The Importance Of Finding A Degree Of Mental Maturity For Your Life.

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It could just be me that feels this way, but from my perspective on life, it seems like it has become extremely difficult for people to relate to one another. Maybe it has something to do with the idea that we as a people have grown so cold and unsympathetic towards one another. Regardless of the what the reasons may be for how people have decayed into this way of thinking and treating one another, the harsh fact is that it likely won't stop happening. I bring this up to say that I can remember when there was an era of my life where this way of thinking and behaving did not exist. Even if it was happening, it didn't appear to be as prevalent as it currently is. People in general have always disagreed on a variety of things, but more often than not; generally speaking, a common ground could be reached. One of my theories as to why I believe we as people have lost this type of understanding deals with the word "maturity". Now in bringing up the word maturity I'm in no way saying that everybody that cannot relate to others is immature. However, I believe that as with basically everything that exists within this realm of life, there are levels to maturity. One form of maturity that I believe could be the reason for the growing lack of understanding one another stems from a lack of what I could deem as mental maturity. I believe this plays an importance role in life, hence why we're going to be covering the importance of finding a level of mental maturity for our lives. 

 

Hey, what is going on folks? This is Brad H. checking back in once again, and I would like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back for another installment to give my perspective on a topic that I think would be beneficial for us all! I hope all has been going well for everyone since the last topic. Well we have had the MLB World Series taking place since the last topic. I am currently watching the game four between the Houston Astros and Atlanta Braves, and I just watched the Astros go down 3-1. Now if you have been reading on my blog for an extended period of time, you probably know that I am an Astros fan. I can remember bringing up their victory back in 2017 on here. I was going to use my soapbox this week to give my prediction on how the series would go, but it may be pretty pointless for me to do that now. I'm not one to say that being down 3-1 is a guarantee that it is over, but it's not looking good at all for the Astros right now. Hopefully they can win game five and keep this series alive, but it's clear that the Braves have the momentum. I guess I will say that the series goes six games with the Braves winning it all. We shall see in the coming days, right? Well I guess I'll go ahead and transition into this week's topic on the importance of finding a degree of mental maturity for our lives. 

Now before I get in more detailed on what I deem as mental maturity, I need to start off this topic by letting you all know that mental maturity is subjective to what you as an individual feel it is. I am solely giving my own perspective on what I feel mental maturity is for my own life. Also, I am in no way trying to judge or criticize the maturity level of anyone else. As with the title of this topic, it's all about finding what works for your own life. Now I spoke earlier on how difficult it has become for people in general to relate to one another. There are so many reasons as to why this may be the reality of life. However, I personally believe that one of the key reasons for this deals with how self-absorbed we as a people are now. A good majority of people are so consumed with themselves to the point where they feel as if everything should evolve around them. Now as I have pointed out many times in previous topics, it is totally normal and healthy for all of us to think of ourselves first. The thing is that some people become so self-absorbed to degree where it hinders their mental maturity. The primary theme here is that being too self-absorbed can lead to a person losing sight of the fact that life doesn't evolve solely around them; hence hindering your mental maturity. 

One may wonder how does one inhibit their growth mentally from being so self-absorbed with themselves? I believe from my own perspective that one of the best signs of growth within a person is when a person is able to look beyond themselves. What I mean by this is when a person is able to realize that while the way you see the world matters and is important, it's not the only way of viewing things. Any example of this is when a person realizes that it is okay to consider the perspective of others before acting, or reacting. We've all been young in our lives before, right? I think that most of us can agree that we often acted quickly in certain situations, and that quick acting led to us making mistakes. Well for most people as they age, they do not always act so quickly because you realize the importance of the potential consequences of your actions. Unfortunately, there are people in this world that never get rid of the quick acting and reacting mentality. It follows them into their adulthood, and while it sucks to say, some people will leave this world with that mentality. The way that all of this relates to mental maturity is that when you find yourself dealing with others that you may not always share the same point of view, you're not quick to act and react. I personally believe this is what allows us to relate to others, which ultimately correlates with being mentally mature. 

So I have given my definition on what I believe mental maturity is, and provided a general sense of what I believe this entails. So why is it important for us to find a degree of mental maturity? Again, I want to state that this isn't something that has to be viewed from a vacuum. Your degree of mental maturity doesn't need to be to everybody else standards, but it is important to find it for yourself. Ultimately, it is important to find your level of mental maturity to help yourself become a person that can relate to others. Now you may be saying to yourself, why is it important for me to relate to others if I'm aiming to be mentally mature for myself? In the end this all goes back to you as a person because being able to understand and relate to others is something this world has lost sight of. When you develop and learn to have a degree of mental maturity, it makes it easier for other people to want to understand and relate to you. It helps you to stand out in a positive way and become a better person in the viewpoint of others. All of these things are positive things that help us to feel good about ourselves, and I believe that we can all attest that life is so much better when you view yourself favorably. While it is of importance to develop your mind to become mentally mature for others, the self benefits are even more beneficial to your life. So with all of that being said, focus on finding your degree of mental maturity, and if you feel like you're already there, keep on doing what you're doing!

That is pretty much all I got for this week's topic on mental maturity. I think all of you that came through to read another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that you all found this topic helpful, and that it can serve as some inspiration for your life. If any of you have any comments or feedback that you'd like to contribute, please do so in the comment section. If you are on Twitter and would like to connect with me, please hit me up on the handle @BradrickH. Well I hope you all have an enjoyable rest of the weekend. For those of you that celebrate Halloween, I hope you all enjoy the day tomorrow. I'll leave by saying Happy, Happy Birthday to my mom on October 31st. May you enjoy your day mother, and may you all have a great week ahead. I'll see you all on the next topic!

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You May Not Be Ready Yet For The Things You Want Most.

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Every single one of us have things that we want in this life. Some of the things that we desire the most can be viewed as being superficial, and they're often confused for being needs rather than wants. Then on the flip side, there are things in this life that we want that are essential to maintaining ourselves. This viewpoint varies from each person, and whatever your outlook may be on what things are considered wants and needs in life, we as people will always have a burning desire to chase after the things we want most. While I'm a firm believer in passionately going after the things that we want most in life, I also believe that the right timing and circumstances play an important factor when it comes to getting the things we want. Even if we obtain or achieve some of the things that we want most, it likely won't last or be as effective if the timing isn't right. All of this brings me to the topic that I want to talk about for a bit today. While there may be things that you're pursuing and desiring in this life, you may not always be ready to have those things just yet.

What's going on my people? Happy Friday to you all, and welcome again to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'. I hope this reaches everyone in good health and spirits, as well as a positive state of mind. The year 2016 is still young but man, doesn't it feel like the month of February is flying on by? I know we have to keep in mind that February is a short month, however, it doesn't change the fact that this year seems to be speeding forward. At any rate, I hope everyone is doing well. So what's been up since I last wrote? For one, the Super Bowl has come and gone. I know that many people thought it was a boring game, but I myself personally enjoyed it. It was a very defensive game, which didn't make for a lot of excitement. However, I'm one of those people that can appreciate a good smash mouth game where the quarterbacks struggle from time to time. I was off with my pick of the Carolina Panthers winning, but hey that's why they play the game. Any team can rise up on any given Sunday right? I also want to send congrats to the Denver Broncos. Also, if any of you read the last post before this one, I mentioned that I will be doing a 5K race next Saturday (Feb. 27). The race is the Kinsel Ford 5K, which is actually the first race that I ever ran in. This will be my fifth time participating, and I'm definitely pumped! This paragraph is getting a bit too long, so I'll definitely be talking more about the post race in the next upcoming post. Alright then peeps, lets get into this topic of why you may not be ready for the things you want the most.

So we're back again for the fourth blog entry for 2016. Like I always mention in my posts, a person's individual viewpoint on a topic will always vary. My goal here isn't to focus on what is right or wrong, but rather using this platform as an outlet to express my opinions. Through that process of expressing my opinions, the hope is to leave anyone that reads these entries with something to think about and consider more. Now as I stated earlier, we all have things that we want in our lives, and we often confuse wants for being needs. Since I believe that needs and wants are two different things, I'm going to focus more on the wants compared to the needs in this post. Again, the things that those of you reading this may view as needs and wants may be different from my perspective on it. For me personally when I think of wants, I think of things like winning the lotto, getting that attractive girl (or guy if you're a female) that you desire, or owning a nice house, etc. In my opinion, these are examples of things that we may want, but they're not things that we always necessarily need. What else do these things have in common you may wonder? Besides potentially being costly to have, they all require having a great deal of maturity to properly maintain.

For most of us, especially when we're young adults, we often desire to more or less keep up with the Jones's. In some of those cases, we often look at others such as our peers and what they have or are achieving, and then we use that as a standard for our own lives. Going back to the wants and needs sub topic, I honestly feel that viewing our peers successes and achievements for our own lives is one of the reasons why many of us confuse wants and needs. If you're one of these people, and we all are at times, you're pretty much living vicariously through others. Just because maybe your classmate, family member or friend has achieved certain things, it doesn't always mean that you're mentally ready for those things as well. See, most people desire things that are almost counterproductive to their own lives. When you look at other people obtaining certain things that you may desire and see that these people are apparently enjoying having these things, it can give you the illusion you that need these things as well. Again, a person's level of readiness and maturity varies, so while it may appear to you that you're ready to take on certain things in life, that may not be the case if you're basing your preparedness off of someone else's life. This isn't always the wise way of thinking in my opinion.

Here's something to consider, and this is probably one of the best examples that I can think of at the moment. We all see these people on television winning these gigantic lottery prizes right? I mean lets face it, most people desire to obtain that kind of money right? We're all familiar with someone, or have certain family members that constantly say they want to win the lottery right? You may kinda laugh to yourself when you hear certain people say this because you know deep down that although they may want to have that kind of money, winning that type of money would probably be more damaging to their lives than good. As a matter of fact, I watched a video not to long ago that highlighted several people that had won the lotto and ultimately ended up losing all the money they won. In the worst case scenarios in the video, some of these people ended up losing their lives. It's like I mentioned earlier, it's easy to be on the outside looking in on a situation and believe that should be you right now. The question to consider is would having all the things that you want at this moment end up bringing you more happiness, or more misery if you aren't mentally and emotionally mature enough to deal with it? Something to think about right?

From my perspective, there's nothing wrong with wanting or desiring things, but we have to be aware of what we're truly getting ourselves into. As I stated previously, it all comes down to timing in my opinion. I believe that through effort, patience, persistence and consistency, we can achieve almost anything that we want. Now the key word that I want you to pay attention to is patience. See, I believe that when we're truly ready for all the things we desire the most, they will come to us naturally through the process of life. Think of it like a flowing river of water that goes naturally with its current, or a puzzle that you've been working on where the pieces naturally fall into place. If you're not mentally ready for the things that you desire, it's similar to someone throwing a stone into the river and interrupting its flow. Life can already be challenging enough as it is, so putting added stress and pressure on ourselves is like going into a battle without a strategy. I'm in no way trying to discourage or demotivate anyone from achieving the things you desire most. However, what I am trying to do here is remind you all that timing is important. There's a reason why most of us look back at certain past scenarios in our lives and say; "I wish I knew back then what I know now." Taking on too much when you're not mentally ready can ultimately lead to bad decisions that can affect your life for years to come.

Well I believe I got the point I was attempting to make across, so I'm going to wrap this up. Thank you all once again for checking out another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like always, the hope is that some meaning and understanding is gained from this. Even if there isn't, I still appreciate those of you that stop by. I hope you all have a great and enjoyable weekend ahead. Stay tempered and stay positive my people. See you all in the next one. Peace!

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