Saturday, June 24, 2017
What is going on people? It is your boy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As with the usual formula here, I hope that you all have been doing great in your individual lives since the last topic. It is time for another topic, and we have made it to another week of seeking motivation and hope to keep persevering in our lives. As for the weekly soapbox that I use at this point in my topics, I don't really have much to discuss. The NBA Finals ended nearly two weeks ago and as I suspected it would turn out, the Golden State Warriors are the NBA champions for the 2016-17 season. I guess I'll give my thoughts on that real quick. Now I've been pretty open about the fact that I don't care for either one of these teams. However, Golden State deserved to win the title this season in my opinion. I realize that a lot of people feel like they had a superstar team with the addition of Kevin Durant, and I personally believe that to be true. However, we must also remember that the Cleveland Cavaliers have several star players as well, including LeBron James. Now I do believe there is an obvious variance in the two teams when it comes to talent, but we have to remember that the Warriors won a title and went to a second straight NBA Finals before Durant got there. While I do believe that adding him to their roster made them a better team than Cleveland, we cannot ignore the fact that Cleveland also added veteran players to their bench. I only bring this up because I've seen people trying to say that the Warriors needed Durant to beat Cleveland. Again, they beat them two years ago, and I honestly believe they would have beaten them last year had Draymond Green not gotten suspended. The same way that people gave Cleveland their just due last season for winning it all, we have to do the same for the Warriors as well. Congrats goes to the Golden State Warriors. Alright, I'm done talking about the NBA for this season. Football will be here soon, so of course I'll be giving occasional thoughts on that. Now that I've talked about something besides the topic for the week, lets go ahead and get into how running won't always solve our problems.
As with the normal disclaimer that I give on every single topic that I discuss, I want address that we all have different ways of thinking and expressing our opinions. My objective with this and other topics isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to inspire and encourage others to see the topic in a manner that they wouldn't normally. It is perfectly fine if anyone happens to disagree with my perspective. All feedback and opinions that anyone may have on this or any of the other topics that I discuss are welcome here. Now for a bit on insight on how the topic for this week came to be. I have to give a lot of credit to one of my cousins' for inspiring this topic. It stemmed from a conversation that I was having with him a few nights ago during a late night drive. He was breaking down a topic that we had been talking about in a manner that I had never even thought about before, and it honestly inspired me. He is a very wise person, so it is not a surprise that he opened up my mind to something that I never considered before. Being that I feel that what he mentioned was something that I think could help others, I figured I would use it as a catalyst to express my thoughts here for others. Like always, anything that I talk about here applies to myself, so I'm in no way implying that I'm above any of this. As with anyone else that is alive and breathing, I face personal struggles as well. The goal is for us to hopefully conquer our struggles together.
Alright, so as I stated earlier, we all have those moments where we feel that we need an escape from our problems. Again, I believe that a change of scenery can be refreshing from time to time. Also, there will be times and situations where a change of scenery can't be avoid. A good example of this is when a kid's parents move from one city to another. The kid doesn't have much of a choice in the matter when it comes to leaving. All of the aforementioned examples deal with running, but not necessarily in a negative way. However, there are also ways that we often run that can be classified as being negative. Furthermore, running doesn't always mean leaving one place for another in the literal sense; it can also mean not wanting to face whatever issues that may be plaguing our lives. Since there are all kind of ways of running from our problems, I want to focus more on what I think may be the best way to avoid running. See when you really think about it, running really doesn't mean much if whatever problems you are having are following you. Problems are a lot like shadows; they pretty much go wherever you go, and you can't escape them as long as they exist. Rather than trying to run from our problems, I think we have to look to find contentment within ourselves.
You may ask yourself, what does being content within have to do with running from problems? From my perspective, being content has quite a bit to do with avoiding problems. You see, when a person is content within themselves, they have an understanding of their problems and how to face them. I believe that these are people that understand that although a person may be able to relocate somewhere else or change up your scenery, you'll never truly be fulfilled if you're not truly content within yourself. In my opinion, this is an issue that most of us suffer from. We have all these problems in our lives, and we feel that just running somewhere else will solve them. I want you to consider this for a second. Imagine someone that is in trouble with the law and have warrants out for their arrest. That person can escape from the city they're in and go somewhere else, but those warrants will follow them regardless of where they go. Similar to the problems that we choose not to ignore and not face, those warrants will never go away, and you'll always be looking over your shoulder no matter where you are. Furthermore, you'll never truly have the peace within that we all seek. You'll never be able to fully enjoy your life because you know that you are just one encounter from having even bigger problems in your life.
So what is the best way for us to find contentment from within? From my perspective, first, I think the obvious thing we have to do is acknowledge that there are issues in our lives. It is always easy to blame others and circumstances, but the hardest thing to do is take a hard look in the mirror at ourselves first. In my opinion, that is a paradigm that needs shifting. Secondly, rather than choosing to run, we have to work on fixing ourselves from the inside out. What I mean by this is that whatever issues that we're dealing with internally, we have to work on correcting them. This is definitely not an easy feat to accomplish, however, is is vital to at the very least put forth an effort to do this. I'll admit that none of what I'm saying here is easy to do, and it's likely more times than not that we will often choose to run rather than confront our problems. The goal here is to hopefully give ourselves the necessary inspiration to tackle whatever issues we're dealing with. Because the truth of the matter whether we like it or not, we will never truly be content or at peace without working on ourselves and like I stated earlier, internal issues will follow us regardless of where we go. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with that I think coincides with this topic is from someone anonymous, or I wasn't able to find the person. But the quote is simple, and I'm sure it is one that you've heard before. It goes; "Running away from your problems is a race you'll never win."
Well we have come to the end of another topic for the week. This was another week of me getting another topic out later than usual, but there was some personal things going on that need addressing first. But like they say, better late than never right? Well I'd like to thank everyone that stopped by for another viewing of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like always, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. If that doesn't apply to you, or if this topic didn't move you, it is totally fine and I appreciate you still. I hope that everyone has a great weekend, and an even better week ahead. Stay safe wherever you are, and try to be a positive as you can. Take care of one another, and be disciplined and resolute towards whatever aspect of your life that you're trying to improve. Alright, I'm gone, so I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all peace and happiness. Peace!
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Saturday, June 10, 2017
Hello once again my friends! It's your guy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, I hope that everyone has been doing pretty good as of late. We've arrived at another week, and I'm back to give my perspective on a topic that I've been thinking about as of late. One of the common themes of this blog has been me talking about the NBA playoffs on the little soapbox that I've given myself on here. So the NBA Finals have been taking place since the last post. As of now, the Cleveland Cavaliers managed to win game 4 and stay alive. In the last post that I wrote, I mentioned how I felt like the Warriors having Kevin Durant on their team in my opinion would put them over the top. That has definitely been the case so far. Durant has been playing like an absolute madman in this years' playoffs, and that especially applies in the finals this year. That said, I want to give my opinion real quick on the whole "super-team" argument that so many people have with Durant joining the Warriors. I like Kevin Durant, and while I do believe that going to Golden State somewhat taints this championship that they are likely to win, I think it is wrong for people to constantly criticize his decision to go there. In my opinion, this whole star players teaming up with other star players to form super-teams started with LeBron James when he decided to go to the Miami Heat. While James did take some heat for his decision, I don't feel that he has taken as much as Durant. I'm personally not a fan of stars teaming with other stars, and I feel it depreciates the game due to lack of competition. However, if people are going to go at Durant, they need to acknowledge that LeBron was the one that started this trend. That's just how I feel about it. Alright, now that I rambled for a bit longer than normal, lets go ahead and talk about this week's topic of happiness.
As with the usual disclaimer that I give on every single topic that I talk about for the week, I want to say that we all have different thoughts, ideas, and opinions. The objective here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to inspire and encourage others to see the topic at hand in a manner that they may normally wouldn't. It's okay if we happen to disagree, or if what I write about doesn't pique others interest. All feedback and opinions that anyone may have on this or any of the other topics I talk about are welcome here. Now as for how this topic came to be, I would mainly credit it to being something that I've been thinking about as of late. It is also something that has become a pretty frequent topic of discussion in some of the conversations that I've had with family members as of late. Besides that, I watched a Youtube video a few nights ago where someone that I can't even remember who it was at this moment was talking about something similar to this. The culmination of all that sparked something within me that told me to come on and talk about this for a bit. As always, anything that I say on here applies to me also. I'm far from perfect, however, I do strive to be one of those people that don't just go around trying to drop advice to others that I don't at the very least heed my own self. The mentality here isn't to judge or condemn, but to rather encourage and inspire if inspiration is needed.
Now this particular topic is one that I've talked about on here before. However, just with anything else in life, there is always new and fresh takes that allow us to explore a topic in a different way. Now as I stated earlier, the majority of us are seeking happiness in life. Happiness is a very good thing right? Now I've already established that I believe happiness is a choice, but despite me having that belief, I know that it is extremely hard to be happy all the time. You can be having the best day in the world right? Things can be going your way for the time being, and then it can all change in an instant. You could receive some bad news that something happened to someone you care for, or you could maybe find out that you have a life changing illness that will affect your quality of life. Hearing things like this aren't going to make you happy at all right? Even if you're having the best day in the world, your mood will change receiving this kind of news. Now this way of thinking is totally subjective to the individual and how they react to receiving bad news. However, I think it is fairly safe to assume that regardless of how well you handle bad news, finding it out isn't going to make you feel good. So how exactly does this relate to the riding the waves of happiness? Well, it is my belief that because happiness comes and goes, we have to be willing to ride those those waves while they're happening.
Okay, now you're probably saying to yourself; "Brad H. what do you mean ride the waves while they're happening?" It's pretty much a comparison to how surfers ride waves when they're surfing. I've never been a surfer, but we all know how surfers excel when they're surfing on smoother waves of water. Then they have those instances where a huge wave comes in and knocks them off of their surfboard. For those of us that aren't surfers, those big waves that knock us off are similar to the unpredictable issues that come our way in life. My thing is that when I say we have to ride the waves of happiness, I'm saying that we have to appreciate and be grateful for those times. We have to be able to see them for what they really are, which are moments. Moments come and go in life, and one moment that you have may be something that you never get another chance to experience. For example, imagine that you've won an award at school or work for something that you excelled in, and you're going to be honored for your achievement. The award that you receive is something that you will be able to treasure for the rest of your life, but being honored is something that happens in the moment. Unless it happens again, that is likely a moment that you will never get back. This is why it is so important to us to live in the moment as much as possible. Moments are similar to quick sparks and flashes; they come and they go.
So how exactly do we ride the waves of happiness? From my perspective, I think it is first important to acknowledge that we'll probably never experience happiness all the time. I think the most we can hope for is to make as much happiness for ourselves as we possibly can. This means trying to have more happy moments than bad ones. Secondly, riding the waves to me means being grateful and showing gratitude for all the good things in life. There are many of us that say that we're grateful to be alive, yet we often complain about how hard our lives are. Yes life is definitely hard at times, but we often focus too much on the bad, rather than being grateful for the good. If you woke up to see a new day, you likely have eyes, ears, etc, which means that you are able to see and hear. Think of all the people out there that can't see or hear and wish they were able to. Think of all the people that are in wheelchairs and will never walk about. See the point that I'm trying to make here is that happiness comes from being grateful for life regardless of how big or small the moments are. So lets try to ride those waves of happiness, because just like anything else in life, they will come and go. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with comes courtesy of emcee stic.man from the group Dead Prez. On his album "The Workout", there's a song called Yoga Mat. He says something at the end of that song that I love. The lyric goes; "Ride the waves and let them pass, don't cling, be detached."
Well I have arrived at the end of another post. I ended up getting this one out later than normal due to a family related emergency yesterday, but I wanted to be sure to finish this since I started it. Thank you all once again for stopping by the another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like always, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. In the event that wasn't the case for you, your visit and feedback is still welcome and appreciated. I hope you all have a great weekend, and hope you're able to do something fun. There is a lot of bad in the world, but there is so much beauty out there too. Lets try to enjoy it as much as possible. Alright, I'm out everyone, so I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all peace and happiness. See you all soon!
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Friday, May 26, 2017
Hey, what is good everybody? It is Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like always, I hope everyone has been doing pretty good as of late. I am back for another week to give my perspective on the various topics that I think about on a daily basis. Before getting into the topic for this week, I'd like to talk a bit about the NBA Playoffs. As we all know by now, my San Antonio Spurs were swept by the Golden State Warriors a few days back. Although I'm disappointed in the outcome, I have to say that I'm okay with it being that the Spurs were not at their full strength with they injuries to Kawhi Leonard and Tony Parker. I'm not taking anything away from the Warriors; they were definitely the better team and earned the right to advance. So it appears that we're going to have another Warriors vs. Cavaliers NBA Finals for the third straight year. I've been telling people all along that I felt like this was the match up that we would see. For one, it is the series that would bring in the most ratings. Two, as far as the NBA Finals go, the series between the two teams is tied up at 1-1. A third series between the two would give the chance to settle the tiebreaker. As I've documented before, I don't care for neither one of these teams. However, just for the sake of being entertained, I will more than likely watch to see what happens. I thought the Warriors had the better team last season, but I personally think the Warriors adding Kevin Durant is going to help put them over the top this time around. We'll just have to see what happens. Alright, now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets talk more about this week's topic of pushing the things we're interested in.
As with the normal disclaimer that I give on every single topic that I discuss, I want to say that everyone has different thoughts, ideas, and opinions. The objective here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to encourage others to view various topics in ways they may normally would not. It's totally fine and understandable if the way I see a particular topic doesn't resonate with others. Any other feedback or opinions that others may have on this or any of the other topics I talk about is always welcome here. As for some insight on how this week's topic came to fruition, I can only point to the fact that this is something that has crossed my mind as of late. I've been thinking a lot about how we often allow fear to keep us from really pushing some of the talents that we have. If it's not fear, it's normally not having enough time or energy. As I mentioned earlier, there can be all kinds of reasons for us not actively going for the things we're interested in. Much of this applies to myself and how there have been past occasions were me having a lack of confidence kept me from pushing towards an opportunity that may have ultimately turned out good for me. I want to use this week's topic to encourage myself and anyone else out there that may be sitting on their talents to make more of an effort to push those talents. Again, there is no right or wrong mentality here, just inspiration.
Now that we are aware of what this week's topic is about, I want to get more into the biggest reason why I feel that so many of us let go of things that used to interest us so much. Now I do realize and understand that sometimes we just outgrow certain things from our past. If that happens to be the case for a person, then I would suggest that person to not put a lot of effort into anything that no longer moves you. A person can only excel at something that they're truly passionate about, and if that fire is no longer there, then the pursuit will often be a waste of energy. One of the biggest reasons that I think many of us don't really push it when it comes to things we're passionate about deals with what I stated earlier; a lack of self confidence. In my opinion, a lack of self confidence and fear pretty much run right along with one another. Whenever doubts as to whether we can really be successful at something creep in, we become hesitant to act. As I mentioned earlier, I myself know this all to well. Now I do believe it is normal to have a level of self doubt when it comes to going after something. Lets face it, as bad as it can be, we often compare our abilities to others. However, I feel the most important thing to do is not put too much emphasis into the level of expertise the next person may have. Instead, we should be focusing on and honing our abilities to try and become the best version of OURSELVES. It's not about competing with what the next person can do, but rather putting emphasis on becoming better at what you're good at.
So how exactly do we "PUSH IT" when it comes to our passions? From my perspective, I see two ways that we can overcome the lack of self confidence that we may have. Again, this only applies to people that still have a desire to pursue something they're passionate about. First, continue to practice and work on whatever it is that you're passionate about. There's a saying that goes; "repetition is the mother of skill." In order to potentially become great at something, you have to be willing to work tirelessly at it. As an example, think of a great shooter like Stephen Curry from the Warriors. In order to become the great outside shooter that he is currently, he's had to work on his shot endlessly till he got to the level he's at now. That same mentality applies to the things we're passionate about as well. Remember, there is no such thing as part time success. Secondly, try and get feedback from others whom opinions you value. Because of the Internet and the ability to connect with others instantly, we have a greater array of options to get out thoughts and ideas out there for others to see. Don't be afraid to show some of the things you've worked on to your family and friends, and allow room for constructive criticism. One thing that I can guarantee is that if and when you receive positive feedback from people whom opinions you value, the level of determination to stick with something will go up ten fold. Similar to a snowball, the momentum will build up to the point where those doubts will slowly creep out of your mind.
As I stated earlier, we all have things that we're passionate about. Not all of us will be able to fully succeed in our passions to the degree that we'd probably like, but that is not what this week's topic is about. This is about finding the motivation and confidence to be willing to at least give our interests a shot if the desire is there. If you're talented at something that you've been doing as a hobby for quite sometime, and you've felt something inside of you that tells you to do more with it, don't be afraid to push it. Even in the event that you don't succeed at it in the manner you'd like, you can at the very least say that you weren't afraid to go after your interests. One thing that many of us feel as we get older in our lives is regret. How often do we look back at the past and regret not doing certain things? We all have to live with certain regrets, but we don't have to live with the regret of not being willing to go after the things we're interested in. It all is ultimately up to us, so lets be willing to PUSH IT when it comes to our talents and skills. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with comes from boxer Floyd Mayweather Jr. I do realize that there are many that aren't fans of his, but regardless as to whether you like him or not, you cannot deny his talent when it comes to boxing. The quote goes: "Everybody is blessed with a certain talent, you have to know what you talent is, maximize it, and push it to the limit."
Well we've come to the end of another topic for the week. Thank you all once again for checking in to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usually state at the end of my topics, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. In the event that wasn't the case for you, your visit and feedback is still welcome and appreciated. Well the weekend is here, so I hope everyone has a great one. Try and do something this weekend that you normally do not do. Pick up the phone and call someone that you haven't talked to in awhile, go visit with someone you haven't seen recently, or just get outside and do something fun if you're able to. It's a beautiful world that we're living in, so lets try to enjoy it as much as possible. Alright, I'm out everyone, so I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best in life. See you all soon!
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Friday, May 12, 2017
Hello once again ladies and gentlemen. It's ya boy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that everyone has been doing well and maintaining since the last write up. If that hasn't been the case for you, stay strong and keep on holding your head up. As with the normal standard here, I've come to give my perspective for the week on various topics and thoughts that I think about regularly. So how has everything been going with you guys? A lot of wild things have been going on in the world as of late. One thing that I talked about in the last post was the NBA playoffs. We had a good ole I-10 rivalry that happened here in the Lone Star State between the Houston Rockets and my San Antonio Spurs. Now although I'm a Spurs fan first, I do like the Houston Rockets as well. Obviously I wanted to see the Spurs go on and advance to play the Golden State Warriors, but it probably wouldn't have bothered me too much if they happened to lose to the Rockets. However, as much as I hate to say, I think that the Spurs are going to have their work cut out for them going up against the Warriors. The Warriors have truly been on point this entire playoff tournament, and I honestly in my heart feel that the general public wants to see another Cavaliers vs. Warriors NBA Finals. I'm personally not a part of that group, but I also understand that the NBA is a business where ratings and revenue matters. I guess we'll just have to see how this all ends up playing out. It should be a good series, so Go Spurs Go! Hope everyone that likes basketball has been enjoying the playoffs thus far. Now that I've talked about that for a bit, lets go ahead and talk about this week's topic of how I feel that we're all just small fish in a gigantic ocean.
As I always aim to do before getting more into my thoughts for the week, I'd like give a disclaimer and say that everyones individual viewpoints will always vary. My objective here is isn't to focus on what may be considered right or wrong, but rather to hopefully inspire the people that read to think about various topics from a different approach than they normally would. I totally understand if my my viewpoints don't register with others, and any perspective other than my own is always welcome here. As always, the goal that I'm looking to achieve here is to first inspire myself, and then hopefully through the process of writing out my thoughts, inspire others as well. As for insight on how this topic came to my mind for this week, I have to give total credit to my younger sister. She and I were having a discussion on the phone a few days ago, and she mentioned something about small fish in a big ocean. That discussion got me to thinking about how so many people these days feel that they're better than others, and I thought the whole small fish in the ocean is a decent analogy to hopefully get my point across. I want to thank my sister again for the inspiration, and this just goes to show how the interactions with others can often be the spark for motivating us. Before moving forward with this week's topic, I want to stress that I'm in no way conveying that we shouldn't see ourselves as people of value and worth. I'm simply hoping to get others to see that there is a bigger picture at work that is happening.
So what exactly does the small fish in a big ocean analogy refer to? I'm pretty sure that all of you probably get it, but for the sake of trying to get a point across, I'll go ahead and talk about it. I personally see the oceans and large bodies of water that occupy this Earth as being similar to humans and how we interact with the world in general. The planet that we're living on in gigantic, and the same applies to these large masses of waters. So there are all kind of animals that inhabit these waters right? You have your whales, sharks, etc right? Then you have your smaller fish and sea creatures that are existing out there as well. From my perspective, this can somewhat be equivalent to how we are as humans in regards to the way we look, our races, etc. So there's this entire ocean of creatures out there trying to survive, similar to how we as humans fight for survival as well to a lesser extent. So I want you to think about this; if a shark or another of the more powerful creatures out in the ocean eats one of the smaller creatures that are in the ocean as well, does the entire ocean cease to keep existing? Of course not. The same thing applies to us as humans. When a person dies, the world continues to move forward right? Life will end for all of us eventually, but that doesn't mean that the world won't keep on carrying on. This is exactly why I say that no one is better than anyone else, because regardless of how important someone may be, life will continue to carry on despite that person no longer being here.
I know that me saying all of what I said above sounds like doom and gloom, but it is a true fact that death is just a part of life. None of us will be here forever, which is why I feel it is important to laugh and smile as much as you possibly can. Now that I've gotten the whole small fish and big ocean analogy out of the way, I wanna give my thoughts on what we can do to make ourselves more valuable during our time here on this Earth. First off, keeping a level of humility is important, but I feel the most important way to be valuable is to make an impact on the lives others while you're here. From my perspective, making an impact doesn't mean that you have to be a celebrity, TV personality, or athlete. It doesn't mean that you have to have a lot of money or resources, although having those things can definitely give the people that have obtained those things the ability to have a greater impact. I think that the best way to make an impact means leaving a part of yourself behind for others. If you're a parent, it means leaving the values and teachings that you gave to your kids behind for them to have an impact on the lives of others. If you're an older sibling, it means being a positive role model to your younger sibling. If you're a mentor, it means leaving an imprint on those you're teaching. Having an impact means that you were valuable to the life others. It means that you were able to make someone else life easier, or you were able help that person through the trials they may be facing. Again, regardless of who you may be, you can always have a positive impact on the lives of other people.
Now I feel it is entirely okay for a person to have confidence in themselves and their abilities. However, I feel that many people today confuse confidence with cockiness. It's okay to see yourself as worthy and valuable, but also remember that there is a bigger world outside of the one you're living in. Going back to the ocean analogy, some peoples impact can be like a whale, and some people are similar to sharks, squad, etc. Some people are like regular fish, and some are the smaller creatures in the ocean. However big or important you feel you are, try to focus on leaving a lasting impact. When we look at the television personalties and celebrities, try to remember that they are just humans like we are. As I stated earlier, everyone matters regardless of what people may think. The truth of the matter is that none of us are going to outlive this life that we're in, and we're all going to have to exit here eventually. Just like the soldiers that may be involved in a war; when one of their comrades fall they mourn them, but they continue to press on right? That's exactly how this world is. Life will always carry on. To end this topic, the quote I'm going to leave with comes from Behdad Sami. The quotes goes: "Some people like being a big fish in a small pond, others a ferocious shark in the ocean, I rather be the ocean. In the end, fish die."
Well we've reached the end of this week's topic folks. Thank you once again to everyone that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. Even if that may not always be the case of some people, it is totally okay. Your visit and support is still greatly appreciated. If you have any comments or thoughts to share, feel free to leave them for me. Well the weekend is upon us again, and this is Mother's Day weekend. Big shout out to all the mothers out there. I hope you all enjoy your day, and for the people out there that still have your mother in your life, take a little time out of this weekend to spend with your mom. Hope everyone has a great weekend, and I'll see you all in the next post. Till the next time we meet, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts.
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Saturday, April 29, 2017
Hey, how's it going ladies and gentlemen? It is me Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! A big thank you like always goes out to everyone who stopped by once again to read up on my topics. I hope that everything has been going pretty well for you all since the last time we were together via this platform. If things haven't been going the best for you as of late, just remember that tough times do not always last. Try to keep your head up, and keep on striving for better in your life. I mentioned in the last post how the year 2017 has been challenging for me personally, so although we are all facing different issues and struggles in our lives, I can definitely relate if anyone has been dealing with things. For anyone that has been facing issues lately, lets try to put them to the side for a few minutes and get into this week's topic. For my basketball fans out there, I'm sure that you all have been enjoying the NBA playoffs. The playoffs this season has been pretty interesting so far. We saw the Milwaukee Bucks give the Toronto Raptors a tough series, but go down last night. We've also seen the Chicago Bulls give the Boston Celtics all they can handle, although I think Chicago may come up a bit short tonight. The Memphis Grizzlies also gave my San Antonio Spurs problems like they always do, but thankfully the Spurs won the series last night. We'll see how this all plays out in the coming days, but the playoffs have been pretty solid so far. That's pretty much all I have to speak on in regards to getting on my soapbox for a bit, so lets go ahead and get into this week's topic.
As I normally do before getting more into the topic for the week, I'd like give a disclaimer and say that our individual viewpoints as people will always vary. My objective here is isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to inspire those that read to view various topics from a different approach than normal. I don't expect everyone to agree with my approach or views on these topics that I talk about. The goal here is first inspire myself, and then hopefully through the process of writing out my thoughts, to inspire others as well. Whatever thoughts or feelings that anyone has regardless if they align with mine or not are welcome here. Now as for some insight on how this week's topic came to be. I've been thinking about this topic a lot of late, as I feel that it definitely applies to myself. As I stated earlier, many of us go out of our way to help out others but through the process of constantly helping out others, we sometimes neglect our own wants and needs. That being said, I want to express that everything that I will say this week in the way of giving out advice is primarily for myself. It has taken a combination of other people pointing this out to me, along with something within me telling me that I have to look out for myself more. Sometimes in order for a change to occur within our lives, we have to be willing to address some topics that we may not want to. That's exactly what I'm aiming to do here.
One of the things that I've mentioned many times in past topics is the important of maintaining balance in our lives. Whenever the scales in our lives are tipped too far in one direction, we find that our lives can become more chaotic and hectic. Since chaos isn't what we want in our lives, we have to be able to find the proper balance to keep our life scales aligned properly. The reason that I'm bringing up balance once again is because it directly applies to what I'm aiming to address in this week's topic. If you're the kind of person that often finds that you're constantly doing for others and you're putting the things you want to do to the side on a regular basis to accommodate other people, then the scales of your life are more than likely not aligned properly. Like I mentioned earlier, we should always be willing to help out the people we care for. However, at what cost does helping out others should we pay for when it comes to our own lives? How much should we be willing to do for others before we put ourselves first? Those are questions that only we as individuals can answer, however, I would say that if you find yourself asking these questions more often than not, then there is a likely need for a change in your priorities. Again, I want to stress that because my eyes are closer to me than anyone else, all of what I'm saying applies to me as well.
So now that we've established that doing for others before self constantly likely means there is a lack of balance in our lives, I want to talk about the mental aspect of this topic. Now we often hear people talk about how selfish our society is in general. We hear all the time that people are selfish and only think about themselves right? While it is very true that we live in a very selfish and ego driven society, I've come to realize that being selfish sometimes is required in order to find happiness within. Think about it for a second; imagine that you're constantly putting things that you're passionate about on hold to be there for others. How exactly is constantly doing for others going to help you? You may be able to find some joy in helping others, but we'll never feel truly fulfilled and happy with ourselves if we're not living life on our own terms. This can be mentally damaging, because those of us that engage in this often will feel as if we're always doing for others, but feel that no one is doing for us as well. This is a problem, because it can create a standard of feeling that we are owed something from the people we do for, and I personally feel that we should do and give without expecting anything in return. From my perspective, this is not how we should be thinking. When we do for others, it should be done because it is in our heart without expecting anything back.
Now with all of that being said, I'm not saying that we should always be selfish, nor am I saying that we shouldn't do for others. I'm simply saying that we should look to find a balance of helping other people when we can, but we should always make our own lives a priority first. I understand and realize that this isn't always easy to do, and there is no clear cut way to answer for it. However, I will say that a change is probably necessary if you find yourself becoming increasingly bitter and angry for constantly helping others. From my perspective, helping out other people should feel like a privilege rather than a burden. So for everyone that this topic may apply to, lets work on trying to make our own lives a priority as well. We should do all we can to help other people, but I believe now that the best way to help others is to help ourselves first. We only get one shot at life, so we should aim to live it on our own terms. Basically, don't allow the needs of others to deter you from doing the things you want. The quote that I'm going to leave you all with this week comes from an unknown, but I think it is a really good one that sums up this topic pretty well. "Make yourself a priority once in a while. It's not selfish, it's necessary."
Well that about sums up this week's topic ladies and gentlemen. Thank you once again to everyone that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. In the event that there wasn't, I still appreciate those of you that stopped by. Feel free to address any comments or thoughts below if you'd like. Well the weekend is upon us, so hope all of your sports fans out there enjoy the NBA games tonight, as well as the NFL Draft. If you're not a sports fan, I hope you have a good weekend doing whatever you're interested in. Alright guy's I'm out, so I'll see you all in the next one. Till the next time we meet, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts.
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Friday, April 14, 2017
What's good ladies and gentlemen? It is I Brad H. back at it once again, and welcome to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Thanks to everyone that stopped by once again. Hope everyone has been doing great since the last edition. If you happen to have negative things going on in your life right now, try to keep on holding your head high. Most importantly, keep on striving towards changing your life for the better. As for me personally, I've doing okay, but I haven't been as great as I'd like. In my last post, I mentioned how 2017 has been a challenging year so far. The challenges have continued as there have been some unfortunate events happen to people that I care for. I can't speak for anyone else, but I feel somewhat inadequate whenever someone that I love is going through trials. It's like despite things going well for me, I sometimes feel that I should be suffering along with them. I know that isn't the right way to think, but it's very hard to feel fulfilled when people you care for are experiencing pain. If there is any advice I can give to anyone out there going through something similar, I would say to please be sensitive to what other people are going through. You may not have all the answers, and you honestly don't need to have all the answers. All you have to do is be there for others to the best of your ability. Believe it or not, your presence will do all the speaking for you. Just wanted to throw that out there. Alright now, lets go ahead and talk a bit more about the avoidance of making negativity habitual.
As with the normal disclaimer that I give, I'd like to say that our individual viewpoints and opinions will always vary. The objective here is isn't to focus on what is considered right or wrong, but rather to hopefully encourage readers to view various topics in a different light than they normally would. The way that I view or see things isn't the only way of viewing things, and I don't expect everyone to agree with me. The goal is first inspire myself, and through the process of writing out my thoughts, hopefully inspire others as well. It is perfectly okay if anyone disagrees or feels differently, and whatever thoughts and feedback that anyone has is totally welcome. I really don't have much to contribute in regards as to how this particular topic came about. I would mainly credit thought as to how this topic came about. A few nights ago before heading off to sleep, I was thinking as I often do, and about how so many of us fall into the pattern of constantly being negative. I thought to myself that negativity isn't totally bad since there are a few good things that can come from it. However, one of the things that can expand and make negativity worse is when we allow it to become a habit that we develop. In my opinion, when negativity runs your life and you find yourself thinking nothing but negative thoughts, you've probably gone a bit too far with it. Because I feel this is so rampant in our society today, I want to try and do my part in addressing it.
Now as I mentioned earlier, I feel that it is perfectly normal for us to experience negative thoughts and emotions. Many of us attempt to see the good in everything that we experience, and there's nothing wrong with that. However, the truth is that we sometimes need to experience negative events in our lives. The reason I feel this way stems from the idea of being appreciative. Life is all about being balanced and not letting the pendulum swing too far away from it's opposite. We have to experience negative emotions occasionally, because if we didn't experience them at all, we wouldn't be able to appreciate the positive things that happen in our lives. Think about this as an example. Imagine that you have a nice car that you end up crashing or something of that nature. Because of this event, you will maybe find yourself without the car or a car in general for sometime. Crashing the car and losing it could be classified as something negative right? Now if you're the type of person that is always having a car or never knowing the feeling of being without one, you probably wouldn't handle this too well since you're not used to it. Now if you're smart and learn from the things that happen in your life, you will likely have a greater appreciation for the next car you have because you know what is is like to have and lost. All of this stemmed from something negative that happened, but if you were able to learn from the experience, it likely put everything into perspective.
Now that I've established why I believe it is necessary to experience negativity occasionally, I want to talk about making negative thinking a habit. Now some of us find ourselves developing a habit of negative thinking when we find bad events happening in our lives more often than we would like. It's like when you feel like things are going bad for you more often than not, you start to expect bad things to constantly happen. From my perspective, this is exactly how a negative mindset can become a habit forming routine and before you know it, you've become a person that is negative on a regular basis. Instead of being able to see the things that happen for what they are, which are often just circumstances, we allow those circumstances to dictate how we view other aspects of life. Now remember when I stated in the car example earlier that a negative event that occurs can be put into perspective if something was learned from it? From my perspective, a negative can become a positive if we're able to take anything that happened from that negative and learn from it. If you're constantly stuck in a habitual routine of being negative, then you're mind will probably be too clouded to be able to learn anything from the unfortunate events that may happen in life. Again, it is all about perspective and being able to view things for what they are. In my opinion, and this is just my opinion; a negative state of mind is formed over time. I could be wrong about this, but that is how I see it.
So why do we not want to make negative thinking become habitual? Well besides the obvious things like people likely not wanting to be around you because you push them away, or the fact that being negative all the time is such a waste of energy, a routine of negative thinking takes away our ability to appreciate things. If you're the type of person that always expects the worse to happen or only sees the bad in life, how will you be able to appreciate the good things that happen? You probably won't be able to. I understand and realize that we all deal with negative things happening in our lives, but at the end of the day, these things are all a part of life. More importantly, I believe that regardless of how many negative events happen in our lives, we always have things to be appreciative for. I'm not saying that we should always be overly positive to the point where we become delusional. I just feel that it is important to stay positive and balanced, but also be able to take something away from whatever negative events that happen in our lives. So lets try focus on and avoid making negative thinking a habit. The negative is out there and will always be around, but I always say that you don't have to give into something just because it is there. The quote that I'm going to end with a quote by Chikku George Thomas that goes; "A negative thinker see a difficulty in every opportunity, a positve thinker see an opporunity in every difficulty."
Well that is all I have for this time around folks. Thank you all once again to all that stopped through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this post. I hope everyone has an enjoyable Easter weekend. I'm pretty excited that the NBA Playoffs are starting tomorrow. My team (San Antonio Spurs) are facing the Memphis Grizzlies in the first round. I have faith in my team, but I will admit that Memphis always gives the Spurs problems. We'll see how it goes, but I think the Spurs will win the series. Hope everyone else that watches basketball enjoys the playoffs as well. Well I'm gone, so till next time we meet, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.
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Friday, March 31, 2017
What's good my people out there? It is your guy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' once again. Respect and thanks goes out to those of you that came through to see what I'm discussing for the week. As always, I hope everyone has been doing well and maintaining. Don't really have a lot to touch on this week in regards to things that are happening in life. However, I do want to mention something about the year 2017 that I've been dealing with thus far. You know how we all have certain vibes and feelings about certain things that we can't quite explain? Well heading into this year, I had a feeling that it would be a year of both change and hardship. Not going to get into details, but I will say that 2017 has been a challenging year for me personally thus far. There has been a lot of things going on with people that I'm close to that has been affecting me as well. I'm pointing this out to let everyone know that although I come on here to talk about positive issues and topics most of the time, I have struggles that I have to deal with in my life like we all do. Staying positive can sometimes be a challenge, but the most important thing to remember is the importance of not giving up. Regardless of what is happening in our lives whether it is for good or bad, we have to continue to keep on showing up and fighting those internal battles. I just wanted to touch on that real quick, and I'll probably do a post in the future about the importance of not giving up. Now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets talk a bit more about the topic at hand on how the answers we're seeking are often within.
As with the normal standard that I've set on here, I want to point out that a person's individual viewpoints will always differ from person to person. The main point here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to hopefully stimulate the minds of others to view certain topics in a way that they may have never considered. I'm in no way saying that my viewpoint is right, nor am I implying that the way I see things is the correct way of looking at things. I'm just hoping to first help and inspire myself, and through that process, hopefully inspire others as well. If you agree with me, cool, if not, that's fine and well and I appreciate your visit. If anyone has any feedback to contribute on this or any other topic that I've talked about, please feel free to do so in the comment box. As for insight on how I arrived at talking about this topic, I would contribute it to a combination of my thoughts, along with seeing this habit happen from others. Now because I said that, I don't want people to think or assume that I'm criticizing others that maybe engage in this habit. Heck, I myself has struggled with this before, and it took me some time to understand that my problems are not other peoples problems. Again, the goal here is to inspire and encourage. We're not here to condemn others at all. As I've stated before, and I will continue to maintain, my eyes and ears are closest to me so anything that I talk about here applies to myself as well.
Now as I stated earlier in this post, there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others for help occasionally. We all need help from time to time, and if you happen to believe that not to be fact, you are probably kidding yourself. I realize that a lot of people like to feel like they know everything, but lets be real here, none of us have everything figured out. From my perspective, the asking of help isn't the issue at hand when it comes to solving our problems. The problem is when we feel that other people are obligated to provide us all the answers for solving our own issues. There are several reasons why this is a problem in my opinion, but there are two that I really want to put emphasis on for the sake of the topic at hand. First off, our problems and issues are ours and ours alone, which means that no one else will see nor experience our problems the same way we do. Ever heard the saying; "Your life is yours and yours alone"? The same mentality applies when it comes to your problems. Because other people aren't you and will never truly see the world you do, there is only so much that they can understand when it comes to you and how you view things. Of course people can relate and offer guidance and support, but the fact is that your issues are yours and yours alone. The second point I want to touch on is the fact that other people can't always stop what they're doing to help us.
I'm a firm believer in the old adage that no one owes anyone any help in this life, so be grateful for any help you receive along the way. This mentality is huge when it comes to handling our problems. There are people in this world that really believe that people should stop what they're doing to help them. Think about how selfish of a mentality that is for second. You really want people to not worry about the things they have to face in their own lives because you're in need? Not only is that selfish behavior, but it is also not realistic. Everyone is facing things in their lives in some form or another, and it's not morally right to expect others to be at your every beck and call. Now what I want to focus on next is the idea that the answers and solutions to our problems are often already within. What do I mean by this you may wonder? As I stated previously, only you know what is truly right for you. Again, your journey throughout life is yours and yours alone. This is exactly why I believe that most of the answers that we are looking for are already within. The thing is that we have to search within ourselves for them, which often requires a bit of something that a lot of us don't like to do anymore; thinking for ourselves. Because we've become so reliant on others for help and guidance, many of us neglect thinking for ourselves. This is something that we have to work on changing.
Again, I want to make clear that I'm not saying that we shouldn't be seeking help from others. I'd like to think that we should view any help that we receive from others as a guide or map that can help lead us down the right path. Think of an athlete that has a trainer or mentor that helps them reach their full potential in whatever sport they're in. The mentor helps give the blueprint for becoming successful, but it's the athlete that has to follow the blueprint. Whether or not the athlete succeeds all boils down to them and how much effort they're willing to put in. From my perspective, that is exactly how we should be viewing our problems. So if any of this applies to anyone out there, just remember that it's not any else responsibility to solve your issues. We have to work on exercising a bit of thought and critical thinking instead of being so reliant on others for their help. Finally, if you do have people in your life that don't mind extending themselves to help you, always be grateful to them, because they definitely don't have to do it. The quote that I'm going to leave that I think applies to this topic comes from Bev Haworth. "I am learning not to feel responsible for the problems, issues, circumstances or behavior of others. I am learning that I can show empathy & understanding and listen with care & attention without feeling the need to fix things or make them right."
Alright ladies and gentlemen, we have arrived at the end of this week's topic. Thank you once again to everyone that came through for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As usual, my hope is that some meaning and understanding could be gained from this. Before I get out of here, I want to give a shout out to my younger cousin Derion. He recently went off to Navy boot camp, and I've been missing him like crazy as of late. In the month leading up to his leaving, he and I had hung out a lot and worked out together. It feels a little more lonely going on my runs now without him, but I'm happy that he is doing something to better himself. I know he probably won't see this anything soon, but I love and miss you bro. Well I hope everyone has a great weekend ahead, and till next time, I wish you all peace, happiness, and positive thoughts. See you all in the next one.
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