Anger, frustration, hate, bitterness; words and emotions that are rehashed over and over again, but these words tend to describe how a lot of people these days feel more often than not. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it's unnatural or not normal for us to become angry at times. I'll admit that being angry or frustrated at times is very normal, and you're sorely mistaken if you believe that there is no one person that gets mad from time to time. I'm one of those people that believes that some forms of anger are quite justified, while others aren't so much. I also believe that some people take their anger out on others unjustly, which can sometimes lead to damaged relationships. Then again, you can be one of those people that doesn't pay these people that seem to be angry a lot any attention. That's another option, one that I tend to prefer. Welcome to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'.
So we're back at it once again. For this week's posting, we'll be getting into the topic of anger and how the majority of people react to others that come at them in an angry manner. As I stated earlier, being and becoming angry from time to time is quite normal. However, I believe that some of us allow anger to consume us. Now lets bring up a question to think about just for a sec. How do the majority of people react whenever someone comes at them with an attitude, or you happen to come across someone that is being rude? If you're one of those people that believe that most people would get an attitude right back or reciprocate that rudeness back towards the person, then you're probably right. It's amazing how seemingly small altercations and arguments break out because people choose to fight fire with fire.
There are times where fighting fire with fire is okay, and sometimes that's the only option left. However, there are also times when you can diffuse that fire with water. You don't have to pay nor give any attention to people that are angry, bitter, etc. Sometimes just walking away and letting a person be is the best option. In fact, walking away is sometimes the best option left to possibly show a person that their way of handling people isn't always right. On many occasions when people unjustly direct their anger towards you, they're doing it because they either want attention from you, or they're trying to get a rise out of you. There are many reasons and whatever they may be, you don't have to always fight fire with fire. Just like the saying "there's more than one way to skin a cat", there's always different methods and techniques you can use to combat against others besides becoming angry and belligerent.
What does anger really do for us? Lets think about a few things in regards to anger and what it does for you. Anger normally equates to doing and saying reckless things to others that you may not even mean at the time. It can cloud your judgement in most cases, and can result in you doing something that you'll likely regret down the road. A lot of angry people tend to have health problems like high blood pressure, and they seem to stay stressed out about so many times. I don't know about you, but I don't see a lot of benefits from being angry all the time. I was once that guy that allowed my anger to control me at times when I was a bit younger. Now that I've learned just to let certain things and people go, I've found that I'm more at peace within. Anger and stress are not things that I want to dominate my life.
I'm going to go ahead and end this week's post, but I'm going to sum everything up by saying this. You don't have to pay any attention to people that take their problems out on you and others. You can always choose to walk and and not deal with or confront them. I see anger as a form of control and when you lowering yourself to others level, you're relinquishing control of your mind and emotions over to them. Focus on your training your mind on controlling your anger and reactions to others. Just like I heard in a movie once; "An angry mind is a narrow mind." Invest your frustrations and anger into things that can better you, and never ever give a person more control over your than they deserve.
Well that's it for this week's 'Brad H.'s Perspective' post. This post like the rest of my posts apply to me and me alone. Anything that I've written here is intended to be viewed as advice that you can either take or not. Whether you found it useful or not, I thank you for taking out the time to read. Alright I'm signing out, so everything take care, stay up, and keep on maintaining. See you in the next post.
Just an everyday guy sharing my thoughts on how I see the world, and hoping to inspire myself and others through those thoughts.
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Thursday, February 20, 2014
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Focus On Daily Goals, Rather Than Long Term Goals. (Marathon vs. Sprint Mentality).
November 15, 2013; the last time before now that I posted on this blog. Wow, it's now been exactly a two month hiatus that I've been on. As some of you may already know from previous entries, I'm not one to make excuses for my sporadic extended absences from time to time. However, there were several circumstances that led to me developing a lack of motivation to write anything for a few weeks. I don't want to get into too much detail, but I ended up losing a very close relative of mine a few days before Thanksgiving. We all know that it's never easy to deal with the loss of a loved one. It's one of those things that we all experience at sometime or another and no matter how many times we have to go through it, it's a feeling that we can never fully get used to. R.I.P. to my Aunt Gloria. You will forever be missed.
Although we're a little over 2 weeks into 2014, I want to begin by wishing everyone a Happy New Year! Because I literally haven't posted since 2013, I think it is fitting to start off the 2014 run of 'Brad H's. Perspective' by wishing everyone a happy and prosperous new year. Since we're still fresh into this brand new year, I think that the topic that I have planned comes at a good time. I think that this topic will apply to those of us that may have some goals set for this new year. I also hope that it resonates with those who make those New Years resolutions that often disappear after a month or two.
Anyone that knows me pretty well are aware that I'm not one to make New Years resolutions anymore. I'll admit that I've made them in past years like most other people when a new year rolled around. However, I made the decision to throw in the towel on them maybe 3 or 4 years ago. I just personally started to find them to be nothing but excuses for some of the things that I should be already doing year round on a consistent basis. Also, I found that the New Years resolution pep talks sounded good at the beginning of the year but as the months began to pass by, they began to become more and more irrelevant.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people being optimistic in regards to living to see a new year. For some reason or another, a brand new year can mentally gives us hope and a fresh outlook that we can change whatever wrongs that exist in our lives for the better. However, I personally believe it's more beneficial to concentrate on setting daily goals, rather than long term goals that may be more difficult to achieve. You're probably wondering to yourself; What is the difference? Well from my viewpoint, those daily goals that you set and accomplish are the ones that can help those long term goals to be reached the proper way.
Prime example; lets say that a person is aiming to lose weight for the new year, which is a goal that A LOT of people set for the new year. Now do you believe it would be more beneficial to lose weight the healthy way by dieting and exercising daily, or by partaking in poor dieting habits where you're probably not exercising, and starving yourself to get those pounds off? Both of these methods can lead to reaching the goal of losing weight, but focusing on losing weight daily will allow the weight to come off in a manner that is not detrimental to your long term health. One other thing to keep in mind when it comes to daily goal setting is that it helps in teaching us to become disciplined in life. Positive daily habits and consistency are the key, regardless of whatever our long terms plans may be.
Always try to keep in mind that life is a marathon rather than a sprint. Work towards those long term goals by focusing daily on whatever it is that you're trying to achieve. View your daily goals as pieces of a larger puzzle that you're planning on piecing together. We don't have to always rush and accomplish things overnight. Sometimes it's good to just take your time and pace yourself. Slow and steady wins the race.
Well that's all I have for this edition of 'Brad H's. Perspective'. I want to stress that what was discussed in this post applies to me, and that I'm not telling anyone how to approach their goals. Just view it as friendly advice through my own thought process. I hope that it touches someone. I have more ideas and topics planned for this year, and I hope that you'll join me on this journey. Again I want to wish all a healthy and prosperous 2014, and I hope that you all achieve whatever goals you have for 2014. I'll see you in the next post. Peace!
Although we're a little over 2 weeks into 2014, I want to begin by wishing everyone a Happy New Year! Because I literally haven't posted since 2013, I think it is fitting to start off the 2014 run of 'Brad H's. Perspective' by wishing everyone a happy and prosperous new year. Since we're still fresh into this brand new year, I think that the topic that I have planned comes at a good time. I think that this topic will apply to those of us that may have some goals set for this new year. I also hope that it resonates with those who make those New Years resolutions that often disappear after a month or two.
Anyone that knows me pretty well are aware that I'm not one to make New Years resolutions anymore. I'll admit that I've made them in past years like most other people when a new year rolled around. However, I made the decision to throw in the towel on them maybe 3 or 4 years ago. I just personally started to find them to be nothing but excuses for some of the things that I should be already doing year round on a consistent basis. Also, I found that the New Years resolution pep talks sounded good at the beginning of the year but as the months began to pass by, they began to become more and more irrelevant.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people being optimistic in regards to living to see a new year. For some reason or another, a brand new year can mentally gives us hope and a fresh outlook that we can change whatever wrongs that exist in our lives for the better. However, I personally believe it's more beneficial to concentrate on setting daily goals, rather than long term goals that may be more difficult to achieve. You're probably wondering to yourself; What is the difference? Well from my viewpoint, those daily goals that you set and accomplish are the ones that can help those long term goals to be reached the proper way.
Prime example; lets say that a person is aiming to lose weight for the new year, which is a goal that A LOT of people set for the new year. Now do you believe it would be more beneficial to lose weight the healthy way by dieting and exercising daily, or by partaking in poor dieting habits where you're probably not exercising, and starving yourself to get those pounds off? Both of these methods can lead to reaching the goal of losing weight, but focusing on losing weight daily will allow the weight to come off in a manner that is not detrimental to your long term health. One other thing to keep in mind when it comes to daily goal setting is that it helps in teaching us to become disciplined in life. Positive daily habits and consistency are the key, regardless of whatever our long terms plans may be.
Always try to keep in mind that life is a marathon rather than a sprint. Work towards those long term goals by focusing daily on whatever it is that you're trying to achieve. View your daily goals as pieces of a larger puzzle that you're planning on piecing together. We don't have to always rush and accomplish things overnight. Sometimes it's good to just take your time and pace yourself. Slow and steady wins the race.
Well that's all I have for this edition of 'Brad H's. Perspective'. I want to stress that what was discussed in this post applies to me, and that I'm not telling anyone how to approach their goals. Just view it as friendly advice through my own thought process. I hope that it touches someone. I have more ideas and topics planned for this year, and I hope that you'll join me on this journey. Again I want to wish all a healthy and prosperous 2014, and I hope that you all achieve whatever goals you have for 2014. I'll see you in the next post. Peace!
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