The Importance Of Owning Every Issue In Your Life.

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One of the things that we've all probably done at some point whenever we're in a situation that we find ourselves uncomfortable with is to deflect the attention from ourselves. It is a known fact that rather than confronting an issue head on, it is often more easier to try and deflect the attention from ourselves. We've all done it before right? There are many situations that can be classified as being uncomfortable for us, but the the personal issues that we face in our lives are often the most uncomfortable scenarios that we find ourselves dealing with. Similar to any other issues or situation that we want to deflect from, we often do the same when it comes to the issues in our lives. As I have mentioned in past topics, many of us often choose to rather run from our problems rather than facing them directly. In most instances when we're not facing our problems head on, we are looking to blame others for the issues that plague our lives. This is the focus on emphasis that I want to address in this week's topic; the blaming of others for the shape that our lives are in. Instead of putting every issue in our lives on ourselves, we deflect the blame from ourselves towards other people that we feel have made our lives more difficult. Even if you're in a circumstance where someone has caused problems in your life, the problems that we deal with are still our own. This is why it is important to own every issue that we're facing in our lives.

Here ye, come one come all! How is it going everybody? It is Brad H. back with another topic once again, which means that it is time for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope that everything has been going great for everyone as of late. In the event that this hasn't been happening for you recently, keep on holding your head up and have belief that things can and will get better. So I'm back for another week to give my perspective on a particular topic that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to talk a little bit about the unfortunate happenings taking place in the United States. I'm sure that most if not all of you have heard about the violent incident that happened in Charlottesville, Virginia last week. Condolences and thoughts go to everyone that was negatively affected by what happened. I'm not going to talk about the incident itself, but I want to address the underlying hate that is taking place in our country. Things like racism and bigotry has been happening for centuries now, and I highly doubt that we'll ever get to a point where it stops completely. There are always going to be groups of people that hates or feels superior to other groups of people. I just want to encourage everyone out there to not allow your spirit to give into the negative and hateful acts that are occurring not only stateside, but around the world as well. With so much hatred, suffering and strife taking place everywhere, it becomes much more easier to fall into the pitfalls of negativity happening everywhere. My advice is to focus on filling your heart and minds with so much peace that these negative acts have no bad effect on you. Again, condolences to the lives that were lost during the incident. Alright folks, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets go ahead and talk about the topic of owning every issues in your life.

For my normal disclaimer that I give before talking on the topic at hand, I'd like to say that we all have various viewpoints and ways of thinking when it comes to anything. The main focus here isn't to focus on right or wrong, but rather to give a bit of inspiration to others that will hopefully inspire you to see a topic in a manner that you may not have before. Of course I don't expect everyone to have similar views as myself, and it is totally okay if anyone that reads this disagrees with my perspective. This is a platform that welcomes any and everyone, even if there are potentially different views. Thank you to all that stop by. As for some insight into how I came to writing about this particular topic, I'd probably just point to a few conversations that I've had with some people as of late. A few of those talks dealt with how so many of us constantly blame others for the problems that we have. Now it is very true that there are some cases where other people are responsible certain circumstances that we find ourselves in. I'm in no way saying that everything is always our own doing. The mission for this week is to hopefully encourage a change in mindset when it comes to our problems. Much of what I plan on discussing won't apply to many of you. However, if this discussion does happen to resonate within you in some way, I hope it offers a bit of inspiration for you. As always, anything that I mention applies to myself as well.

So as many of us are already aware, as well as me establishing this earlier, many of us look to deflect the issues we deal with towards others. If it's not other people that we're putting it on, we're putting it on the circumstances that we're in. Again, I want to stress that this may not be the case in some instances for some people. That said, from my perspective, there is one key reason why it's not good to put our issues on other people. In my opinion, constant deflection of problems towards others and circumstances can develop into a crutch in our lives. You may ask, "why is this bad?" From my perspective, I see this act as a bad thing because it aids in denying ourselves accountability for our problems. I'm a believer that we can not only hinder ourselves from solving our problems if we do not own them, but it also keeps us from growing mentally as individuals. We are basically training our minds to believe that whenever that we are facing challenging personal issues, we don't have to responsible for them because other people and circumstances are causing them. In my opinion, there is absolutely no way to grow as an individual if you're constantly doing this. This is why it is important to have a shift in our way of thinking. It's not just about blame, it's about growing as a person as well.

Consider this example for minute. Imagine that a person purchases or rents something from a business. Now the time has come for that person to pay for whatever the item is, but a week before having to pay, the person at hand has the money for the item stolen from them. Now this is an example of how circumstances can play a factor right? It may not be the person at hand's fault that their money was stolen, and the business or person that is expecting their money may be sympathetic to what happened. However, do you really think they care a whole lot about the reasons why you can't pay them? Probably not! The incident may not be the person at hand's doing, but it is still their issue right? This person can blame the person that stole from them, or the circumstances their in but at the end of the day, it is still their issue. Being able to accept that it is their issue and owning it will likely allow this person to learn from what happened. If there is something learned from the incident, the probability of being more prepared or preventing something similar happening again in the future becomes greater.

So why is it important that we learn to own every issue in our life? Simply stated, not owning our the problems in our lives keeps us from solving them. This way of thinking is a crutch in our lives because it helps us to deny accountability for the part we play in creating our issues. Real change starts within ourselves first and foremost, so taking a deep look within and owning up to the issues we deal with is the only way to help solve those issues. So for those of us that struggle occasionally or all the time with owning the issues that we face in our lives, we have to work on changing that mentality. Some may agree or disagree, but I believe that the majority of the problems we face are mental. Changing our mindsets and viewing our problems in a different light is a possibility. We just have to be willing to own up to them. That's pretty much all I have to say for this week's topic, so I'm going to go ahead and give the quote for the week that goes along with this week's discussion. The quote I found comes courtesy of Louise L. Haye. It is short and sweet and it reads; "I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves."

Well that is it for this week my folks! As always, I'd like to thank everyone that once again stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like I always say, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. Although there is a lot happening in this world, those of us who try to remain positive and uplift one another have to stick together. It is now Saturday, so I hope everyone enjoys this weekend. If it isn't too hot where you are, try to get outside and have some fun. Even if you can't be outdoors this weekend, I hope that you all have a good time in whatever you end up doing. Alright, as in the word of Logic the rapper, "I'm gone, so long." I'll see you all in the next one. Stay strong everyone and till we meet again, I will you all peace and love!

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