to be downright painful and hard to do, but I do believe that it does pay off in the long run. One thing that I try to frequently mention on here is the promotion of self-improvement. We're not trying to be perfect people, we're trying to become even better people. So with all of that said, just keep in mind the importance of doing what is hard compared to what is easy. Everyone is different, so evaluate your life and try to determine what is beneficial for you personally. If you do what is easy your life is going to be hard, and if you do what is hard, then your life is going to be easy. Try and keep that in mind folks.

We have once again come to the end of another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! It is time to sign off once again, so big thanks as always to those of you that stopped by to check out my thoughts. As always before I end, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the previous topics that I've addressed on here. Any feedback and comments are welcome, and you can allow follow or hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. Well I'm going to get off here and try to enjoy this beautiful weather that we're having. Spring is definitely right about the corner. Hope the weather is nice wherever you all are, and I hope you all have a great weekend. I wish you all the best, and hope you have a good week ahead. Take care, and I'll see you all in the one! Peace!

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Saturday, February 17, 2018

The Importance Of Opening Yourself To The Ideas Of Others (Being Tolerant Of The Views Of Others).

The idea of everyone having different views and opinions from one another has existed since the beginning of time. As individuals with the ability to think and believe whatever you may choose, expecting others to always agree with you isn't plausible. I believe that it is both healthy and natural for people to not always see eye-to-eye. Mankind has never aligned with people always agreeing with one another, and it will always be that way. Now despite the differences of ideas and opinions that exist within our society, in general, people have found a way to coexist with one another. I want to be sure and stress the point of this being generalized, because we all know that there have and will always be instances where disagreements lead to negative outcomes. Now I can't speak for anyone else, and I am solely coming from my own perspective and reality here, but it appears to me that more and more people in the world that we live in today aren't open to hearing the ideas of others. Again, this is a habit that has existed from the beginning of time, but I personally feel that it is something that I see and notice more and more in this era that we're living in. As a people we don't always have to agree with one another. However, being that I'm one that believes in maintaining an open mind, I do feel that it is important for us to always open our minds up to the ideas that others have.

What is going on ladies and gentlemen? Is is your guy Brad H. back once again in the kitchen of wisdom stirring up the the knowledge pot a bit, and I'd like to welcome you all once again to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here for another week to hopefully serve up a dish of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully help in keeping us all motivated in our daily lives. I hope that all has been going well for everybody out there. I initially was only going to talk about the abysmal Super Bowl game that I endured nearly two weeks ago in this section. However, there was recently a more serious situation that happened recently that I want to acknowledge. As I'm sure mostly everyone knows by now, there was another school shooting that took place a few days ago. The staging ground this time around was in Florida at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. This tragic incident claimed the lives of 17 people in total. I just want to give my thoughts and prayers to those that were lost, as well as their families and loved one. Honestly, what more can there really be said about these events besides they are happening all too often than they should be? I believe that it says a lot about the world that we're living in when young people are so mentally disturbed that they feel they have to resort to these type of acts. I'm not sure what more can be done besides more gun regulations, background checks, mental health checks, etc. What I do know is that it is pretty sad that we live in the kind of world where when people mention that a mass shootings has taken place, and the first thing you wonder is where now? There are a lot of deep rooted issues that have to be addressed to prevent things like this from happening in the future. Again, my thoughts go out to everyone that were lost in this tragic event. That's pretty much my thoughts on this unfortunate incident, so lets go ahead and get into this week's topic of the importance of opening ourselves up to the ideas that others have.

As with the normal disclaimer that I give before addressing any of the topics I discuss, I want to say that we all have different viewpoints and ways of seeing things. The goal here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to maybe view things in a manner in which they may not have before. You are well within your rights if you happen to disagree with or don't share the same views as I do. Whatever your beliefs or outlook on life may be, I still appreciate those of you that have taken out some time to see what I have to say. Hopefully what I want to address is able to reach someone out there. As for how I arrived at this particular topic, I can't really really point to anything specific besides it just being something that has been on my mind recently. Furthermore, being that I'm trying to focus on becoming a more tolerant and understanding person towards others, I feel that this is a topic that can help me to keep myself accountable towards that goal. There may be some of you out there that read this and probably don't feel it is of importance to try and see things from the perspective of others, and that is totally fine if you feel that way. That said, I doubt that applies to many of you because I know from the feedback that I've gotten from over the years that I've been doing this has came from mostly positive and enlightened individuals. Some of us are striving to become the best versions of ourselves, and what better way to do that than opening up our minds a little more to others?

I mentioned earlier how we're all aware that everyone has different ideas and opinions right? Thinking about it now, that is pretty much something that I mention in every topic that I cover, but that is beside the point right now. Because we all have different ways of viewing things, it is unrealistic to expect for everyone to always agree. As I stated already this is totally fine as long as there is a mutual respect between the parties that are having the disagreement. For me personally, what I notice now is that so many have the belief that the way they see and view things is the right way, and that no else's viewpoint matters that much. Now this is something that we probably all do to an extent, but the problem settles in when people start denigrating others for having an opinion different than theirs. So in essence, people are only one sided when it comes to their views, and not only are they interested in hearing out what others have to say, but they would rather just bash them because of the differences of opinion. If you really think about it for a second, what does this practice sound like? It almost could be a form of the R word, and we all know what the R word refers to. Since I'm totally against it, I'm not going to put that word on here, but I'm pretty sure that most of you understand my point. Again, disagreements are always going to happen, but the problems settle in when people choose to make it personal when others don't agree with them.

Beyond just trying to be a more open minded and well rounded individual, there are numerous reasons why it is important to open yourself to the ideas of others. However, because of the point that I'm trying to make in this topic, I want to focus on what I personally deem to be the most important reason for keeping an open mind when it comes to the ideas that others may have. The word that I'm thinking of now is "tolerance". We all know what tolerance is and what it means, however, I looked up the official definition through Google and this is the result that followed. It reads that tolerance is the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with. This definition totally encompasses why I think it is important to keep yourself open to the ideas of others. Keeping an open mind to what other people think not only allows you the opportunity to learn something new; it helps greatly in teaching you how to be able to respect the views of others even when you may not agree with their views. Even in our own lives we likely have friends and family members that do things that we may not necessarily agree with, but despite having issues with some of the things they do or the way they choose to live, we tolerate them because we love them. Yes it is easier to tolerate the people close to you compared to a complete stranger, but the people that we're close to were also strangers at one point as well right? Just something to consider.

The main point that I'm trying to get people to take away from this is that everyone's views matter because we're all here on this playing field of life. Sure the playing field of life isn't always a leveled one for everyone, but we all have the ability to think and live however we choose. The way that I think or view certain things isn't the only way that life should be looked at, just like the way the next person thinks isn't. Yes, it matters because however I see thing is my own reality, but the next person has their own reality as well. Bashing and downing other people for not having the same views as you or anyone else is just plain wrong. It is totally okay to disagree with other people, but never believe that because you disagree with them that your viewpoint is the end all be all. A lot of this has to do the fact that the average person today would rather do more talking that listening. When you talk more than you choose to listen, you able to get your point out there, but you also don't allow room to listen to other people's views. Try to listen more to what other people are saying. I can't speak for anyone else, but I think you'd be surprised at how much you're able to learn when you open yourself up to the ideas that other people may have. From my perspective, working towards becoming a more tolerant person towards others is one of the most important forms of personal growth that an individual can experience.

Well we have arrived at the end of another topic brothers and sisters! Time to sign off once again, but thank you as always for those that came through for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As I always mention before ending my topics, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback on any topic, feel free to drop down in the comments. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. I'm pretty excited for tonight and tomorrow being that it is the NBA's All-Star Weekend. For those that are basketball fans out there, I hope you all enjoy. Again, I want to give my thoughts to those that were affected by the school shooting in Florida. Beyond all of that, I hope everyone has great weekend and an even better week ahead. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!

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Saturday, February 3, 2018

The Importance Of Not Allowing Other People To Deter You From Your Path.

One of the things that we all know and must acknowledge within this life is that change is inevitable. There are all ways and forms that change can take on. Some changes are for the betterment of us, while there are some forms of change that we deem as being less desirable or downright bad. For some people in this life, adjusting to change and the intricacies that come along with it can be something difficult to overcome. Regardless of who you are or what you may believe, we all have defining moments in our lives that involve change in some form. I believe that this especially applies to people that have maybe found themselves wanting to better or improve themselves in certain aspects of their live. I'd like to think of this as being some form of an awakening. From my perspective, this is one of the most gratifying forms of change that a person can find themselves having. However, even though becoming an even more aware and enlightening individual can be seen as being a positive change for a person's individual life, this can also be a form change that some of the people that your close to will understand or accept. When you find yourself walking on a path that others may not fully understand or accept, finding the courage and willpower to stay on that path can make the journey of improving yourself much more daunting. Regardless of what path that you may find yourself on, if it's one that you feel is the right one for you, you must not allow others to deter your from that path.

Hey what is going on ladies and gentlemen? It is Brad H. coming back at you once again for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back here for another week of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully help keep us all inspired and motivated. I hope that all has been going good and well for everyone out there. We are officially in the month of February now, so the new year isn't so new anymore. I hope that all the positive changes that you all have wanted to make for this year is going well so far. In the previous topic that I addressed, I talked about the NFL playoffs and I made my prediction who I felt was going to the Super Bowl. I was right in predicting that the Patriots would beat the Jaguars, but I was way off in believing that the Vikings would defeat the Eagles. Now I personally was pulling for the Jaguars and the Vikings, so you can imagine how disappointed I am with the Super Bowl that is taking place tomorrow. The Patriots beating the Jaguars wasn't that big of a surprise to me, but Minnesota totally shocked me. Being that the Super Bowl is taking place in their home stadium, I really thought that would be more that enough motivation for them to win. Instead, they got totally trounced by an Eagles team that is playing with a backup quarterback. I was at the movies during the game, so I'm not entirely sure what happened as to why the Vikings got dominated. With that said, I want it to be known that I really don't care about the Super Bowl this year. Probably the two teams that I dislike most are playing, so it's a lose/lose situation for me. If I had to make a prediction, I would probably say that New England wins. However, with the way this season has gone, you truly don't know what is going to happen. Alright, now that I've talked about something besides the main topic for the week, it is time to go ahead and get into this week's topic of the importance of staying on your path.

Now to the normal disclaimer that I give weekly on the topics that I discuss. We all have different views and opinions when it comes to discussing various topics. My mission with this isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to think about things in a way in which they may not have before. Much of what I plan on talking about here is going to already be familiar to most of you. If you find that this or any of my other topics don't encourage you to think differently than you normally would, then my other hope is that you can find some inspiration through it. Whether this topic resonates with you or whatever your viewpoints have be on this or any of the other topics, I appreciate those of you that have stopped through and taken a few minutes out of your day to visit here. So how did we arrive at this particular topic for the week? Well I initially had another topic that I had thought about a few days back that I wanted to discuss for the week. However, as I began to sit down and plot out my thoughts on how I was going to get my point across, there was another thought that came to my mind that led me to think about the topic that we're tackling this week. I guess we can say that this is one of the rare times where a conversation or discussion didn't factor much into what I chose to address. Sometimes things happen on the fly and when that happens, you have to be willing to adjust, and that is exactly how we have come to where we are now. Again, I hope that you all enjoy it, and you find that there is something in it that can be applied to your life.

Now I'm a believer that we all have a purpose while we're here. I believe that from the time that we're born up until the time that we die, there is a greater reason beyond just existing that we're here for. Now for most people, figuring out what your purpose is and finding it can be challenge. Some people know early on what their purpose is, while many of us either discover what our purpose is later on in our lives and in some unfortunate circumstances, we never truly discover it. I don't want to focus on timing, because we all have different periods for things happening in our lives. Remember that figuring out what is right for you in your life isn't a race against other people, it's a solo race that takes place from within. Now as I alluded to earlier in this post, I'd like to refer to it as an awakening when a person discovers a purpose that is greater than them. I'm sure that everyone may have different reactions based on what they believe their purpose is, but I'd like to think of it as an "ah-ha" moment. It's almost as if things are beginning to make more sense to you, and it feels like things are coming together. Now again I want to stress that this may be a different experience for everyone. Like I have mentioned countless times, we all interpret things different from one another. So you've discovered what your purpose is, and you feel that things are coming together in your life, but there is another issue now. You find that others don't agree with, nor are they supportive of what you're trying to do. This probably sounds familiar for many of you whether you've experienced it personally or not.

Now I want to say again that this doesn't apply to everyone. I do realize that there are a lot of people that have supportive family and friends in their lives. However, I'm also certain that there are instances where people have found that others may not be entirely happy for them when they've discovered a different path that they may want to explore. Finding that the people that are close to you aren't supportive of what you're seeking can be a huge deterrent in your life. Why is this? Simply said, we all want to have our cake and eat it too whether we want to admit it or not. If it were a perfect world, wouldn't we all want to be able to live the way we want and have the support of everyone else that we love? I think that most of us would, however, we all know that this isn't a perfect world and sometimes situations like this happen. The thing that often happens is that other people feel like they know what is best for you. They mean well the majority of the time, and they're likely at odds with you and your decisions because they want what is best for you, which is understandable. That said however, no one else can truly know what is best for you but you. Of course people are going to have an opinion and though their opinions may be valid at times, they can truly never know, which brings me to the heart of this week's topic on the importance of not allowing other people to deter your from you path.

Being thrown off whatever path you may be on or seeking is something that too many of allow to happen in our lives because we're trying to have our cake and eat it to as I mentioned earlier. There are going to be instances in your life where you will be able to do whatever you want without any resistance from others, but in most cases this isn't how things are going to always go down. Whatever it may be that you want to do or feels right to you, try and make it a priority in your life regardless of who or who doesn't cosign with you on it. Other people cannot life our lives for us, which means that if we are the ones that have the opportunity to make ourselves happy, we must do it by any means necessary. As long as whatever path that you're on isn't hurting yourself or anyone else, then you stay on it and go for it with all that you have. Becoming a more aware and enlightened person when it has yet to happen to those closest to you will probably rub people the wrong way, and that is okay. The way that others react to what you do shouldn't be your main concern. Your concern should be to do whatever you want that makes you happy. So always remember that people can't live your life for you. If you're on a path that you feel is right for you, stay on it and pursue it to the fullest. Finally, if you ever need anyone to encourage you to stick to whatever path that you're on if it's working for you, remember that I'm telling you here to stick to the path. Not all change is bad change, and if you find that you're changing for the better, then keep on pressing forward.

Well that is it for this week folks! Another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' has come and gone, so it is time to part ways for now. I want to thank everyone once again that stopped by to check out what I had to say. As I always mention before ending my topics, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback on any topic, feel free to drop down in the comments. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. Well I hope you all enjoy the rest of the weekend, as well as the Super Bowl tomorrow. I also hope that everyone has a great week ahead, and hopefully your February 2018 has started off well. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!

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Saturday, January 20, 2018

Why We Shouldn't Let The Fear Of Past Mistakes Paralyze Us For Future Decisions.

To be alive is to know that everyone makes bad decisions from time to time. No matter how much we try to avoid mistakes and failures, the truth is that for as long as we're alive, mistakes are going to happen. Although this has been proven many times throughout most of our lives, many of us just can't seem to shake this fact. Is it because we're too hard on ourselves? Maybe we have allowed a society that tends to put a lot of emphasis on failure to drive our desire to be perfect all the time. Maybe it could be a combination of both, or even some other reasons for this, but though perfection is something that is unattainable, it is something that we still strive for. Probably one of, if not one the biggest potential pitfalls to not wanting to make mistakes deals with the idea that past mistakes can often hinder us from making choices in the future. This is something that a good many people can probably relate to, as we've all had to make choices in our lives that didn't turn out to be the outcome(s) that we may have desired. This is something that if it begins to happen quite frequently, or more often than we'd like to see, it can often lead to us becoming indecisive, which can lead to paralyzing fear for the potential future decisions that we're going to face. I have already pointed to how bad this is and for this week's topic, we're going to be addressing why we shouldn't let fear of the past affect our futures.

Hello once again ladies and gentlemen! It is your boy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to once again welcome everyone out there to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back in the building for another week of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully inspire myself and others to continue striving to be the best versions of ourselves. This is the second topic for the still new year of 2018, so I wanna know how are those resolutions coming along? I'm pretty sure that most of you have already reneged on them huh? I'm just kidding, but I hope that those of you that have made those resolutions for 2018 are sticking to them so far. So before getting into this week's topic, I'd like to give my thoughts on something that I'm sure many of you that are sports fans are following; the NFL playoffs. After two weeks of games, we are officially down to the final four teams. This weekend we have the Jacksonville(Sacksonville) Jaguars taking on the New England Patriots, and the Minnesota Vikings going up against the Philadelphia Eagles. Before getting into my prediction, man what an ending that was to the New Orleans Saints and Vikings game huh? I'm sure that most people that are fans of the Saints will probably disagree, but that was a great game regardless of who won in my opinion. So for the games this weekend, I'm going to predict that the Patriots will beat the Jaguars. It think it will be a good hard fought game, and I think Jacksonville will give the Patriots a hard time. However, it is hard to go against the experience the Patriots have. I'll be pulling for the Jaguars, but I think they lose. In the other game, I think the Vikings will take out the Eagles. They're riding on the momentum of that thrilling ending last week, plus they have the home-field advantage. I think the Eagles luck runs out this week. Those are just my brief predictions. I could be wrong, so lets see what happens. Alright, it is now time to get into the main topic for the week of past mistakes and fear of future decisions.

As with the usual formula I tend to use, I'd like to go ahead and mention that we all have different views and opinions. I don't expect everyone to agree with me on this or any of the other topics that I choose to discuss on here. The primary objective here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone, but rather to hopefully encourage others to think about various topics in ways that they may not have before. One of the beauties of life is being able to interact with others, and find yourself walking away from that interaction feeling like you gained something that you didn't know beforehand. That is the same idea that I'm trying to push on here. If you don't happen to agree with me on this or any of the other topics, that is perfectly fine and well within your right to do so. Whatever your beliefs may be, I am still appreciative of those that take a little bit of time out of your day to see what I'm thinking about. So how did I arrive at wanting to address the topic of past mistakes and fear for future decisions? I had a discussion last week with my sister where I kinda touched on this. It wasn't anything that was planned or intentional, it was just something that came to my mind while we were talking. Since then it has kinda stayed in my mind, so I figured it would be a good theme to base this week's inspiration around. Some of what I'm going to address may not apply to many of you, but I do hope that it does provide some inspiration for those that maybe find themselves being indecisive because of past failures.

Have you ever wondered why so many of us tend to beat ourselves up for the mistakes that we make? As I mentioned earlier, to be alive is to make mistakes, which means that mistakes and bad choices are due to happen sometimes. We're all prone to making mistakes, yet we often judge and ridicule others for the mistakes they make. Now I suppose I can understand why people coming down harder on people that make the same mistakes constantly. If you make the same mistakes over and over again, then you likely aren't learning anything, and I see mistakes as lessons that should have a takeaway from them. However, teasing and picking on another person for not knowing something or finding themselves in a silly moment isn't good in my opinion. I believe much of the fear that comes along with not making mistakes deals with the idea of judgement from previous mishaps. There are many people that aren't easily able to brush off other people that pass judgement on us. I'm going to use the example of basketball to setup the point that I'm making. Just imagine a high school basketball player that blows a wide open layup during a game, and this same student gets picked on by his peers the next day at school. If he or she isn't able to mentally block out that criticism, they will probably do everything in their ability to avoid putting themselves in that kind of situation during future games. They are allowing the fear of a past mistake to paralyze their future. Though basketball is more small scale thinking, I think this was a decent example to compare to the bigger picture of mistakes for life in general.

Now I stated in the previous paragraph that I view mistakes as lessons, and while I do believe this wholeheartedly, I also believe they're not automatic lessons that we just instantly pick up on. Similar to studying for a test or wanting to learn something new in your life, I believe that the mistakes that we make throughout our lives need to be broken down and analyzed if they're to be learned from. Always keep in mind that mistakes will happen time and time again, but they'll likely happen even more often if we're not make a conscious attempt to learn from them. Now it is normal to feel fear and anxiety for the future when you've made bad choices in the past before. You find that you're constantly questioning whether or not you will do the right thing next time, which can lead to a lot of indecisiveness. However, regardless of how afraid we may find ourselves being for the upcoming choices we may have to make in our lives, the fact remains that mistakes of the past can lead to growth, and from my perspective, the best way to grow as a person is to embrace your mistakes. Furthermore, just because you've made mistakes in the past does not mean that past outcomes will result in the future. Yes it is important to learn from mistakes and mishaps, but using them as a benchmark for our futures only keeps us afraid. This is exactly why I feel that so many of us hate to make decisions, because we're still stuck on bad choices we've made in the past. Growth indeed does comes from mistakes, but making mistakes doesn't mean that we shouldn't move forward.

So why shouldn't we allow the fear of past mistakes to paralyze us for the future decisions? There could be a variety of ways to answer this and much of it honestly depends on a person's mode of thinking. However, from my personal perspective on this, the simple answer is that the past is the past, and the past doesn't, nor should it be the primary determinant of what the future may be. If you made a decision in the past that turned out not to be in your favor, it happened the way it did for a reason. The important thing is that you learn and grow from whatever it was. Also, we have to keep in mind that we're not machines, therefore regardless of how hard we may try to prevent potential mistakes of the future, there will always be a human element that exists. I've mentioned it a couple of times already in this post, but I don't think it can be rehashed enough. We are all humans here, so we're all going to be flawed, which means that we're going to make mistakes whether we want to or not. While I do believe that mistakes can be costly depending on what it may be, I also believe that mistakes are a necessity for life. We can't always be right about everything all the time, so why should we believe that we're never supposed to fail at something? So to sum up; our past is just that, the past. Lets learn from our mistakes going forward, and don't allow bad decisions in the past to affect our future. Lets work on developing the confidence in ourselves that is required to make the best choices for ourselves, but also be mindful that we're humans that should always allow room for errors.

Well we have arrived at the conclusion of another topic for the week. It is time to sign off for now, but I'll be back soon. I'd like to thank everyone once again that came through for another topic of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As I always mention before closing, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback, feel free to drop them down in the comments. You can also follow me on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. I hope that 2018 is treating you all well so far, and I hope that you all are having a great weekend. Big Sunday in the NFL tomorrow, so I hope those of you that are football fans enjoy. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!

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