Friday, November 15, 2013
Being The Person You Truly Are Can Sometimes Be A Lonely Road (You Have to Be Willing to Walk That Road).
So, I'm discussing how it feels like many of us aren't willing to really be who we really are out of fear of being accepted by others, and how being who you really are can sometimes be a lonely road to travel. This is something that has been weighing on my mind quite a bit as of late, so I thought I'd spend a few moments giving my thoughts on it. Before I go any further, I want to say that what I'm discussing in this topic obviously doesn't apply to everyone. I'm very well aware that there are many people out there that are living their lives on their own terms, rather than just trying to fit in with or impress other people. Now for the most part, the majority pretty much rules in all aspects of life. Think about it for a second; the majority of us do what we can to keep up with what the majority of everyone else is doing. Instead of us taking our own stance on certain issues we care about in life, we're too busy trying to go along with the "program". Going along with the program is much easier than going against the grain right?
It's an unfortunate thing, but I think that too many of us thrive off of attention from others, which is one of the main reasons why so many of us are always trying to fit in with what everyone else is doing. Don't believe me? Look at a lot of these social networking sites for example. Many of us see the same people constantly talking themselves up and things of that nature. Much of this is nothing but blatantly obvious attempts by people to make themselves look good to others. I'm not saying that a person shouldn't be proud of anything they accomplish. However, how much attention does a person need to feel like they're part of the crowd? How far should a person go to feel accepted? What's wrong with having self-validation, instead of always looking to other people for validation? These are all questions that I've been thinking about.
I think there are two ways to look at a subject like this. If you're one of those people that is okay and comfortable with being part of what's going on with the crowd, then go right ahead and keep living that way. I personally don't see anything wrong with that if you're happy and content with being like that. On the flip side, I don't think that any individual should fake who they really are just to gain attention, or be accepted by others. One thing that a lot of people know but fail to acknowledge is that not everyone that you believe is a friend of yours really cares about you as a person. A lot of the people that you're the closet to be the same ones secretly wanting you to fail. Being a unique person that doesn't follow the crowd can be a lonely, but necessary road to travel. Is it a path that you're willing to walk?
I've stated this before, but constantly longing to be around and/or wanting to be accepted by others isn't going to make a person truly happy. Happiness has to start within you first and a person that can't be themselves, or is constantly looking to fit in with the crowd most likely isn't going to be happy if they're not being the person they truly are inside. So to sum it all up, don't be afraid to walk that potential lonely path if you're different, or some of your beliefs aren't mainstream. The people that really care about you and appreciate you will accept you for who you are. Try not to worry too much about the people that attempt to down you, or make you feel bad for being who you are. As long as you're not hurting anyone or breaking the law, be who you truly are, and don't be afraid to walk down that lonely road.
Well that's it for this week's topic on 'Brad H's. Perspective'. Thanks again to those of you that stopped through. I'll see you in the next post. Till then, everyone take care, stay up, and keep on maintaining. Peace!