Why Some People Lack The Desire To Do What They Know Needs To Be Done.

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If it seems that I have brought up the topic of excuses on this platform quite a bit as of late, it is definitely by no accident. The theme of excuses is something that I've been pondering on quite a bit during this pandemic that we're currently in. There are many ways for excuses to be defined, and they apply to us all in many different ways. We all know or have encountered people that I like to refer to as "excuse makers". Okay, I know that isn't exactly a creative or eloquent way to describe people that make excuses, but we'll just roll with it for this topic. So what qualities entail the traits of an excuse maker? First off, before I go into what defines an excuse maker, I want to say that this applies to every single one of us at times. Whether we would like to admit it or not, we all make, or have made excuses in our lives. When I think of an excuse maker, I think of a person that has an excuse for nearly every single thing they cannot accomplish. In some ways you can think of these people as being argumentative. You say yes, and they are guaranteed to say no back. You come up with how certain things can be done, and they will come up with ways why it won't work. These are people that basically got a reason for everything. However, as I have pondered on excuses and how so many of us make them constantly, what I have come to realize is that excuses aren't the real issue; the lack of desire is what is.

What's going on once again good people? This is Brad H. back once again, and I would like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! For those of you that aren't already aware of what this blog entails, this is a platform where I give my perspective on a topic that I think can serve as a bit of inspiration for us all. I'd like to thank everyone that has stopped by to read what I have to say, and I hope you all have been doing well since the last writing. So this is my soapbox section where I talk about something besides the primary topic that I'll be addressing. What can we say about the year 2020 so far folks? It has truly been both a rough and unprecedented year so far. Not only are we having to endure the global pandemic that so many people have seemingly forgotten about since the country has reopened for the most part. We are still as a nation having to deal with unjust treatment by the police. I'm sure by now that all of you know about the death of George Floyd by the hand of police officers in Minneapolis nearly two weeks ago. The protests that have happened in the aftermath of Mr. Floyd's tragic death have been some of the likes that most of us have never seen before. I remember watching live coverage of the protests on CNN last Friday, and remember thinking to myself that what is going on in this country almost feels like a real life movie of the film "The Purge: Anarchy". With all the trying hardships that America and the world at large is facing, now more than ever is the time for us to come together. I don't know what it's going to take for us to do so, but I really do fear that bad things are on the horizon if we don't. My condolence go to the family of Mr. Floyd, as well as everyone else that have been unjustly killed. May all their souls rest in peace. Now lets go ahead and talk about why I think that it is a lack of desire that causes us not to do what needs to be done.

Every single one of us has certain goals and aspirations that we would like to obtain while we're within this world. Those goals will always differ and be unique when it comes down to us being individuals. Now there are many ways for a person to approach their goals, but one thing that we all realize is that the first step towards accomplishing something is to start. You can't finish a race if you don't even attempt to line up at the start line right? During the opening of the this week's topic, I addressed excuses and how they aren't the real issue when it comes to us attempting things. I think it all boils down to a person not having the heart, nor the desire to do what needs to be done. Now although I don't see excuses as being the real issue here, I will attest that they do play a big role. I believe that we have to put more of an emphasis on what exactly it is that causes us to make excuses in the first place. This is one of those topics that definitely can be viewed in a variety of ways, and I think that every single one of us can look at something in our own lives that we have used excuses for. Again, the primary emphasis is trying to find out what it is that causes us to use excuses.

Now before I get into an example of why I say some people lack the desire to do what needs to be done, I want to say that this topic is not intended to insult or demean anyone. Not everyone has the stomach or will to do certain things, and that is perfectly okay. We have to be mindful that not everyone views life in the same lens. More than anything, I would say that much of what I'm going to say in regards to the lack of desire applies more so the the excuse makers that I referred to earlier. In the opening I coined the term "excuse makers", and I mentioned how I view them as being argumentative. Now the reason I say this is because I view excuse makers as those that will argue other people down as to why they believe something can't be accomplished. We all know people that have said that they want to achieve something, but when you ask them about their progress towards what they're claiming they want to do, they have an excuse for why they are not accomplishing it. Then if you happen to give them advice or a different way towards how could potentially do it, they have a reason for that as well. Some things in life just can't be covered up by excuses. I say this because there are certain aspects of life that there are no excuses for coming up with.

There are various reasons as to why we lack the will and desire to do the things that need to be done. One of the biggest reasons that I can think of off the top of my head is fear. How many of us have been afraid to do something, but instead of being honest about being fearful, we come up with an excuse to hide that fear? We all have things that we want and need to do in our lives. Many of these things are things that we'd rather not do because they're hard. The thing is that in order to get anything accomplished in our lives, we have to get rid of the excuses and admit that we don't have the desire. I believe that when a person truly sets their mind to want to do something, there is often little than anything or anyone can do to stop them. If you're making excuses, you have to get down to the real reason why're you're making these excuses. However, the thing to realize also is that if there are excuses involved, then you probably aren't as serious about doing what needs to be done. Again, there isn't anything wrong with this, but the main thing is for us to be honest with ourselves. So to sum up this topic, the reason why some people lack the desire is because they really don't have the desire in the first place. It's always easier to cover things with excuses, but that mentality is one that won't get us anywhere from my perspective.

So that is my perspective on why some people lack the desire to do what needs to be done. I hope that I was able to bring this topic out in a manner that is understandable for you all. This has been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' brought to you by me, Brad H. If anyone has any comments or feedback to contribute, please feel free to do so in the comment section. You can also reach out to me on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. I thank you all once again for coming through, and I hope you all have a great week ahead. I know that there are some trying times that we're facing globally, but keep the faith that things can and will get better. I'll see you all on the next topic, and thank you all once again. Peace out everyone!

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Viewing Your Struggles As Experience For Down The Road (Banking Analogy).

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What is one of the biggest assets in this world that most, if not all people want to attain and have a comfortable amount of? If you guessed money, then you are absolutely correct, however, I'm sure that most of you already knew where I was going with that question anyway. Yes it is indeed true that we all need money to sustain ourselves, but one aspect of money that most people strive to do more of is save. People look to save money for all kinds of reasons. Maybe you're looking to save to take a trip, or you're trying to save for a big ticket purchase, etc. There are all kinds of things that people try to save for, but I'm willing to bet that the biggest reason why people aim to save money deals with emergencies. Like is unexpected, so it is always good to have money saved just in case you need it down the road. Now you may wonder why I'm starting off this week's topic talking about money. Well I'm far from a financial expert or guru, but what I do know is that life experiences can be similar to putting money into savings. The experiences that we go through in life can often help us down the road when it comes to future encounters. Every single one of us experience struggles and hardships from time to time, and instead of embracing them for what they are and using them for experience, we often complain about them. It is okay in my opinion to be discouraged by our struggles in life, however, I think it is time that we look to change our mindset a bit. Instead of seeing tough times as a bad thing, why not use them as experience to bank in the future?

Hey, how's it going people? This is Brad H. once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I hope that things have been going well for everyone as of late. I know that the planet has been dealing with some trying times as of late, but hopefully you all are maintaining wherever you are. As some of you may already be aware of, I'm here once again to give my perspective on a particular topic for the week that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to quickly give my opinion on something that I'm sure many of you are aware of; the protests that took place in the NFL last Sunday. Again, this is just my opinion, so I don't expect everyone to agree with me in regards to this. Now from what I've seen so far, the response to the protests by the NFL players and owners has been fairly positive. However, there has also been quite a bit of criticism as well. Now I'm not in the heads of the players that protested and spoke out against the president, but just from a solely generalized perspective, I don't personally feel that the players not standing for the American flag and national anthem means they are not patriotic or un-American. Part of being an American in my opinion means holding onto the values and principles that you believe in. Some of the greatest leaders that we've had in the history of our country had views that went against the grain, but still maintained respect for American culture. We have the freedom of speech here, but it feels like we only have freedom of speech for as long as it doesn't go against what the majority wants. It shouldn't like that in my opinion. Even if you disagree with the protesters, or someone that doesn't share the same beliefs as you do, those people have the right to peacefully protest if they choose to do so. That's pretty much what I wanted to say real quick in regards to that topic. Now it's time to move onto the real topic for the week that deals with using our struggles for experience.

Now that I've gotten all of that out of the way, I'd like to go ahead and give my weekly disclaimer before diving into the week's topic. We're all aware of the fact that we all have different views and opinions when it comes to life. The idea here is not to focus on what is deemed to be right or wrong, but rather to give some inspiration and hope to others that will aid in helping encourage us all to view topics in a manner that we not not have before. As always, any feedback or thoughts are welcome. I'm just one individual, and since there are various ways of viewing things, the feedback of others is something that I can learn from as well. Now onto how this week's topic came to be. I recall having a conversation with my sister about a week and a half ago, and I remember telling her something along the lines of how our struggles can help us in the future. Besides the dialogue of the discussion that we were having, I honestly have no idea where I came up with this. Then I got to thinking about how most people try to save money for later on down the road, and then the idea came together of tying the two together. I personally think this is a pretty good analogy to compare these two things to. Although saving money and struggles may be two different things, there is one main similarity they have; the ability to help alleviate the damage that may occur when emergencies strike. I want to stress again that these are just my own personal opinions, so there isn't any right or wrong. Hopefully some of you can identify with where I'm coming from.

One of the ideas that I've mentioned and tried to convey on many occasions in previous posts deals with the idea of we as people not seeing things clearly when we're facing struggles. Often times when we find ourselves in the middle of a stressful situation, we allow our emotions to overtake our ability to rationally see things. There are different degrees to this, and everyone different when it comes to this but from a general perspective, this is often the case. The reason I bring this is up is to show that most people only see the bad and darkness whenever things are going bad, which is totally understandable. But with that said, for everything that happens whether it is for good or for bad, there is always something that can be learned from it. I'm sure many of you have heard the famous quote by Nelson Mandela that goes; "I never lose, I either win or learn." Learning from an experience isn't always guaranteed, but it is something that can happen if you're willing to open your mind up to it. Now when we find ourselves in hardships, we often allow the negative that comes from it to cloud our minds to the point where the negative is the only thing we see. The ability or willingness to try and learn from the situation often gets thrown completely out of the window. In my opinion, this is exactly why we need to try and work on changing our mindsets. Is it easy? Absolutely not, but as with anything else in life, consistency and practice can help get us there.

Now I'm sure that some of you may not equate struggles with anything positive. However, if you work on changing your mindset to see that there is hope even in the darkness, the idea of changing can become a reality. Now in order for us to see our struggles as experience for down the road in life, we have to start looking at our lives as if it were a savings account. The same way that you acquire money and save it is the same mentality when it comes to the experiences we have in life. So in order for us to bank those experiences into our life savings, we have to be willing to not only endure the struggles in our lives, but also willing to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations that can help us to grow. As I mentioned earlier, it is not easy to see things this way in the midst of uncomfortable times. Now going back to the banking analogy, your money grows as you continue to deposit money into savings right? The same thing can apply when it comes to our struggles as well. From my perspective, when we endure our struggles and come through them, we not only come away with an added sense of confidence and pride from being willing to endure. We also gain knowledge and wisdom that we can use towards other things that may come our way in the future. Just like you put away money for a rainy day, the struggles and experiences that we go through can be deposited for future events as well. Again, it is all changing your mindset. That is something that I'm probably going to say on here till I'm blue in the face. It's all about the mindset folks.

The goal with this topic isn't necessarily to tell anyone that they should change their viewpoints. The main thing that I'm hoping for others to see is that everything that we go through that we see as being bad isn't always the case. Yes it is true that it can be very difficult to see the glass half full when you're going through things. However, you'll find that when you continue to stick with life and not give up on yourself when things are tough, you'll find that you'll be a better person for it in the future. Just like that bank account will grow with investing, your life will grow when you continue to look at those struggles like investments. I'm a firm believer that everything that we have been through already, as well as the things we are going through at this moment is just preparation for the future. Some may not feel that this is the case, but I do believe that our struggles can be seen in a different light when we open up our minds to change. Difficult, yes. Impossible, no. The quote for the week that I came across and I'm going to bring this to a close with comes courtesy of Napoleon Hill. It reads; "Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle". I think this quote reaffirms the idea that there is something positive that can come from the struggles that we have to endure.

Well that is all that I have for this week my people. Thank you all once again to those of you that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! As I always mention before signing off for the week, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. I hope again that some of you out there can relate. We have arrived at another weekend, so I hope that everyone enjoys themselves. There is a lot happening across the globe, and things are even more unsettling here in the states as of late. Despite all the negativity happening, we all have to be positive and resolute in becoming the best version of ourselves. Stick to the plan my people, and lets keep on pressing forward. I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best. Peace!

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