The Importance Of Owning Every Issue In Your Life.

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One of the things that we've all probably done at some point whenever we're in a situation that we find ourselves uncomfortable with is to deflect the attention from ourselves. It is a known fact that rather than confronting an issue head on, it is often more easier to try and deflect the attention from ourselves. We've all done it before right? There are many situations that can be classified as being uncomfortable for us, but the the personal issues that we face in our lives are often the most uncomfortable scenarios that we find ourselves dealing with. Similar to any other issues or situation that we want to deflect from, we often do the same when it comes to the issues in our lives. As I have mentioned in past topics, many of us often choose to rather run from our problems rather than facing them directly. In most instances when we're not facing our problems head on, we are looking to blame others for the issues that plague our lives. This is the focus on emphasis that I want to address in this week's topic; the blaming of others for the shape that our lives are in. Instead of putting every issue in our lives on ourselves, we deflect the blame from ourselves towards other people that we feel have made our lives more difficult. Even if you're in a circumstance where someone has caused problems in your life, the problems that we deal with are still our own. This is why it is important to own every issue that we're facing in our lives.

Here ye, come one come all! How is it going everybody? It is Brad H. back with another topic once again, which means that it is time for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! As always, I hope that everything has been going great for everyone as of late. In the event that this hasn't been happening for you recently, keep on holding your head up and have belief that things can and will get better. So I'm back for another week to give my perspective on a particular topic that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I'd like to talk a little bit about the unfortunate happenings taking place in the United States. I'm sure that most if not all of you have heard about the violent incident that happened in Charlottesville, Virginia last week. Condolences and thoughts go to everyone that was negatively affected by what happened. I'm not going to talk about the incident itself, but I want to address the underlying hate that is taking place in our country. Things like racism and bigotry has been happening for centuries now, and I highly doubt that we'll ever get to a point where it stops completely. There are always going to be groups of people that hates or feels superior to other groups of people. I just want to encourage everyone out there to not allow your spirit to give into the negative and hateful acts that are occurring not only stateside, but around the world as well. With so much hatred, suffering and strife taking place everywhere, it becomes much more easier to fall into the pitfalls of negativity happening everywhere. My advice is to focus on filling your heart and minds with so much peace that these negative acts have no bad effect on you. Again, condolences to the lives that were lost during the incident. Alright folks, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets go ahead and talk about the topic of owning every issues in your life.

For my normal disclaimer that I give before talking on the topic at hand, I'd like to say that we all have various viewpoints and ways of thinking when it comes to anything. The main focus here isn't to focus on right or wrong, but rather to give a bit of inspiration to others that will hopefully inspire you to see a topic in a manner that you may not have before. Of course I don't expect everyone to have similar views as myself, and it is totally okay if anyone that reads this disagrees with my perspective. This is a platform that welcomes any and everyone, even if there are potentially different views. Thank you to all that stop by. As for some insight into how I came to writing about this particular topic, I'd probably just point to a few conversations that I've had with some people as of late. A few of those talks dealt with how so many of us constantly blame others for the problems that we have. Now it is very true that there are some cases where other people are responsible certain circumstances that we find ourselves in. I'm in no way saying that everything is always our own doing. The mission for this week is to hopefully encourage a change in mindset when it comes to our problems. Much of what I plan on discussing won't apply to many of you. However, if this discussion does happen to resonate within you in some way, I hope it offers a bit of inspiration for you. As always, anything that I mention applies to myself as well.

So as many of us are already aware, as well as me establishing this earlier, many of us look to deflect the issues we deal with towards others. If it's not other people that we're putting it on, we're putting it on the circumstances that we're in. Again, I want to stress that this may not be the case in some instances for some people. That said, from my perspective, there is one key reason why it's not good to put our issues on other people. In my opinion, constant deflection of problems towards others and circumstances can develop into a crutch in our lives. You may ask, "why is this bad?" From my perspective, I see this act as a bad thing because it aids in denying ourselves accountability for our problems. I'm a believer that we can not only hinder ourselves from solving our problems if we do not own them, but it also keeps us from growing mentally as individuals. We are basically training our minds to believe that whenever that we are facing challenging personal issues, we don't have to responsible for them because other people and circumstances are causing them. In my opinion, there is absolutely no way to grow as an individual if you're constantly doing this. This is why it is important to have a shift in our way of thinking. It's not just about blame, it's about growing as a person as well.

Consider this example for minute. Imagine that a person purchases or rents something from a business. Now the time has come for that person to pay for whatever the item is, but a week before having to pay, the person at hand has the money for the item stolen from them. Now this is an example of how circumstances can play a factor right? It may not be the person at hand's fault that their money was stolen, and the business or person that is expecting their money may be sympathetic to what happened. However, do you really think they care a whole lot about the reasons why you can't pay them? Probably not! The incident may not be the person at hand's doing, but it is still their issue right? This person can blame the person that stole from them, or the circumstances their in but at the end of the day, it is still their issue. Being able to accept that it is their issue and owning it will likely allow this person to learn from what happened. If there is something learned from the incident, the probability of being more prepared or preventing something similar happening again in the future becomes greater.

So why is it important that we learn to own every issue in our life? Simply stated, not owning our the problems in our lives keeps us from solving them. This way of thinking is a crutch in our lives because it helps us to deny accountability for the part we play in creating our issues. Real change starts within ourselves first and foremost, so taking a deep look within and owning up to the issues we deal with is the only way to help solve those issues. So for those of us that struggle occasionally or all the time with owning the issues that we face in our lives, we have to work on changing that mentality. Some may agree or disagree, but I believe that the majority of the problems we face are mental. Changing our mindsets and viewing our problems in a different light is a possibility. We just have to be willing to own up to them. That's pretty much all I have to say for this week's topic, so I'm going to go ahead and give the quote for the week that goes along with this week's discussion. The quote I found comes courtesy of Louise L. Haye. It is short and sweet and it reads; "I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves."

Well that is it for this week my folks! As always, I'd like to thank everyone that once again stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Like I always say, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. Although there is a lot happening in this world, those of us who try to remain positive and uplift one another have to stick together. It is now Saturday, so I hope everyone enjoys this weekend. If it isn't too hot where you are, try to get outside and have some fun. Even if you can't be outdoors this weekend, I hope that you all have a good time in whatever you end up doing. Alright, as in the word of Logic the rapper, "I'm gone, so long." I'll see you all in the next one. Stay strong everyone and till we meet again, I will you all peace and love!

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Watch What You Say And Think (Speaking And Thinking Things Into Existence).

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I think that we all can admit that the universe has a weird way of working at times. We all have different beliefs and viewpoints on how we think this world operates. For example, some of us believe that what goes around will also come back around. We refer to it as "karma". We often use this term to describe a situation where a person that has done something bad receives it back. While most will call this karma, others will just say that karma had nothing to do with that persons' misfortunes, and things just happen. I'm not here to argue for or against whether or not karma is true. However, I do want to establish the fact that things often have a unusual way of happening. I feel that this also applies when it comes to the things that we say and think. Most of us have heard or even experienced how powerful the tongue, as well as the mind can be. There is a general rule of thumb that the thoughts and words that we give a lot of energy towards will usually end up coming to fruition. Similar to karma, some will believe this to be true, while others will just say that it was a coincidence. Well, I am personally part of the former in believing that the what we put energy and thought into will likely contribute to whatever happens in our lives. I have absolutely no scientific evidence to prove this, but what I do have is the experience of seeing this happen throughout various times in my life. This is exactly why I feel it is critical that we are cautious of what we say and think, because we can often speak and think things into existence.

Ladies and gentlemen! How is everyone doing? It is me Brad H. back once again, and I'd like to welcome everyone to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! Hope things have been going well for everyone since the last topic. If that hasn't been the reality for any of you recently, try to keep on holding you head up, and have belief that things will begin to improve. As with the normal format on here, I am back to share my thoughts on a topic for the week that I've been thinking about as of late. Before getting into the topic for the week, I wanna get on my soapbox and talk about something that will be here really soon; NFL FOOTBALL! So last night, the preseason for the NFL kicked off with the Hall of Fame Game. We had my favorite team the Dallas Cowboys taking on the Arizona Cardinals. Of course it was preseason, so the starters didn't see the field besides standing on the sidelines. I know most football fans don't get too riled up for the preseason, but there are many people that do because preseason signals the start of the regular season real soon. I can't really explain what it is, but there is something about the time of the year when football comes around that excites me. I don't know if it's because most of us are somewhat eager due to sports being slow during the summer months, or if the season beginning to change during football season. Whatever it may be, I truly enjoy it. I'll likely be using the soapbox section of my writings to talk about certain stories related to the NFL in the coming months. Also, if any of you are football fans, feel free to comment on who your favorite team(s) are in the comment section. I would also like to hear what expectations you have for your team during the upcoming season. I'll likely give my prediction of what I think the Cowboys will do this season in the coming weeks. Alright, now that I've gotten that out of the way, lets go ahead and talk about the importance of watching what you say and think.

Now before getting deeper into the topic for the week, I'd like to give my usual disclaimer. We all have varying viewpoints and ways of thinking when it comes to life. The main focus here isn't to focus on right or wrong, but rather offering a bit of inspiration to others. My hope is that I am able to encourage others to view a topic in a way that they may not have viewed before. I don't expect everyone to have similar views as myself, and it is perfectly fine if anyone happens to disagree with my thoughts. This platform isn't here for division, but rather to include everyone despite potentially having different views. Now for some insight on how this topic came to be. Besides the normal conversations that I have with the people that are near and dear to me, I can't really point to anything specific that lead to me wanting to discuss the importance of watching what we say and think. If there is anything that I can probably attribute to what made me want to get into this topic, I would probably attest it to the fact that I've been thinking a lot about the various struggles that not only myself, but also others that I know have faced so far this year. I've been thinking lately about how it may be time to feed more energy into believing that the remaining months of this year will be much better going forward. If there is anyone else out there that feels that 2017 has been a rough year also, this topic may give you a little bit of hope going forward. Again, I'm far from an expert, so anything that I mention applies to my life first.

So we all have heard the saying; "You are what you eat" right? Could it also be possible that this applies to our minds and the things that we give thought to as well? Again, I'm not coming from a scientific perspective on this topic, so I have no scientific evidence to back up my belief. But with that said, I do believe that whatever we give energy and thought to can potentially come to fruition. From my perspective, this is probably the most important reason why we have to be aware of what we put into our minds. So many people in our world give thought and energy to a lot of negative forces right? I'm sure most of you can relate to this, but do you ever go around people and whenever they are talking, they are talking about how bad things have been going in their lives? Even using myself as an example, I've been giving a lot of energy and thought to the fact that 2017 has been a year of challenges. The fact that I've spent a good portion of this year harping on this has likely contributed to the reason why I feel this way. Like I mentioned earlier, things have a funny way of working out when it comes to thinking about certain things. Some people say that thinking too much is bad, and while I do believe that is true in some cases, I don't see thinking in itself as the biggest issue. From my perspective, the biggest issue is we give too much power to negative thinking, and then we wonder why things in our lives aren't going as well as we'd like. Thinking may not always be the sole reason, but I do believe it is a factor.

Just as everything in this world has an opposite, the same applies when it comes to speaking and thinking. Of course the opposite of negative is positive right? So instead of constantly thinking of and feeding into negative things, why don't we flip it around and give more thought to the more positive aspects of life? Well of course everyone is different, as well as everyone's circumstances, so there is no definitive way to give an answer to that. However, what we do know is that this world that we're living in today is full of negative things taking place on a regular. Whenever we turn on the television, go outside or go online, these negative happenings are constantly being fed into our minds. And as I stated in previously written topics on here, even when we believe the things that we see and hear don't affect us directly, they can affect us on a subconscious level. Now when it comes to watching what you say, it all coincides with the mind. The things that we think about often translate into the things that we say. If you constantly think about the negative and bad, that is likely all you're going to talk about and vice versa. We have to learn how to be aware of the realities that create for ourselves, because it is indeed a fact that there is power in the mind and the tongue. We have to be more positive in order to create a more positive reality for ourselves. Again, in a negative world this is hard, but we have to try and be more positive for ourselves.

The message for this week is plain and straightforward. Watch what you say, as well as what you think. The things that you give energy to can ultimately be spoken and thought into existence. You don't want to be one of those people that thinks and speaks negatively so often that it becomes a self-fulfilled prophecy. We want to be individuals that think and speak positively as often as we can. Some of you may not believe that there is power in the mind and tongue when it comes to bringing things into our lives, and that is totally fine. Even if I don't have any proof besides my own personal experiences, I am a believer that nothing good comes from thinking negative. With that said, I figure that I may as well think and speak as positively as positive. It definitely can't hurt, and I encourage anyone out there that struggles with negativity to try and do the same. That's pretty much all I have to say for this week in regards to the topic for the week. It is now time for me to leave the quote for the week that I found and feel speaks to what this topic is about. It comes courtesy of livehappy.com, and the person who stated this is named Leon Brown. The quote goes; "Your words can be powerful, they can hurt or uplift, so think before you speak as every word you say counts."

We have once again arrived at the end of another topic. Before going on my way, I'd like to thank everyone once again that stopped by for another edition of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I appreciate those of you that show a brother love. As always, I hope there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this topic. We are all in this joint together, so we have to try and keep each other inspired. Before going, I'd like to say Happy belated birthday to my younger cousin Derion(Biggie). He had a birthday recently, and it was after the last topic that I wrote about. I just wanna make sure that I acknowledge him on here as well. Love you bro, and keep on doing good things. Alright, I'm out, so I hope everyone has a great weekend and week ahead. Keep on fighting the good fight, and I'll see you all in the next one. Till then, peace!

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