Saturday, March 17, 2018
Greetings to everyone out there! This is your guy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Thank you in advance for everyone that stopped by for another week of positive vibes and and inspiration that can hopefully be some positive food to feed our spirits. Hopefully everyone has been doing pretty good since the last topic, and as always, keep your head up if that hasn't been happening for you as of late. Try to keep in mind that things are never as good or bad as they may seem. So there wasn't any specific news or event that I wanted to bring up in this portion of the topic, so I figured I would address something that happened to me personally this past weekend. I celebrated another birthday last Sunday, so I am now officially 37 years old (young). I must say that this was probably one of the more memorable birthday's that I've had in recent years. The reason I say this is due to the fact that this was one of the few birthday's in recent memory that I spent out of town. When I say spending out of town, I mean spending the night in another city rather than just going away for the day. So I spent the weekend in Ft. Worth with family, and I must say that although I'm not normally one to make a big deal out of my birthday, my folks really went above and beyond to make the weekend enjoyable for me. I finally got to see the movie 'Black Panther' in 3D, and I got to spend time with my folks that I only see a few times out of the year. The reason I bring all of this up for you guys is to remind you all that although people like myself see birthday's as just another day, many people do not. While your birthday is primarily about celebrating another year of being alive, it's always thoughtful to keep in mind what you mean to those that care for you. You being alive to see another year is not only a gift in its own right for you, it is also a gift for those that care about you. With all of that said, I want to thank all of my family and friends for a great birthday. Alright, now it is time to get into the topic for the week of why a change of scenery is good from time to time.
So now that I've gotten on my soapbox for the week, it is now time that I go ahead and get into the usual disclaimer that I give weekly before addressing the topic at hand for the week. I'll start by saying that we all have different viewpoints when it comes to life. None of us will always agree or see eye-to-eye, so the goal here isn't to focus my ideas and beliefs on anyone else. The primary goal here is to provide inspiration for us all, but also to hopefully encourage others to maybe see certain things in a manner in which they may not have before. I totally get and understand if others may not agree with me, and that is fine. If you happened to find yourself here reading this, I appreciate your coming by no matter what you happen to believe in. So how did I happen to arrive at discussing the importance of why a change of scenery is a good thing? Simply stated, it goes back to last weekend being my birthday and spending it away from my normal surroundings. Because I was in a different area besides what I am normally accustomed to, I was able to see things and meet people that I more than likely would not have had I not had that experience. Now as I mentioned previously in this topic, people that are used to traveling a lot will likely not be able to relate a lot to this topic. Just like the monotony of many of our lives is surrounded in one particular place, traveling frequently to a lesser extent probably feels somewhat monotonous for those that do it on a regular basis. For this week, I am mainly talking to those people that are stuck in the realm of monotony, and are finding that they aren't fully satisfied with it.
So as I have stated and established already for this week, many of us fall into a level of monotony as we get older. Some of you may find that you almost become ritualistic in the way that you go about doing things in your life. You probably watch television at the same time everyday, or you may eat dinner or go to sleep at the time that you're accustomed to. Now in talking about monotony when it comes to things such as this, I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing. I believe it can be beneficial to us to practice certain habits at specified times. I say this because when you find that you do things on a set schedule, you often know where all of your time goes, and you're able to plan your time more wisely. When I refer to monotonous behaviors, I'm in no way saying that they're bad. However, from my perspective, a life of monotony can be unhealthy to a certain degree. When I say this, I'm speaking in terms of being stagnated to the point where you're not experiencing anything else in your life besides the monotonous activities that you engage in daily. Now I want to stress again that living in this manner works for a lot of people, and that is totally fine. That said, there are also those out here in the world that live in this manner, but they are not truly happy and fulfilled living in this way. The reason that I say this is due to the fact that just a few years back, I was exactly this kind of person. I was living a life of monotony thinking all was good, but there was something inside of me that just didn't feel right. I didn't quite understand it at the time, but there was a desire to see and try out different things.
Since I frequently use health and fitness comparisons as examples on here, I'm going to go ahead and switch it up and do it again (sarcasm). Yes I was trying to be funny there. But I want you all to imagine someone that runs a few times a week at a track that is just one big circle. This runner goes round and round and doesn't see anything new or different during their workout. Now lets take that same runner and say that he or she decides to run in an area that is different from the track. Lets say they're running in an area where there are different sights and views around each corner, etc. Now of course everyone is different, but I'm almost willing to bet that the runner that we're using as an example in this scenario will find that their more invigorated after having that experience of seeing something different besides their normal routine. This is exactly why I think a change of scenery on occasion is a good thing. A change of scenery can help be a spark to help us become more alive on the inside. Also, a change of scenery or experiencing things that we're not always accustomed to can be a form of growth. From my perspective, life should always be about growing and learning new things. The problem for many of us is that when we become a certain age, we often feel that there is no need to for growth. I can't speak for anyone else, but this is a notion that I totally disagree with. As far as I'm concerned, regardless of your age or how much you've seen, there is always something new to learn as long as you're alive.
I get that monotony and being set in our ways with age is something that is part of life, and I'm in no way saying that anyone needs to switch up their lives or routines completely. I'm simply trying to encourage us all (myself included) to not be afraid to try and see new things every now and then. Again, from my perspective this is important because growth comes from experiencing things that we're not accustomed to. If you're the kind of person that only sticks to events in your area, try to go outside of your area and experience some of those things if you're able to. If you're trying to get into shape and you're doing the same exercises to get fit, I encourage you to try and learn of other exercises that can help keep you motivated to keep sticking with it. From my perspective, we should strive to be people that are constantly trying to grow and expand, so I believe that changing things up sometimes is one of the best ways that we can do this. For me personally, my birthday this year represented a change of scenery, and I am personally happy with the outcome that came from it. It was just another one of the many reminders that I've had over the years to remind me that there are so many things to do and experience in this world outside of what we're used to. So with all of that being said, a change of scenery is important to personal growth in my opinion. Be mindful that no matter where you are or what you're doing, there are so many things outside of your personal realm that are happening. You don't have to be a part of it all, but there is nothing wrong with sometimes making the effort to be a part of it as much as you can.
Well that is all that I got for this time around my people. It is time for ya boy to go ahead and sign off for another week. As always, thanks go to all that took out the time to read another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! That is really something that can't be said enough. I hope that there was some understanding and meaning that was gained from this that served as being helpful to someone's life. Any and all feedback is welcomed, and if you have any questions you can hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. I hope everyone is having a great weekend, and I'd like to give thanks to my family and friends for a wonderful birthday last weekend. I'm truly grateful. I wish everyone out there the best, and I hope everyone has a good week ahead. Take care, stay strong, and I'll see you all in the next post! Peace!
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Saturday, March 3, 2018
Yo! What is going on everyone? It is I Brad H. coming back at you all once again, and like always, I would like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Big ups to everyone that stopped by again for another week of potential knowledge and inspiration that will hopefully feed our souls a bit. I hope that things have been going well for everyone since the last topic that was addressed. In the event that hasn't been the case for some of you, just keep on holding your head up and work towards trying to change that. This is the section of my topics where I normally talk about something related to sports or world news. However, there wasn't anything that was noteworthy happening that I felt was worthy of bringing up. So for my soapbox that I normally use for this section to talk about something off the cuff, I'm going offer a bit of advice to some of you that may be in your 30's and up. So earlier this week I was out taking a routine jog right? There has been quite a bit of rain falling in this area during the month of February, so it kept me in from running for several days. So I'm out on this run, and although it was a fairly sunny evening, there was still water puddles on the street. So I'm nearly a mile into my run, and my left foot ends up going over some water that had dirt mixed in it from the grass right? Next thing I know I slip and take a tumble. My hands and my right arm were scraped up, but the brunt of the punishment went to my right knee, which was bruised and scraped up pretty good. Of course that ended the run, and I walked back home. The important thing about this story is that I hadn't planned on going running that evening, but I decided to do so since it was such a pretty evening. However, my gut told me not to go, and if I would have listened to my gut, the injury would not have happened. So the advice that I'm offering for those of you that may be a little older, always be careful when you are being active. Everyone needs to be careful regardless of age, but we all know that it takes a little longer to heal when you are older. Finally, and this applies to everyone no matter your age, always trust and listen to your gut. Your instincts will rarely fail you. Just something to keep in mind. Alright, now it is time to transition into the topic of the week on the reserve psychology of doing what is hard compared to easy.
It is now time for me to give the usual disclaimer that I give before delving more into the topic at hand. We all have various ways of seeing things, and the same applies to how we view serious topics. The standard that I've tried to set here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to maybe view things in a manner in which they may not have before. For those that may not share in my beliefs on this or anything else that I discuss on here, I still appreciate you stopping by. There is nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree when it is done in a dignified way. My hope is that these words that I write are able to inspire others, as well as myself. So how did we arrive at this particular topic? I was on Youtube watching a video, and I heard the person in the video say something that I thought was pretty profound. I can't quote it word for word at the moment, but he stated that if you do what is easy your life is gonna be hard, and if you do what is hard your life is going to be easy. I'm sure that many of you have heard some iteration of this phrase before. Me personally, I hadn't up until I encountered the video. After I pondered on those words, I thought it would be an interesting topic to explore a bit. Rather than just saying what he said, I want to expand upon it and give examples of what I think he could have been referring to in what he mentioned. Since he didn't go more in depth of what he meant in saying that in the video, I figured I would give my own personal take on it. For those of you that are aiming to improve yourself, this is probably something that will touch you.
So as I referenced to earlier in this post, for most of us if given the option of taking the easier option compared to the harder option, most of us would choose the easier option right? The more easier option often sounds more convenient and doesn't require the level of work that the harder option, but is the easier option really what is good for us in certain aspects? Again, there are certain times in life where you may not want to go the harder route as I touched on earlier with the traveling example. However, there are going to be situations in your life where doing what is harder will help your life drastically compared to taking the more easier route. This is where the reverse psychology aspect of what I'm talking about comes into play. If you think of it in standard and straightforward terms, you'd think that the easier choice is the best option compared to the harder option. Of course the easiest option is better because doing what is easy is exactly that; easy. We'd rather avoid doing something that is harder because it requires more effort right? Now I don't want to lump everyone into the same category, so I will acknowledge that there are some people out there that prefer the harder option because they already understand this psychology. These are the individuals that are already ahead of the curve. But again, most of us prefer the easier way if given a choice, so that is what we're going to focus on here. I want to hopefully show others examples of how the easier option isn't always the best choice.
Now what exactly does it mean when we say that if you do what is easy your life is going to be hard, and if you choose to do what is hard, then your life will be easier? We're all free to form our own opinion on this, but simply put and from my perspective, the easier choices of life will often be the ones that are hurtful to us in the long run. I know this may not sound right for many people, but it is a fact. As an example, think about it in terms of our health. I think we can all admit that sitting on the couch watching television is a lot easier than going to the gym or going for a walk daily right? Now there is nothing wrong with watching television, but imagine someone that watches television constantly without ever working on their health compared to someone that runs several times throughout the week. Watching television is the easier thing to do compared to actually going out there and exerting effort right? So who is really benefiting the most? Since working out requires effort and some discomfort to do, it may not necessarily benefit you at the moment. Of course relaxing and watching television is a more laid back activity, so of course it will likely be more beneficial to you at that particular moment. The problem with this is if you do it constantly and without balance, it hurts you in the long term. The person that is putting in the hard effort has to suffer for awhile, but this person knows that the investment that they're making at the moment, although it may be uncomfortable will benefit them down the road. It's all about what is best in the short term vs. the long term. The easier options often benefit us in the short term, while the harder route is better in the long term.
What I'm trying to get across this week is that while doing what is hard often comes with pain and suffering, it is the best choice if you're thinking long term. Doing what is hard isn't easy within itself, which is what the reverse psychology that we're addressing is about. Every time you lie to or manipulate others, you may often find that you'll get away with it in the short term. Being honest with others and having integrity can be a tough time to do in this society, and it is something that many of us struggle with because we're focused on the long term. Lies, deceit and manipulation are all easier options compared to doing what is right. Sitting on the couch eating all the time is easier compared to putting in the effort that is required to stay healthy. None of us are perfect, and we all fall short at times of doing what is hard. The goal here is to inspire others (myself also) to focus more on making the harder choices for a better long term. Yes, there will be times when doing this is going to be downright painful and hard to do, but I do believe that it does pay off in the long run. One thing that I try to frequently mention on here is the promotion of self-improvement. We're not trying to be perfect people, we're trying to become even better people. So with all of that said, just keep in mind the importance of doing what is hard compared to what is easy. Everyone is different, so evaluate your life and try to determine what is beneficial for you personally. If you do what is easy your life is going to be hard, and if you do what is hard, then your life is going to be easy. Try and keep that in mind folks.
We have once again come to the end of another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! It is time to sign off once again, so big thanks as always to those of you that stopped by to check out my thoughts. As always before I end, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the previous topics that I've addressed on here. Any feedback and comments are welcome, and you can allow follow or hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. Well I'm going to get off here and try to enjoy this beautiful weather that we're having. Spring is definitely right about the corner. Hope the weather is nice wherever you all are, and I hope you all have a great weekend. I wish you all the best, and hope you have a good week ahead. Take care, and I'll see you all in the one! Peace!
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Saturday, February 17, 2018
What is going on ladies and gentlemen? Is is your guy Brad H. back once again in the kitchen of wisdom stirring up the the knowledge pot a bit, and I'd like to welcome you all once again to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here for another week to hopefully serve up a dish of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully help in keeping us all motivated in our daily lives. I hope that all has been going well for everybody out there. I initially was only going to talk about the abysmal Super Bowl game that I endured nearly two weeks ago in this section. However, there was recently a more serious situation that happened recently that I want to acknowledge. As I'm sure mostly everyone knows by now, there was another school shooting that took place a few days ago. The staging ground this time around was in Florida at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. This tragic incident claimed the lives of 17 people in total. I just want to give my thoughts and prayers to those that were lost, as well as their families and loved one. Honestly, what more can there really be said about these events besides they are happening all too often than they should be? I believe that it says a lot about the world that we're living in when young people are so mentally disturbed that they feel they have to resort to these type of acts. I'm not sure what more can be done besides more gun regulations, background checks, mental health checks, etc. What I do know is that it is pretty sad that we live in the kind of world where when people mention that a mass shootings has taken place, and the first thing you wonder is where now? There are a lot of deep rooted issues that have to be addressed to prevent things like this from happening in the future. Again, my thoughts go out to everyone that were lost in this tragic event. That's pretty much my thoughts on this unfortunate incident, so lets go ahead and get into this week's topic of the importance of opening ourselves up to the ideas that others have.
As with the normal disclaimer that I give before addressing any of the topics I discuss, I want to say that we all have different viewpoints and ways of seeing things. The goal here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to maybe view things in a manner in which they may not have before. You are well within your rights if you happen to disagree with or don't share the same views as I do. Whatever your beliefs or outlook on life may be, I still appreciate those of you that have taken out some time to see what I have to say. Hopefully what I want to address is able to reach someone out there. As for how I arrived at this particular topic, I can't really really point to anything specific besides it just being something that has been on my mind recently. Furthermore, being that I'm trying to focus on becoming a more tolerant and understanding person towards others, I feel that this is a topic that can help me to keep myself accountable towards that goal. There may be some of you out there that read this and probably don't feel it is of importance to try and see things from the perspective of others, and that is totally fine if you feel that way. That said, I doubt that applies to many of you because I know from the feedback that I've gotten from over the years that I've been doing this has came from mostly positive and enlightened individuals. Some of us are striving to become the best versions of ourselves, and what better way to do that than opening up our minds a little more to others?
I mentioned earlier how we're all aware that everyone has different ideas and opinions right? Thinking about it now, that is pretty much something that I mention in every topic that I cover, but that is beside the point right now. Because we all have different ways of viewing things, it is unrealistic to expect for everyone to always agree. As I stated already this is totally fine as long as there is a mutual respect between the parties that are having the disagreement. For me personally, what I notice now is that so many have the belief that the way they see and view things is the right way, and that no else's viewpoint matters that much. Now this is something that we probably all do to an extent, but the problem settles in when people start denigrating others for having an opinion different than theirs. So in essence, people are only one sided when it comes to their views, and not only are they interested in hearing out what others have to say, but they would rather just bash them because of the differences of opinion. If you really think about it for a second, what does this practice sound like? It almost could be a form of the R word, and we all know what the R word refers to. Since I'm totally against it, I'm not going to put that word on here, but I'm pretty sure that most of you understand my point. Again, disagreements are always going to happen, but the problems settle in when people choose to make it personal when others don't agree with them.
Beyond just trying to be a more open minded and well rounded individual, there are numerous reasons why it is important to open yourself to the ideas of others. However, because of the point that I'm trying to make in this topic, I want to focus on what I personally deem to be the most important reason for keeping an open mind when it comes to the ideas that others may have. The word that I'm thinking of now is "tolerance". We all know what tolerance is and what it means, however, I looked up the official definition through Google and this is the result that followed. It reads that tolerance is the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with. This definition totally encompasses why I think it is important to keep yourself open to the ideas of others. Keeping an open mind to what other people think not only allows you the opportunity to learn something new; it helps greatly in teaching you how to be able to respect the views of others even when you may not agree with their views. Even in our own lives we likely have friends and family members that do things that we may not necessarily agree with, but despite having issues with some of the things they do or the way they choose to live, we tolerate them because we love them. Yes it is easier to tolerate the people close to you compared to a complete stranger, but the people that we're close to were also strangers at one point as well right? Just something to consider.
The main point that I'm trying to get people to take away from this is that everyone's views matter because we're all here on this playing field of life. Sure the playing field of life isn't always a leveled one for everyone, but we all have the ability to think and live however we choose. The way that I think or view certain things isn't the only way that life should be looked at, just like the way the next person thinks isn't. Yes, it matters because however I see thing is my own reality, but the next person has their own reality as well. Bashing and downing other people for not having the same views as you or anyone else is just plain wrong. It is totally okay to disagree with other people, but never believe that because you disagree with them that your viewpoint is the end all be all. A lot of this has to do the fact that the average person today would rather do more talking that listening. When you talk more than you choose to listen, you able to get your point out there, but you also don't allow room to listen to other people's views. Try to listen more to what other people are saying. I can't speak for anyone else, but I think you'd be surprised at how much you're able to learn when you open yourself up to the ideas that other people may have. From my perspective, working towards becoming a more tolerant person towards others is one of the most important forms of personal growth that an individual can experience.
Well we have arrived at the end of another topic brothers and sisters! Time to sign off once again, but thank you as always for those that came through for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As I always mention before ending my topics, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback on any topic, feel free to drop down in the comments. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. I'm pretty excited for tonight and tomorrow being that it is the NBA's All-Star Weekend. For those that are basketball fans out there, I hope you all enjoy. Again, I want to give my thoughts to those that were affected by the school shooting in Florida. Beyond all of that, I hope everyone has great weekend and an even better week ahead. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!
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Saturday, February 3, 2018
Hey what is going on ladies and gentlemen? It is Brad H. coming back at you once again for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back here for another week of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully help keep us all inspired and motivated. I hope that all has been going good and well for everyone out there. We are officially in the month of February now, so the new year isn't so new anymore. I hope that all the positive changes that you all have wanted to make for this year is going well so far. In the previous topic that I addressed, I talked about the NFL playoffs and I made my prediction who I felt was going to the Super Bowl. I was right in predicting that the Patriots would beat the Jaguars, but I was way off in believing that the Vikings would defeat the Eagles. Now I personally was pulling for the Jaguars and the Vikings, so you can imagine how disappointed I am with the Super Bowl that is taking place tomorrow. The Patriots beating the Jaguars wasn't that big of a surprise to me, but Minnesota totally shocked me. Being that the Super Bowl is taking place in their home stadium, I really thought that would be more that enough motivation for them to win. Instead, they got totally trounced by an Eagles team that is playing with a backup quarterback. I was at the movies during the game, so I'm not entirely sure what happened as to why the Vikings got dominated. With that said, I want it to be known that I really don't care about the Super Bowl this year. Probably the two teams that I dislike most are playing, so it's a lose/lose situation for me. If I had to make a prediction, I would probably say that New England wins. However, with the way this season has gone, you truly don't know what is going to happen. Alright, now that I've talked about something besides the main topic for the week, it is time to go ahead and get into this week's topic of the importance of staying on your path.
Now to the normal disclaimer that I give weekly on the topics that I discuss. We all have different views and opinions when it comes to discussing various topics. My mission with this isn't to force my beliefs on anyone else, but rather to hopefully to encourage others to think about things in a way in which they may not have before. Much of what I plan on talking about here is going to already be familiar to most of you. If you find that this or any of my other topics don't encourage you to think differently than you normally would, then my other hope is that you can find some inspiration through it. Whether this topic resonates with you or whatever your viewpoints have be on this or any of the other topics, I appreciate those of you that have stopped through and taken a few minutes out of your day to visit here. So how did we arrive at this particular topic for the week? Well I initially had another topic that I had thought about a few days back that I wanted to discuss for the week. However, as I began to sit down and plot out my thoughts on how I was going to get my point across, there was another thought that came to my mind that led me to think about the topic that we're tackling this week. I guess we can say that this is one of the rare times where a conversation or discussion didn't factor much into what I chose to address. Sometimes things happen on the fly and when that happens, you have to be willing to adjust, and that is exactly how we have come to where we are now. Again, I hope that you all enjoy it, and you find that there is something in it that can be applied to your life.
Now I'm a believer that we all have a purpose while we're here. I believe that from the time that we're born up until the time that we die, there is a greater reason beyond just existing that we're here for. Now for most people, figuring out what your purpose is and finding it can be challenge. Some people know early on what their purpose is, while many of us either discover what our purpose is later on in our lives and in some unfortunate circumstances, we never truly discover it. I don't want to focus on timing, because we all have different periods for things happening in our lives. Remember that figuring out what is right for you in your life isn't a race against other people, it's a solo race that takes place from within. Now as I alluded to earlier in this post, I'd like to refer to it as an awakening when a person discovers a purpose that is greater than them. I'm sure that everyone may have different reactions based on what they believe their purpose is, but I'd like to think of it as an "ah-ha" moment. It's almost as if things are beginning to make more sense to you, and it feels like things are coming together. Now again I want to stress that this may be a different experience for everyone. Like I have mentioned countless times, we all interpret things different from one another. So you've discovered what your purpose is, and you feel that things are coming together in your life, but there is another issue now. You find that others don't agree with, nor are they supportive of what you're trying to do. This probably sounds familiar for many of you whether you've experienced it personally or not.
Now I want to say again that this doesn't apply to everyone. I do realize that there are a lot of people that have supportive family and friends in their lives. However, I'm also certain that there are instances where people have found that others may not be entirely happy for them when they've discovered a different path that they may want to explore. Finding that the people that are close to you aren't supportive of what you're seeking can be a huge deterrent in your life. Why is this? Simply said, we all want to have our cake and eat it too whether we want to admit it or not. If it were a perfect world, wouldn't we all want to be able to live the way we want and have the support of everyone else that we love? I think that most of us would, however, we all know that this isn't a perfect world and sometimes situations like this happen. The thing that often happens is that other people feel like they know what is best for you. They mean well the majority of the time, and they're likely at odds with you and your decisions because they want what is best for you, which is understandable. That said however, no one else can truly know what is best for you but you. Of course people are going to have an opinion and though their opinions may be valid at times, they can truly never know, which brings me to the heart of this week's topic on the importance of not allowing other people to deter your from you path.
Being thrown off whatever path you may be on or seeking is something that too many of allow to happen in our lives because we're trying to have our cake and eat it to as I mentioned earlier. There are going to be instances in your life where you will be able to do whatever you want without any resistance from others, but in most cases this isn't how things are going to always go down. Whatever it may be that you want to do or feels right to you, try and make it a priority in your life regardless of who or who doesn't cosign with you on it. Other people cannot life our lives for us, which means that if we are the ones that have the opportunity to make ourselves happy, we must do it by any means necessary. As long as whatever path that you're on isn't hurting yourself or anyone else, then you stay on it and go for it with all that you have. Becoming a more aware and enlightened person when it has yet to happen to those closest to you will probably rub people the wrong way, and that is okay. The way that others react to what you do shouldn't be your main concern. Your concern should be to do whatever you want that makes you happy. So always remember that people can't live your life for you. If you're on a path that you feel is right for you, stay on it and pursue it to the fullest. Finally, if you ever need anyone to encourage you to stick to whatever path that you're on if it's working for you, remember that I'm telling you here to stick to the path. Not all change is bad change, and if you find that you're changing for the better, then keep on pressing forward.
Well that is it for this week folks! Another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' has come and gone, so it is time to part ways for now. I want to thank everyone once again that stopped by to check out what I had to say. As I always mention before ending my topics, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback on any topic, feel free to drop down in the comments. You can also hit me up on Twitter @BradrickH. Well I hope you all enjoy the rest of the weekend, as well as the Super Bowl tomorrow. I also hope that everyone has a great week ahead, and hopefully your February 2018 has started off well. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!
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Saturday, January 20, 2018
Hello once again ladies and gentlemen! It is your boy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to once again welcome everyone out there to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back in the building for another week of inspiration and knowledge that will hopefully inspire myself and others to continue striving to be the best versions of ourselves. This is the second topic for the still new year of 2018, so I wanna know how are those resolutions coming along? I'm pretty sure that most of you have already reneged on them huh? I'm just kidding, but I hope that those of you that have made those resolutions for 2018 are sticking to them so far. So before getting into this week's topic, I'd like to give my thoughts on something that I'm sure many of you that are sports fans are following; the NFL playoffs. After two weeks of games, we are officially down to the final four teams. This weekend we have the Jacksonville(Sacksonville) Jaguars taking on the New England Patriots, and the Minnesota Vikings going up against the Philadelphia Eagles. Before getting into my prediction, man what an ending that was to the New Orleans Saints and Vikings game huh? I'm sure that most people that are fans of the Saints will probably disagree, but that was a great game regardless of who won in my opinion. So for the games this weekend, I'm going to predict that the Patriots will beat the Jaguars. It think it will be a good hard fought game, and I think Jacksonville will give the Patriots a hard time. However, it is hard to go against the experience the Patriots have. I'll be pulling for the Jaguars, but I think they lose. In the other game, I think the Vikings will take out the Eagles. They're riding on the momentum of that thrilling ending last week, plus they have the home-field advantage. I think the Eagles luck runs out this week. Those are just my brief predictions. I could be wrong, so lets see what happens. Alright, it is now time to get into the main topic for the week of past mistakes and fear of future decisions.
As with the usual formula I tend to use, I'd like to go ahead and mention that we all have different views and opinions. I don't expect everyone to agree with me on this or any of the other topics that I choose to discuss on here. The primary objective here isn't to force my beliefs on anyone, but rather to hopefully encourage others to think about various topics in ways that they may not have before. One of the beauties of life is being able to interact with others, and find yourself walking away from that interaction feeling like you gained something that you didn't know beforehand. That is the same idea that I'm trying to push on here. If you don't happen to agree with me on this or any of the other topics, that is perfectly fine and well within your right to do so. Whatever your beliefs may be, I am still appreciative of those that take a little bit of time out of your day to see what I'm thinking about. So how did I arrive at wanting to address the topic of past mistakes and fear for future decisions? I had a discussion last week with my sister where I kinda touched on this. It wasn't anything that was planned or intentional, it was just something that came to my mind while we were talking. Since then it has kinda stayed in my mind, so I figured it would be a good theme to base this week's inspiration around. Some of what I'm going to address may not apply to many of you, but I do hope that it does provide some inspiration for those that maybe find themselves being indecisive because of past failures.
Have you ever wondered why so many of us tend to beat ourselves up for the mistakes that we make? As I mentioned earlier, to be alive is to make mistakes, which means that mistakes and bad choices are due to happen sometimes. We're all prone to making mistakes, yet we often judge and ridicule others for the mistakes they make. Now I suppose I can understand why people coming down harder on people that make the same mistakes constantly. If you make the same mistakes over and over again, then you likely aren't learning anything, and I see mistakes as lessons that should have a takeaway from them. However, teasing and picking on another person for not knowing something or finding themselves in a silly moment isn't good in my opinion. I believe much of the fear that comes along with not making mistakes deals with the idea of judgement from previous mishaps. There are many people that aren't easily able to brush off other people that pass judgement on us. I'm going to use the example of basketball to setup the point that I'm making. Just imagine a high school basketball player that blows a wide open layup during a game, and this same student gets picked on by his peers the next day at school. If he or she isn't able to mentally block out that criticism, they will probably do everything in their ability to avoid putting themselves in that kind of situation during future games. They are allowing the fear of a past mistake to paralyze their future. Though basketball is more small scale thinking, I think this was a decent example to compare to the bigger picture of mistakes for life in general.
Now I stated in the previous paragraph that I view mistakes as lessons, and while I do believe this wholeheartedly, I also believe they're not automatic lessons that we just instantly pick up on. Similar to studying for a test or wanting to learn something new in your life, I believe that the mistakes that we make throughout our lives need to be broken down and analyzed if they're to be learned from. Always keep in mind that mistakes will happen time and time again, but they'll likely happen even more often if we're not make a conscious attempt to learn from them. Now it is normal to feel fear and anxiety for the future when you've made bad choices in the past before. You find that you're constantly questioning whether or not you will do the right thing next time, which can lead to a lot of indecisiveness. However, regardless of how afraid we may find ourselves being for the upcoming choices we may have to make in our lives, the fact remains that mistakes of the past can lead to growth, and from my perspective, the best way to grow as a person is to embrace your mistakes. Furthermore, just because you've made mistakes in the past does not mean that past outcomes will result in the future. Yes it is important to learn from mistakes and mishaps, but using them as a benchmark for our futures only keeps us afraid. This is exactly why I feel that so many of us hate to make decisions, because we're still stuck on bad choices we've made in the past. Growth indeed does comes from mistakes, but making mistakes doesn't mean that we shouldn't move forward.
So why shouldn't we allow the fear of past mistakes to paralyze us for the future decisions? There could be a variety of ways to answer this and much of it honestly depends on a person's mode of thinking. However, from my personal perspective on this, the simple answer is that the past is the past, and the past doesn't, nor should it be the primary determinant of what the future may be. If you made a decision in the past that turned out not to be in your favor, it happened the way it did for a reason. The important thing is that you learn and grow from whatever it was. Also, we have to keep in mind that we're not machines, therefore regardless of how hard we may try to prevent potential mistakes of the future, there will always be a human element that exists. I've mentioned it a couple of times already in this post, but I don't think it can be rehashed enough. We are all humans here, so we're all going to be flawed, which means that we're going to make mistakes whether we want to or not. While I do believe that mistakes can be costly depending on what it may be, I also believe that mistakes are a necessity for life. We can't always be right about everything all the time, so why should we believe that we're never supposed to fail at something? So to sum up; our past is just that, the past. Lets learn from our mistakes going forward, and don't allow bad decisions in the past to affect our future. Lets work on developing the confidence in ourselves that is required to make the best choices for ourselves, but also be mindful that we're humans that should always allow room for errors.
Well we have arrived at the conclusion of another topic for the week. It is time to sign off for now, but I'll be back soon. I'd like to thank everyone once again that came through for another topic of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As I always mention before closing, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address on here. If you have any comments or feedback, feel free to drop them down in the comments. You can also follow me on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. I hope that 2018 is treating you all well so far, and I hope that you all are having a great weekend. Big Sunday in the NFL tomorrow, so I hope those of you that are football fans enjoy. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!
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Saturday, January 6, 2018
Yo! What is up everyone? It is your boy Brad H. back once more, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here once again to hopefully spread some inspiration that can help us all be inspired to be the best versions of ourselves. We have made it to 2018 folks, and this is the first post for this new year. I'd like to start off by wishing everyone a Happy New Year, and I hope that 2018 has been treating you all well so far. As I mentioned in the previous topic that I wrote about, the year 2017 wasn't the best year for me, and I know several others that share in my sentiments on this when it came to their lives. The last couple of weeks of 2017 added to an already extremely challenging year due to the passing of my great uncle. I'm certain that many of you that have lost friends and relatives during the holidays know how much of a challenge it can be to cope with. I'm not one for new years resolutions and things of that nature much anymore, however, I want to encourage everyone (including myself) to try and find happiness in every single day for this year. I'm not saying that we have to be happy all the time, or that we have to front being happy when we're really not. I'm just saying that if you can find at least one thing daily to be happy and grateful for, then you are on the right track towards becoming a happier person. Not saying that this method will work or anything like that, just giving my opinion. So again I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year, and lets try and leave the negativity that happened last year behind. Alright, now that I've gotten all of that out of the way, it's time to get into this week's topic of looking for better ways to handle the issues in our lives.
Before I get into this week's talking point, I'd like to go ahead and say that we all have different viewpoints on life. I say that to say that I don't expect everyone to agree with what I'm addressing in this, or any of the other topics that I talk about. The main objective here isn't to alter or change anyone else's beliefs, but rather to hopefully encourage us all to think about things in ways we may not have before. One of the absolute beautiful things about life that I love is how you can talk to another person, and walk away from that talk thinking about things in a way that you never had before. It's a great thing when you're able to learn from others in my opinion. My hope is that I can give some insight that can maybe encourage others to walk away feeling that they learned something that they never thought of before. If that isn't the case for some, that is totally fine. I always say that I'm just one person with an opinion, but I still appreciate those of you that are interested in what I have to say. This particular topic is one that crossed my mind a couple of weeks back. Not really sure how it came to mind, but I thought it would be a good talking point for a post. Also, I think that thinking about The Dark Knight Rises movie probably helped contribute to my wanting to talk about finding other ways to deal with our issues. This particular issue is one that I'm sure that I've addressed in a previous topic, but I figured that tying in what Alfred said to Bruce in the film helps give it an alternate perspective.
Now that we've established that in the film that we're using as a reference for this week, Alfred was referring to Wayne sacrificing his body, and that he needed to find another way to make an impact besides the physicality of being Batman. What I want to tie all this into is how many of us channel a lot of the negative things that happen in our lives to things that are hurtful to us in the long run. If we're being honest with ourselves, most of us know that we turn to our vices whenever we're depressed, stressed out, etc. Now in saying this, having a vice or vices isn't to be judged or looked down upon. It's in our nature to want to turn to the things that make us feel good when we're uncomfortable. I want to be sure and establish that, because a lot of people that are imperfect and have vices of their own often look down on others for their vices. I don't agree with this at all, and honestly one habit or vice isn't any better than another. Regardless of what the vice is or may be, they all can be detrimental to us if not stopped or controlled. This is where the problem lies, and the reasoning for why I feel that we should look for better ways to handle the issues that occur in our lives. When we make the choice to go to or do something that isn't good for us because we're in a turmoil, not only are we not facing the issues head on, we're self-medicating ourselves in a manner that can be hurtful in the long run. Many of us don't see the habits in our lives as overly bad things, but years upon years of doing something regardless of how minute you may thing it is adds up, and can have negative impact on our lives.
So now I want to get into some of the habits and vices that I'm thinking about as I'm writing this. We're all aware of the ones that many of us consider to be the worse of the worse. These include habits such as drug use, alcohol, self-harm, etc. Now although they are probably considered to be the more dangerous habits, there are others that we have that tend to get overlooked, yet they can have a negative impact in the long run. What are some of the things we're talking about here you may ask? Things like over-eating, video games, and social media can also be classified as addictions if they're overdone. Sure they may not have the same effect as drug use, etc, but years upon years of engaging in these lesser degree acts during times of turmoil can have the same negative effect on our lives. So for an example here, we're going to use the idea of over-eating. I'm sure most of you have heard of binge eating right? How many occasions can you point to where have you have maybe found yourself eating when you find yourself stressed out? If you have never done this, then you probably know someone who has engaged in this act when they were having problems. We of course know that over-eating doesn't do anything but add more pounds to our bodies, which in turn can lead to health problems. Sure it may not affect you immediately, but the long term effects can be hurtful to your quality of life. This is just one example, but I'm sure many of you get the gist of what I'm saying here. Regardless of how small it may seem, anything that you turn to or overdo in time of turmoil can be classified as an addiction.
So how do we overcome these addictions in our lives? Well it depends a lot on you and what you struggle with when you are having issues. However, I have a few things to think about that may help. First, I think it is important to identify anything in your life that can be seen as an addiction. For example, whenever you find yourself stressed or depressed, try and pay attention to the things that you do or don't do afterwards. Secondly, think about whether or not what you're doing is helping or hurting you. Is it really wise or good for you to binge eat because you're having issues? Finally, and the most important part of this post, look for something else (preferably something more positive) to replace that habit. So instead of eating because you're sad or depressed, go talk a walk or go for a run. These are things that can only help you out health wise in the long run, and they can make you feel good about yourself as well. These are just a few examples, but do whatever works for you. As I mention all the time, we're all different and have different ways of viewing things. This also means that the way we choose do things is going to vary from person to person as well. The most important point that I want to get across is to look for other ways that are more positive to deal with your problems. We're all human and fall short, but acknowledging, learning and applying new techniques and strategies can go a long way towards handling our problems better. So lets take Alfred's advice, and lets find other ways to combat the problems in our lives.
Well we have arrived at the end of another topic folks. It is time to depart for now, but thank you all once again for stopping by for another one of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this, as well as the other topics I address. If you have any comments or feedback on this, feel free to drop those in the comments. You can also follow me on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. Well 2018 is upon us folks, so lets try and make this year a good one. All the hardships of 2017 are behind us, so lets be laser focused and positive for this new year. I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year again, and I hope you all have a great weekend, as well as a great week ahead. Take care everybody, and I'll see you all in the next one. Peace!
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Sunday, December 24, 2017
What's going on guys? It is I Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to the end of 2017 installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back once again to hopefully dish out some knowledge and inspiration that will hopefully keep us inspired in this wild world that we're living in. Hope all has been good and well for everyone as of late. Well this is the final topic for the year 2017. I mentioned in the last topic that I was probably going to reflect on how challenging this year has personally been for me. Don't get me wrong, there have been some high points for me this year. However, if I'm being honest with myself, the bad has outweighed that good. Instead of reflecting on this year, I wanna talk about something that I mentioned in the last post. I mentioned how so many people usually transition around this time of the year. Well unfortunately, my family has suffered a loss exactly a week before Christmas Day. My grandmother's second youngest brother passed away on the early morning of December 18th. Although he had been very for a long time, his passing was definitely unexpected for most of my family. The last time we saw him as a family was on Thanksgiving. Upon leaving him on Thanksgiving day, I recall my sister mentioning that she didn't really like seeing him in the shape that he was in. She told me a few days after his passing that when she saw him on Thanksgiving that she felt like he didn't have long left here. Mind you, she didn't tell me this until several weeks after Thanksgiving. I say that to say that often time we never know when it will be the last time that we see someone. Life is so unpredictable, so it is essential to try and treasure those close to you. I wanna close by saying that I hope you rest easy uncle Grover. We know how much you have suffered over the years, but you can finally rest peacefully now. Alright, now we can go ahead and talk more about this week's topic of improving through persevering.
As with the usual format I use before getting into the main talking point for the week, I'd like to go ahead and give the regular disclaimer that I use. Every single one of us have different views and ideas when it comes to any topic. The objective here isn't to try to change or alter anyone's beliefs, but rather to hopefully educate and encourage others to view a particular topic in a way in which they may not have before. The basic goal is to provide some insight and inspiration that gets the juices in our brains to flowing. Just like every other part of the body that is working when the blood gets flowing, the brain is similar as well when it comes to thought. I am just one person with an opinion, so I don't expect everyone to share in my views. Regardless if you agree or not, I am happy that you chose to come by and see what I have to say. As for how this topic came to be, I can mainly point to this year in general for the motivation to write this. I've mentioned previously how rough this year has been for me, as well as several other people that I am close to. There have been instances throughout this year where others, as well as myself have thought about giving up on the things we're trying to achieve. I'm sure that some of you can relate to this. These instances that I'm referencing have come and gone, but the fact is that as long as we're alive and breathing, they will likely happen again sometime. Starting right here right now, we have the opportunity to head into 2018 with a more positive and optimistic outlook of how we see our live and goals. The time to give up isn't here, so perseverance is what will be required to keep on going.
Now if you are an individual that is into personal development and motivational speakers, you have probably heard of a very well known speaker named Eric Thomas. He is someone that I admire quite a bit, and I know for sure that I have mentioned him in previous installments. Anyway, there was a video of his that I watched on Youtube where he was talking about perseverance and not giving up. In order to help to get his point across, there was an illustration that was shown within the video. The picture featured two men, both of whom had shovels in their hands. There were diamonds featured in both men's screens, however, one of the men was using his shovel to dig away at the diamonds, while the other was walking away in defeat. Now here comes the important aspect of the illustration. Both men were only a few more digs with their shovel from knocking down the dirt that was directly in front of the diamonds. They were both so close to their goal, but one of them walked away right before the victory was at hand. It was a simple cartoon illustration, but it was one that I think says a lot. Too many of us often give up right before the victory that we're seeking is near. I believe that because we're often not able to see that the victory is right around the corner, we opt to give up and go the other direction like the digger that was featured in the illustration. Just like Eric Thomas referred to in his video, all he had to do was dig just a little more to reach those diamonds. Since he walked away too quickly, he didn't achieve his goal, despite being right at the cusp of it.
So how does this illustration tie-in with this week's topic? Well as I mentioned already, some of you may have dealt with many challenges during 2017. Whatever those challenges may be are totally unique to your situation and circumstances. However, more than likely depending on what those challenges have been, they have likely left you not feeling too optimistic at times throughout this year. There are levels to everything, and from my perspective, optimism or lack thereof is no different. I say this to say that if you've experienced a lack of optimism for your life at sometime throughout this year, you've probably dealt with feeling hopeless also. Now back to the illustration that I referred to in Eric Thomas's video. Although there is no way to prove it beyond the actions that we see, the digger that gave up and chose to walk away likely done this due to feeling hopeless that he would eventually reach those diamonds. Now the illustration deals with diamonds, but those diamonds can represent anything in our lives. They can be something related to academics, business, relationships, etc. Whatever it is that you want to do or achieve requires patience and perseverance, but this state of mind should also apply to life in general. As I mentioned earlier, life can be difficult to cope with at times, and it is okay to get down at times. The point is to rise back up and have belief that whatever is happening in your life can only improve if you believe and persevere.
I often disclaim that I try to promote deep thinking and motivation here. I think that added motivation for this upcoming new year is where I wanted to go with this topic. I know that many of you including myself have faced difficulties this year, but we are still here and kicking because we are fighters that don't give up. Life may bend us at times, but we never break completely. Sure we deal with storms and hardships, and those trials knock us down at times. However, despite those dark moments in our lives, we have a belief that there is a light that is on the other side. I want you all to keep this in mind since we're heading into a new year. If you do no already adopt this philosophy, you don't have to wait till 2018 to do so; you can try and start right now. So for all my people out there that are dealing with things in your life, things can only improve if you keep on keeping on. There is a battle between us and this life that is going on, but remember it is a battle within our minds. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with that deals with this topic comes from one of my heroes; Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. I'm sure it is one that you've heard before, but it goes; "If you can't fly, then run, if you can't run, then walk, if you can't walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward."
Well that is it everyone. That is all I have for you this time, so I'm going to go ahead and wrap up this final edition for 2017 of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I again want to express my gratitude for those of you that take out the time to read these topics. The feedback that I receive on Twitter and other formats truly touches my soul. It is very uplifting and empowering to see that there are people out there that want to become the best versions of themselves possible. If you have any comments or feedback, please leave them below, or you can follow me on Twitter @BradrickH. I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and happy holidays. Lets try to end this year on a high note, and keep that momentum going for 2018. Thank you all again for the support. See you all in 2018!
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