Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Revealing too Much Information(Giving others Ammunition against You).
There is a habit that a lot of people have that I just don't quite understand. I mean we have have bad habits that we should be held accountable for. However, this is one habit that many people quite frankly bring on themselves. One thing that I can't understand about some people is this; why do you put all of life out there for others to see, and then get angry when people use what you put out against you? Hmm. What's up people? It's me Brad H. once again with another blog post of 'Brad H's Perspective'. Thanks for joining me once again.So yea I just went there and aired it out on some of you right? Haha. If that's how you viewed what I said, let me apologize now. It's never my intentions to make anyone feel bad. Besides, if that's the case, I should be feeling bad right now myself. I've definitely had my share of talking too much to people who didn't have my best interest in mind. At any rate, it's true that many of us just reveal too much about ourselves to others. I'll admit that I'm one of those people that tries to see the good in everyone, but I also know that a lot of people will change up on you at the snap of a finger. As life carries on, people indeed do change -- and that also applies to the people we believe are our friends as well. Nothing is never guaranteed in life, not friends, not family - nothing.
I'm in no way implying that we shouldn't trust others. It's perfectly fine to put trust in those we feel are worth it. However, trust and putting all of your business out there are two different things. It's definitely possible to trust someone, and not reveal every little detail about yourself to them. We just have to learn what to reveal to others, and what to keep within ourselves. Not everyone is going to see or view things in the light as you, and some people will try to make you feel bad or different if they don't. It's okay to talk and trust, it's just not wise to be that way with everybody.
One example I can think of off top is how people are always airing out their lives on these social networking sites, and then call themselves getting angry because the things they put on there got out to others. Whose fault is that? Stop giving people ammunition to use against you. Learn to wise pick and choose what to tell others. Deceptions and secrets lie within the hearts and minds of everyone. Lets work on being content with our own goals and aspirations. If someone doesn't believe in them, stop telling people about them. Remember, people can only use what you tell them against you.
So to sum it all up, stop airing all of your life to others. Jealously and envy exists, and a lot of people are waiting for you to slip up and use things they may know about you against you. Pick and choose wisely what you reveal. Well that's it for this time around. Thanks again for reading, and I'll see you all again soon. Peace!
Thursday, February 21, 2013
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Sunday, February 17, 2013
Your Approach Is Everything(Respect).
Not everyone that we come across or rub the wrong way is extremely sensitive. Sometimes we as people don't take caution or heed how we approach others. Often times the first thing that comes to our minds, is what comes out of our mouths. In some cases this causes others to become angry or upset with us, which often leads to even bigger conflicts, and even more issues. We have to work on how we approach and interact with others. That's what I'm going to discuss in this blog post. Hello everyone, this is Brad H coming back at you again with another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'. As always, thanks for tuning in.So maybe you have someone that you want to talk something over with, but you're not entirely sure how to come at them. You want to get your point across, but you don't want to offend them. You want to come across as being as respectful as possible, but you want to make sure that you get your point across exactly in the manner you want. These are scenarios that all of us may face on a regular basis. On the flip side, there are some people who don't give much thought or care about how others react to what they have to say. Their approach and tone towards others often times comes off as an aggressive one. Due to their aggressive and forceful nature, they could easily be considered to be downright rude by others. Most of the time, not in cases, a person will strike back if they feel attacked. What does this solve? Absolutely nothing, and it sometimes makes a small problem an even bigger one. That's not what we should be aiming for.
It's true that the direct approach is often the best approach. However, direct and aggressive are two different things in my opinion. I personally feel that a person, who comes at someone else in an aggressive manner, is more than likely looking for a conflict most of the time. Lets face it. We all know that some people are just dramatic by nature, and enjoy seeing or being a part of drama with others. I also feel that a person who chooses a direct approach doesn't necessarily want conflict, but is looking to get their point across in a respectful manner. The key word is dealing with others is RESPECT. It's important to pick and choose the right time and the right place when approaching others. When expressing your concerns with others, try to set a positive and peaceful tone. A person is more likely to respond to you in a non-aggressive manner if they feel relaxed, and not attacked.
So to sum it all up, we must all work on our approach and relations with others. It's kinda like what I said in a previous blog post; we have to choose and pick our words wisely. You never know how a person will react when you approach them, but I think we're more likely to have a better outcome if we think wisely about our approach. Well that's it for this edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'. Thanks for reading, and I'll see you all next time around. Peace!
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
My Celebrity Best Friend(Worshiping of Celebrities).
I sometimes sit back and ask myself; What is wrong with some of us in America? A lot of us tend to have our priorities all messed up. We spend so much of our time and energy following things and subjects that do little to better our own lives. So many topics of importance are happening right before our eyes, but many of us are not aware. We're so consumed with social media, reality television, and celebrity news. It's no wonder why we have the 17th ranked education system in the world. With that said, this is your main man Brad H. once again, and this is another edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'. Thanks for tuning in.
So I titled this blog post 'My Celebrity Best Friend', and you're probably wondering why. I'm using this as an analogy as to how so many people seem to worship celebrities in our society. One thing that I've noticed as I've gotten older is that if you tend to think differently than the masses, you're automatically labeled something. You may be labeled as being crazy, an outsider, or even a hater. This logic can relate to anything, whether it's religion, politics, etc. After doing some research, I actually found out that there is a medical term titled 'Celebrity Worship Syndrome'. It's defined as "an obsessive-addictive disorder in which a person becomes overly involved with the details of a celebrity's personal life." I'm not saying that a majority of people have this syndrome, or take it to those levels. However, the way that celebrity news is constantly crammed down our throats via social media and television, it's not hard to imagine how some people can become overly obsessed.
Now before anyone attempts to say I'm a hater, I want to get this out; There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking or admiring an entertainer that you like. Everyone one of us has an actor, musician, athlete or TV personality that we like. However, I think that some people go way overboard in their liking - almost to the point where it becomes an obsession. Some people defend celebrities, almost fiercely. If you say that you don't care for a certain celeb, you're a 'hater' in some people's eyes. Really? So let me get this straight - you're calling someone a hater just because they don't like someone that you don't even know personally? Where is the real logic in this? Even if you're a fan of... lets say Beyonce, what are the chances of you becoming a REAL friend of hers? Sure you may go to some of her concerts, and maybe even get a chance to meet her personally. However, do you really believe that she is going to remember you, or view you as an important person in her life? I highly doubt it. Think about it, celebrities meet thousands of people on a month to month basis. They travel and perform all over the world. There is no possible way that they can remember, or develop a relationship with every fan they meet.
If you really look at things for what they're worth, most of us aren't anything but a business associate to these entertainers and celebrities. We pay money to watch them perform, or to see them on the big screen. We enjoy their talents, and they become rich based on money that the fans pay. That's really it. Don't allow yourself to be fooled either. Celebrities are human-beings just like everyone else. The only things that separate them from everyone else is their fame, exposure, and talents. Other than that, they live, eat, breathe, and bleed just like everyone else. So to sum it all up, it's okay to admire and appreciate celebrities, but there is no need to worship, or make them out to be anything more than what they are. I've had this discussion with several people, and I've received various feedback on it. I'm hoping that will be the case here as well.
Well that's it for this edition of 'Brad H's Perspective'. As always thanks for reading, and we'll see you all in the next one. Peace!
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