The Importance Of Maintaining Boundaries In Your Relationships.

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We all have people that are a part of our lives that we consider ourselves to be close to. These relationships can range from anything from a parent to a close friend. There are so many different and unique ways that a relationship can be defined as being. When we feel especially close to another person and vice versa when it comes to another person feeling close to us, there is a level of connection that is deeper than with most. For example, when you have someone in your life that you consider to be your best friend, you are more apt to share with this person things that you likely would not share with your other friends. Because you feel a deeper level of trust with the person that you consider to be your best friend, you are more willing to open more of who you are to this person. Again, this kind of relationship isn't only limited to a best friend. The same may apply to a partner or spouse as well. I personally feel that the relationships that we maintain with others are the backbone of what makes us who we are as individuals, and I truly see it as one of life's wonderful aspects. However, there can also be instances in our lives where despite having a close relationship with another person, there are boundaries that are needed to be put up. From my perspective, knowing and establishing those boundaries are of critical importance as to whether or not a relationship with survive and thrive. 

Hello, hello once again folks! This is your man Brad H., and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! This is a space that I use to express my thoughts on a topic that I think would be helpful towards us becoming better people in our lives. Thank you in advance to those of you that are joining me for another week. So for my soapbox this week, I'm going to sound like a broken record and give my thoughts on the Coronavirus outbreak that has taken place in the NFL. Those of you that are football fans have probably heard about the Steelers/Titans game that was cancelled due to players from the Titans team testing positive. Then today we found out that Patriots QB Cam Newton has tested positive, which has led to the postponement of their game with the Chiefs that was due to happen tomorrow. Though I'm happy that we are getting to experience sports in the midst of this pandemic that we're in, I was iffy about the NFL coming back for this exact reason. I really hope that the season is able to carry on through this unprecedented time we're in, but if this week's news is any indication of the future, we may see a cancellation of the season happen. Hopefully everyone stays safe, and we are able to continue to enjoy some form of normalcy during this time. Well that is my soapbox for this week, so lets get into this week's theme of maintaining boundaries in our relationships. 

So we're going to set this week's topic off by getting into what are boundaries when it comes to the people we're close to? Now this is something that can be purely subjective, and I want you all to keep in mind that I'm only giving my own personal perspective on how I see this. Now what is the definition of the word "boundary"? The definition I found via Google states that it is "a limit of a subject or sphere of activity." Now how does this correlate when it comes to how close we may be to a person? From my own perspective, I view it as a person not being inclined to reveal things to a person regardless of how close you may be. As stated with the definition of what a boundary is, there has to be a limit or cap on how involved a person is in your life. One of the biggest problems that I've noticed in regards to boundaries is that there are many people that feel that because you're close with someone that they're inclined to involve you in what's going on in their life. The thing to always remember is that you have very little ownership over another person, so no one is obligated to involve you if they would rather not. Now of course there are going to be times where they do involve you, but that doesn't mean that they're obligated to do so. I know some people may not like to hear that, but that is just the way it is, and you have to respect it when it comes to other people. 

Now that we've established a general sense of what the definition of what boundaries are in the context of our relationships with others, I want to use this section to address the best way to maintain boundaries. I believe that it is pretty straightforward, yet it is something that can be a struggle for many of us. From my perspective, the best way to maintain boundaries in our relationships is to not be overbearing when it comes to the people we're close to. As I touched on in the last paragraph, there are a lot of people that feel entitled when it comes to people they're close with. If you are someone that feels entitled to know everything that is going on with a person, regardless of what your relationship with them is, you have to work on remedying that. You have to be able and willing to give people both the time and space to open up when they're ready to do so. One of the things I've learned throughout my life is that you'll get much farther with a person that you don't constantly press. Again, I know that being overbearing can be tough because when you feel a certain level of closeness with another person, you feel as if they are an extension of you. While there may be some truth to that, both you and the person you're close with are still individuals. This means that there may be aspects of them that you won't always agree with and vice versa. 

So we've defined what boundaries are when it comes to relationships with others, and we've talked about the best way to maintain boundaries. Now we're at the point where I give my perspective on the importance of maintaining boundaries within your relationships. The main reason from my perspective why it is important to maintain boundaries in relationships is because having boundaries gives relationships the air they need to survive. I've talked about this in previous topics, but when you push and press other people too hard, you risk pushing that person over the edge. The edge in this instance is potentially fracturing your bond with that person. This is something that we all should understand because we all have things about ourselves that we may not reveal to people; even the ones that we're the closest to. Having someone not involve you in every aspect of their life doesn't mean that they don't care about you and vice versa. We're all human, which means that we do need interaction with other humans. However, we're all individuals as well, which means that we all need space on occasion. Your relationships with others will always thrive more if there are levels of boundaries. The goal is to keep people in your life; not push them away. This is why I feel that it is of importance to maintain boundaries in your relationships. 

That's all that I got for you all this week everyone. I hope that you all enjoyed this topic, and I hope that there was something that you all could relate to. Thank you once again to those of you that stopped by for another one of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like I always end on, if any of you have any feedback or comments to contribute, please feel free to do so. If you're on Twitter and would like to connect with me, you can follow me @BradrickH. I hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend, and I'll see you all in the next one. Stay safe everyone and peace out!

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The Importance Of Accepting People For Who They Are.

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I believe that the good majority of us have a person or even a group of people in our lives that we would like to see change from. Maybe it's a family member that has a problem with opening up about their issues, and it frustrates you that they're not willing or able to do so. Maybe you have a friend that consistently makes bad choices when it comes to the type of people that choose to date. These are a couple of examples, but the idea of change can pretty much apply to anyone or anything. Now from my own perspective, there are a couple of ways that the desire to see change in others can be viewed from. You can view it from your own perspective, or you can see it from the perspective of the person that you're hoping to see change from. So what do we mean by this, you may wonder? When you look at it from the perspective the other person, you're hoping that they change for their own good. However, when you see it from your own personal perspective, you're hoping that they change for your own reasons. Now there isn't necessarily anything wrong with either way of viewing this, but when you want people to change for your own personal reasons, you're trying to shape a person to be who you want them to be for your own benefit. This is a form of not accepting people for who they are, and it is important to to aim to not being this type of person. 

What's good everybody? This is Brad H. coming through once again to bring you all another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here for another week of bringing a topic that I have been pondering on as of late. The aim is to use that topic to hopefully bring us all some wisdom and inspiration to help us to progress in our lives. Hope all has been good and well with you all since the last topic that I wrote about. I brought up in the last topic how hectic things has been as of late from Hurricane Laura. Though things are not entirely back to normal as of yet, they are definitely moving in the right direction towards progression. We've had quite a bit of doom and gloom during this year, but I know that all my fellow sports fans out there were extremely happy about the NFL returning. There were quite a few headlines that we could bring up after week 1, but I want to talk about Tom Brady's debut with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. Brady had a pretty brutal day with a couple of interceptions thrown, which ultimately contributed to the Bucs losing to the Saints. Of course being in his 40's now, people are already wondering if he is washed up. I believe it is something to wonder, but I also think it is too early to question. I mean there wasn't any preseason this year, so it may take all of the teams a few weeks to get their chemistry down. I'm not a Bucs fan or anything, but the Brady potentially being over the hill headline was one of the biggest from the first week. We shall see if Brady is still elite as the the weeks go on. I just know that I'm glad to see football back. Now that I've gotten on my soapbox for a bit, lets go ahead and talk about the theme of the week; the importance of accepting people for who they are. 

Since this week's topic deals with why it is important to accept people for the way they are, I think it is important to use what was discussed in the opening as a starting point. I briefly touched on in the opening how much of this topic deals with two different perspectives. Those perspectives being your own perspective vs. the perspective of the person that you may be having a hard time accepting. Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to see someone you care for change for the better. That's not where we're going with this week's topic. I believe that there is a difference when it comes to wanting to see someone change for the better vs. wanting to see someone change because you may not like aspects of their personality. For example, if you have a friend that is addicted to drugs and their addiction is hindering their life, you're gonna wanna see them change. However, if you have a friend that is quiet and not much of a peoples person, yet you want to see them open up more for your own reasons, this is what I would consider to be the wrong kind of change to expect from that friend. Now there isn't anything wrong with pushing that friend to go out of their comfort zone more, but if it's not in that friend's nature to be that kind of person, expecting them to be someone they're not is wrong. 

Now from my perspective, and I'm sure that most people will agree with me on this, there are a couple of reactions that a person may get from trying to change someone. The first reaction is one of conformity. This is where the person that you want to see change makes an attempt to go along with what you're trying to do. The second reaction is more of a resistance, which is obviously where they don't conform to your whims of change. I want to focus on the conformity aspect. Now lets say you are trying to get a person to change for you, and they happen to try and conform to you. If you're expecting them to be someone that they're not, how long do you think that they'll be able to go along with it before going back to who they truly are? Like it or not, the old saying that you cannot teach an old dog new tricks is a fact. Most people are who they truly are at their core, and the only change that will often happen is the one that make for themselves; not others. Either way whether there is conformity or resistance, you likely won't get the end result that you desire when it comes to changing others. Furthermore, both of these can lead to friction in a relationship, which can ultimately derail everything. Then what? You've probably lost someone that you truly care for because you wouldn't allow them to be themselves. 

So we've arrived at the the point of this week's topic where we sum it all and bring it to a close. Why exactly is it of importance for us to accept people for who they are? From my perspective and besides the obvious that we've already addressed, overloading yourself with what others can be an added burden to your life. There are people in this world that really become entrenched so much in others lives that it affects their mental health. We should be striving to not be like this, but we should also be striving to be tolerant of others. We all have friends and family members that we may not agree with their lifestyles, and there are people that we're close to that more than likely feel the same way about us. You don't want people dictating you and telling you how to live, right? The same logic applies when it comes to others as well. You don't want to add an extra strain to your life because you can't accept others, and you certainly do not want to fall out with someone because you may have controlling tendencies. Again, there is a difference in wanting to intervene when you see trouble vs. pushing for change in part due to your own personal gain. Accept people for who they are, and you'll come to realize how much more your relationships with others will thrive.  

Well that about sums up what I have to say this week, so I'm going to go ahead and sign off for now. Thank you once again to those of you that came by. I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be taken away from this. If any of you have anything that you'd like to contribute to this topic, please feel free to do so in the comment section. Also, if you're on Twitter and would like to connect with me, you can find me at the handle @BradrickH. This has been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope you all have a great week ahead, and I'll see you all on the next topic. Peace!

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Why Excessive Neediness Is Counterproductive.

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Regardless of how independent or strong that a person is or may claim to be, there is no denying the fact that we all need other people at various times throughout our lives. We as human-beings are relational beings, and the idea of navigating through life without help from others is something that I would think is nearly impossible. Now there is a famous saying that we've all heard throughout our lives that pretty much aligns with the idea that much of life is about having balance. The famous quote that I'm referring to that we've all heard says that "too much of anything is bad for you." Yep, that is the quote folks, and I know that you all have probably heard it before. Anything that is done in excess can pretty much be bad for our lives if not managed properly. I'm sure that there are many people that would argue that this doesn't apply when it comes to needing others, and I get that point since we need other at various points of life. However, I believe that just as with anything else in life, you can be too needy when it comes to the people in your life. People that are overly clingy often times think that they are helping themselves by being this way, but I believe that excessive neediness can be counterproductive to what you're trying to accomplish. 

What's up everybody? This is Brad H. back one again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back on here to bring my perspective on a topic that has been on my mind as of late in hopes that it can serve as some inspiration for us all. Thank you to those of you that are joining me. This is the soapbox section where I talk about something that isn't related to the topic at hand. This week I'm going to get a bit personal with you all. If you are a frequent reader of this blog, you may have noticed that I didn't post last week when I was supposed to. I have schedule of posting every other week, and last week as my week to do so. Unfortunately I had to evacuate for Hurricane Laura that struck the Gulf Coast last week. Since being back home, there has been power outages happening in my area, as well as other things that have needed attending. I just want to apologize to those of you that are accustomed to be posting when I normally do. I have truly felt bad about it because in the past four years I have yet to miss a scheduled post. Times like this are a reminder of how unpredictable life can be, and that there are sometimes when more pressing matters have to take precedence. At any rate, I thank those of you that have checked up on me via Twitter. Hopefully now there can be some semblance of normalcy going forward. So now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets go ahead and talk about why neediness can be counterproductive. 

Now before we get more deeper into this week's topic, I want to start off by letting it be known that I'm in no way aiming to shame or demean anyone that is excessively needy. Like I stated in the opening of this topic, we are all needy people to an extent, and there are some people in this world that truly have to rely on others because they have no other choice. The people that I'm seeking to encourage with topic are those that may be needy when situations may not always necessarily call for it. For example, we all know that this world has people that are disabled or elderly. People that may fit in this category may understandably be excessively needy. On the flip side, we have people that may make a conscious choice to be needy in order to manipulate others for their own personal benefit. These type of people are the ones that may have an extreme fear of losing someone that they care for to the point where they become overly clingy. Now people that are needy don't always do it for reasons of manipulation. Some people just cling to people and have a deep fear of losing them. Though they may mean well by being this way, being like this over a long period of time can lead to problems within your relationships?  

Now I brought up in the opening how too much of anything can be bad, right? It is entirely possible that a person can love or care too much for someone else. Picture this scenario here. Imagine that you have a friendship with someone that always relies on you when they are having an issue. It isn't a friendship where they need you occasionally, but every single time something is going on with them, they're looking for you. You can be the most patient and understanding person in the world, but someone like this can being to wear you down when it becomes a constant thing. Now the person that is constantly needing you may feel like you are all they have, and that may even be true depending on the circumstances that surround this particular friend. However, there will likely come a time where you may not be able to be there for that friend, and depending on how this particular friend reacts to that instance, it can have a negative strain on that friendship. Though we may not always like to admit to it, there often times comes a point where people get fed up. 

We're now at the point of this week's topic of getting to the grit of why excessive neediness can be counterproductive. As I alluded to earlier in the topic, being needy and clingy are symptoms of a fear of losing someone or something. It isn't wise to live this way, especially when you consider that we have little control over whether or not a person will always be in our lives. More importantly to consider is the fact that sometimes people get fed up when they feel that a person is being overly needy towards them. This can in some instances make the person you're being needy towards rebel against you due to feeling smothered. So in essence, the idea of thinking that neediness is a way of showing that you care is counterproductive because doing this excessively can lead to you losing what you're afraid to lose anyway. As I touched on several times throughout this topic, we have to have balance in our relationships with others. You have to give people space and learn how to figure out some things on your own at times. Again, we're all needy people at times, and that is quite normal. Just try to keep it to a minimum and you're able to, and most importantly remember that balance is the key. 

Well that is about it for this week's topic on why I believe that excessive neediness is a counterproductive practice. I hope that I was able to bring a perspective that everyone that reads this is able to relate to. If any of you have any comments or feedback that you'd like to add to this, feel free to do so in the comment section. If you're on Twitter and would like to connect, you can find me at the handle @BradrickH. This has been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' brought to you by Brad H. Thank you once again to those of you that checked out this week's topic. I'll see you all on the next topic. Have a great week ahead and peace out!

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Remember What You Are Fighting For.

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There was what I think was a very underrated film that came out in the year 2008 titled "Never Back Down". This was an action flick that was pretty much made during the beginning of the MMA buzz that was popular during that time period. There is a memorable quote from that movie that was made by a character named Jean Roqua. The quote was directed towards the main character in the movie and goes: "It's not just you, everyone has their fight." Now of course this was a movie about combat, so the context of what Roqua meant differs in the type of fighting that we're talking about in the context of the topic for this week. However, what I do love about this quote is that despite it being used towards the aspect of combat when it comes to the movie, it can also be applied to all of us in our daily lives. Every single one of us is in some form of a fight on a daily basis. Some people are fighting to literally stay alive on a day-to-day basis. There are others that may be fighting to conquer some type of addiction in their lives. Right now, there are people fighting with the task of coming up with the proper way to get back to some type of normalcy in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic that our world is in. You see, there are various forms and iterations when it comes to fighting in this life. Furthermore, every single fight that a person undertakes in has to have a reason for going to battle. Often times the reasons as to why we fight daily are what drives us to keep on going. For this reason, it is of great importance to always remember what you are fighting for. 

Hello once again everyone! This is Brad H. back again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back to give my perspective on a topic that I think would be helpful towards us moving forward in our lives. Thank you to those of you that are tuning in again. So for my soapbox this week, I'm going to talk about the unusual NBA bubble that those of us that are basketball fans have been watching for the last couple of weeks. We saw an exciting game this evening between Portland and Memphis that determined the 8th and final playoff spot in the Western Conference. Portland was victorious in this game, so they will be taking on the Lakers in the first round. I'm not going to get into my picks on who I think are going to win this week, but I want to say that I have been impressed with how the NBA has navigated through the pandemic in order to attempt to finish their season. After two weeks into the season restart, there have been zero Covid-19 cases. Now of course that could change at any moment, but I give the NBA so much props for how well they've done. It just proves that life can still have some sense of normalcy if there is a plan of action. Both the NBA and NHL bubble formats have proved to be effective so far, and hopefully other organizations (not just sports) take heed. That's pretty much all I have to say about that, so kudos to the NBA. Hopefully the upcoming playoff games will be as interesting as the bubble has been so far. So with that being said, lets go ahead and talk about the importance of remembering what you are fighting for. 

Now I talked in the opening about the various ways that can define what it means to be "fighting" for something. The primary theme of this week's topic when it comes to the idea of fighting will mainly deal with accomplishing a specific goal, or a several goals at a time. Now when it comes to accomplishing a particular goal, I think that is something that is up to an individual to decide for themselves. The reason I state this is because I realize that there are many people that view goals in a more carnal mentality. I understand that most people relate the accomplishing of goals to academics and financial related matters, but I also believe that anything that will require a level of commitment towards achieving can be a goal. I also get that not everyone that reads this post will think of the pursuit of a goal as a fight, and those that may think of this topic in that light are well within their right to feel that way. I just personally for myself view it as a fight, and it is no so much a fight with other people, but rather a fight within yourself. One of the main things that led to me to want to discuss this topic is what we would call the "why factor". Anyone that is in the pursuit of something more times than not won't just do it for the sake of doing it, right? There has to be a reason for why their doing it, and this is where the "why factor" comes into play. 

The "why factor" is very crucial when it comes to setting a particular goal for yourself. Often times in order for a person to even want to attempt something, there has to be some kind of motivation to do it. I believe that the motivation that is required to move towards a goal is what the "why factor" is all about. The "why factor" can include various forms of motivation, and this is why it is important for an individual to figure out their why. So for example, when we think of a solider that joins their country's military, there can be so many reasons as to why he or she does this. Maybe they want to fight to protect their country, or maybe they want to challenge themselves. It could be a combiation of both. If you consider someone that may be an addict when it comes to their vices, maybe their spouse and kids are their why for wanting to get their life under control. There are so many examples that we can use, but one thing that must always be considered is that most goals that require an extended amount of time to complete will eventually wear you down to the point where you're ready to quit. Sometimes all it takes to keep from quitting on something or someone is being mindful of what you're fighting for. So we have established how fighting can relate to a variety of circumstances. 

We've talked about the "why factor" and it relates to motivation. We have also talked about how a person can reach the point of wanting to quit if they've been fighting for an extended amount of time. So why is it of importance for a person to remember what they're fighting for? From my perspective, you have to have something or someone to keep you in the fight. One of the lessons that I've throughout my life is that the majority of why a person aims to do anything will often come from something outside of themselves. It will usually come from people that you care for in your life. We all have people in our lives that we don't want to fail or letdown. These are the people that you have to always be mindful of when you're aiming to reach something. Most of the fights that we encounter in our lives will be bigger than ourselves. Now that's not to say that you can't or shouldn't fight for yourself. Of course there are going to be fights in your where it all comes down to you and doing what is best for you. Even during these situations, you have to still have a why for wanting keep on fighting. So with all that being said, search within yourself and find your why. Also, remember to keep on fighting, and always keep in mind what you are fighting for. 

So that about does it for this week's topic everyone. I hope that I was able to present the importance of remembering what you're fighting for in a way that made sense for anyone that read. I also want to thank everyone that stopped by to read another topic on 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I really do appreciate every single one of you that has. As always, if any of you have any comments or feedback to contribute, please do so in the comment section. If you are on Twitter and would like to connect with me, you can find me @BradrickH. I'm signing off for now, so I hope you all are having a great weekend so far. I also hope that you all have an even better week ahead. Take care everyone, and I'll get up with you all on the next topic. Peace out! 

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Why It Is Of Even More Importance To Remain Humble During These Days.

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Whew! I think that most of us can admit that the year 2020 has been a year of adjustment. I would go so far and say that the world has truly endured more in this short amount of time than we normally have to deal with in an entire year. What we have to consider even more is that we're only a little over halfway through this year, which makes me wonder what else is going to happen that makes us have to adjust. I'm one of those people that believe in general that we as humans are adaptable when it comes to change. Of course it's not always easy, and there are some of us out here in the world that struggle with change. I've been thinking a lot as of late about the state of affairs in this world. One of the biggest conclusions that I've come to in regards to the standing of the world today is that this is one of the few periods that I can remember where people are on the same accord. The current pandemic that we're in is something that is affecting everyone on some level or another. It isn't like one of those events that happen in a certain area and only affects a certain group of people. This is a situation that has forced everyone to pretty much have to make adjustments to their way of living. Another thing that I have been considering is how humility is a character trait that so many of us are lacking in. There are various reasons why I feel that way, and I will get into that later on in this topic. Because this is one of those few times in our lifetime that the world has to pretty much follow a single plan to fight against this pandemic that we're in, I believe that these times call for us to maintain a sense of humility.

Hey, what's going on once more good people? This is your boy Brad H. back in the mix for another week of an installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here to hopefully bring another topic that can serve as some inspiration for us during these times we're in. I hope that everyone has been taking good care of yourselves and staying safe since the last topic. So for my topic of interest for my soapbox this week, I'm going to continue with the theme of sports. About a month ago on my soapbox section I brought up sports and how they are being handled during the pandemic that we're currently in. As most of you are aware of, major league baseball started their shortened season last week. Those of you that are baseball fans right along with me know how long we've waited to see the sport back despite the season being shorter than normal. Well there have already been players that have been diagnosed with the coronavirus, and we weren't even a full week into the season before it happened. Now I believe that for in order for things in our society to function as normal as possible under the circumstances that we're in, there has to be a plan of action that protects the players. So far it seems that the NBA and NHL are the only two leagues that have come up with a reasonable plan to protect their brand to the best of their abilities. That does not appear to be the case with the MLB, nor the NFL at the moment. I know I may sound like a broken record at this point by repeating this, but as much as we may love sports, public health crises such as the one we're in now should come first. I really hope that no other baseball players test positive for the virus and we're able to see this unique season play out. However, with what the MLB is putting out in regards to safety, it is hard for me to be positive about it. Now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets talk about the importance of remaining humble during these days.

So as with nearly every topic that can be viewed in various ways, there is not a single way to define what it means to be humble. In addressing this topic, I'm only giving my own personal perspective of what I believe it means to be a humble person. There really isn't a right or wrong way to define this, so look at it as something as you would like to define for yourself. That being said, I think that most of us have a general idea of the qualities that entail a level of humility. Now when I personally think of what it means to be a humble individual, the immediate thought that comes my mind is "normal". Why do I think of the word "natural", you may wonder? The reason I think of this is because I personally believe that humility is something that should come natural to us. Now for some it may come natural, but at some point or another they may lose sight of that. Despite that, humility is something that should be inherently in us considering that none of us are special to the point where none of us have to die someday. I'm not implying that no one isn't special because of a talent or gift you may have. Everyone is special and unique in their own way when it comes to life in general. I'm not diminishing that at all. I'm simply saying that we are all made of flesh and bones, and we all will eventually have to physically leave this world someday.

Now I brought up in the opening how this is one of the few times that I can recall in my lifetime where the world is pretty much on one accord. Although most countries have opened back up since the pandemic began to spread so rapidly throughout the many corners of this planet, nearly every single country that exists has had to have some form of lock down or quarantine happen. Because of these out-of-the-ordinary circumstances that the virus has forced us into, there are certain luxuries that we're accustomed to having that have been taken away. It is almost a reminder of the fact that we have very little control, or at least not as much control as we may think. Also, when you think of people that are used to spending a lot of money and doing things like traveling, it's kinda hard to really do those things when there are so many restrictions. When you think of things like this on a deeper level, you come to realize that regardless of economic status and things of that nature do not really matter as much as we'd like to think. Now there may be some that disagree with me on this, and that is totally okay. I'm just giving my own perspective on how I see things during the state of this world now.

So we have ultimately arrived at the reason why it is of importance for us to remain humble during these trying times we're in. There are a variety of reasons as to why a person may not have a sense of humility about them. What I do know is that we have lost a lot of people this year. The pandemic has played a big part in this happening. I also know that none of us have any total control of what is going on in regards to how this virus affects us. Sure the the average person that contracts the virus is going to be okay, but think about all of the people so far that didn't make it through. The reason why it is so important for us to remain humble in these days is because this is a period of life that brings so much uncertainty. Life without the pandemic going on is uncertain, but when you take something like what's going on now and add it to an already tough and stressful way of living, it creates a situation where you really don't know what's going to happen daily. Regardless of who you are or what you may have, there are some things in life that you just can't control. I believe that in order to maintain and cope in this life, you have to have a humble spirit and know that no one is above what's happening. I believe that we are truly in a world that is transitoning. Those that adapt along with the changes are going to be the ones that give themselves the best opportunity to survive.

Well that is the topic for this week everyone! Thank you once again to those of you that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that this was a topic that all of you was able to relate to. I also hope that I was able to present it in a way that was understandable. If any of you have anything to contribute to this topic, please feel free to do so in the comment section. If you're on Twitter and would like to connect, you can follow me @BradrickH. Well I'm going to sign off for now, so you all take care and be safe out there. Also remember to stay humble and appreciate everyday that you're alive during these times we're in. You all have a great week ahead, and I'll see you all on the next topic. Peace out!

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The Importance Of Finding The Life Formula That Works For You.

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The good majority of us have heard of "formulas" as far back as our time as youths going to grade school. If you were someone that went to college at sometime or another, you more than likely have worked with formulas on some level as well. There are various uses of the word formula, and the most likely use of it has to do with math and chemistry. I'd like to think that those are the more well known uses, but there is another definition of formula that can be applied when it comes to how we go about our lives. The definition of formula in regards to this week's topic is the following: "a method, statement, or procedure for achieving something, especially reconciling different aims or positions." Now there could be a variety of ways that this definition is interpreted. However, the key statement in that definition that stands out to me most is "procedure for achieving something." I believe that this is so important because we live in a world that often tends to box us into doing things the same way. We're all expected to use the way that other people have previously done things in order for us to reach our own level of success. Just because a certain way works for one person doesn't always mean that it will work for others. This is one of the reasons why I believe it is of importance to find the formula of life that works for you as an individual.

What's good once again folks? This is Brad H. back in the mix once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! This is a platform where I give my perspective on a topic that has crossed my mind as of late. I take that topic and try to use it as a way to help keep us motivated in this game of life. Thank you in advance to those of you that have read this far. So now is my soapbox section where I briefly address something that doesn't have to do with the main topic for the week. I'm sure by now that many of you heard of the tragic ending that happened with a so called "Covid" party that took place in San Antonio, Texas. A 30 year old man died from the virus after attending this party. This was a party that was apparently an attempt to prove that the virus was a hoax. I realize that wearing masks are an inconvenience, but think of the healthcare workers that have to wear them everyday for 8 to 12 hours. If you happen to get sick and need to be hospitalized, these are the people that have to take care of you. They are already overworked during this crisis, so why are we making it harder for them? I know it sucks, but please just wear a mask when you go out. Also, please don't be one of these people that think the virus is a hoax and you have to find out the hard way that it's not. Please be safe everyone, and don't tempt fate. Alright, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets get into the theme of the week on the importance of finding the formula that works best for you.

One of the main points of interest that has frequently been mentioned on this blog is the fact that we're all unique individuals. That is something that I strongly believe in. I think that most of us can agree that this is a fact, but for whatever reasons that I personally can't understand, there are some people that consistently go against this. You may wonder why I feel this way when it comes to this topic. How many times in your life have you had someone else try and get you to think the way that they do? I'm sure that it has been a countless amount of times for most of you. I'll go even further and ask how many times have you had someone try and get you to do exactly what they have done in order to achieve something? Sounds familiar doesn't it? We live in a world that knows that we're all different in how we handle our approach to life as individuals, yet we consistently try and get others to do things the exact way that someone else has done. From my personal perspective, that doesn't seem like a good standard for individuality, and I personally think that this can be a huge hindrance to the growth of another person.

Now before we go in the summation of the importance of finding the formula of life that works for you as an individual, I want to give a few examples of what we're referring to when we mention the formula. I spoke earlier on how so many people follow the same formula that others have in an attempt to find their own success. So say that we have two individuals that are athletes that play on the same basketball team. One of the players is a early sleeper/early riser. This is a player that goes to bed early and wakes up early. He finds that this way of going about being prepared suits him best. Now lets say the other player is someone that stays up late and wakes up late. However, this player spends the late night looking at film in order to prepare for the game. He finds that sleeping late on game days gives him less time stress over the game. Now most people would likely say that the early riser has the best formula for success. However, lets say that the second player is the one that averages the most points per game. Would the second player average more points if he were similar to player one? Would player one be a better player if he adopted player two's formula? There is absolutely no way of knowing, but I use this example to show that everyone has a different way of going about life that makes them tick.

So we're now at the point of summing up the importance of finding the life formula that works for you. To put it simply and straightforward, following the formula of others may not be the formula for you personally. When we think of math formulas for example, each one is individually tailored to accomplish a specific result. I believe that the same goes for us has human-beings. Also, keep in mind that forcing yourself to adopt a formula that isn't necessarily tailored for your life can lead to a lot of regret. I know and understand that we live in a society that thrives off of pleasing others, and there are ironically some adults in this world that still will go out of their way to make others happy. I also realize that there are going to be times when you may have to concede to the whims of society. However, we have to focus on having the formula that works for us as individuals. Before we close, I want to also stress the importance of not allowing others to shame you for not having a formula that most others are using. People cannot live your life for you, and at the end of the day you are going to be the one looking at your life in the mirror every morning. So lets try not to get caught up in following the formula of everyone else. Find a way of going about your life that works for you and stick with that.

So that's what I got for you all this week. I'm going to go ahead and close this thing out. I would like to once again thank everyone that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, if you all appreciated this or have any comments to contribute, please feel free to do that in the comment box. If you're on Twitter and would like to connect, please hit me up at the handle @BradrickH. There are definitely a lot of wild things happening in 2020 that we're not used to experiencing. I just want to encourage everyone to do whatever you have to in order to keep your mind right during these uncertain times. I hope you all have a great week ahead, and I'll see you all in the next topic. Peace out and be safe, everyone!

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Why It Is Of Importance To Always Be At Your Strongest.

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I believe that we all can admit that it is a little known fact that we as human-beings often partake in self deprecating actions on occasion. We would be lying to ourselves if we said otherwise. Now when we think of actions that could be seem as being self deprecating, what actions and activities does this include? There are a variety of actions that could be seen in this manner from my own perspective. A good portion of what could be seen as self deprecation all comes down to the individual and their own personal vices. Now another thing that we can also admit is that there are various reasons as to why we find ourselves engaging in habits that are self deprecating. We will get into that later on in the topic. Furthermore, not only does self deprecation come down to the individual and what we're partaking in, but each activity that could be viewed as self deprecating has a different effect on different people. Basically engaging in self deprecating behaviors is bad period, but there are behaviors that are worse than others. This is something else that we will be touching on throughout this topic. Though there are many variances that can have an effect when it comes to self deprecating behaviors, the one thing that nearly all of them have is common is that they weaken us. During these trying times that we're facing right now, it is crucial for us to be operating on a higher frequency than normal. This is one of the reasons why it is of importance for us to always attempt to be at our strongest.

Hello once again my good people! This is your boy Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here for another week to hopefully provide some inspiration that can hopefully be beneficial towards our lives. I hope that all has been well and good for you all lately, and I want to thank those of you that are reading this. So for my soapbox this week, I'm going to give my opinion on the whole mask vs. no mask debate that is going on amidst the Covid-19 pandemic that we're still in. As most of you have likely seen on the news the last week or two, the cases are beginning to ramp up in certain states. The state of Texas, which is where I'm from is seeing a major uptick along with California, Arizona and Florida. Now there has been a lot of talk about whether wearing masks when people go out works or not. I'm not here to tell anyone what to do, but with these cases rising and clearly getting out of hand, I am an advocate of mask wearing. I see so many people online and on the news that complain about the masks. I just think to myself that it's just a mask. I know it is an inconvenience, but unless you work somewhere where you have to wear it all day long, it's really not that big portion of your life. If it can help slow down this spread and not overload the healthcare system, I'm all for it. Again, I'm not here to tell anyone what to do. I just hope everyone takes this serious and look out for one another. If that means wearing a mask when you go to places, then that's what it is. Now that I've given my spill on that, lets get into this week's theme of the importance of always being at your strongest.

Now when I personally think of what it means for an individual to be at their strongest, I think of someone that is operating at their peak performance. This means different things for different people, which ultimately means that it is up to us an individuals to define what it means for us to be at our strongest. Now I mentioned in the opening how we often engage in habits that could be seen as being self deprecating. Before I get to the point that I am trying to make with this topic, I think it is important for us to first define what it means to be self deprecating towards oneself. The definition of self deprecating is to belittle or undervalue oneself. This basically mean partaking in things that are beneath you. Now as with the theme of operating at your strongest, determining whether something is beneath you as an individual is something that it up to the individual. There may be certain things that I personally feel are beneath me, but that doesn't mean that another person can feel that way about those things when it comes to their own life. Again, it is totally up to you as individual to determine this. Now I cannot speak for anyone else, but I think that it's pretty standard to think that doing things that are beneath you will not equal to a person being at their strongest. I believe it is nearly impossible to be strong when you're doing thinks that weaken you in any way, shape or form.

So when it comes to the idea of a person being at their strongest, what exactly does this entail? There are a variety of ways that this could be defined, and I want to point out again that it is totally subjective. However, for me personally when I think of being at my strongest, I think of the word preparation. Now I do realize that it isn't feasible to believe that a person can always be prepared for everything, but we also know and understand that there are ways to prepare yourself to the best of your ability. We do this by engaging in good habits that help us to improve. On the other side of the spectrum, we can also do things that can weaken us. These are the bad habits that can often lead to a lack of preparation. For example, imagine a student that has a big test coming up at the end of the semester. If this student makes a commitment of studying an hour a day for the two weeks leading up to the test, you'd think they would be more likely to do well right? Now if the same student chooses to play video games or hang out with their friends instead of studying, and they wait till a couple of days before to cram for the test, the odds of them not doing as well will likely increase. Now I know in this example that the preparation was for something that was upcoming, but the fact remains that whether something happens on the spur of the moment or upcoming, good habits will increase your chances of being prepared for what is to come.

So all of this ultimately brings us to the importance of always being at your strongest. From my own personal perspective, a person that is at their strongest are much more prepared for the unpredictability of life. As I have brought up already on this topic, there is never a way to truly be prepared for something that you're not expecting. I think most of us that live in the states can relate to this because most of us was not expecting this pandemic to hit us in the way that it has. Just think of the people that already prepare on a daily basis for any sort of crisis. These are the people that are more likely to be able to handle something that happens unexpectedly. On the other hand if you're stuck in a weaker state of mind, the chances of you not being able to endure unexpected circumstances is more likely. I personally believe that the best way to be at your strongest is to practice good habits that bring value to your life. Of course none of us can always be at our strongest, but we can always do our best to be there more often than not. We should all be doing doing our due diligence to make ourselves both physically and mentally strong as we can be. We cannot do this if we're stuck in a cycle of self deprecation by having bad habits that constantly weaken us. From my perspective, this is why I feel that it is of importance for us to be at our strongest as much as possible.

That pretty much sums up this week's topic folks, so it is time for me to go ahead and sign off. Thank you once again to those of you that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that I was able to bring this topic in a way that everyone can relate to. I also hope that you all found some type of value in this topic. If you have any comments or feedback to give, please feel free to do so. You can also connect with me on Twitter at the handle, @BradrickH. Well I hope you all enjoy this holiday weekend. I'll see you all on the next topic. Till next time, please stay safe and be smart when it comes to this pandemic. Take care everyone, and peace out!

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