Saturday, July 7, 2018

Why Your Emotions Can Manipulate Your Into Thinking Things Are Better Or Worse Than They Are.

When it comes to the subject of emotions and how we as humans deal with them, a consensus can be established that we all deal with them in different ways. Because we are all unique as individuals and the way that we react to the things we go through, the way we handle our emotions will always have variance. Some people are more emotional than others, and some people know how to keep their emotions in check for the most part. Whatever end of the spectrum that you may be on in regards to your emotions and how you handle them, emotions are just a human element that we all have to deal with. While we may not be able to control the fact that we naturally have emotions, the way that we choose to handle and deal with the emotional aspects of our lives is something that we can potentially get a handle on. Some may wonder why is it even of importance to get a handle on our emotions? The effects that our emotions can potentially have on us can be a tricky thing. For example, whenever something good happens in our lives, it is in our nature to feel emotionally good right? On the flip side of the coin when it comes to emotions, we naturally feel bad emotionally when something bad happens. Now when something good happens to us, or we find ourselves in a good situation, our emotions tell us that we should feel good and happy. However, because life is unpredictable and can change in an instant, the dynamic between being happy or sad has no guarantee. The fact that we often allow our emotions to dictate how we feel can often separate us from both the harsh and great aspects of life Because of this factor, our emotions can often manipulate us into thinking that things are much better or worse than they really are. This is even more of a reason for us to work on controlling our emotions.

Hey what is going on everyone? Fresh off the hot take, it is me Brad H. hitting you all up once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here once again to drop some insight and wisdom that will hopefully serve us in our everyday lives. As always, I hope that life has been treating all of you as of late. For the soapbox section this week, I'm going to briefly give my thoughts on the NBA free agency so far. So LeBron James has decided to go to the Los Angeles Lakers. This wasn't that big of a surprise in my opinion. I think most of us figured he would be leaving Cleveland. I think that his family factored a lot into this decision. While I'm not a LeBron James fan, I do think that this is a good move for the NBA. The Lakers will likely be more relevant now than they have in recent years. With the Celtics being a powerhouse in the Eastern Conference now, I think that it is good for the NBA that these two storied franchises will be relevant. I think the most surprising move so far has been Demarcus Cousins going to the Golden State Warriors. I definitely didn't see that one coming. I think that it makes a lot of sense for Cousins though. After that ruptured Achilles he had, taking a huge pay cut and going to a team where he won't have to be the man will allow him to show if he can still play or not. I've been seeing people bash this move by him, but people need to remember that the majority of past NBA players that have suffered this injury weren't the same when they returned. Being that he is a physically bigger player, I can understand teams having concerns if he can get back to the level that he was before this injury. For everyone saying that the league is unfair and that the Warriors are a lock to win it all next season, I would say calm down. Signing Cousins is big for the Warriors, but it may not even have the impact that many people are expecting. There is a lot more that I could get into in regards to the NBA free agency, but I'm going to end it there for now. I could probably write an entire segment on this, but that isn't what this topic is about. With that said, lets get into why our emotions can play tricks on us.

As per the normal formula that I use, I'm going to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I use before addressing every topic that I cover. We all have different ways of thinking and viewing things in this life. The goal here isn't to focus on what is right or wrong, but rather to hopefully provide some wisdom that helps inspire us to see things in a manner in which we may not have before. Maybe more than anything else, I hope that these opinion topics will be helpful in the area of critical thinking. Naturally, I don't expect everyone out there to agree with the things I have to say. I'm not doing this to force my beliefs on anyone else. This is all about having a hub for inspiration and growth, and I cannot thank everyone that consistently read the topics that I cover enough. So for how I arrived at wanting to address this particular topic, I would have to say that a conversation that I had with my younger sister inspired me to want to address this. I can't help but thank my sister enough for much of what I talk about on here, because some of the ideas that I get come from discussions that I have with her. Beyond that, I felt as if this would be a topic that most people could probably relate to. I believe that many of us suffer from the inability to control our emotions at times. In saying this I am not trying to bash or criticize anyone, because I know for a fact that this is something that I have problems with at times myself. Furthermore, I believe that it is quite normal for us to allow our emotions to control us at times. I feel that there isn't a blueprint for properly addressing a topic such as this one. This is one of those things that we as individuals have to figure out what works best for us in helping us to overcome this.

Something that I have noticed within our society in regards as to how people view the thought of being emotional is that some people see it as a bad thing. You may have heard someone mention how a certain person is emotional in a manner which could be deemed as negative. I personally don't view a person being emotional as a bad thing. I just think that it makes us what we are, which is human-beings. Our emotions are what allow us to feel and experience both the good and bad in life. When you bite into one of your favorite foods you probably feel happiness, which is an emotion. When you fall and scrape an elbow or knee, you feel pain, which is also an emotion. There are so many different emotions both for good and bad that we can experience, so try not to allow other people to convince you that being emotional is a bad thing. Now while I firmly believe that experiencing emotions is both a good and normal thing that we as humans can experience, I also believe that they can also play tricks on us if we allow them to. Being an emotional person isn't necessarily a bad thing, but allowing your emotions to manipulate us can blind us from the realities of life. Some of you may be wondering; how exactly can our emotions manipulate us? Like I mentioned earlier, our emotions often dictate how we view various aspects of our lives. This can either work in our favor or against us depending on what the situation may be. While emotions are a part of our lives, the idea that we want to establish here is to not allow them to control our lives. We want to be able to separate between what reality is and what our emotions at that particular MOMENT are showing us. I put the word "moment" in all caps because often times whatever emotion(s) that we're experiencing is only a moment.

So what is an example of how our emotions can manipulate us? There are so many that can be used, but I'm going to use one that I'm sure that nearly all of us have experienced at some point or another; I'd like to call it the downward spiral effect. I liken to this to when we're dealing with something that has us down or depressed, and then through constant negative thoughts due to the situation that we're in, we find that our emotions start to creep in and makes the situation worse. So lets just say that you found out that you weren't accepted for a promotion or reward that you were hoping to receive. Naturally you would feel disappointed about this right? Now this is something that on the scale of life could be compared as minuscule compared to something like finding out that someone that you're close to has passed. Now depending on the mental fortitude of the person that has been disappointed by not receiving the promotion or reward, this can quickly turn into a scenario where their emotions can take this situation and make it even worse. You may begin to think and wonder why these things continue to happen to you. You may start to wonder if and when you will receive a breakthrough in your life. All of these thoughts can be self-defeating, and that is when those emotions can creep in. Those emotions can break you down to the point where you feel hopeless and depressed based only on the idea of not getting what you want in the moment. Again, I don't want to diminish something like this, but if you place it in the scale of life as I mentioned, you'll realize that something like not receiving a promotion is fairly small compared to more pressing issues in life. Again, this is how our emotions can manipulate us into thinking that we're in a far worse predicament than we think.

The same logic applies also when it comes to things going our way as well. Lets say that you do end up receiving that promotion or award that you wanted. Naturally you would feel joy and happiness right? I mean it would be normal to feel on top of the world and fulfilled, but lets just say that whatever promotion you receive comes with added responsibility that you may not be entirely ready for. While the emotions of joy and happiness would come along with this achievement, the added stress of having to live up to whatever you have received is still going to loom over you. The emotional aspect makes you think that you've reached the level of happiness you want, but the rational side that we often mask will come in and let us know that while things are going well at the moment, there may be challenges on the horizon. Again, this all deals with emotional content. I'm addressing this topic to help show that while we are emotional beings by nature, we have to try not to allow our emotions drown out the realities of life that we have to face. There's a saying that goes along the lines of that "you're never doing as good as you think you are, and you're never doing as bad as you think you are." From my perspective, whatever side of the coin that you may find yourself on in regards to this saying probably deals with your emotional state at the moment. The emotional aspect of life has caused many people to end up doing things that they ended up regretting. While controlling our emotions is a challenging prospect that life gives us, it is important in keeping ourselves on an even keel. We want to strive to be individuals that have the capacity to do things cause of our own free will, and not because we're allowing the emotions that we may be feeling at the moment to drive us. I challenge everyone to take a second and think for a minute if you find that you're allowing your emotions to get to you. Remember that although things may be going good or bad at the moment, your emotions can always trick you into thinking things are something they're not.

Well we have arrived at the end of another topic folks! I'm hoping that this topic was able to provide some inspiration for everyone out there. I also hope that I was able to write this in a way in which it has some meaning and understanding. This is your guy Brad H., and I'd like to thank you all for once again tuning into another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! If anyone has any feedback or comments that you'd like to add, feel free to drop them down below. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. There has been quite a bit of strange weather happening throughout the country, so I hope that everyone is staying safe out there. I know that it has been hotter than usual in areas up north. Believe me, being that I'm a Texan, I feel those of you that aren't used to the excess heat pain. It can definitely be brutal at times, so stay safe and hydrated. Happy 4th of July weekend to everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one. Till next time, take care of yourselves and keep on pressing foward. Peace!

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Saturday, June 23, 2018

The Importance Of Valuing Your Time To Yourself.

There is a saying that most of us have probably heard at some point in our lives. It is also a statement that can be found in the good book. The saying that I'm referring to goes; "Man isn't meant to be alone." Now there are various contexts in which this statement can be viewed. For the most part, I believe that most people associate this statement with the idea of marriage and a a union between a man and a woman. Though this may be the way in which this statement was intended to be, there are also those that may view it from the perspective of general companionship. When we talk about general companionship, we're referring to not only a partnership with someone that we're in love with, we're also talking about having a healthy social circle as well. This means that we have a a friend or friends that we can count on to be there for us, or we have a strong relationship with our family members. There can be a mixture of all of these examples in our lives that help us to never truly feel alone in this world. Now the following statement that I'm about to make totally comes from my own personal perspective, so I'm not saying that this is the be all or that this applies to everyone. However, I have noticed that this world that we're living in strongly pushes the idea of never being alone. There has become this belief that if a person is consistently by themselves, then something must be wrong with them. It's like in order to be accepted by this world, people feel that they have to always be around other people constantly. While I am a firm believer that it is wise to try and keep a healthy balance of being around others and being off to yourself, I have found that there can be many benefits to having alone time to ourselves. As I have mentioned already, I don't feel this is the case with much of our society. Because time is so valuable and never promised to us, it is important to value your time to yourself.

Check 1-2, check 1-2! Hey what's going on everyone? It is Brad H. coming at you all once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Here at Brad H.'s Perspective, I try to provide some wisdom and inspiration that will hopefully be beneficial to us all in our everyday lives. I hope that everything has been going well for you all since the last topic, and if that hasn't been the case for some of you out there, I am hopeful that things will continue to improve in your lives. There wasn't anything happening that I felt noteworthy of using my soapbox to talk about before getting into this week's topic, so I wanted to share a recent family experience that I had. Now I'm sure that many of you probably do what I'm about to say pretty frequently, but there is a point that I'm hoping to make with this. So earlier this week, I watched a documentary movie with two of my close family members. The beautiful thing about this was that it reminded me a lot of past times when people could watch movies together and not be distracted by technology. It made me think back to when people could go out and eat dinner with family and friends and not be looking down at their phones every 2 minutes. We live in a world that is technology driven, and there are a lot of good things that come with technology. However, many of us have become zombies to our phones and electronic devices. Some of us would rather stay in on the computer rather than going to spend time with other people. Some of us can't enjoy a television show or movie because we're always looking at our phones. I just want to encourage people to remember that it is okay to turn off your phone for awhile. It's okay to step away from your computer or laptop for awhile. These devices aren't going anywhere, but special moments with the people you care about are going to be limited. The experience that I brought up, though it may be fairly simple was one that I'm going to remember as one of the best days of this year, and I'm truly grateful for it. Alright, now that I've gotten that out of the way, it is time to get into this week's topic of the importance of valuing your time to yourself.

Before we dive more into the topic at hand for the week, I'd like to go ahead and give the normal disclaimer that I give before all of the segments that I cover. I always try and hammer down the point that because we're all different and unique within our own right, we all have different ways of viewing things. The goal with these topics is to hopefully provide some inspiration and insight that will not only help to keep us moving forward, but also to encourage some critical thinking. I believe that an experience that gives us an opportunity to learn something new or see something in a manner in which we may not have before isn't a wasted experience. Of course I don't expect everyone to agree with me on this topic, and that is totally fine. I'm not here to try and force my beliefs on anyone else. I just want to share some of my ideas and thought processes. Any and all feedback whether it may be good or bad is welcomed here. As for how I arrived at the topic of the importance of valuing your alone time, I would just attribute it to something that I've been thinking about a lot recently. I can't speak for anyone else but me, but I find now that I'm getting older that I tend to prefer being off to myself a lot. Now I'm not trying to imply that I'm antisocial, or that I don't like being around people anymore. No, this isn't the case at all. I just feel that spending some time off to yourself on a daily can be a good thing for some of the reasons that I'm going to point out. As I alluded to earlier, many people in this world seem to only feel complete when they're around others. In a world where validation from others is what most people are seeking, most people will go to all kinds of lengths to appease to this world. One of the hopes that I have with writing on these topics is the idea of thinking outside of the box. Now everyone's circumstances are different, so I understand if many people just aren't able to spend quality time alone. However, for people that may not totally grasp this concept of alone time, I hope that I'm able to point out some things that can help encourage people look for more ways that will allow you to do so.

Now I'm sure that many of you have heard of the saying, "Alone but never lonely." This is another one of those phrases that I've heard quite a bit throughout my life also. What exactly does it mean when a person says that they're alone, but never lonely? As with the majority of statements and phrases that we often hear mentioned on a frequently basis, I think there is a multitude of meanings and contexts in which a person can mean when they say this. I personally feel that it is one of those phrases that people use to describe themselves when they feel that people don't quite understand or get them. I kind of liken it to another phrase that we've heard; "In a room full of people, but feel alone." I see it as a situation where you know that you have people that care for you and are there for you, but you often feel misunderstood, which in turns makes you feel alone. Now again, there isn't a single context in which to view this, but this is how I personally see it. I bring all of this up to aid in showing that although a person may have people in their life, it is also possible to feel alone at times. To be fair also, I think that most of us if we're being honest feel alone at times. I think that is one of those natural feelings that we all have occasionally. The thing to keep in mind is that there is a difference between feeling alone sometimes, and constantly feeling alone. Just like I mentioned earlier, a healthy balance of most things is the key. Of course nobody wants to feel alone, but as the theme of this topic suggests, being alone at times can have its benefits.

So why do I feel it is of importance to value the time we have to ourselves? I think that one of the biggest reasons why I feel this is important is due to the fact that it helps in teaching us to be comfortable within our own skin. It is a known fact that some of us aren't always our true selves when we get around certain people. We sometimes do and say things that we normally wouldn't do or say because of who we're around. I believe that when a person learns how to be comfortable with being alone, they develop a certain kind of strength that helps keep them grounded. Because a person that exhibits this kind of behavior knows who they truly are, they are not likely to get too far away from themselves even when they're around others. The same mindset applies when it comes to our society that pushes the idea that we shouldn't never be alone. A person that is comfortable within their own skin likely doesn't care too much about what other people say or think of them. Another benefit that I feel comes along with valuing your alone time deals with not having to deal with a lot of drama and gossip. If we're being real here, most of us have gossiped and talked about others. However, there are some of us that also don't like participating in these acts as we mature. Keeping away from people that do these kinds of things is good for your mind. Not speaking for anyone else, but I find that my mind and spirit feels much more clear and at ease when I'm not around people that do these things. Before moving on the next and what I consider the be the most important thing about valuing your time alone, I want to reiterate that I'm not suggesting that we should just avoid people. Again, I'm trying to show that there can be benefits to being alone sometimes.

Finally, I feel that valuing your alone time helps you to learn about yourself. Now I'm not saying that I'm right about what I'm about to say. This is just a personal theory that I have. I think that one of the reasons why so many of us only feel complete when we're with or around others deals with not truly knowing ourselves. Too much of who we feel that we are is tied to other people, which in turn makes us constantly gravitate to others. Ever seen someone that goes from relationship to relationship, and they are rarely if ever by themselves? In my opinion, that is a behavior of someone that has tied too much of who they believe they are to others. From my perspective, someone that often spends time alone learns about the kind of person they are and who they want to be. Furthermore, you discover things about yourself that you may not have even known before. For example, you may find that you discover new hobbies and ventures that you probably never even considered before. You can engulf yourself in these new passions, and you'll find that you don't always need people around you to feel happy. I believe that self-discovery is how we make ourselves better for this world and others. If you know who you truly are and what strengths and weaknesses that you have, it enables you to be the best person that you can be for others. I personally see this as something that many of us are missing out on, which is why I want to encourage everyone through this topic to see that being alone isn't always a bad thing. I would suggest that everyone that is able to do so, try and spend at least 10 to 20 minutes a day of reflection on yourself if you aren't accustomed to doing so. You don't have to cut people off or isolate yourself, but I guarantee that you'll discover things about yourself that you may not have known.

Alright everyone, I think that'll bout do it for this topic. I hope that those of you that read this was able to get some understanding from it. I also hope that it served as some inspiration. This is Brad H., and this has once again been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, thank you all once again for stopping by. I can't say enough how grateful I am to know that there are people out there that are interested in what I have to say. If anyone has any feedback or comments, please feel free to drop those below. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. There has been a lot of rain here in Texas the last few days, and now the temps are heating up. Despite that, it is still a nice day outside to enjoy. I hope you all have a great weekend, and an even better week ahead. I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, take care of yourselves and keep on keeping on. Peace!

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Saturday, June 9, 2018

The Importance Of Viewing Your Life In Stages As If It Were Fruit (Watering The Seeds Of Your Life).

Everyone is familiar with the idea that a tree doesn't sprout in one day. When a tree has been planted, it often takes many years for that tree to grow into what its full potential is. The same way of thinking also applies to fruits and vegetables. When the seed of whatever fruit or vegetable that a person is wanting to see grow has been planted, it takes consistent watering and care for it to sprout and grow. As with nearly every aspect of life, we as people along with animals and plants and many other organisms all go through stages that are meant to inspire growth. We as human-beings sound probably identify with this even more so due to the fact that our journey towards being here in this world required a seed to be planted. Furthermore, most of us can attest to the fact that in order for us to get to whatever stages that we are in life today required nurturing and care from our parents and loved ones. Beyond the more obvious aspects of this topic that deals with the nurturing and care that was required for us to be who we are now, many of us forget that the same way that our bodies develop in stages, our livelihoods also unfold in stages as well. There could be a multitude of reasons for why so many of us forget this, however, I think the most common reasoning for this deals with the fact that so many of us compare our lives to those of our peers. Does this sound familiar to anyone out there? Just like almost every aspect of life happens in stages, we have to remember to see our own person growth in this manner. We have to begin to look at the mental growth our lives as if it were similar to fruit when it comes to growing properly, and the best way for that fruit of our lives to grow in the manner that it should means that we have to constantly nurture and water it.

What's good everyone? This is your main man Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another topic of discussion with 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! We are back for another week to hopefully dish out some wisdom and inspiration. I hope that all has been going well for everyone since the last topic. Well for my soapbox this week, I'm going to go ahead and give my thoughts on the conclusion of the NBA Finals. Boy did we have a quick NBA Finals this year. The Golden State Warriors pulled off the sweep of the Cleveland Cavaliers last night. I think that most people that follow basketball pretty much didn't expect the Cavaliers to win the series. However, I think that the sweep happening could have been a surprise for some. I know I expected the Cavaliers to win at least one game at home. I think this year's finals were pretty uneventful in my opinion. Not to take anything away from the Warriors being the champs once again, but the Cavaliers were just outmatched. I know that LeBron James done all that he could, and he deserves credit for how well he played throughout the playoffs. It is just hard to beat a team like the Warriors that have so many guys that can pick up the slack when one of their players is off. I mean Stephen Curry had a terrible game 3, but you got a guy like Kevin Durant that can put up 43 points. I think it says a lot when Curry has an off night and the Warriors are still able to win. Now that the NBA has concluded, we can look forward to the free agency months this summer. I think this is going to be one of the more interesting summers for free agency that we've had in recent years. Everyone wants to know where LeBron is going to play next. What are the Celtics going to do with so many of their younger players performing beyond their years this season? What is going to happen with my San Antonio Spurs and Kawhi Leonard? Where does Paul George end up playing? These are just a few of many questions that we will hopefully have answers to in the next few months. Alright, I think it is time to go ahead and transition into this week's topic of viewing our lives in stages.

Now that I've gotten on my soapbox and talked about something besides the topic at hand for a bit, it's time for me to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I give before addressing any topic I discuss. We all have different ways of viewing and thinking about things. The point of what I'm aiming to do here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to hopefully provide some insight and inspiration. I often encourage myself and others to be open to the idea of thinking of things in ways they may not have before. If reading any of the topics that I talk about has helped someone to be able to do that, then I would consider that to be a good thing. Again, I want to stress that I'm not here to force my beliefs on anyone else. I also don't expect everyone to share in some of my ideas. Whatever you believe or think is okay with me, and even if you happen to disagree with me on this topic or any of the others, I still appreciate the people that are interested in what I have to say. As for how this topic came to be for this week, I would attribute some of it to a video I watched on Youtube a few nights ago. I was listening to a guy talking about the topic of bad habits that we as people often exhibit. At some point during the lecture he was giving, he talked about the human body, and how our bodies are like fruit that grows in stages. This really stood out to me, and I thought to myself if there was a way that I could use that comparison to show that the same logic applies when it comes to our livelihoods. I pondered on it for awhile, and I felt like it was something I could pull off. The reason why I want to use this comparison is due to the fact that so many of us lack patience when it comes to wanting to achieve things in this life. This is something that I have frequently talked about on here, and I'm hoping this this will just be another way for us to use something that most of us can already relate to. I can't promise that everything that I'm going to address will make a lot of sense for everyone, but I will do my best to hopefully get my point across.

Now I think that we can all agree that it is rare that we find that we're in a situation where we're able to do something that may be new to us without having to learn how to do it first. When we first start learning how to ride a bike when we're kids, we don't just hop on the bike and start riding without falling. It is a process of continuing to get up after we fall, which in turn is how we learn how to ride the bike. In relation to the fruit analogy that is the theme that this week's topic is centered around, you can think of getting back on the bike after falling time and time again is similar to watering the fruit that we're trying to grow. Again, this is all a process of steps from the early stages of first getting on the bike, to being good at riding the bike. Now how does this example relate to our lives some of you may wonder? Well from my perspective, and as I mentioned earlier, nearly every aspect of life has stages. However, we must be mindful that while this applies to our lives, the stages at which the fruit grows in a person's life varies. In other words, if life were a race, everyone moves at a pace that fits their personal situation. But with that being said, I believe that though we all move through this life differently, the seeds of our lives still need to be watered in order for us to reach a higher level. I believe that one of the biggest mistakes that so many of us make in life is that we're so eager to get to certain stages of life that we end up skipping steps along the way. Now going back to the fruit analogy, do you really think that a particular fruit will be healthy enough to eat if it isn't grown and watered properly? No, it won't be, and it will likely just wither away. As much as I hate saying what I'm about to say, this is how so many of our lives end up being. A lack of proper growth and nurturing often leads to decline and decay.

When we're talking about a lack of proper growth and nurturing when it comes to our lives, I'm referring to not being able to live the best quality of life that we're able to. From my perspective, the only way to truly live the best version of life is being able to water our life seeds in stages. This perspective not only applies to the physical, it is also the mental and spiritual aspect as well. When dealing with a topic of this nature, I also want you to consider the livelihood aspect of it. As I mentioned earlier, we often compare our lives to our peers. If our peers are doing something or accomplishing things, many of us assume that we need to be doing those things as well. I don't think that most people go in with the intention of thinking this way, but I think it is just in our nature to compare ourselves to others. Now if we're all individuals and have different ways of thinking, wouldn't it also make sense that we have should have different ways of living as well. The stages of your life happen specifically for you and no one else. Everyone has to go through stages in life, but it is the individuality that makes everyone's journeys different. Instead of giving a lot of time and attention to what is happening in whatever stages someone else is in within their life's journey, it is more important to focus on watering your own life seeds to get to where you want to be. I know this isn't an easy concept to endorse, because the truth is that while most people like seeing others get ahead, they may not necessarily want to see people get that far ahead of them. The reality of life that is some people's flowers bloom faster than others when it comes to life, just like some people's life fruit grows more healthier than others. Again, the important thing is to focus on better yourself so you can water your seeds better.

Now that we've talked about the importance of viewing our lives in stages and watering the seeds of our lives, we have to ask ourselves; "How do I water my seeds?" I believe the best way to properly water the seeds of your life to become a better individual ties in directly with self-improvement. I believe that in order to grow our life seeds means taking steps and actions to improve ourselves. This means reading books that deals with growing as a person. It also means getting rid of bad habits and people that are holding us back. I believe it means immersing ourselves in positive habits that will encourage us to do and be better. At the end of the day, no one else can tell you what you should or shouldn't do to water your life seeds. Only you truly know what is and isn't good for you. Everything that I've mentioned so far is only suggestions, but it is up to you in the end. So I'll get ready to bring this to a close by reminding everyone to try and be mindful of these things. As hard as it may be at times, try not to compare your situation to that of others. That only adds stress and can create depression in our lives, and I don't think we can grow as people if we're depressed constantly. Secondly, start looking at your life in stages. Treat everything in your life as a stepping stone to get to something that is hopefully better. Finally, continue to focus on self-improvement, and think of that as watering seeds to grow. A gardener doesn't plant seeds and just leave them to rot off and die. They constantly water those seeds and give them time and attention to help them grow. Lets try to do the same for our lives, and hopefully we'll see ourselves grow exponentially.

Well that is all for this week folks. I hope that I was able to make some sense with all of this, and I also hope that some if not all of you found some kind of value in it. I am Brad H., and this has once again been another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I always appreciate those of you that came by. If anyone has any comments or feedback, please feel free to leave any and all of that below. You can also find me on Twitter @BradrickH if you want to add anything else. I hope everyone is having a great weekend so far, and I hope you all have an even better week ahead. A lot of of hot temperatures happening around the globe, so don't forget to stay cool and hydrated if you're going to be outdoors. Stay safe out there everyone, and I hope to see you all in the next one. Peace!

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Saturday, May 26, 2018

The Importance Of Not Subjecting Reaching Your Full Potential To Others (Don't Allow Society To Define Your Success).

Most people that would consider themselves to be motivated and ambitious will likely have goals that they want to achieve for themselves. Goals and aspirations among people will always have a degree of variance when it comes to what those goals may be. One person may strive to be the best mechanic, while someone else may be trying to be the best engineer. Because we're all different and have the ability to have different interests, the achieving of goals will always have some variance. What doesn't have variance is the fact that nearly everyone that is working towards a goal wants to achieve the highest level of that goal as possible. Think of it this way; if you are working towards something that you're interested in, do you think you just want to do enough to be able to just say that you done it? I highly doubt that is the case for most people. Most of us are seeking to do the best that we can at the things that drive us the most. With that said, the society that we live in often has a set bar for what is considered to be success. Furthermore, the aforementioned success is often based on what other people that may have achieved the same goals that others are currently striving for have accomplished. Because of this bar that society has set, many people are led to believe that they're failures because they haven't reached the level of someone else. It is a known fact that much of our society often pays attention to what the next person is doing, and this isn't any different when it comes to reaching our full potential. While I do believe that it is okay to model and seek out those that are already where many are trying to get to, it is also important to not subject your personal successes to that of others.

Yo, what's going on everybody? How is everybody doing out there? I go by the nickname of Brad H., and I'd like to once again welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back for another week to present some wisdom that leads to inspiration and positive energy in our lives. Hope all has been well for everyone since the last topic. So the NBA Finals are right around the corner. We have had two great Conference Final series going on the last couple of weeks. As it stands now, the Boston Celtics and the Cleveland Cavaliers are knotted at 3-3 with a game 7 coming up. I'm not a fan of either of these teams, but boy you can't help but to root for the Celtics after coming this far with all the injuries they've had. I hope they're able to pull it out, but I have a feeling that LeBron is going to be too much in that elimination game. I hope I'm wrong though. In the west, we have an elimination game tonight as the Golden State Warriors trail the Houston Rockets 3-2. This has truly been a great series, and I was totally wrong in my prediction. Though I'm pulling for Houston, I honestly thought they might have gotten swept. The tides have surely turned though, as Houston was able to get gritty victories in games 4 and 5. This has been a wild series in the sense that the Warriors haven't looked like themselves the last few games. They have been unusually sloppy, and the Rockets have managed to capitalize on it. It would be a shocker to me if Houston manages to win tonight at Oracle Arena. I have a feeling that it is going to go seven games like the series in the east. I'm pretty excited for tonight, and I'm sure the rest of you NBA fans out there are as well. We will soon know who will be facing off in the NBA Finals. I think it would be awesome if Houston and Boston could get there. I can't speak for anyone else, but I think it would be nice seeing some new blood in the NBa Finals. Both the Warriors and Cavaliers have dominated that thing for the past few years, so something new would be refreshing. Lets wait and see how it all unfolds. Well that is it for my soapbox, so I'm going to go ahead and get into this week's topic of the importance of not subjecting you reaching your full potential to society.

Now that I've gotten all of that out of the way, it is time to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I give before getting into the topic of the week. Every single one of us has different ways of thinking and seeing things in this life. The mission here isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to provide some insight that will hopefully encourage us to get the juices of thought flowing in our brains. I personally believe that it is an amazing thing when you talk to someone, or you read something that makes you go; "I've never thought about that in that way before." Besides the inspiration that I try to provide on here, the promotion of being free-thinking and open minded are the primary goal of these topics. Of course I don't expect everyone to agree with what I have to say. Again, we all have our own opinions, and that isn't any different on here. Whatever your beliefs or thought processes may be regardless if they align with mines or not, I still appreciate every single person that is interested in what I have to say. Now that I've gotten that disclaimer out there, I'm going to briefly talk about why I felt this was a topic that I wanted to address. As I pointed out earlier, I've been thinking a lot lately about what success is when it comes to the world that we live in. It could just be me thinking like this, but I sorta feel like the society that we're living in paints this picture that success is only one thing. Of course there are going to be people that catch on and cling to this way of thinking, and then they find themselves feeling like failures if they don't reach the success that society has set as the bar. Because I vehemently disagree with this, I thought it would be good for me to get on here and hopefully encourage others to think of this in a different way.

I believe that it is in our nature as humans to be competitive. Most people have an innate tendency to want to outdo the next person in nearly every aspect of life. This is probably one of the biggest reasons why so many athletes get so aggressive in the events they participate in. Now although most of us aren't athletes, the competitive aspect of sports also stems into our everyday lives. People compete for job opportunities, the attention of a potential romantic suitor, and many other aspects of life. Again the desire to compete is all natural, but is it always really in our best interest to compete with others? As I mentioned earlier, the world we live in has a standard for what is considered success, but is what the world define as success really for everyone? When most people think of success in this world, most people equate it to having a lot of money, nice car(s), nice clothes, etc. Now in saying this, I am no way implying that these things aren't perks of being successful. I think it is a good thing to want to strive to have the best things you can in life. However, if we're being totally honest here, most people likely won't obtain much of these things. Not everyone will make a six figure plus salary. Most people won't live in a mansion or two story house. A good majority of us won't be able to comfortably afford clothes that cost thousands of dollars. A lifestyle that entails these kinds of things are only reserved for a small percentage of people, and because of the standard our society has set to define success, most people feel that obtaining these kinds of things are the primary way of defining success. Again, much of this deals with us comparing ourselves to other people.

Now because most of us won't obtain these grand things that come along with society's definition of success, comparing what our success is to others is irrelevant. Instead of engaging in the act of comparison, I think it is more important on focusing on reaching our own PERSONAL full potential. See from my perspective, every single one of us has a max limit on what we're able to obtain. Now I'm not saying that we should put limits on ourselves and our capabilities. From my perspective, maxing out means being able to have a realistic outlook on what is possible for our lives. See I believe that a good portion of people think that because we see certain people doing the things that we're interested in and finding the kind of success that I talked about earlier, that it should be them as well. If someone else is making a six figure salary in a certain career, then I should also be making a six figure salary as well. This is the mindset of many people, but maybe the person making the six figure salary is more experienced or more talented. That doesn't necessarily mean that they are better than you, or that you aren't good at what you do as well. It just means that someone else believes they are, which is why they probably do better financially. As I said earlier, it is always good to strive for better for yourself, but it is also wise to be able to discern when you have reached your peak. Instead of comparing yourself to what society deems as success, you have to define what you believe your person success to be. What is good for you personally won't always coincide with what this world is doing. Again, there is nothing wrong with wanting more for yourself, but being able to be comfortable with who you are and what you have in today's society is a strength in my opinion.

So with all of that being said, how exactly do we know when we've reached our peak? Like I talked about variance earlier in this topic, it all varies from person to person. This is one of those things when an individual has to search within themselves to know when they've reached their full potential. I believe that one of the best ways to get to this point deals with not comparing yourself to others and what they're doing. Always remember that what is right for other people doesn't always mean it is right for you. It's about learning how to be comfortable in your own skin. Secondly, it is wise to not let society or other people define what your own success should be. People often talk about how it is more important what you think of yourself rather than what other people think of you. I definitely think this applies to a topic such as this one. I believe that it takes having a strong mind to have the ability to not compare yourself to this world. While I think that some competition is good because it can help keep us motivated, being able to know when to be competitive is even more important in my opinion. We often hear about how the greatest battles that we face will often come from within. Being aware of what our full potential is and not being able to allow society sway us from that is a battle that most of us will face on a daily basis. One of this society's goals is to get us to believe that we need more in this life than what we really need. Yes, it is great having a lot of nice things, but having nice things doesn't define a person on the inside. So again, lets try to focus on reaching our own full potential. Try not to allow this world that we live in to dictate what is your personal success. Your life is your own, and you should live it according to what you know and feel is right for you on the inside.

That pretty much sums up what I think on this topic, so I'm going to go ahead and bring this one to close. I hope that some of you were able to find this topic understandable and relevant to your life. This has once again been another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective', and I would like to thank everyone again that stopped through. As I always like to end these with, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be gained from this. Anyone that has any feedback or comments, please feel free to leave them. You can also hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH if you have any questions or feedback. Looks like the Gulf Coast region is going to have some rain in the next few days with this tropical storm that is about to get into the Gulf of Mexico. Kinda wild that hurricane season is already upon us. Boy was last year a rough one. Hopefully this season doesn't be as bad. Stay safe out there everyone, and I hope everyone enjoys their Memorial Day holiday. Stay encouraged and I'll see you all in the next one. Peace!

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Saturday, May 12, 2018

Why It Is Important To Have Selective Hearing When It Comes To What Others Say.

Every single one of us knows and understands that there are things in life that we have a level of control of. On the flip side of that, we also are aware of the that fact that there are many things in this life that we have no control over at all. Take for example two of the very important organs of our bodies that the average person are born with; the eyes and the ears. Starting with our eyes; we all know that for the most part we have control over the things we choose to look at. However, unless you keep your eyes closed constantly or you are blind, you have no other choice but to see things. When it comes to our ears; we can often choose what we listen to, but unless you're deaf or keep yourself in solitude away from other people, you're going to have to hear things. People often talk about the importance of choosing what we give sight to, which is something that I've written about previously on here. While I believe it is important to be aware of the things we look at, I don't hear as often the importance of what we choose to listen to. We take in so much throughout our daily lives in the form of listening to television and people. Some of the things we listen to have positive meanings, and there are also a lot of things that we take in that are just negative and bad. While we may often not be able to control the things that we hear whether they're negative or positive, being able to discern between the two has a lot to do with being selective of our hearing. Just like people refer to the term "selective memory", being selective of listening to what other people are saying is just as important to our health and well-being.

What is going on everyone? I am Brad H., and I am back on here once more to present another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! We are here once again to bring some inspiration and knowledge that can hopefully be beneficial to our lives. I hope that all has been going good and well with everyone the past couple of weeks since the last topic. As some of you may already be aware of, I've been using this portion of my topics to discuss the NBA Playoffs recently. The playoffs are starting to wind down, as we now only have four teams left playing. We have the Boston Celtics and Cleveland Cavaliers from the Eastern Conference, and the Houston Rockets and Golden State Warriors from the Western Conference. Now I'm pretty sure that most people that follow basketball expected the Rockets and Warriors to be in the Western Conference Finals. But honestly, how many of you expected the Cavaliers and Celtics to be the last two teams from the east standing? I know I did not. I'm not a Celtics fan, but I have to give a lot of props to their team and their coach. It's amazing how they are only one series away from being the NBA Finals after losing Kyrie Irving and Gordon Hayward. That is a true testament to their coach, and how those guys play for one another. As for the Cavaliers, I felt like the Toronto Raptors would win that series, but that was an epic meltdown by Toronto. To be a number one seed and get swept like that is pretty embarrassing. Though I'm not a LeBron James fan, you have to give the man his credit. He has literally put the Cavaliers on his back, and you may as well say he beat the Raptors dang near by himself. Houston and Golden State should be a great series as well. I give the edge to the Warriors, but I believe the Rockets have a good chance at winning. I have always liked the Rockets, but I'm a San Antonio Spurs fan first. Being that I'm a Texan, I'm pulling for the Rockets. Plus the fact that I got to attend a Rockets game this year factors into my wanting to see them win. Both of these series should be great, so lets see how it all turns out. Alright, I think I have talked enough about the playoffs, so lets go ahead and get into this week's subject of the importance of having selective hearing when dealing with people.

As per the usual standard that I've set on here before addressing a topic, I'd like to go ahead and give the normal disclaimer that I give in each installment. We all have different ways of thinking and viewing things in this life. The idea here with these topics isn't to pound the idea of what is considered to be right or wrong into peoples minds. No, the goal is to rather encourage others to open their minds up to seeing things in a manner which they may not have before. I'm just one guy that has an opinion, so whatever I believe or feel isn't the sole way to see things. I'm just trying to get my ideas out there, and hopefully they are able to help out others. Of course it is totally okay if anyone disagrees, and if you have any feedback or comments to this or any of the other topics that I've addressed, you can always drop them down in the comment box. In regards as to how I arrived at talking about having selective hearing when it comes to others, I would attribute it to recent thoughts that I've had on how limited our control can be when it comes to seeing and hearing things. However, though we often have little option of being able to hear things, we do have control over how we react to the things that we hear. This is just something that has been weighing on my mind as of late, so I figured this would be something that I could feed some energy into. Besides, I know that there are many of us out there (myself included) that sometimes struggle with the words of others having an effect on us.

One thing that we all are aware of is that we as people are always going to talk for as long as we're able to. The ability to talk and express ourselves is truly one of life's biggest gifts. I personally see it as an even bigger gift when a person is able to use their words in a positive manner that helps in uplifting others. When it comes to the things that I personally want to hear, positive reinforcement and energies are probably at the top of the list for me personally. I think that most of us would rather hear the good things that people talk about, but we're also aware of the fact that many of us speak a lot of negativity out into the world. Don't you just love the dynamic that is positive and negative energies? It is like they are so different, yet one in the same also. Though many of us strive to focus on the more positive messages and aspects of life, we can't deny that for as long as we're alive and breathing that the negative messages will always be out there being spread. Regardless of how positive of a person you may be, you're going to have to hear some negativity via other people at times. As I stated earlier in this post, there are just some aspects of life that we are going to be unable to avoid, and this happens to be one of them. Now stopping ourselves from hearing negative things may be near impossible to do, but we can choose to not allow these things to affect us. This is where the selective hearing that is the theme behind this topic comes into play.

When people hear the term "selective hearing", they probably think that doesn't make much sense since we don't always have the choice to selecting the things we hear. Being able to choose what we choose to listen to in a literal sense isn't what we're aiming for here. We want to be able to train our minds to be able to react in a positive manner to the good things that we hear and vice versa, we want to be able to not react at all to the negativity that is often spewed by others. In essence, instead of literally picking and choosing what you hear from others, you're rather making a choice as to how to react to what you hear. Think of this as an example; imagine that one day you're hanging out with a friend or someone that you're close to that care about you. While you're with this person, you find that they constantly shower you with compliments and positive traits that may personify the person that you are. These are the kinds of things that you want to hear right? Now on the flip side, imagine you find yourself around someone that tells you something that another person said about you that isn't good or positive. Now their intentions behind telling you are not what we're focusing on here, but regardless if those intentions were good or bad, anything bad about yourself is someone that you're likely not going to want to hear. Because the society that we're living in thrives off of negative energies, most of us react more to the negative things that we hear compared to the positive. The selective hearing that I'm referring to comes into play when you make the choice to not allow yourself to react to the negative. Again, you may not be able to control what you hear, but you can control how you react to what you hear.

Now I know that there are probably many of you that already implement the practice of having selective hearing. However, for those of us that may struggle with this, there is some hope. In order to not allow what others say to affect you, you have to learn how to think before you react. Many of us hear things that you don't always fully understand, and we're ready to fly off the handle without knowing the true meaning behind something. So instead of always choosing to react first, try taking in what you hear first instead of reacting. Now I'm about to sound like a broken record, but I'm probably going to repeat the importance of developing a strong mind until I'm old and gray. If you truly want to be able to have the power over how you react to the things you hear, you have to focus on training your mind to first process what you hear. I've mentioned this multiple times on here, but some people intentionally say things to get others all riled up if they know that they're able to. We don't want to be the kind of people that let everything that we hear whether it is good or bad affect us. We want to be the kind of people that are able to process things, and then rather than reacting with emotions, we are able to pick and choose how we want to react based on the situation at hand. Keep in mind that for as long as you're alive, people are always going to say things about you. People are always going to have an opinion on you and the things that you do. Though you can't stop these things, you can combat against them by choosing to be selective of what you listen to. This definitely isn't an easy feat, but it is something that we can work on becoming better at.

Well I think that about wraps up this topic. Hopefully I was able to express my thoughts in a way that was understandable. This has once again been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I'd like to thank everyone once again that comes by to give these topics a look. As I always close these out with, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be gained from this. For those that have any feedback or comments, please feel free to leave them. You can also hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH if you want to. I hope everyone has been enjoying the weekend so far, and I hope you all have an even greater upcoming week ahead. The temps are starting to heat up, so lets try and enjoy this weather before it starts get too hot to enjoy. I'll see you all in the next topic. Stay encouraged and take care of yourselves. Peace!

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Saturday, April 28, 2018

The Importance Of Not Tying Your Happiness To External Factors And Possessions.

We all have different views and outlooks on what defines happiness in this life. As with nearly everything in life that has to do with having an opinion, the belief of what defines happiness for a person is totally subjective. Happiness varies from person to person, but I think that most of us have a pretty good idea on what is generally considered to be happiness when it comes to the standard that our society has set. I believe in in American society especially, a good portion of the general standard for a person finding happiness comes from accomplishments and possessions. For example, graduating from college is an accomplishment that undoubtedly makes a person happy. The purchase or acquisition of a new vehicle will make a person happy as well right? In bringing up these examples, I am in no way saying that these examples shouldn't make an individual happy. However, what does things like money, degrees and cars all have in common? They all are things that are external possessions. Now to live and survive in this world, possessions that are of external value are most definitely required, so I'm not saying that we don't need to have these things. However, I do believe that much of our society and culture ties whether we're supposed to be happy or not to these external things. We're all going to have our own unique opinions and experiences on what makes us happy, and I'm not going to imply that external factors and possessions can't make a person happy. However, from my time here on this planet, I've personally come to develop the mindset that external factors aren't the end all be all to having happiness, and tying happiness in with these things can be a devaluing mindset to have.

Greetings ladies and gentlemen. This is Brad H. coming back at you all once again, and welcome to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back to hopefully provide some perspective and inspiration for those of us that may be lacking in certain areas of our lives. I hope that all has been going well for everyone as of late. Always be grateful if things in your life are going well, because we all know how quickly things can change. If you've been dealing with some tough times or hardships recently, just keep on trying to make things better for yourself. Just like things can quickly change for the worse in life, they can also change for the better in an instant as well. Anyway, it is good to be back on here for another week. In the last topic that I covered, I talked about the NBA Playoffs that were just beginning at the time. We are nearly two weeks into the playoffs, and a nightmare that I didn't want to see happen came to fruition a few days ago. My San Antonio Spurs were defeated 4-1 by the Golden State Warriors. I'm being a bit sarcastic with the nightmare reference. As I mentioned in the previous topic, I expected the Warriors to win the series despite being a Spurs fan. The Spurs were just over-matched without having their best player, plus being without Coach Popovich after the passing of his wife just made it more of an uphill battle for the Spurs. While I'm at it, I want to extend thoughts and condolences to Coach Popovich and his family. I don't know the man personally, but he is one of the greatest coaches that we've seen in sports. Life related tragedies such as this take precedence over sports. Back to the Spurs; I just love how the team fought to the very end. It was just a reminder of why I've been a fan of this team for so long. There are likely going to be some changes with the roster over the summer, but I'm still proud of them. We still got a couple of series left in the first round that are going on, so we'll have to see what happens in the upcoming days. I do know that the New Orleans Pelicans vs. Warriors series should be a good one. Hopefully everyone is enjoying the playoffs so far. I know that I definitely have been despite the Spurs losing. Well I think that is enough soapbox talk for now, so lets go ahead and get into this week's topic of happiness and external factors and possessions.

As I normally do before covering the topics that I bring up at hand, I'd like to go ahead and give the standard disclaimer that I mention. We all have different views and outlooks on life. The goal with these topics isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to encourage others to open their minds up to seeing certain things in a manner they may not have before. Think of this as a hub for inspiration that can inspire forward thinking. Now with that said, I'm just a regular person with an opinion, so I don't expect everyone to agree with me. I'm all about us all being able to get our thoughts out there, and through the process of doing this, we can hopefully learn from one another. As I mentioned in the last topic, I believe that none of us are too big to learn from other people. As for some insight into why I chose this topic, I would just contribute it to recent thoughts that I've been having about how our society deems what is happiness. Most people talk about how happiness is a choice, which I generally agree with for the most part. However, there are many out there that don't share in that sentiment. If it were the case that they did believe that happiness is a choice, then so many of us wouldn't tie happiness to material items and possessions. If happiness is truly a choice, a person would probably be able to feel some form of happiness regardless of what they're dealing with and their circumstances. So with that being said, I figured it would be a good week for me to address my thoughts on this. I believe this is something that many of us already talk about to begin with, so I guess I'll go ahead and add my perspective on here.

Now you may happen be this kind of person, or you've probably found yourself around a person like this, but how many situations have you either said or been around someone that frequently talks about how unhappy they are with their life? Since I believe that we're living in a time where most people aren't happy, I'm willing to bet that most of you have been in situations of this nature. Now in saying that, I want to let it be known that despite me having my own personal beliefs on what happiness is, I'm not implying that any single person should be happy all the time. I understand that things happen in life so quickly that can cause a person to not be happy. Regardless of how happy a person is or seems to be on the outside, every single one of us have moments in our lives that can challenge our levels of happiness. I believe that this is all a part of the cycle of life and how we endure obstacles that are similar to the highs and lows of a roller coaster. Now, while constant happiness is unrealistic for the most part, what is a reality that most of us cannot deny is what I mentioned earlier. The general standard of what happiness is in our society often deals with accolades and possessions. Does everyone think this way? Absolutely not, but we all know that a lot of the reasons why so many people are unhappy with their lives deals with not having certain things. This can be anything from lacking money to lacking the love of a significant other in your life. The basis of why most of us as a people are unhappy comes from something(s) that is lacking in our lives, and these things are often external things. When you really think about it, this way of thinking shouldn't even be all that surprising in a world where most people are trying to keep up with what everyone else has, and there within lies the problem from my perspective.

I've stated this before on here, but because so many of us compare our lives to other people, we often tie our happiness in with what we're seeing from them. In other words, we base our happiness on a false premise of what we see from others. Many of us look at other people that are doing well, and we assume that they must be happy. However, it is always wise to be mindful of what you see on the outside isn't always the truth. Yes it is indeed true that a person can acquire possessions and wealth, but they can also be hiding the fact that they are miserable on the inside as well. Again, the acquisition of wealth and accolades is good, but these are things that can come and go. If we already know that these things are often temporary, then why do we put so much of what we think is happiness into them? Again, this is how our society has been conditioned over the years, and the reason why I address topics like this is to help encourage people (and myself) to realize that following what everyone else or society doe isn't always beneficial to your own PERSONAL life. The reason I put emphasis on the word personal is because only a person can truly know what is good or bad for them, and often what society encourages isn't always what is good for us personally. Anyone is capable of having happiness in their life if they learn to appreciate what they already have, and not be so concerned with what is going on with other people. This practice of constantly following what others do in my opinion is much of the reason why we lack happiness in our lives. Pair that with thinking that external factors and possessions are going to lead to happiness, and you'll find a world that has a lot of unhappy people. This is why I feel that it is important to not tie in happiness to external things.

What exactly do people mean when they say that happiness is a choice? From my perspective, it goes back to what I mentioned earlier which is the belief that a person can have happiness despite whatever circumstances they're facing. You probably don't really need a truckload of money to be happy if you have enough to take care of yourself. You probably don't need a big fancy vehicle to be happy if you have a perfectly working vehicle that gets you where you need to go. You probably don't need a ton of accolades and accomplishments to be happy if you have a good heart and treat people with kindness and respect on a daily basis. See where I'm going with this? It all boils down to perspective and how you see yourself. Even if you don't have much in the aspect of possessions, you are probably a rich person if you have family that care about you. If you have a true friend that you know without a doubt is loyal to you, then you are rich. I believe that it is the things in life that don't have any monetary value that brings us the most joy. I believe this is something that our society has gotten away from, which is why so many of us are unhappy with our lives. I want to encourage anyone who reads this that feel like they are lacking happiness in this lives to reevaluate the things that mean the most to you. Think about your relationships and interactions with others. Instead of always looking at the glass as being half empty, try and think about it being halfway full. Think of and appreciate all the good things you got going on in your life instead of all the thing that are wrong. Instead of looking at what you may be missing, take a closer look at what you already have. I think that if we begin to implement these habits, then we can get to a healthy median of happiness in our lives. That's just my perspective on it.

Well I think that I've said enough on this topic, so it is time to go ahead and bring this to a close. This has been another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective', and I want to give thanks again to those of you that came by once again. As I always close with, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be gained from this. If anybody has any feedback or concerns, please leave those in the comments, or you can hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH. Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far, and I hope that you all have an even better week ahead. We'll be in the month of May the next time I get on here, so lets try and enjoy the rest of April. Again, I hope you all enjoys the rest of the weekend, and I'll see you all for the next topic. Take care everyone, and stay encouraged! Peace out folks!

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Saturday, April 14, 2018

Keeping Your Cool In Today's Society Is A Strength (Not Allowing Others To Get You Out Of Character).

Society at large defines both strengths and weaknesses in various ways. What one person may consider to be a strength could be classified as a weakness by another person and vice versa. We all have opinions on what we consider to be a strength or a weakness. Something that I've noticed throughout my life when it comes to people and how we tend to react towards others when we feel disrespected or threatened is that anger is viewed as a sign of strength. I'm sure that some of you may have noticed this as well. You've probably seen this form of strength through anger taking place between others, or there has likely been an encounter where you were dissing out anger towards someone else. Maybe you have found yourself on the other side of taking the brunt of another person's anger directed towards you. Regardless of how you may have experienced this form of strength, it is something that we all are familiar with, maybe even more often that we should be. As I have mentioned, we all have various ways of viewing strengths and weaknesses. What if something that our society deemed as being a strength was actually a weakness that is masquerading as a strength? What if you were believing all this time that blowing up on others and trying to exude strength through force or intimidation was actually a form of weakness? Again, we all have different perspectives, and some of us have been on both sides of a topic like this. However, as I lived and learned, I've also come to realize that being able to keep your cool in today's society is one of the greatest strengths a person can have.

What is going on good people? Your guy Brad H. is here once again to present you all with another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Welcome back for those that stop through frequently, and a big thanks for those of you that are first time readers here. We are here for another week of inspiration and perspective that will hopefully help us all to open our minds and keep on moving forward. I hope that all has been well with everyone out there, and if that hasn't been the case for you, keep your head up and stay trying to move in a direction that can hopefully change that. Before we get into the week's topic, I want to talk about something that I'm sure most of you sports fans out there are probably happy about. The NBA Playoffs are officially here ladies and gentlemen! After 82 games and several months of basketball, the road towards the NBA Finals has begun. For me personally, the first round is always the most exciting because of the volume of games on a daily basis. For those of you that may not already know, I'm a San Antonio Spurs fan. The Spurs will be facing off with the Golden States Warriors in the first round. I'll admit that this definitely wasn't one of the best seasons the Spurs have had since I've been a fan. We're accustomed to seeing the Spurs as a higher seed compared to the 7th seed they are this season. Though it was a mediocre regular season, I'm still proud of how well they have done considering that they've been without their best player (Kawhi Leonard) for nearly the entire season. Gotta give Coach Popovich a lot of credit for the coaching job he has done. So do I think the Spurs will get past the Warriors in the first round? I try to be a realist, so I still give the Warriors the edge despite their injuries and struggles as of late. However, I'll never count out Coach Pop's ability to game plan against another team. We'll see what happens in the coming weeks. Alright, it is now time to go ahead and get into this week's discussion of how keeping your cool can be a strength.

As per the usual format I use here, I'm going to go ahead and use this section to give my disclaimer and how this particular topic came to be. We all have different ways of viewing life. The main goal here isn't to focus on what is right or what is wrong. The goal is to hopefully provide some inspiration for those that may need it, and to also encourage others to consider seeing things in a manner in which they may not have before. I'm just a regular guy with an opinion, so I don't expect everyone to always agree with me when it comes to these topics. I personally believe that we're never too knowledgeable or too old to learn from other people, so hopefully what I have to say can be of use to another person. As for how I came to wanting to discuss this topic, I would mainly credit it to something I heard someone say a few days ago. I was on Youtube listening to a video, and the person in the video I was watching referenced how he prides himself on being able to stay calm despite people trying to be disrespectful towards him at times. Watching him make reference to this made me think about past occasions where I've had discussions of this manner with others. As a matter of fact as I think about it now, I have written previous entries on here where I talked about how anger isn't always beneficial to our health and well-being. Now in saying all of this, I'm in no way saying that anyone should be a pushover, nor am I implying that we should never get angry. That is unrealistic. However, what I am implying is that being able to stay calm and collected in the midst of a chaotic moment can keep a person from making a mistake(s) that could be detrimental to their lives. Again this is all subjective and depends on how you think, but regardless of what you may think or feel, I hope that you hear me out on some of my points.

Something that many of us both dislike and hate to acknowledge is that some people in this world just enjoy getting a rise out of other people. We've all been around a person at some point or another that gets under our skin. Maybe they tease and pick at something you did or have done before, or they just are annoying to be around for whatever reasons. What's even worse is when that person notices that they are getting under your skin, and then they continue to keep on doing whatever it is that they're doing to bother you. The normal and often usual reaction for most of us is to get angry and lash out when this happens. The emotion of being angry is seen as a show of strength and intimidation to let whomever that is bothering you to stop whatever their doing to get you to this point. Now there are a couple of factors to consider when someone gets you to the point where you're angry and ready to do something you may end up regretting later. First off, the individual that is getting under you skin may very well heed your warning and chill. However, and this is the second point, what if it is someone that doesn't take your warnings seriously? You can easily find yourself in a physical situation that could turn dangerous, or you may end up damaging a friendship or relationship by saying something that you'll be sorry for later. Now I do realize that there are going to be some people and situations where these kind of confrontations are unavoidable for the most part. However, I personally believe that many of us allow ourselves to lose our cool in these types of scenarios because society has painted this image that anger is strength, and remaining calm is a show of weakness. In other words, I think that most of us know we shouldn't allow others to get us out of our character, but we choose to do so because it has been conditioned.

Now I'm going to use an analogy here that is going to probably sound pretty weird, but hear me out on this as it relates to this topic. Think of a professional bodybuilder for a sec. A bodybuilder exudes strength through their sheer physical presence right? When you see a bodybuilder whether they're training at the moment or not, they're automatically deemed as being strong by society. Now think of someone that is a professional yoga practitioner. This is a person that maybe physically isn't intimidating, but because they're extremely flexible and able to hold poses that the average person cannot, they have a strength that many others don't. I believe that a good portion of people in our society would make the claim that something like yoga is a weaker activity compared to lifting weights. Now the reason I bring up these two examples is because although they're two different things, both have their share of strengths and weaknesses in the eye of others. The same ideology applies when it comes to anger and staying calm from my perspective. Though the display of anger can be considered a strength and intimidating by society's standards, is it really if you're allow someone else to get you out of your character? Again, there is nothing wrong with getting angry at times, but why exactly do we find ourselves getting angry at others? Again, is it because it is a part of who we are inside, or are why allowing what is judged as being a strength to bring us out of our character? Those are questions that only we as individuals can answer, and it is something that we have to look within ourselves to find out.

As with how I explained how I came to write about this topic, I personally pride myself on trying to remain as cool and calm as possible, even when the actions of others try to get me to do otherwise. Like I mentioned earlier, some people go out of their way to try to get us out of character and make us angry. If you already know this to be the case, don't you think you're likely in a better position to handle these kind of people if you're able to stay calm? The point I'm trying to get across this week is that it is okay to keep your cool and not wild out every single time you feel someone has wronged you. I personally believe that a wise individual knows what battles to fight and what battles to walk away from. Too many of us find ourselves in bad circumstances that we could have easily just walked away from. Now I want to reiterate again that I'm in no way saying that you have to allow people to run over you by staying calm. There are always better ways to calmly express yourself without using a lot of bravado. I'm also not telling anyone else what to do or how to live. I'm just trying to encourage others to see that society isn't always your friend when it comes to certain things. People have done some regretful things by just trying to show that their tough, or because they were egged on by others. Don't buy into the hype that the only sign of strength is through anger and intimidation. That is what society wants us to think, but we're not going to let society dictate how we carry ourselves. We're going to live and do things on our own terms to the best of our ability, so remember to try and keep your cool always, and don't allow other people to get you out of your character.

Well that is all I have for this week ladies and gentlemen. I'm going to go ahead and get off of here, but I'd like to thank everyone once again that came through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As with the usual, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding gained from this. If anyone has any feedback or concerns, please leave those in the comments, or you can hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH. I hope that each and every one of you has a great weekend and an even better week ahead. Also, for all the basketball fans out there, I hope you enjoy the playoffs. I'm sure that I'll be talking about them more in the weeks to come, so good luck to everyone's teams unless you're a Warriors fan right now. Well I hope everyone enjoys the rest of the weekend, and I'll see you all in the next topic. Take care everyone; stay strong and stay encouraged! Peace out!

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