Why It Is Important To Have Selective Hearing When It Comes To What Others Say.

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Every single one of us knows and understands that there are things in life that we have a level of control of. On the flip side of that, we also are aware of the that fact that there are many things in this life that we have no control over at all. Take for example two of the very important organs of our bodies that the average person are born with; the eyes and the ears. Starting with our eyes; we all know that for the most part we have control over the things we choose to look at. However, unless you keep your eyes closed constantly or you are blind, you have no other choice but to see things. When it comes to our ears; we can often choose what we listen to, but unless you're deaf or keep yourself in solitude away from other people, you're going to have to hear things. People often talk about the importance of choosing what we give sight to, which is something that I've written about previously on here. While I believe it is important to be aware of the things we look at, I don't hear as often the importance of what we choose to listen to. We take in so much throughout our daily lives in the form of listening to television and people. Some of the things we listen to have positive meanings, and there are also a lot of things that we take in that are just negative and bad. While we may often not be able to control the things that we hear whether they're negative or positive, being able to discern between the two has a lot to do with being selective of our hearing. Just like people refer to the term "selective memory", being selective of listening to what other people are saying is just as important to our health and well-being.

What is going on everyone? I am Brad H., and I am back on here once more to present another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! We are here once again to bring some inspiration and knowledge that can hopefully be beneficial to our lives. I hope that all has been going good and well with everyone the past couple of weeks since the last topic. As some of you may already be aware of, I've been using this portion of my topics to discuss the NBA Playoffs recently. The playoffs are starting to wind down, as we now only have four teams left playing. We have the Boston Celtics and Cleveland Cavaliers from the Eastern Conference, and the Houston Rockets and Golden State Warriors from the Western Conference. Now I'm pretty sure that most people that follow basketball expected the Rockets and Warriors to be in the Western Conference Finals. But honestly, how many of you expected the Cavaliers and Celtics to be the last two teams from the east standing? I know I did not. I'm not a Celtics fan, but I have to give a lot of props to their team and their coach. It's amazing how they are only one series away from being the NBA Finals after losing Kyrie Irving and Gordon Hayward. That is a true testament to their coach, and how those guys play for one another. As for the Cavaliers, I felt like the Toronto Raptors would win that series, but that was an epic meltdown by Toronto. To be a number one seed and get swept like that is pretty embarrassing. Though I'm not a LeBron James fan, you have to give the man his credit. He has literally put the Cavaliers on his back, and you may as well say he beat the Raptors dang near by himself. Houston and Golden State should be a great series as well. I give the edge to the Warriors, but I believe the Rockets have a good chance at winning. I have always liked the Rockets, but I'm a San Antonio Spurs fan first. Being that I'm a Texan, I'm pulling for the Rockets. Plus the fact that I got to attend a Rockets game this year factors into my wanting to see them win. Both of these series should be great, so lets see how it all turns out. Alright, I think I have talked enough about the playoffs, so lets go ahead and get into this week's subject of the importance of having selective hearing when dealing with people.

As per the usual standard that I've set on here before addressing a topic, I'd like to go ahead and give the normal disclaimer that I give in each installment. We all have different ways of thinking and viewing things in this life. The idea here with these topics isn't to pound the idea of what is considered to be right or wrong into peoples minds. No, the goal is to rather encourage others to open their minds up to seeing things in a manner which they may not have before. I'm just one guy that has an opinion, so whatever I believe or feel isn't the sole way to see things. I'm just trying to get my ideas out there, and hopefully they are able to help out others. Of course it is totally okay if anyone disagrees, and if you have any feedback or comments to this or any of the other topics that I've addressed, you can always drop them down in the comment box. In regards as to how I arrived at talking about having selective hearing when it comes to others, I would attribute it to recent thoughts that I've had on how limited our control can be when it comes to seeing and hearing things. However, though we often have little option of being able to hear things, we do have control over how we react to the things that we hear. This is just something that has been weighing on my mind as of late, so I figured this would be something that I could feed some energy into. Besides, I know that there are many of us out there (myself included) that sometimes struggle with the words of others having an effect on us.

One thing that we all are aware of is that we as people are always going to talk for as long as we're able to. The ability to talk and express ourselves is truly one of life's biggest gifts. I personally see it as an even bigger gift when a person is able to use their words in a positive manner that helps in uplifting others. When it comes to the things that I personally want to hear, positive reinforcement and energies are probably at the top of the list for me personally. I think that most of us would rather hear the good things that people talk about, but we're also aware of the fact that many of us speak a lot of negativity out into the world. Don't you just love the dynamic that is positive and negative energies? It is like they are so different, yet one in the same also. Though many of us strive to focus on the more positive messages and aspects of life, we can't deny that for as long as we're alive and breathing that the negative messages will always be out there being spread. Regardless of how positive of a person you may be, you're going to have to hear some negativity via other people at times. As I stated earlier in this post, there are just some aspects of life that we are going to be unable to avoid, and this happens to be one of them. Now stopping ourselves from hearing negative things may be near impossible to do, but we can choose to not allow these things to affect us. This is where the selective hearing that is the theme behind this topic comes into play.

When people hear the term "selective hearing", they probably think that doesn't make much sense since we don't always have the choice to selecting the things we hear. Being able to choose what we choose to listen to in a literal sense isn't what we're aiming for here. We want to be able to train our minds to be able to react in a positive manner to the good things that we hear and vice versa, we want to be able to not react at all to the negativity that is often spewed by others. In essence, instead of literally picking and choosing what you hear from others, you're rather making a choice as to how to react to what you hear. Think of this as an example; imagine that one day you're hanging out with a friend or someone that you're close to that care about you. While you're with this person, you find that they constantly shower you with compliments and positive traits that may personify the person that you are. These are the kinds of things that you want to hear right? Now on the flip side, imagine you find yourself around someone that tells you something that another person said about you that isn't good or positive. Now their intentions behind telling you are not what we're focusing on here, but regardless if those intentions were good or bad, anything bad about yourself is someone that you're likely not going to want to hear. Because the society that we're living in thrives off of negative energies, most of us react more to the negative things that we hear compared to the positive. The selective hearing that I'm referring to comes into play when you make the choice to not allow yourself to react to the negative. Again, you may not be able to control what you hear, but you can control how you react to what you hear.

Now I know that there are probably many of you that already implement the practice of having selective hearing. However, for those of us that may struggle with this, there is some hope. In order to not allow what others say to affect you, you have to learn how to think before you react. Many of us hear things that you don't always fully understand, and we're ready to fly off the handle without knowing the true meaning behind something. So instead of always choosing to react first, try taking in what you hear first instead of reacting. Now I'm about to sound like a broken record, but I'm probably going to repeat the importance of developing a strong mind until I'm old and gray. If you truly want to be able to have the power over how you react to the things you hear, you have to focus on training your mind to first process what you hear. I've mentioned this multiple times on here, but some people intentionally say things to get others all riled up if they know that they're able to. We don't want to be the kind of people that let everything that we hear whether it is good or bad affect us. We want to be the kind of people that are able to process things, and then rather than reacting with emotions, we are able to pick and choose how we want to react based on the situation at hand. Keep in mind that for as long as you're alive, people are always going to say things about you. People are always going to have an opinion on you and the things that you do. Though you can't stop these things, you can combat against them by choosing to be selective of what you listen to. This definitely isn't an easy feat, but it is something that we can work on becoming better at.

Well I think that about wraps up this topic. Hopefully I was able to express my thoughts in a way that was understandable. This has once again been another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I'd like to thank everyone once again that comes by to give these topics a look. As I always close these out with, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that was able to be gained from this. For those that have any feedback or comments, please feel free to leave them. You can also hit me up on my Twitter handle @BradrickH if you want to. I hope everyone has been enjoying the weekend so far, and I hope you all have an even greater upcoming week ahead. The temps are starting to heat up, so lets try and enjoy this weather before it starts get too hot to enjoy. I'll see you all in the next topic. Stay encouraged and take care of yourselves. Peace!

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