Monday, April 30, 2012

Are you comfortable in your own skin?

Hello once again. This is ya boy Brad H. coming back at you again. It's another Sunday night, and this is another installment of Brad H's Perspective. I hope that everyone is doing well and had a great week. It's always a blessing to live to see another day. It's also a blessing to be able to start another week ahead. Tonight I want to discuss something that I've been thinking about during the week. I told myself earlier when I was running that I would write on this topic. This topic first begins with a question. The question I want to ask is; how many of us are really comfortable in our own skin? I know many of you have heard of this saying before. Many times we say we are comfortable and satisfied with who we are, but are we really? Is it only at certain times, or do we just say we are to make ourselves feel better? Lets delve into it a bit.

I heard something on a television show not too long ago that struck me as being very very interesting. This woman on the show told one of her friends that real happiness starts within ourselves, and that anyone else in our lives are supposed to enhance that happiness. I found this to be a profound and honest statement. So much so that I've been telling almost everyone that I know about it, with most of them agreeing with it. So many of us are quick to say we are happy with ourselves, but as soon as a situation becomes tough or uncomfortable, we are looking to others for support. Don't get me wrong, I think it's important to have support at a lot of times in our lives. However, many of us suffer from a lack of faith in ourselves. We are not always willing to challenge ourselves when times get rough. Too many of us are afraid be alone in some instances. People are not always going to be around for us. We have to learn to make decisions and choices on our own sometimes. Some people claim to be comfortable with themselves, but act differently or put up a front when they get around certain people. A person who is comfortable in their own skin stays true to who they are regardless of who is around, or what happens in life.

Another thing I have noticed is a lot of people trying to fit in with what the world is doing. The thought of not being in the "in crowd" is a scary thought for some people, and they will do almost anything to feel accepted by others. I feel that a person who is truly happy with themselves doesn't fear loneliness or being criticized by others. The most important thing that we need to keep in mind is to be who we really are at all times. We shouldn't worry about fitting in with what everyone else is doing. Like the saying goes, "real recognize real". If we be the person that we truly are, there will be people who are doing the same thing who will notice. Those are the people we need to surround ourselves around. So what if certain friends turn their backs on us? Don't worry about it. Keep on pushing forward and find new friends that will have your back and share some of the interests you have. Life is never limited to just one or a few things. There are a number of various people in the world that will be accepting of you really are. We have to love ourselves first.

Lets focus on being comfortable within ourselves first. Lets not always look towards others for our happiness. At the end of the day faith in ourselves is all we need. Well that's it for this installment of Brad H's Perspective. I hope it was able to touch someone. Keep in mind that my blog posts are a challenge to myself as well. I'm looking to grow and become a better person. Hopefully during that process, I'm able inspire others as well. I hope to see you all in the next installment. Till then, I hope everyone has a great week ahead. Peace, love, and blessings to all.


  1. Right on, Bradrick!!! Wonderfully written and expressed! Great food for thought!

  2. Brad I was amazed your insight and wisdom is astonishing and yes this touched me . Your words are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing:)

  3. I feel criticized by other but not due to physical looks. LOL. I don't brush my hair and I don't care. Haha. I agree that we should all start by being comfortable with ourselves. Nice post, Brad.