Hey, what is going on with everyone out there in internet land? This the Brad H. back on the mic once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back for another week of wisdom, inspiration and insight that will hopefully keep us motivated and moving forward. I hope that all has been good and well for you all as of late. Things with the weather have been pretty wild as of late haven't they? There have been some super hot temperatures all across the planet, even in places that aren't normally accustomed to that kind of heat. Hope you are beating this heat to the best of your ability wherever you are. Before I go into my topic for the week, I want to quickly address the latest big trade that happened in the NBA. By now, I'm sure most of you heard about the trade between the San Antonio Spurs and Toronto Raptors involving the Spurs sending Kawhi Leonard and Danny Green to the Raptors for Demar DeRozan and Jakob Poetl. Now those of you that are frequent visitors here know that I'm a Spurs fan, so this one definitely hits close home for me. I really don't like this trade to be honest. I was hoping that there was a way that Kawhi could be talked into resigning with the Spurs, but that bridge was more burned than I had imagined. I just don't really see where this trade benefits either team. I mean everyone knows that Kawhi wants to play in Los Angeles, so he probably isn't too happy about going that far up north. DeRozan was clearly upset with the trade because he was apparently told that he wouldn't be traded. I mean the guy personifies Toronto basketball, so it sucks for him that they shipped him off. I wish the Spurs could have acquired some younger players if they had no other choice than to deal Kawhi. I feel as if they have been fighting the rebuilding process since Tim Duncan has retired. They'll be competitive this upcoming season, but definitely not winning a title. As for the Raptors, it's a big help to them if Kawhi is fully healthy and gets on board with this team and decides to play. That remains to be seen this point, but I guess we'll have to see what happens in a few months. I'll probably be addressing some more thought on the NBA in coming posts, but NFL is right around the corner also. I'm sure a lot of you are excited about that also. Well I've talked on sports enough, so I'm going to transition into the topic for the week of not holding people back.
Before I go more into the topic at hand for the week, I'm going to go ahead and give the regular disclaimer that I state on every topic. Being that we're all unique and have our own individual thoughts and ideas, it is relatively unrealistic to think that we as people are always going to agree. The mission here isn't to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but rather to give some insight that inspires deeper thought. My wish is that my words can serve as a catalyst to help others see things in a manner in which they may not have. It's a fact that the old adage that when you know better, you do better is true, so I'm hoping that I can have that effect on someone out there. Of course I don't expect everyone to agree with me, and some of what I say may be obvious to many of you. Regardless of whatever your position or stance may be on this topic or anything else that I've covered on here, I truly appreciate those of you that have come through to read my thoughts. I know that I mention that quite a bit, but I honestly feel like it can't be mentioned enough. Many of the comments and feedback that I've received throughout the time that I've been doing this have been truly humbling. It has reassured me that there are still decent people in this world that want to make a difference in a positive way. I can't express my gratitude enough for that, so thank you once again to you all. So how did I arrive at this particular topic that I'm going to tackle for this installment? Just like with many of the topics that I cover, I have to give some credit to a family member and a discussion that I had with them recently. Beyond just the experience of that discussion, this is one of those topics that crosses my mind on occasion. I truly believe that this is something that everyone has to go through at some point in our lives. The goal that I have with this is to hopefully reach and get those that unintentionally may be holding others back from growing to see that there is another way to look at potentially letting go.
Now when I talk about not holding others back, this doesn't always necessarily mean stopping someone in a literal sense. This is one of those topics that can apply to many aspects of our lives, and there are so many different ways that it could be broken down into. For the sake of the points that I'm aiming to make, I want to discuss how we sometimes hold people back when we may not even be trying to. Now I want you to imagine that a big opportunity has come up for you that could allow you to experience some things that you may not have before. Lets just say that this opportunity will allow you the the chance to travel out of the country and experience things that you never thought you would have before. You are excited about this, so you go and tell everyone that you're close to about this upcoming change that will be happening in your life. The majority of the people that you inform of this are happy for you, and they feel like you should go for it. However, upon breaking this news, there is maybe a few people that you're close to that aren't entirely enthusiastic about this. These are people that love and care about you, yet they have their own reasons as to why you shouldn't go for this opportunity. In a situation such as this, often one of the biggest reasons why a loved one wouldn't want you to go is because they're afraid of losing you. They're probably used to seeing you on a regular basis, and they have become both physically and emotionally attached to you being around. Of course you care about this person also, but would you really want the pressure of choosing between them and your own happiness hanging over you? From my perspective, I highly doubt that anyone wants to deal with a situation like this, but this is a reality that so many people have to face at some point in their lives. As I touched on earlier, we all have our own selfish reasons for why we try and hold others back. However, if you really think about it for a sec, do you believe that attempting to hold others back is a battle that you're going to win?
Something that I've learned in this life is that when a person is given a choice between you and their own happiness, they're often going to choose their happiness. A person choosing their happiness over you doesn't mean that they do not love or care about you; it just means that you even putting them in a situation where they have to even choose shows that you're more concerned with yourself over them. Quite frankly, I personally feel that though while it may be admirable at times, it is also wrong, and this is something that I've had to ponder on in my own life the last couple of years. I can recall when my younger cousin with whom I'm very close to joining the Navy last year. He and I are and have always been very close, and I've been around him for all of his still young life. Naturally when he left for boot camp, I did feel a bit sadness about it as most of my family did. However, at the same time, he has to go and live his own life on his own terms. How would it look if I or other family members of his were discouraging him? Not a good look at all in my opinion. Not only is he now doing something that he enjoys, but he is meeting all kinds of people and having experiences that he otherwise may not have had. All of those factors bring me a ton of joy. Sure I wish I could talk to him more often and hang out with him more, but I'd rather see him living his life and being happy. We as a people often talk about how selfish people can be at times, and I do believe that is a valid criticism. Some people are and can be very selfish at times, but in this life if you want to find happiness, you have to be selfish at times. However, the important thing to take away from this is that while we do have to look out for our own self interests at times, doing this shouldn't come at the expense of others. You should always think of and put yourself first, but not if it keeps someone else from reaching their own full potential.
For those that this topic may apply to, especially when it comes from the aspect of possibly holding someone back, you have to stop regardless of how hard it may be. Again, it is natural to be concerned about others well-being when it comes to some of the decisions that they make for life lives. However, don't allow that to be a reason to discourage others from going after something they may want to do. If any of this applies to you, you have to learn how to shift your way of thinking. Instead of only looking at things from your own personal lens, think about the potential for happiness that whomever you're holding back could possibly gain for taking a risk. That person doing the things they enjoy should be something that brings you joy, especially if you play a positive role in that person's life's journey. Furthermore, often times when you're holding someone back, you're really and truly holding yourself back also. Depending on how close you are to the individual that you're concerned about, their journey also becomes your journey. The things that they may experience on their journey, whether for good or for bad, are experiences that they can share with you also This means that you have an opportunity to learn and grow through someone else. Not really a bad deal if you ask me. So to sum this all up, try not to hold others back. The same way that you have live(d) your life without wanting to have limitations should also be allowed for others as well. Try not to be overly concerned with your own self interests when it comes to others. We're only given one shot at this life, and I think that most of us that are 30+ can agree that this life passes quick as the years go on. The same way that we all want to live and enjoy life on our own terms is something that we have to allow for others. Don't hold people back, allow them to live and grown.
Well that is all I got for this week everyone. I hope that I want able to express myself in a way that made sense for those of you out there. My name is Bradrick H., and I'd like to thank everyone once again that stopped in for another installment of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I'm on the super late night tip this morning, so I'm going to go ahead and end this one pretty quickly. Had a lot going on yesterday, so I'm just now finishing this up at nearly 2:30 AM. Definitely a lot later than my usual posts, but I wanted to finish this up before I got off to sleep. If anyone has any comments or feedback, please leave those below. You can also follow me on Twitter @BradrickH. Alright I'm out, so I hope you all have a good week ahead. I'll be checking back in with you all soon. Till that time comes, take care and stay positive. Peace!
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