The Importance Of Giving The Events In Your Life Time To Work Out.

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We've all heard various phrases and quotes that describe time when it comes to living life. Phrases such as "living on borrowed time, and "time heals all wounds" are just a few of many ways that time can be described. As with probably many other people in this world when it comes to time, I'm of the belief that time is one of life's concepts that can either work with or against us. In some ways it can be viewed as a "frenemy"; both a friend and enemy depending on the situations and circumstances that we're facing. Regardless of what your individual beliefs may be when it comes to time and how it relates to your life, there is no denying that it plays a major part in how we navigate through this maze of life. One of the things that I've talked about in past entries via this blog is patience and how it seems that so many of us in today's society lacks it. Living in and growing up in a fast paced world has conditioned our society to believe that nearly everything has to happen fast. Besides the idea of lacking patience, I believe that one of the issues with so many of us expecting everything to happen fast is that it can lead to self worth issues. How many instances have you seen where people you know have gotten down on themselves when something that they'd hope would work out didn't? Maybe it wasn't a situation where you witnessed it with another person, but rather it was a point in your own life where you faced it. Could it be something that wasn't only a period in your life, but rather something that you're dealing with at this current moment? I'm sure this may sound familiar to most of you, because I believe that this is something that most of us have either dealt with in the past, or we're currently dealing with now. Though we may fight with it at times, there are some events in this life where you have to let go, and give them the appropriate time to work themselves out.

Yo! What's up once again good people? This is Brad H. back once again for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I'm back to address a topic that has been on my mind as of late, and hopefully to use that topic as a catalyst that can inspire us. I hope that things have been going well in you all's lives as of late. So the NBA season is over, and the Golden State Warriors were not able to capture their 3rd straight title. They fell to the Toronto Raptors in six games. Now I'm on the record stating that I personally wanted to see the Warriors win despite not being a Warriors fan at all. I just think that the "3-Peat" would have marked a great close to their story being that there is so much uncertainty as to how their team would look next season. It also would have been great for them to win it all in their last season at Oracle Arena. Now as most of the world knows by now, Kevin Durant and Klay Thompson both suffered season ending injuries that will likely keep both of them out all of next season. I know that Kevin Durant got and still gets a ton of heat for signing with the Warriors, but I truly hate that he suffered that injury. I come to have an even greater level of respect for him, because it was clear that he was not healthy enough to play, yet he still went out there and potentially put his career on the line. I believe that is an honorable thing considering we live in an era of sports where athletes appear to care more about money than the sports they participate in. I hope that K.D. has a speedy recovery, and his able to come back stronger whether he is with the Warriors or another team. As for Klay Thompson, guy is a true warrior in my opinion. The man tore his ACL, but still tried to be there for his team. That is admirable as well, but sometimes you need to be saved from yourself, and it seems like that is what the people that care for Klay done. I hope he has a speedy recovery as well. I say all of that to say that though I don't care for the Warriors, I gained an extreme amount of respect for their team. They fought to the end despite the injuries they had. Congrats to the Toronto Raptors for winning their first title, though their fan base that cheered when Durant got injured was wrong. We'll see what happens this summer in free agency, but I'm going to end the NBA talk for now and move into this week's topic of the importance of giving the events in our lives time to work out.

Now I mentioned earlier how the the world that we live in is generally full of individuals that are extremely impatient. I can think back to a time when I was younger when the majority of people received the news through the television, newspaper, or radio. Things such as the news back then weren't so fast and "breaking". Now the 24 hour news cycle that we live in via the internet puts the news at our disposal instantly whenever it drops. Now I'm in no way implying that this is a bad thing. I'm just setting up how a fast paced society can lead to people wanting things fast. As I brought up earlier, the biggest downside I see to such a fast paced world is a lack of patience among people. Now from my perspective, patience is something that we all need at exhibit at times. However, I do believe that it is important to know when circumstances calls for it. None of us can always get what we want when we want it, nor does being overly patient benefit us. It's importance to find a healthy balance between being patient, and going to the extreme with it. Now when it comes to the lack of patience that so many of us have, the scary thing is that not having the proper amount of patience can potentially make the circumstances in our lives even more worse. It's a known fact that often times when we illogically rush into situations that aren't thoroughly considered with patience, we end up doing or saying things that we often live on to regret. It is those very situations that had we exercised a little more patience and given them the chance to work out, they likely would have ended favorably for us. Picture a boxer that rushes in throwing punches without any regard for what could happen to them. The chances of that boxer being caught by a punch and going down is greater than had that same boxer had patience and a plan going into the ring.

Before I go more into why it I feel it is important to allow things to work themselves out in our lives, I want to relate it to a story that is personal to me. When I was in the 9th grade I decided that I was going to play basketball for the school. I had always been playing basketball with my friends, but I had never played organized basketball. On the third day of school I had an incident happen at home during the evening where I cut the middle finger of my left hand, which is my shooting hand. It was bad enough that I had to immediately go to the emergency room and have stitches placed on my finger. So basically this kept me from doing anything basketball related besides running. Of course I felt dejected about this due to the fact that I hadn't even gotten a chance to practice since it was so early in the school year. As the weeks went on afterward the incident, I was starting to feel as if my finger wouldn't heal and be the same again. I started to become impatient, and even tried to test myself one evening to see if I could shoot a basketball, which turned out to be a painful mistake. Eventually the stitches came out, but there was still an open wound in my finger. Again, I was worried that it wouldn't heal, and I begin to doubt if I would ever be able to play ball again. Eventually the finger healed up, and though it has some residual nerve damage that will be with me the rest of my life, I was able to eventually play basketball. Though I was a teenager when this happened, it is something that I still reflect on today when the though of if things will work themselves out will come. This is just one example of many, and I'm sure that many of you have your own personal stories of how your patience was tested.

So why is it of importance to give the events our lives time to work out? Well from my perspective on this topic, being impatient and irrational can exasperate us and our lives even more. I used the incident I had with my finger as an example, but this can apply to nearly any area of our lives. From my experience of living life, I've learned that most of the problems in our lives are circumstances that can often be worked out if we just allow things to run their course. The biggest evidence of this is something that I often relate to other people when they're conveying to me that they're facing difficulties. We've all faced situations in our lives that we didn't see an end to right? When you think back to those same situations that you felt were dire at the time they were taking place, and then you find yourself thinking about where you are right now, it is proof that you made it through right? If you're here now that means you made it through, and if you made it through in the past, why can't you do it today? Time is the biggest indicator of this, and it is often the most importance aspect of conquering the challenges we face. There are too many of us in this world that are engaging in habits that are bad in the long run for our lives because we expect everything to happen so fast. Furthermore, we hastily act because we believe that every issue in our lives has to be solved by us alone. While I will admit that the majority of the fixing in our lives has to be done by us, sometimes it is better to allow something or someone greater to take the reigns. The onus lies within us, but remember that sometimes other people are much better at handling things that we are. So for everyone out there in a situation that you don't see an end to, give it some time to work itself out. Doing this will allow you to look back someday and smile knowing that you made it through, and you'll be a much better person for it.

I believe that pretty much sums up what I think about this week's topic of giving the events in your life time to work themselves out. With that being said, I'm going to go ahead and bring this to a close. I'd like to thank those of you that came through once again for tuning into another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be gained from this. I also hope that my words were able to serve as some kind of inspiration for you all. Feel free to leave any comments, or if you want to connect with me on Twitter, you can follow me @BradrickH. Well I hope you all are having a great weekend so far. Try and do something fun, but also keep yourselves hydrated if you're going to be outdoors. Take care everyone, and I'll see you all in the next one. Peace!

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Success Worth Having Doesn't Come Overnight (Microwave Generation).

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One of the more frustrating things that many of us have to go through in life is having patience. We have been told over and over again how important it is to be patient. We hear countless times from others that everything will come to pass, and that our patience will be rewarded. We hear these cliches constantly and yet most of us are still impatient in certain aspect of our lives. This especially applies to those of us that have been working towards something that we're passionate about. We know that we're supposed to be diligent and patient towards reaching our goals, but patience is a word that many of us don't want to hear when we've been working at something for some time. What amplifies the levels of frustration is living in this microwave society that we're all living in. In a society where it seems as if everyone wants things to happen fast, it can be even more frustrating when things are not happening as quick as you'd like. We often find ourselves at a crossroads when thoughts of doubt and uncertainty begins to enter our minds when it comes to reaching our goals. Questions of whether or not we're on the right path towards success can begin to flood our thoughts, and the result is often a word that can lead to a lifetime of regret; quitting. While it is okay to question whether we're moving in the right direction or not is perfectly normal and healthy, having the realization that success worth having doesn't happen overnight is important.

Hey what's up once again my people! How is everyone doing out there this time around? It is me Brad H. coming back at you all once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As with the standard formula here, I am back for another week to drop my perspective on a topic that I feel can be relevant and helpful to others. Thank you in advance for those of you that stopped by to see what I have to say. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to get on my soapbox and talk about the World Series that is taking place right now. Man, what can we say about game two of this series? That was an absolutely epic game there. The Astros looked as if they were on the ropes, and they managed to go nuts in those extra innings. So after last night's game, the Astros are up in the series 2-1. I personally felt like this was going to be a great series, and it has yet to disappoint. I'm a Astros fan already, but being that I am a Texan, I'm hoping for them to pull it off. However, I do like the Dodgers as well. Clayton Kershaw is one of my favorite players, and I personally believe that he is the best pitcher in baseball. I also like Justin Turner, Corey Seager, and Kike Hernandez from the Dodgers. With all of that said, although I want the Astros to win it all, I would be okay if the Dodgers were to win it also. Since I like both of these teams, there really won't be much of a loser in my eyes. I know that I'm probably straddling the fence with this one, but I do want the Astros to take it all. I'm huge fans of George Springer, Jose Altuve, and Carlos Correa. Besides that, it would be big for the city of Houston if the Astros were to win after everything that happened with Hurricane Harvey back in August. We'll see how it all turns out. Alright, it is time to get into the main topic of the week that deals with success not happening overnight.

Before I move into the topic for the week, I'd like to go ahead and give my normal disclaimer in this section of the topic. Every single one of us have different viewpoints and ideas on how we see things. The objective here isn't to focus on what is right or wrong, but to hopefully give some inspiration to that encourages us not only in our daily lives, but also to see things in a manner in which we may not have before. I am just one individual with an opinion, so the way I see certain topics may not align with the way some of you see things. It is totally fine if some of you don't agree with me, and I welcome any and all feedback here. In the case that you find this topic interesting or you receive something from it, feel free to let me know that as well. As for some insight into how this topic came to mind, I've just been thinking a lot lately about how so many of us expect things to happen fast. Because this has been weighing on my mind lately, I thought I'd come on here and discuss why it is necessary to be patient with the things we aspire for. This is something that I have discussed on here already before in previous topics. However, it is sometimes necessary to revisit things that you've maybe done before, but with a better understanding of now. Because life should be all about growing and progressing, the way that we see some of the things in our lives will change throughout the years. It is important to always keep your mind free and open to new ideas and ways of viewing this, which is honestly the philosophy that this entire blog is based around.

Now as I referenced to earlier, it feels as if we are living in a microwave generation right now. What exactly is a microwave generation you may wonder? I see the term "microwave generation" as an analogy to how so many people want everything to happen quick with little effort. We all know that it is much quicker to throw something in the microwave compared to actually taking out the time to cook something. This is the same mentality that so many of us have these days when it comes to life in general. Think about it for a second, most of people want to exert as little effort as possible to get what they want. We want fast money, fast cars, fast relationships, etc. Fast, fast, fast, we all want everything fast. Now from my perspective, the thing with things coming to us fast is that when it is fast, you often don't appreciate it as much. Imagine if someone just gives you something compared to you having to actually having to earn it. In which scenario do you feel like you would appreciate it more? Now some people may not care either way as long as they get what they want right? However, I believe that there is a sense of pride and accomplishment that comes with actually earning something compared to getting it with little to no effort. This applies to all areas of life, but I feel this especially applies to those of us that are trying to achieve personal success in our lives. Because success is subjective, it totally varies on the individual as to what they define as success. However, in the microwave generation that we're in, most people want success to have fast also.

Something that I've mentioned in several topics on here before was how so many of us compare our lives to our peers. Success is probably the biggest comparison that we draw from our peers. For example, lets say that there are two friends that are both in college right? They both graduate at the same time, and want to get into the same field. Lets say that one of the two breaks into the field they want to get into before the other. Due to the fact that the friend of the two that has gotten their break has cracked into their field, the other that hasn't may view the other as achieving success before them. This person could potentially become somewhat discouraged and find themselves wondering if they will get their break. In a worse case scenario, the individual may become disillusioned and give up on trying to get into that field completely. That is just an example, but if it is something that you are still passionate about, you shouldn't give up. Like the title of this post states, success that is worth having doesn't always happen overnight. We can't be using other peoples' success as a basis for how we define success in our lives and situations. We also can't allow the fact that sometimes, whether you believe it is fair or not, things happen quicker for others than it does for us. It doesn't mean that it isn't meant for you, or that you should throw in the towel and quit. From my perspective, it could mean that it just isn't your time yet and despite how hard it may be, you have to maintain and exercise a little bit of patience.

This week's topic is mainly for those of us that are maybe finding ourselves questioning whether or not we will attain the success that we're hoping for. Yes it is normal to question whether or not you're doing the right thing, but questioning shouldn't rule your life. We have to have the belief and confidence in knowing that we're moving in the right direction towards our goals. Most of us halfway believe that it is possible, but the only way that we can get there is to believe in in fully. If the belief isn't fully there, then maybe that is a sign that maybe you're not as passionate about what you're doing as you think. It all comes down to having faith and belief in my opinion. They always say that patience is a virtue, but in a microwave society, patience appears to be sorely lacking. We don't want to be part of the microwave generation. We want to be part of the believers that are patient and long-suffering. So remember that success doesn't happen overnight. Everything worth having in your life will likely require time, which means that we have to hold us our end of the bargain by being patient. Time for me to leave the motivational quote that I came across that goes with this week's topic. It is from Ralph Marston and it goes; "Success requires both urgency and patience. Be urgent about making the effort, and patient about seeing the results."

Well we have reached the end of another topic my people. Thank you again as always to those of you that spent some of your time reading another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that this topic served as some inspiration for some of you, and hopefully it provided some meaning and understanding. Feel free to leave any comments or concerns. Well we're at another weekend, a cooler one at that. I absolutely love when it starts getting colder. That's the biggest sign for me that the holidays are right around the corner. Also before I go, I want to say Happy Birthday to my mom. Her birthday is a few days away on Halloween, but I want to acknowledge that since it will have passed by the next time. Love you mom! Alright I'm out folks, so you all be safe and enjoy yourselves. Till next time, keep on pressing forward everyone. I'll see all in the next one. Peace!

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