The Difficulty Of Doing What Is Best For You In Today's World.

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One of the things that I can truly say that I miss from my days of growing up is how people embraced what it meant to be unique. It just appeared to me that people accepted and embraced what it meant to be an individual. Now I'm speaking solely on my own perspective of what I saw, and I am positive there were exceptions to this back then. However, just generally speaking, it just seemed to me that people understood the importance of individuality. I'm not sure exactly when I noticed the shift, but at some point I believe that there was a shift away from individuality. Again, I am speaking strictly from a general perspective, but I do believe that most of us will admit that being unique has become rare over the past few decades. In today's world, it seems that everyone wants to be accepted by everyone despite how unrealistic of a thing that is. We have developed into a society of people pleasing to the point where it feels like everyone is doing whatever they think is the popular thing. How many people can truly say that they are happy and content with being that way? Generally speaking, so many people in this world are way too concerned with opinions of others, and it is causing many to neglect doing what is in their own best interest. All of this coincides with how difficult it has become doing what is best for you in today's society. 

 

Yo! What's up everybody? It is your boy Brad H. back to once again present you all with another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here to give my perspective on a topic that will hopefully serve as motivation for us to keep progressing in our lives. I hope that you all have been doing well since the last topic, and I hope that this week's topic will be of value to you all! So for my soapbox this week, I wanna get into some basketball talk real quick. I just finished watching the NBA All Star Saturday night festivities. Boy, talk about a huge disappointment! The Slam Dunk Contest this year was so horrible in my opinion. While I was watching the competition, all I could think about was how much I miss the 90s and even the early to late 2000s when it came to this competition. At least during those times they had some of the best players in the league competing. Michael Jordan, Dominique Wilkins, Julius Erving, Kobe Bryant are a few names that have competed and won. Nothing against the competitors they had this year, but most of these players are guys that only hardcore fans know about. I hope they can find a way to made All Star Saturday night more appealing like it once was. Hopefully the All Star game tomorrow is good, but I really don't know. Congrats to Obi Toppin on winning this year, as well as Karl-Anthony Towns winning the Three Point Shootout! Well now that I've addressed that, lets go ahead and get into the difficulty of doing what is best for us in today's society.

Now before we get more in depth with this week's topic at hand, I want to begin by stating that I do realize that a topic of this nature will not apply to everyone. I do understand that not everyone struggles with doing what they perceive is best for them. This week's topic is mainly geared towards those that have problems of this nature. It also will hopefully serve as continued inspiration for those that are strong enough to not get caught up in the opinions of others. Now I spoke earlier of how from a solely general perspective, society at large seemed to value individualism. Again, I'm not suggesting that the concept of embracing what it means to be an individual is completely gone. There are many areas, as well as people in life that accept people for whom they are regardless of how unique it may be to society. However, we would be lying to ourselves if we were to say that we've become a world filled with followers over leaders. What I mean by this is that so many of us are too willing to follow and do what others think we should do, or we are too caught up in wanting to do what we perceive is the popular things. This is a followers mentality from my perspective. People that are leaders tend to do what they want regardless of what is the "in" thing, and they certainly do not get caught up in the opinions of others. As I alluded to earlier, this was generally lacking in past decades. 

So now that I have given an overview of how I feel that individualism has changed over the years, lets get into how it relates to today for so many people. From my perspective, and because we live in a world that lacks individuality, there are too many of us that aren't doing the things that are best for us. What I mean by saying this is that too many of us are neglecting the things that are best for our lives because we are worried about the opinions of others. We have developed into a society where so many people think first about how something will look to others, rather than thinking about how it will benefit us first and foremost. When you couple that with the increasing pressure from society to do what everyone else is doing to fit in, then you have a recipe for a society filled with people that are unfulfilled. As an example, think of a person that constantly posts selfies of themselves online constantly. I'm sure that most of us know people like this if we aren't doing it ourselves. Again, I'm not here to judge, but just trying to set up an example of where I'm going with this. For the people that are always posting these pictures, do you really believe that they would be doing it unless they were worried about what others think? It's a total form of self validation from others, and though it may be something I personally do not do always, I can understand how it has become so relevant in today's world.  

I hope that by this point I have established how difficult that it can be for a person to do what's best for them in today's world. What is left to ponder on is why has our society developed into a place where there are people just following what others do? I don't believe that there is a single answer to this question due to the fact that there are so many variables that go into the state of our world today. What I do know is that probably now more than ever is the time where we as a people have to fight. What I mean by this is that we have to be vigilant in making sure that we are living as individuals and not as a collective from a worldly standpoint. It almost reminds me of when we were kids and there was constant peer pressure to do what we thought would make our peers like us more. We're in a society where there are adults acting this way, which is why we have to live and govern ourselves accordingly. I really didn't want to use this topic as a way to find solutions as to why doing what is best can be so difficult. The main goal that I have with this topic is to let those of you that may be facing this in your lives know that you are not alone. I'm sure that it is difficult for many in this world, but we have to hold the line and continue to do the things that bring us joy in this life. Sometimes doing those things may go against the grain, but finding true happiness sometimes means that you're willing to do the opposite of the majority.  

Well that about wraps it up for this week's topic on the difficulty of doing what is best for you in today's world. I hope that you all found this topic to be encouraging and beneficial to your life. This has once again been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' brought to you by Brad H. I want to thank those of you that stopped by once again. I appreciate all the support and feedback. Please feel free to leave any feedback on this particular post in the comment box, and I will be sure to read what you all think. I'm signing off for now, so I hope you all have a great rest of your weekend and an even better week ahead. I'll see you all on the next topic! Take care folks and peace out!

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The Importance Of Viewing Anger In The Proper Context Of Your Life.

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Anger is one of the many emotions that we all experience on occasion. It is probably one of the biggest aspects of life that we all have in common. There are some people out here in the world that claim that they never get angry, but that is something that I personally find very hard to believe. The only way that I can see that being even somewhat feasible is if you're a person that just never goes around other people at all. Even if that were plausible, there would still be something in a person's life that will bring out the emotion of anger. Heck, just stubbing your toe against a table is enough to make a person angry from the sheer pain. I believe that one of the more overlooked aspects of life when it comes to the emotion of anger is the degree and intensity of the emotion. There are various levels when it comes to being angry. There are going to be some things that make us more angry than other things. Furthermore, there are going to things that mildly make us angry, while there can be circumstances that bring our anger to the point of full blown rage. Often times the emotion of anger it and of itself shouldn't be at the forefront of how we react. It is normally the reasons and how we react with our anger is what matters most. Life can be a complex puzzle of emotions, and that also applies when it comes to anger. This is why I feel that it is of importance for us to develop the ability to view anger in the proper context within our lives.

Hey, how's it going everyone? This is Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am here once again to bring my perspective on a topic that I think would be helpful for us all. I think that most of us can agree that we definitely need some extra motivation during these trying times that we're in. I hope all has been good for you all since the last topic. So for this week's soapbox section, I'm going to be giving my perspective on the news this week of how the upcoming NFL season could potentially be cancelled. Now as of right now, nothing has been officially announced in regards to the season being cancelled. However, Dr. Anthony Fauci, who we all know of by now due to the pandemic recently made comments stating that the season could be in jeopardy if players aren't in a bubble and tested daily. Also, news came out of a few players from the Dallas Cowboys and Houston Texans tested positive for the virus. The most notable name being Ezekiel Elliot, running back for the Cowboys. Of course this news set the internet on fire, and understandably so. The majority of us love football, right? I read a lot of comments where people were basically going at Dr. Fauci for implying that there may not be any football this season. Now I think I've said this before in previous topics, but as much as I love sports myself, I would rather not see them happen if it puts the players in jeopardy. I'll never tell anyone else what to do or think, but I think safety is more important right now with what we're dealing with globally. I just hope we as a people can keep things in the proper perspective when it comes to the things that are a priority first. Remember that sports will always be here, and they are going to come back eventually. That's pretty much my opinion on this topic, so lets go ahead and talk more about the importance of viewing anger in the proper context.

Now when the average person typically thinks of anger and how it affects us in our lives, we usually associate it with negativity. I will gladly admit that I am one of those people that thinks this way for the most part. There have been many occasions in my life where getting angry has had a negative effect on my life. I'm sure that all of you can relate to this in your own personal life as well. For me personally, one of the biggest things with anger is that like with the many other emotions that we experience in life, it doesn't take much to get us to that point. I could experience anger right this moment with this topic that I am typing out. If I were to lose the work that I've done it on because my computer shutdown unexpectedly before I was able to save my work, I could easily find myself being angry about that. Someone looking at you the wrong way in public could quickly trigger an angry emotion in you. It doesn't take much at all, right? Now another aspect of anger is the loss of self control. How many of us have gotten angry and said something that we more than likely would not say if we hadn't gotten angry? Depending on what it is that has made a person angry, along with the degree of the anger at hand plays a large factor in how anger affects our lives.

Now although I talked about how most people, including myself see anger in general as a negative thing, I will also admit that not all anger is bad anger. We are all aware that anger is inescapable and that it is something we all deal with, but there are going to be moments in our live where it works to our favor. Again, much of this comes down to what I brought up in the intro, which is the degree of the emotions. We all know that there are some things that make us more angry than other things, right? I may not get overly anger if one of my favorite sports teams lose a game, compared to someone else that gets angry to the point where their entire day is ruined. This is where the individual aspect comes into play when it comes to anger. I brought up how not all anger is bad anger, but much of that comes down to how a person chooses to channel their anger. Can you take your anger and channel it towards something positive, or do you lose control when you're anger to the point where you're raging out? I believe that a person that is able to properly channel their anger is a person that has more control over their anger. Again, anger is going to always be a part of our lives, but it all comes down to how we handle it. This ultimately brings us to the main theme of this topic, which is the importance of viewing anger in the proper context of our lives.

So why is it of importance for us to view anger in the proper context when it comes to our individual lives? As with the majority of emotions in life, it ultimately all comes down to individuality. Though every single one of us experiences anger in our lives from time to time, the ways in which we deal with our anger is what differs. This is why I mentioned earlier that not all anger is bad anger. Some people are able to take their anger and channel it towards positive actions, while the opposite applies to those that aren't able to do so. It is practically impossible to come up with a single formula on how to deal with anger. Rather than coming up with a standard formula for dealing with anger, it is important for us as individuals to determine what place that anger have in our lives. This is why I think it is important for us to view anger in a context that isn't so standard. Since most people view anger as a huge negative, you're going to have a lot of people that will say things to imply that people shouldn't get angry. That is a watered down viewpoint from my perspective. It is all about finding what role you want anger to potentially play in life. I'll end this by saying that whatever role a person chooses to deal with their anger, just try and do it in a healthy way that helps towards benefiting your life.

That is what I have for you all this week, so it is time for me to sign off for now. Thank you all once again to those of you that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that this topic was one that has been beneficial to some of you. As always, if you enjoyed this or have any comments to contribute, please feel free to do so in the comment box. If any of you are on Twitter and would like to connect, please follow me at the handle @BradrickH. I hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend. Please be safe out there, and don't let your guard down when it comes to this pandemic. It is still very much alive and active. I'll see you all on the next topic. Take care everyone, and peace out!

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