Thursday, October 31, 2013

Placing Limits On Yourself When Getting to Know Others(Lessons to Be Learned From Everyone We Encounter).

I recognize that in our society today, the majority of people pay more attention to what they're able to see with their own two eyes. Most of the time, a person will look at someone that they don't know anything about, and they will automatically make assumptions about them. Is this normal? Of course it is. The majority of us judge only on what we're able to see initially. There's absolutely nothing wrong with this in my opinion, as a first impression is often what a person will be critiqued upon. However, it seems that people these days are wary of getting to know other people. When I say getting to know others, I mean really getting to know others. What up? This is ya boy Brad H., and this is another blog posting of 'Brad H's. Perspective.' Thanks for lending me your eyes and your mind for a few minutes.

Before I go any further, I have to say; Wow! It's hard to believe that November is nearly here. This year has gone by so fast, and another new year is quickly approaching. Also, Halloween is my mom's birthday, so that's always a special day. Happy Birthday Mom! Alright, so I'm back once again, and this time I'm discussing how people these days seem to put limits when it come to knowing other people. You may be asking yourself; what do you mean being afraid of getting to know other people, or putting limits? Don't we talk to and socialize with people daily? Well, yes we do. However, I think there is a difference between socializing with people, and getting to really know an individual. As I mentioned previously, it seems that people are quick to judge others without taking out the time to really get to know them. Now more than ever, it seems that people are judged strictly on their appearances, rather than the qualities they may possess inside. If a person doesn't look a certain way, some people won't even entertain talking to them. Lets get into a few examples of what I mean.

Take relationships and dating for example. The majority of us have have certain standards that we expect in someone that we're attracted to. There's normally a certain type of potential partner that we're attracted to. Whether it's their looks, financial status, or education, everyone is different when it comes to what they're attracted to. But, one thing I've noticed is that some people aren't even willing to get to know someone else, or allow someone to get to know them based on very little about who they are as a person. We instantly size up people, and tune out people that we don't deem worthy when in actuality, there may be some qualities that someone you don't think on your level possess that you may like. It doesn't necessarily mean that you have to date them, but you could find yourself missing out on learning, or building a new friendship. Anybody - no matter how they dress, look, etc may have knowledge and wisdom that can maybe help you out. How can you find out if you're not willing to at least make an attempt to learn about someone else?

When I think of all this, it almost equates to putting a lid or a cap on a bottle. You've closed off anything else being let it, and anything going out as well. In my opinion, you're putting a limit on yourself when you do this, and certain aspects of life can be some much better when you don't put any limits on your mind. So how do we remedy this? Well there is no single way, but in my personal opinion, I think it's best to evaluate people on a person to person basis. We have to be willing to open our minds to other people, and not instantly assume things because of how an individual looks or dresses. Just because someone doesn't fit your view of what "normal" is, doesn't mean that you can't share interests with someone else. In some cases - not all, there is so much more to a person that meets the eye.

So to recap real quick, it can behoove us to open our minds to all kinds of people. If there's one thing that I've learned while on this Earth, is that you never know whose help you may need in this life. The ironic thing is that it's often the people that we least expect. Be willing to throw about assumptions in regards to people, and don't always be afraid to get to know someone else. You're not going to always be in tune or on the same page with everyone you meet, and some people come into our lives temporarily. However, I think there is something that can be learned from everyone we know, and there is always a lesson that comes with every meeting, and every departure as well. Lets learn to take that cap off, and remove some of those boundaries.

Well that's it for this posting of 'Brad H's. Perspective'. Thanks again for tuning in, and I'll see you in the next post. Hope everyone stays up, and continue to maintain. Peace!

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

You Can Always Hit the Reset Button On Your Life (Never Too Late to Change for the Better).

If you owned a gaming system when you were a child, you more than likely remember that there were normally two main buttons on the console. There was the obvious power button to power the game on, and then there was the reset button. Remember playing a certain game and reaching to a stage that you probably had a hard time beating? Remember when you allowed that level of frustration you would feel begin to set in, and what did most of us do? Yep, we hit that reset button more than likely. I know that's something that I done a lot of back in the day.

I don't play video games much these days, but I'm sure most of the systems now still have reset buttons. So how does nostalgic video game consoles of the past relate to this post? Sometimes there are things that happen in life that may cause us to feel helpless and hopeless. Depending on the individual, troubling circumstances can lead to unhealthy things such as stress and depression - which are bad attributes that can heighten the level of despair a person can feel. Although it's not healthy, I think it's normal at times for people to feel that it's too late to change their lives for the better. You know - having that feeling that you're at the end of your rope. However, regardless what others may say, I feel that it's never too late to hit that reset button on life.

Welcome to another 'Brad H's. Perspective' blog posting. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, I think it's never too late to hit the reset button on our lives. I've been thinking about this a lot as of late. I've also been thinking about some lyrics from one of my favorite artists named K-Rino. K-Rino has a song on one of his albums called 'Everyday'. In the song, he mentions that as long as we're breathing we always got another change to make things right. Wise words by him in my opinion, and a way of thinking that we should strive for.

It is indeed true that a single moment - for better or worse, can have a lasting effect on a person's life. However, one moment doesn't have to be the determining factor in how we decide to carry on with our lives. For example, we've all made mistakes, and the majority of us have made questionable decisions in our pasts. It can be a normal occurrence if memories of mistakes and bad decisions from the past enter our minds from time to time. In some ways it's probably a good thing that those memories come. Reliving mistakes from the past can keep us from making those mistakes again in the future. That is of course if they come sporadically, and don't become time consuming.

But, do we allow those previous mistakes to keep us from moving forward? Some people do, but the majority of us don't. We adjust and make those decisions that help us to keep moving forward in our lives. Just because today, yesterday, or even days of the past weren't always the best doesn't mean that it's too late to change for the better. I think it's important that we view everyday that we wake up as an opportunity to reset and start anew.

Well that's it for this edition of 'Brad H's. Perspective'. Thanks for stopping through as always. Just to recap real quick; there's always a chance to change as long as there is breath in your lungs. Don't ever let anyone think you can't change for the better. If things aren't going all that great, take it for what it is, and just hit that reset button on your life. A new day is always a new chance to get better. See you all in the next one. Peace!