Disappointments Happen, But Moving Forward Is A Must.

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There are many harsh realities that come along with living life that many of us would prefer not to think of. This is something that I've dedicated an entire topic towards in a past post on this blog. I think that is further evidence of the scope that comes along with life's harsh realities. There are many aspects to the various realities of life that we have to accept. One of those is the aspect of disappointment. Disappointments are something that we all will experience throughout life. It doesn't matter what age you are, or where you are at in your life's journey, disappointments are always lurking around the corner. Though we all may realize and understand that disappointments are going to happen to us, we may not always necessarily have the best way of handling them. Due to the idea that disappointments are often the result of a letdown that happens in our lives, the reality is that many of us look to all the wrong methods in order to cope with them. No one is perfect, and there is no judgement on my end as to how a person deals with letdowns in their life. However, one thing that I know for sure is that regardless of how a person chooses to deal with the setbacks in their life, life must always carry on regardless. 

Welcome back everyone! This is your boy Brad H. once again, and I would like to welcome you all to the final edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' of 2020! I am here to hopefully provide some inspiration through a topic that I will be giving my perspective on. Well here we are folks! This year that I think we all can agree has been like no other is coming to an end real soon. Since this will be my last topic of this year, I figured that I would give some insight into why I wanted to address the importance of moving on from disappointments. We all have endured quite a lot this year with the whole Coronavirus pandemic that we're in. I've suffered some personal disappointments this year as well. Some of them I mentioned in topics throughout the year, while others I have kept to myself. I sure that all of you can attest to facing personal disappointments this year as well. It is for this reason that I figured this would be a good topic to close 2020 out on via this blog. I sincerely thank all of you once again that have been on this journey with me and reading my topics. I know the year has been tough, but lets try and end this year on as positive of a note as we can. Thank you all once again! Now lets do this for the final time in 2020!

Now the good majority of us by now know what it means to be disappointed. However, disappointment can come with many emotions depending on the individual that is feeling this way. Frustration and anger are two of the more well known emotions that go along with disappointment, but I would dare say that the biggest emotion that goes along with disappointment is the emotion of sadness. We can all recall instances of being a kid and asking our parents for something we wanted, only to hear that famous word, NO! When you didn't get your way back then, you probably cried or was sad for a little while. The emotions of disappointment tend to evolve as we get older. Think back to your teenage years when you wanted to go to a party or sleepover, and your parents told you no. You more than likely wouldn't cry behind this, but it would probably cause you to feel dejected about the response. During our adult years, we should be handling disappointments much better than we did in our youth days. However, this thought doesn't always apply to everyone. Even as adults, there are some of us that struggle with handling disappointment. 

One of the main things that I want to touch on when it comes to disappointments is the many forms that it comes in. There are countless amount of ways for a person to feel the emotion of disappointment, but I have narrowed this topic down to three main ways. We have outside circumstances, other people, and then ourselves. Now what do these three forms of disappointments mean, you may wonder? First off, we have circumstances that are outside of our control that may disappoint us. Secondly, we have other people that disappoint us. Finally, we tend to disappoint ourselves at times. Every single one of us will experience disappointments on all of these scopes at some point or another. When we think of the various forms that disappointment entails, it honestly isn't hard to conceive how disappointment is something we can experience frequently. Now we talked about how many of us do not necessarily handle disappointment in the best manner. Yes, we all will have setbacks in our lives that cause us to cry and wonder why we're having to experience these emotions. However, the worst thing that we can do is wallow during these times. We have to find a way to pick ourselves up and keep on moving forward.  

So how does one move forward from disappointments? From my own personal perspective, moving on from disappointments is something that all of us do naturally anyway. Just reference back to the examples that I gave earlier if you need proof of this. We've all had to move on from disappointments, and the fact that we're here now is evidence of this. However, what I would add to this is that we have to learn how to have more grace on ourselves. Many of us tend to be extremely hard on ourselves whenever we're disappointed. Learn how to accept that we're all human, which means we're allowed to deal with disappointments happening in life. More important than disappointments is learning to not allowing ourselves to become defeated by disappointments. Life is always moving regardless of what happens to us. This world won't ever stop spinning for one single person, so always being in a mindset of moving forward is a must. This is just some encouragement for all of us out there to keep progressing despite facing disappointments and setbacks. We have to keep on moving forward folks!

Well that about wraps up this final topic for the year 2020! I hope that you all found some meaning and understanding from this topic! If any of you have any comments or feedback that you would like to leave, please feel free to do so in the comment box. You can also connect with me on Twitter @BradrickH if you'd like. Again, I would like to thank you all for another year of reading 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I truly thank every single one of you that have supported me throughout this year. I hope you all have a wonder and Merry Christmas, and an even better start to 2021! See you all next year! Take care, and peace out!

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Don't dwell on things for too long.

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Hey what's up folks? This is your boy Brad H once again, and welcome to another edition of "Brad H's Perspective". As always, I hope all is good and well with everyone. Today is a Sunday, and I'm pretty excited. Tonight I'm participating in a fantasy football draft for one of the leagues that I'm participating in this year. Being a part of the fantasy drafts is a reminder for me that football is right around the corner. Like many others, I'm looking forward to the upcoming football season starting. Alright it's time to get into this weeks topic. Today's blog post is going to be another fairly brief and to the point post. It has to deal with dwelling on the things that happen in our lives.

Now we're all aware that life is like a roller coaster ride filled with many ups and downs. Life often includes many twists and turns that can affect us and how we live our lives. Most of ups, downs, twists, and turns are for the better. However, sometimes they're for the worst. As great and wonderful life is, there are always bad things hovering over us. There is no way around it. No matter who you are in this world, you're going to face problems and challenges at some point or another. Now I personally believe that we as a people worry ourselves more over the bad events that take place in our lives, rather than focusing on the good ones. I'm in no way saying this applies to everyone. There are some people in the world that are extremely positive, and hold their heads up regardless what is going on. I personally just see more instances of people pondering on the bad events that takes place. I personally believe this is one of the biggest mistakes that we can make. We can't allow ourselves to dwell on anything for too long.





The biggest problem with dwelling too long on anything, is it defeats us from progressing. Constantly thinking and pondering on the bad things that happen can lead to stagnation. It's totally fine to feel down about certain things that happen. That's what being a human-being is all about. We all have feelings, so there are always going to be things to occur that have an effect on us. Life is very unpredictable and can be full of disappointments. However, it's not about how you take the disappointments; it's about what you do next. We can choose to lay down and allow them to beat us down, or we can choose to take action. Are you going to let disappointments get you down to the point where you stay down, or are you going to react? Those are the choices that we all face.

Most people measure winning or losing on whether a person places first in a competition. Life itself is a competition that is full of winners and losers. My personal belief is that the only way a person can lose is if they choose to take themselves out of the game. As long as you're in the trenches trying to progress, you're a winner regardless if you're where you want to be or not. Everyday that we wake up is a new day to make things happen for ourselves. The main message that I'm trying to convey in this post is that we need to keep on moving and progressing. Lets not dwell on the bad things for too long. As I said in a previous blog post, we gotta keep it moving.

Well that's it for this weeks edition of "Brad H's Perspective". I hope anyone who read it enjoyed it. I'm bout to sign off for this time, but hopefully I'll be back in a few days or so with another topic. I hope that everyone has a great weekend ahead. Also shout out to all the students going back to school this week. I hope you all have a great school year. Till then, peace, love, and blessings to all. Brad H out!

Lets keep it moving!

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What's up people? It's ya man Brad H. coming back at you once again. Can you digg it? Yea I know you can. Hope everyone is doing well and keeping your heads up high. It's a sunny Sunday afternoon and I felt it was time for me to write about something that I've been thinking about heavily for the last week or so. I actually wanted to write on this subject earlier in the week, but I'm just now getting around to doing it. Hey better late than never right? Anyway, I want to talk about a phrase that I find myself using a lot these days. It's the phrase "Keep it moving". That's exactly what each of us needs to do in life, keep on moving forward. However, moving forward can sometimes be a daunting task for many of us. Often times certain things and circumstances from our past, and even sometimes in our present try to keep us from pressing forward. Regardless as to what we are dealing with in our lives, we can't allow them to deter us from going on.

So what are some of the things that hold us back from "keeping it moving"? Well like I mentioned before circumstances play a huge factor. No one individual is in the same situation or circumstances. Many times we feel like we are trapped in situations that we can't seem to find our way out of. It's not only limited to situations; people can sometimes play a factor as well. There are some people in this world that will do or say anything they can to bring us down. It seems like this world now brings way more negativity from people than positive energy. This can greatly affect our self-esteem, which in turn can keep us from moving forward. Now as bad as these things I mentioned are, they can all be overcome; that is only if we want to get through them. No hurdles or obstacles are too great to be beaten. We can only defeat them if we want. In order to "keep it moving", it all begins within ourselves.

The next time that something disappointing happens, lets make the effort to keep it moving. Fellas, next time you approach a woman that looks attractive to you and she doesn't seem very interested, keep it moving. The same thing goes for you ladies. If you know you're a good woman and a man doesn't appreciate you, keep it moving. Next time someone says something negative to you in order to beat you down, keep it moving. There is so much better out there for us, and we won't see the better if we allow the worse keep us down. I won't sit here and pretend like I'm an expert at this. Like everyone else I struggle with things also. However, I will admit that I've gotten better at keeping it moving. I don't let thing that used to beat me down get to me like they once did. However, there is always room for improvement.

Well that's it for this time peeps. I hope anyone who read this found a bit of inspiration. I also want to apologize for not keeping up with posting my ten hubs that I mentioned in my previous blog post. I'm still posting them, I just haven't been able to do it in the time span I originally mentioned. I'm also going to try to write on this blog at least once a week. I'm aiming for posting every Sunday like I did with this one. Hopefully, I will be able to stick with it, so we'll see how that goes. Well you all take care, stay up, and continue to keep it moving. Till next time peace, love, and blessings.