Regardless of how independent or strong that a person is or may claim to be, there is no denying the fact that we all need other people at various times throughout our lives. We as human-beings are relational beings, and the idea of navigating through life without help from others is something that I would think is nearly impossible. Now there is a famous saying that we've all heard throughout our lives that pretty much aligns with the idea that much of life is about having balance. The famous quote that I'm referring to that we've all heard says that "too much of anything is bad for you." Yep, that is the quote folks, and I know that you all have probably heard it before. Anything that is done in excess can pretty much be bad for our lives if not managed properly. I'm sure that there are many people that would argue that this doesn't apply when it comes to needing others, and I get that point since we need other at various points of life. However, I believe that just as with anything else in life, you can be too needy when it comes to the people in your life. People that are overly clingy often times think that they are helping themselves by being this way, but I believe that excessive neediness can be counterproductive to what you're trying to accomplish.
What's up everybody? This is Brad H. back one again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back on here to bring my perspective on a topic that has been on my mind as of late in hopes that it can serve as some inspiration for us all. Thank you to those of you that are joining me. This is the soapbox section where I talk about something that isn't related to the topic at hand. This week I'm going to get a bit personal with you all. If you are a frequent reader of this blog, you may have noticed that I didn't post last week when I was supposed to. I have schedule of posting every other week, and last week as my week to do so. Unfortunately I had to evacuate for Hurricane Laura that struck the Gulf Coast last week. Since being back home, there has been power outages happening in my area, as well as other things that have needed attending. I just want to apologize to those of you that are accustomed to be posting when I normally do. I have truly felt bad about it because in the past four years I have yet to miss a scheduled post. Times like this are a reminder of how unpredictable life can be, and that there are sometimes when more pressing matters have to take precedence. At any rate, I thank those of you that have checked up on me via Twitter. Hopefully now there can be some semblance of normalcy going forward. So now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets go ahead and talk about why neediness can be counterproductive.
Now before we get more deeper into this week's topic, I want to start off by letting it be known that I'm in no way aiming to shame or demean anyone that is excessively needy. Like I stated in the opening of this topic, we are all needy people to an extent, and there are some people in this world that truly have to rely on others because they have no other choice. The people that I'm seeking to encourage with topic are those that may be needy when situations may not always necessarily call for it. For example, we all know that this world has people that are disabled or elderly. People that may fit in this category may understandably be excessively needy. On the flip side, we have people that may make a conscious choice to be needy in order to manipulate others for their own personal benefit. These type of people are the ones that may have an extreme fear of losing someone that they care for to the point where they become overly clingy. Now people that are needy don't always do it for reasons of manipulation. Some people just cling to people and have a deep fear of losing them. Though they may mean well by being this way, being like this over a long period of time can lead to problems within your relationships?
Now I brought up in the opening how too much of anything can be bad, right? It is entirely possible that a person can love or care too much for someone else. Picture this scenario here. Imagine that you have a friendship with someone that always relies on you when they are having an issue. It isn't a friendship where they need you occasionally, but every single time something is going on with them, they're looking for you. You can be the most patient and understanding person in the world, but someone like this can being to wear you down when it becomes a constant thing. Now the person that is constantly needing you may feel like you are all they have, and that may even be true depending on the circumstances that surround this particular friend. However, there will likely come a time where you may not be able to be there for that friend, and depending on how this particular friend reacts to that instance, it can have a negative strain on that friendship. Though we may not always like to admit to it, there often times comes a point where people get fed up.
We're now at the point of this week's topic of getting to the grit of why excessive neediness can be counterproductive. As I alluded to earlier in the topic, being needy and clingy are symptoms of a fear of losing someone or something. It isn't wise to live this way, especially when you consider that we have little control over whether or not a person will always be in our lives. More importantly to consider is the fact that sometimes people get fed up when they feel that a person is being overly needy towards them. This can in some instances make the person you're being needy towards rebel against you due to feeling smothered. So in essence, the idea of thinking that neediness is a way of showing that you care is counterproductive because doing this excessively can lead to you losing what you're afraid to lose anyway. As I touched on several times throughout this topic, we have to have balance in our relationships with others. You have to give people space and learn how to figure out some things on your own at times. Again, we're all needy people at times, and that is quite normal. Just try to keep it to a minimum and you're able to, and most importantly remember that balance is the key.
Well that is about it for this week's topic on why I believe that excessive neediness is a counterproductive practice. I hope that I was able to bring a perspective that everyone that reads this is able to relate to. If any of you have any comments or feedback that you'd like to add to this, feel free to do so in the comment section. If you're on Twitter and would like to connect, you can find me at the handle @BradrickH. This has been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective' brought to you by Brad H. Thank you once again to those of you that checked out this week's topic. I'll see you all on the next topic. Have a great week ahead and peace out!
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