Success Worth Having Doesn't Come Overnight (Microwave Generation).

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One of the more frustrating things that many of us have to go through in life is having patience. We have been told over and over again how important it is to be patient. We hear countless times from others that everything will come to pass, and that our patience will be rewarded. We hear these cliches constantly and yet most of us are still impatient in certain aspect of our lives. This especially applies to those of us that have been working towards something that we're passionate about. We know that we're supposed to be diligent and patient towards reaching our goals, but patience is a word that many of us don't want to hear when we've been working at something for some time. What amplifies the levels of frustration is living in this microwave society that we're all living in. In a society where it seems as if everyone wants things to happen fast, it can be even more frustrating when things are not happening as quick as you'd like. We often find ourselves at a crossroads when thoughts of doubt and uncertainty begins to enter our minds when it comes to reaching our goals. Questions of whether or not we're on the right path towards success can begin to flood our thoughts, and the result is often a word that can lead to a lifetime of regret; quitting. While it is okay to question whether we're moving in the right direction or not is perfectly normal and healthy, having the realization that success worth having doesn't happen overnight is important.

Hey what's up once again my people! How is everyone doing out there this time around? It is me Brad H. coming back at you all once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As with the standard formula here, I am back for another week to drop my perspective on a topic that I feel can be relevant and helpful to others. Thank you in advance for those of you that stopped by to see what I have to say. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to get on my soapbox and talk about the World Series that is taking place right now. Man, what can we say about game two of this series? That was an absolutely epic game there. The Astros looked as if they were on the ropes, and they managed to go nuts in those extra innings. So after last night's game, the Astros are up in the series 2-1. I personally felt like this was going to be a great series, and it has yet to disappoint. I'm a Astros fan already, but being that I am a Texan, I'm hoping for them to pull it off. However, I do like the Dodgers as well. Clayton Kershaw is one of my favorite players, and I personally believe that he is the best pitcher in baseball. I also like Justin Turner, Corey Seager, and Kike Hernandez from the Dodgers. With all of that said, although I want the Astros to win it all, I would be okay if the Dodgers were to win it also. Since I like both of these teams, there really won't be much of a loser in my eyes. I know that I'm probably straddling the fence with this one, but I do want the Astros to take it all. I'm huge fans of George Springer, Jose Altuve, and Carlos Correa. Besides that, it would be big for the city of Houston if the Astros were to win after everything that happened with Hurricane Harvey back in August. We'll see how it all turns out. Alright, it is time to get into the main topic of the week that deals with success not happening overnight.

Before I move into the topic for the week, I'd like to go ahead and give my normal disclaimer in this section of the topic. Every single one of us have different viewpoints and ideas on how we see things. The objective here isn't to focus on what is right or wrong, but to hopefully give some inspiration to that encourages us not only in our daily lives, but also to see things in a manner in which we may not have before. I am just one individual with an opinion, so the way I see certain topics may not align with the way some of you see things. It is totally fine if some of you don't agree with me, and I welcome any and all feedback here. In the case that you find this topic interesting or you receive something from it, feel free to let me know that as well. As for some insight into how this topic came to mind, I've just been thinking a lot lately about how so many of us expect things to happen fast. Because this has been weighing on my mind lately, I thought I'd come on here and discuss why it is necessary to be patient with the things we aspire for. This is something that I have discussed on here already before in previous topics. However, it is sometimes necessary to revisit things that you've maybe done before, but with a better understanding of now. Because life should be all about growing and progressing, the way that we see some of the things in our lives will change throughout the years. It is important to always keep your mind free and open to new ideas and ways of viewing this, which is honestly the philosophy that this entire blog is based around.

Now as I referenced to earlier, it feels as if we are living in a microwave generation right now. What exactly is a microwave generation you may wonder? I see the term "microwave generation" as an analogy to how so many people want everything to happen quick with little effort. We all know that it is much quicker to throw something in the microwave compared to actually taking out the time to cook something. This is the same mentality that so many of us have these days when it comes to life in general. Think about it for a second, most of people want to exert as little effort as possible to get what they want. We want fast money, fast cars, fast relationships, etc. Fast, fast, fast, we all want everything fast. Now from my perspective, the thing with things coming to us fast is that when it is fast, you often don't appreciate it as much. Imagine if someone just gives you something compared to you having to actually having to earn it. In which scenario do you feel like you would appreciate it more? Now some people may not care either way as long as they get what they want right? However, I believe that there is a sense of pride and accomplishment that comes with actually earning something compared to getting it with little to no effort. This applies to all areas of life, but I feel this especially applies to those of us that are trying to achieve personal success in our lives. Because success is subjective, it totally varies on the individual as to what they define as success. However, in the microwave generation that we're in, most people want success to have fast also.

Something that I've mentioned in several topics on here before was how so many of us compare our lives to our peers. Success is probably the biggest comparison that we draw from our peers. For example, lets say that there are two friends that are both in college right? They both graduate at the same time, and want to get into the same field. Lets say that one of the two breaks into the field they want to get into before the other. Due to the fact that the friend of the two that has gotten their break has cracked into their field, the other that hasn't may view the other as achieving success before them. This person could potentially become somewhat discouraged and find themselves wondering if they will get their break. In a worse case scenario, the individual may become disillusioned and give up on trying to get into that field completely. That is just an example, but if it is something that you are still passionate about, you shouldn't give up. Like the title of this post states, success that is worth having doesn't always happen overnight. We can't be using other peoples' success as a basis for how we define success in our lives and situations. We also can't allow the fact that sometimes, whether you believe it is fair or not, things happen quicker for others than it does for us. It doesn't mean that it isn't meant for you, or that you should throw in the towel and quit. From my perspective, it could mean that it just isn't your time yet and despite how hard it may be, you have to maintain and exercise a little bit of patience.

This week's topic is mainly for those of us that are maybe finding ourselves questioning whether or not we will attain the success that we're hoping for. Yes it is normal to question whether or not you're doing the right thing, but questioning shouldn't rule your life. We have to have the belief and confidence in knowing that we're moving in the right direction towards our goals. Most of us halfway believe that it is possible, but the only way that we can get there is to believe in in fully. If the belief isn't fully there, then maybe that is a sign that maybe you're not as passionate about what you're doing as you think. It all comes down to having faith and belief in my opinion. They always say that patience is a virtue, but in a microwave society, patience appears to be sorely lacking. We don't want to be part of the microwave generation. We want to be part of the believers that are patient and long-suffering. So remember that success doesn't happen overnight. Everything worth having in your life will likely require time, which means that we have to hold us our end of the bargain by being patient. Time for me to leave the motivational quote that I came across that goes with this week's topic. It is from Ralph Marston and it goes; "Success requires both urgency and patience. Be urgent about making the effort, and patient about seeing the results."

Well we have reached the end of another topic my people. Thank you again as always to those of you that spent some of your time reading another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that this topic served as some inspiration for some of you, and hopefully it provided some meaning and understanding. Feel free to leave any comments or concerns. Well we're at another weekend, a cooler one at that. I absolutely love when it starts getting colder. That's the biggest sign for me that the holidays are right around the corner. Also before I go, I want to say Happy Birthday to my mom. Her birthday is a few days away on Halloween, but I want to acknowledge that since it will have passed by the next time. Love you mom! Alright I'm out folks, so you all be safe and enjoy yourselves. Till next time, keep on pressing forward everyone. I'll see all in the next one. Peace!

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Focusing On What You Can Do For Yourself (Expecting Things From Others).

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Something that I believe that most of us can agree with that more than likely grinds our gears is people not coming through for us when we expect them to. Sound familiar right? Yea, I'm sure that most of you can relate to the feeling of dejection and often anger that comes along with people not being there when you expect them to be. More than just being disappointed in people not coming through when you expect them to is when you feel that you constantly find yourself being there for the same people that you feel that you can't count on to be there for you. This in particular is something that really gets to people, and it often is accompanied with the anger that I referred to earlier. It has been stated time and time again that it is never wise to rely on others, yet it is something that most of us have to do occasionally. Because most of us often experience anger and frustration when it comes to this particular topic, it often becomes more easier to just say that you're done with going out of your way to help people. I mean what is the point of always being there for others, but when you're the one in need, it feels that no one is there to be found? Those who feel this way are totally justified in that way thinking, however, thinking this way doesn't lead to a life of peace in my opinion. For this week's topic, I want to put emphasis on another way of viewing this that can help bring us a little more peace inside when people aren't able to be there. Simply put, rather than expecting things from others, I think it is better to focus on what we can do for ourselves.

People, people, people! How is everyone doing out there? This is your boy Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! It is time to rejoice and dance uncontrollably now isn't it? Nah, I'm just kidding with that point, but yes I am here for another week to give my perspective on a topic that has been on my mind as of late. Before getting into the topic at hand, I'd like to give my thoughts to the people of California that are dealing with the wildfires that have been occurring out there. I saw some images on the Weather Channel a few days ago, and I was totally appalled at how scary it looked in some of those areas. I read that that death toll is around 26 now, and that it is expected to rise. There are also hundreds of people there that are still missing. This is truly a disheartening situation that hopefully ends soon. Also since my last writing, there was a mass shooting that took place in Las Vegas on October 1st. Again my thoughts are with everyone that was affected by this tragedy. as well as those that lost their lives. Although we've had these kinds of tragic events happen before, it cannot be said enough how crazy they are. I mean an event that is supposed to be enjoyable and fun turns into an unfortunate incident where 59 people lose their lives, and nearly 500 were injured. I guess there isn't much that can be said besides the fact that these are truly some dangerous and unpredictable times that we are currently living in. I hope that everyone is staying safe out there, and make sure to keep it tight with everyone that you're close to in your life. Sticking together is the best way that we can endure these trying times. That said, lets go ahead and transition into this week's topic of focusing on what we can do for ourselves, rather than what others can do for us.

Before we go forward with this week's topic, I'd like to go ahead and give the usual disclaimer that I mention before putting my thoughts out there. We all have different views and opinions when it comes to various topics. The main idea here is not to focus on what is considered to be right or wrong, but to hopefully provide inspiration to others that will help in encouraging us all to see topics in a way that we have yet to. I'm just one person with an opinion, so I understand that not everyone will share in my thoughts. That is perfectly okay, and I welcome any feedback and opinions by anyone that wants to share those. We're all here to educate and inspire one another, and the best way to do that is by having a willingness to be open to what others have to say. So for how this topic came to be; there wasn't anything in particular that I can point to in regards to why I chose to talk about this topic. As with a good portion of the topics I talk about, I can attribute general thought to how it came to mind. I will say however that I wanted to write about this particular topic in part of how relevant that I believe it to be. As I stated earlier in this post, we all have times where we feel like we're overextending ourselves to other people without getting anything back in return. Even if you don't feel as if you're getting something in return for being there for others, you probably have occasional bouts of feeling like the people that you're going all out for aren't always willing to do the same for you. If you have those feelings, this post is likely for you.

Picture this scenario for a moment; you have a friend or relative that relies on you quite a bit. This is a person that probably has a hard time dealing with various aspects of their life, and talking to you helps them in easing their burdens. Regardless of how early or late in the day or night it may be, you are there to answer the call whenever they call you. If you're busy or tied up with something and they reach out to you, you stop what you are doing to see what is going on, or you call them right back whenever you get the first chance. You truly love and care for this person and their well being. Now lets just say that you yourself start experiencing some difficulties in life, and the same way that this aforementioned person relies on you in their time of need, you are now needing their support and positive energy. However, this person is too busy and tied up to give you the same time and attention that you're accustomed to giving them. Of course they don't throw you entirely to the wolves, and they do make an effort to help you through your troubles. However, deep down inside of you, you can't help but feel as if they're not as devoted to being there for you in the same manner that you are for them. Now with all of that said, who is in the wrong when it comes to this situation? Are you wrong for overextending yourself, or is the person that you are always there for wrong for not doing the same for you? I personally don't think anyone is particular wrong depending on the understanding the two have, but I'll leave it up to you to determine what you think. Now in painting the picture of this particular scenario, there is something that I want you all to consider, which is the heart of what this week's topic is about. While it is okay to receive help from other people, expectations from others is never wise.

For those that may struggle in dealing with how unfair and frustrating it can be to constantly go out of your way for others, only not to receive the same back, expecting things from other people will often lead you to disappointment. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but it is also a reality. Regardless if it may be a family member or a friend, no matter how close of a relationship you may have with an individual, there will likely be moments where those people won't be able to be there for you. It doesn't necessarily mean they are bad people, or they don't care about you. It simply means that for that particular moment when you needed them, they weren't able to be there. The fact is that often the disappointments that we experience from those we care for is through no fault of their own. I'm not saying that there are cases where this isn't true, because we all know that even the people we love and care for can be shady at times. This is exactly the reason why I want to stress the importance of focusing on what we can do for ourselves, rather than what others can do for us. While it is true that none of us can totally navigate through this life alone and experience all the things we desire, there are times when we have to look within ourselves to solve some of our issues. As I mention in what feels like every topic that I bring up on here, it all starts with empowering and conditioning our minds to adapt. If you're accustomed to expecting other people to always to be there in your time of need, you have to work on training yourself to tone back on this.

Now as I stated earlier, one of the best ways that I feel to obtain peace in your life is to focus on what you can do for yourself. You may wonder; how exactly does this bring peace to your life? Well from my perspective, when you focus on yourself and what you can do for yourself to better yourself, you put everything on yourself. Yes, the key word that was mentioned several times was YOURSELF! When you put thing on yourself and take responsibility for yourself, you no longer have the option of blaming others. This gives us an added sense of peace, because you learn how to become comfortable with yourself and your abilities. Now I'm in no way saying that we needed to be selfish and vain. I'm also not saying that you should never ask others for help, nor am I implying that you should treat others badly when they're not able to come through for you. The mission is to put more emphasis on the things that we're able to do for ourselves and through that process, we hope to gain an added sense of peace and responsibility in our lives. Before I go, I want you all that may struggle with this to do me and favor and tell yourself the following: Instead of focusing on what others can do for me, today I'm going to focus on what I can do for myself. Alright, the quote that I came across that I felt sums up this week's topic comes from Dr. Steve Maraboli. The quote read; Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don't.

Well we have arrived at the end of another topic folks. Thank you as always to those of you that came through for another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'! I hope that some of you were able to identify and relate to this week's topic, and I hope it provided you some meaning in your life. The weekend is here, so I hope you all enjoy. Whether it is time with the family, watching football or whatever it is you got going on, try to have fun in whatever you do. As I mentioned last time, there is definitely a lot of unsettling things happening around the world. However, we can choose make our own peace and happiness in the midst of chaos if we choose to. It's all about the mind baby! Keep on pressing forward everyone, and I look forward to seeing you all in the next one. Till then, I wish you all the best. Peace!

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