Sunday, January 27, 2013

Think and Choose Your Words Wisely(Razors Tongue).

Some people seriously do not think before they begin to speak. They have an unfiltered mouth, which sometimes results in them saying reckless things. Whatever comes to their minds, is what comes out of their mouth. People like this often find that their mouths tend to get them in trouble. Are you one of these people? Do you know someone like this? I'm almost willing to bet you do. What's up everyone? I go by the name of Brad H, and this is another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective.' Thanks for tuning in.

Many of you may be familiar with the term 'Razors Tongue.' You probably have heard it in a song, or maybe you've heard someone mention it. After doing some research myself, I found that there have been several songs made with this particular title. I'll admit myself that this blog post was inspired by a song I heard with the same title. I first heard it as an instrumental on one of K-Murdock's beat albums. However, this version I'm referring to had a singer on the song. The song was on a free download album that I downloaded towards the end of last year. The album is by K-Murdock, and is titled "Champloo'd."

I don't know who the singer on the song is, but I really thought some of the lyrics hit home. I liked the lyrics so much, that I went on Word Is Bond's Facebook page, and asked who the singer was. Unfortunately, I didn't get a reply. Basically the song was trying to convey that sometimes words can be hurtful, and how we should think them out before we speak. He started the song out by saying "Those words are so much more than a playful pun". I personally found these words to be true. Some people say some of the most hurtful things to upset others. Then we have some people who say things with no intent on hurting someone, however, someone may take offense to their words.

I personally feel that the latter isn't necessarily in the wrong. Lets face it, we've all said things that may have hurt or offended someone - even if we didn't intentionally mean to. We are all different, and react differently to things. Some people know how to brush off a playful joke, while others may take offense. I've always believed that words can be more hurtful than a punch. Think about it for a sec. If someone punches you, it will hurt maybe for a few minutes. Words on the other hand can have a much more powerful effect. They can become instilled inside of our minds, which makes it harder to forget about them. This is how emotional abuse can start for some.

I try to view things from all sides, so I will say that many of us need to develop tougher skin when it comes to what others may say regarding us. We can't always allow what others say affect us too much. On the other hand, some of us really need to choose our words more wisely. I guess the point I'm trying to make is what the song itself was making. Think over your words before you start popping off. I know that some people have no regard for saying hurtful things, but your actions can find you in a lot of trouble. You never know how others will react to what you say, and some people have been known to retaliate in not so kind ways. Always make your points, but try to maintain a level of respect as well.

Well that's it for this edition of 'Brad H's Perspective.' I hope you enjoyed reading, and remember to think before you speak. See you all soon!

Thursday, January 17, 2013

I NEED YOU: Only when it's convenient for me.

What's up people? It's your ace Brad H. hitting you all up again with another edition of "Brad H's Perspective". As usual, I hope everyone is doing well and maintaining wherever you're at in this wide world. I'm not going to waste any time today, I'm going to get right into what's been on my mind in recent days. I'm going to title this one; "I NEED YOU: Only when it's convenient for me". Hmmmm!

Are we as a society and people generally selfish? Do we only think about ourselves a majority of the time? Do we use and manipulate some people to get the things we want? I don't know what you're answer to this question would be, but mines would be ABSOLUTELY! I'm not saying it's right, but it's quite normal and natural for us as a society to maintain a certain self preservation towards ourselves. Quite frankly, I don't see anything wrong with putting yourself first in most situations. Therefore, a certain degree of selfishness is totally fine.

Unfortunately though, some people are selfish and cruel at the expense of others. Now this is something that I don't agree with nor condone whatsoever. The perfect word for some people is "users". Some people are just flat out users when it boils down to it. Who are the people we're referring to? We're talking about the ones that you never ever ever ever ever hear from until something is wrong with them. I'm talking about the people who don't have anything to say to you when they're partying or having fun, but once the fun ends and the issues pop up, here they come running a 4 flat 40 yard dash needing help or advice. I'm referring to the people who act one way towards you when they're around certain people, but act another way when it's just you and them. I can pretty much guarantee that we all know people like that.

Some people are like this and never even notice or realize how much you can hurt people when we carry on with these types of habits. On the other hand, there are others who do it without regard or care, mainly because they feel like they can get away it. They assume that the real friends and family will always be there regardless of what they do, or how they treat them. One of the biggest mistakes that we can make is assuming that people will always be there, and a lot of people are getting fed up with feeling used by others. One of the best analogies I've heard is "I have to break out the scissors and cut you off".

We as a people need to lose the 'I only need you when it's convenient for me' attitude. If people keep this up, you may look around and notice the number of people in your life dwindling down, and it's going to be no ones fault but your own. If you got time to call or run to people when you've got some issues going, then you should have time for them when things are going well also. It's as simple as that.

That pretty much sums up this blog edition of "Brad H's Perspective". I hope anyone who read enjoyed it, and found some type of understanding and meaning from it. Before I go, I want to thank everyone who has left some of the amazing feedback that I've received since I started doing this. I read a comment via a post I put on Redgage last night that really touched me. I can't thank you all enough, and I wish you all nothing but the absolute best. Anyway, I'm out for this week, so thanks again for tuning in. See you all later. Peace.

Monday, January 7, 2013

Generalizations: Why are you letting them bother you?

Hey what's up people? It's ya man Brad H. coming back at you once again. I know I've kinda been on a near two month hiatus, and I apologize for that. The writing slowed down quite a bit during the holidays, and that's the main reason for the extended absence. The good thing is that it's a new year, which means a fresh start for many of us. Anyone that knows me pretty well knows that making New Year resolutions isn't my thing anymore. However, I'm making a personal goal to keep this blog updated with more frequency. Besides all of that, I wanna begin by wishing everyone a happy and healthy 2013. Hopefully 2013 will be the best year of our lives. Now it's time to get into this weeks topic. It deals with generalizations.

Many people already know and understand what the word "generalization" means. However, I took the liberty to find a definition that defined what the word means to me personally. The definition I found defines it as; "an idea or conclusion having a general application". The words that really stick out to me in that definition are 'idea', and 'conclusion'. We're already aware that the world is full of various generalizations. Truthfully, nothing is limited when it comes to being generalized, or put into a single category. When I personally think of being generalized, I think of a person, a group of people, or anything that is put into a single category. For example, one of the most popular generalizations is the statement "all men are dogs". When I think of how generalizations are perceived, I basically think of seeing or viewing things or people through a narrow tunnel vision. We're all guilty of forming generalizations. Anyone who says otherwise is most likely naive. Everyone does it from time to time. I've noticed that many generalizations tend to rile up some people. This is especially true when it comes to relationships, race relations, etc.

It's okay to voice our dislikes when it comes to certain generalized statements by people. However, we all know that none of us can stop people from forming opinions about us, what we're doing, or a group of people we associate ourselves with. The unfortunate thing is that some people take generalizations from others so personally, when they really shouldn't. If a statement that is generalized doesn't apply to you personally, why are you allowing it to bother you or bring you out of your character? I see so many people getting angry and defending generalized statements, when they don't even apply to them personally. It's somewhat of a lost cause when you think about it. You're basically getting yourself worked up over nothing, and something that you quite frankly can't control.

I'm one of those people that believes that guilty people are the ones who let what others say bother them. The bottom line is that if something doesn't apply to you personally, don't worry about or sweat it. Just sit back, and let all of these other "know it alls" go back and forth arguing over topics that can be generalized. Besides, nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Therefore, what others say shouldn't hold a lot of weight on you anyway.

Well that's it for the New Years edition of "Brad H's Perspective". Hopefully this will be the first of many money topics for 2013. Don't let the generalized opinions of the many affect you personally. Way more important things to entertain than that. Till next time, peace, love, and blessings.