Why It Is Perfectly Okay To Outgrow Some People In Your Life.

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One of the most important things that we will all experience within this life is change. Change can take on many different forms, and those forms can vary from person to person. One of the forms of change that affects us all in some way or another is the word growth. Similar to the word change, growth also has various iterations of being interpreted. However, for this week's topic, the type of growth that I will be referring to is growing mentally and spiritually within yourself. We've all heard at sometime or another in our lives that nothing in this life stays the same. This world that we live in is constantly changing and adapting, which means that the same is happening to us as well. I believe that when we as people are growing as an individuals within our lives, there are certain things become somewhat beneath us. If you're a person that is on a pretty good streak of eating healthy and losing weight, certain foods that are bad and unhealthy for you probably no longer serve a purpose in your life. You have risen above those things, which means that they are beneath you now. Though it may be something that many of us may not like to acknowledge, this same logic also applies to the people in our lives. We all have maybe had friends that we've become more distant with just through time and space. In some instances of life, there can be quite a bit of guilt that can come with potential outgrowing certain individuals in our lives. We may have a strong sense of loyalty to them that puts us at odds with our personal growth. Now I'm one that believes that it is very important for us to be loyal to the people that reciprocate it back to us. However, what do we do when our loyalties put us at odds with our own growth? Furthermore, is it okay to leave behind the people that may be stunting us from growing? These are a few of the things that I will be talking about for this week's topic, but I believe that in certain situations and circumstances, it is perfectly okay when we've outgrown certain people in our lives.

Yo, what is going on people? This is Brad H. touching down once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I am back once again for another topic that will hopefully serve as inspiration to others. Welcome to those of you that may be a first time reader, and thank you once again for those that are back once again. So for my soapbox section this week, I wanted to bring up something that I've mentioned before on here, but I also rarely like to discuss. That would be politics. Now most of you know that we had a government shutdown happening this year, and that another government shutdown has recently been averted. Now, a national emergency has been declared by the president, and of course people have their viewpoints on all of it. Now I recently listened to a video on Youtube where a blogger said something that I absolutely agree with and endorse. It is also something that I've been saying for quite sometime now. I hope that most people realize this by now, but stop believing in and trusting these politicians. Many of us look at these politicians as if they are saviors that have our best interests at heart, but we should all know by now that the good majority of them do not. They are mainly in the business of politics for their own interests, and the interests of those that put the most money behind them. I've seen too many people get into arguments over these politicians and their viewpoints, and it honestly isn't worth it in my opinion. Again, I'm not trying to tell anyone what to do, but I hope that most of you know by now that politics is all a game. The majority of them rarely carry out the agendas that they run on to get votes, and we all know that it is hard to hold them accountable once they get in office. I just wanted to bring that up because right now the political climate in the United States is pretty volatile. The biggest takeaway I hope people have is to invest in yourself and carve out your own thinking. Don't be fooled by these politicians and the shenanigans many of them bring. Alright, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets go ahead and get into this week's topic of why it is perfectly okay to grow some people in your life.

Probably the biggest aspect of this week's topic that I want to address that plays a huge part of this discussion is the theme of loyalty. Loyalty is one of those unwritten aspects of life that many of us will have to bring into question at some point or another. It is something that works twofold in the sense that it can both beneficial and detrimental to us depending on the circumstances in which it is being questioned. Now we all have loyalties to various individuals and things. Some loyalties are stronger than others, and some situations can be either over or under when it comes to loyalty. I believe that the good majority of people want to be loyal always, however as I mentioned earlier, what does a person do when being loyal hinders their growth? I've already mentioned about the type of growth that I'm bringing reference to. Now if you're around people that could be deemed as being a hindrance towards you moving forward, are these people that really need a top spot in your life? I believe that many of us at times somewhat self-sabotage our own growth due to remaining loyal. Like I alluded to earlier, sometimes we just outgrow people as we develop more self-awareness. Now when I think of loyalty, another word that comes to my mind is guilt. Some may wonder how does loyalty and guilt coincide with one another. Well, in some cases (not all), and depending on the individual and your relationship with them, some people will pull the guilt card on you in circumstances where you find yourself moving forward. They may use tactics that question your loyalty to them, and may even try and make you feel bad about yourself for making positive changes in your life. Now that we've discussed how loyalty and guilt can play a role in our personal growth and how it relates to others, lets talk about why I feel it is perfectly fine to outgrow people.

As I mentioned earlier in regards to this topic, change is constantly evolving and taking place in our lives. I believe that is is highly unrealistic to believe otherwise. Think of other aspects of life that involves anything that has some form of life to it. A flower has to begin as a seed before it can grow into its final state. Like I've already mentioned, all living things have periods of growth and change. Think of how at one point in this life we were all small babies that couldn't do anything for ourselves. Now, because we have grown into adults, we're able to various things on our own. The way all of this relates to this week's topic is that growth and change is a natural aspect of life, and because growth is something that is inevitable, it is perfectly normal if you've come to a point where you've outgrown certain people in your life. I know that this is something that many people wrestle with because we want to stay loyal to the people we've outgrown. There is nothing wrong with being loyal to other people, but you also have a responsibility to be loyal to yourself first and foremost. Personal growth doesn't necessarily mean that you are better than anyone else, nor does it imply that you shouldn't be loyal to people. From my perspective, it means being able to recognize and prioritize yourself first. Think about all the clothes that you've owned throughout your life. At some point you likely outgrew those clothes and had to upgrade to clothes that you could properly fit. Now I'm in no way saying that people are like clothes, but what I am saying that since growth is natural, it makes sense if you have come to outgrow people. Also be mindful that growth doesn't just apply to people. It can apply to anything that you do or participate in that no longer serves a greater purpose in your life.

Now I'm not here to tell anyone else what to do, nor am I an authority on how people should live their own lives. I can only be responsible for myself and my actions. The main point that I want to get across with this topic is that we as people shouldn't have to feel bad for outgrowing things and people. Like I mentioned earlier, there are some people that you may be close with that don't want to see you growing as an individual. And to be quite honest, it may not necessarily be that they don't want what is best for you. It could be that they realize that your growth may mean that you may have to leave them behind. Another point that I want to get across with this is that growing as a person doesn't mean that you should just completely cut people out of your life spitefully. From my perspective, that is what arrogant people and people that feel like they're better than others do. You can still remain close to people that you've outgrown. As with most changes that come in life, relationships with others change as well. I'm sure that many of you have people that you've probably been friends with for years, yet you don't talk to them everyday. You may even not talk to them every month or week, but you know that you and that person are still tight with one another, and that it is an unsaid rule that you both will always be there in times of need. Life may have brought about time and space between the two of you, but the relationship remains. This is a perfect meaning of what I mean by why it is okay to outgrow some people in your life. Now of course if you have people that are trying to make you feel bad for growing as a person, then it goes without saying that you may need to reconsider your relationship with them. However, despite growth and change, you can still have those close to you in your life. So just remember that it is perfectly normal and natural to outgrow others. Don't ever feel bad for bettering yourself, stay loyal to others, but be loyal to yourself first.

Well I think I'm going to go ahead and end on that note. Thank you once again for those of you that came through for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I can't say enough how grateful I am to have received some of the feedback that I have from some of you. It is truly humbling, and I thank you all. As always, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be taken away from this topic. If you found some inspiration through reading this, please let me know in the comment section. You can also hit me up on Twitter if you have any comments or feedback at the handle of @BradrickH. I hope you all are having a great weekend so far, and I hope an even greater week ahead lies in the wings for us all. Till next time, stay strong and stay positive. I'll see you all in the next one! Peace!

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The Danger Of Projecting Your Fears Onto Others.

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Being fearful of someone, something, or even a combination of the two is something that most of us don't like to acknowledge. Why is this the case I wonder? I believe that the world that we live in seems to associate the word "fear" along with something that is negative. There appears to be a stigma that we as people should never show or display fear, and if you happen to do so, you are labeled as a weak individual. Now this isn't my personal thought when it comes to be fearful. I'm just giving my own interpretation on what I believe this world thinks of fear. Now if we're going to be totally honest here, I think most of us can admit to being fearful at times. We're not robots, we're human-beings, so it is highly unrealistic to believe that no human never experiences fear. Like many other people that may have an opinion on the subject of fear, I believe that being fearful at times is both a normal and a good thing. I personally believe that most people will admit that they often rise the occasion most whenever they face something that they're afraid of head on. This is something that I can personally admit to based on previous experiences. However, I think we can also admit that there are some people in this world that have fears that they're afraid to face. Though I may personally see the thought of a person not being willing to face their fears, I can't knock anyone that may not be willing to do so. As I have stated many, many times on this blog, we all have various outlooks and ways we live our lives. If a person isn't willing to face their own fears and attempt to have change in their life, that is all on them. However, something that I do see as a potential danger when it comes to people not facing their fears is the idea of projecting those fears onto other people.

Yo, what is up people? This is Brad H. back at it once again, and I'd like to welcome you all to another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! A big welcome goes to anyone that is a first time visitor, and a big thanks goes to those that are frequent readers here. I'm going to go right ahead and jump into the soapbox by talking about something that many people from all over the world will be tuning into this week. Yep, that's right you guessed it, the Super Bowl. Like most people, I will be watching the game this weekend, but I probably won't be as engaged as I normally would. My reason for this comes from the fact that I don't care for either of the two teams that are playing. Anyone that knows me well is aware that I have never liked the New England Patriots. As for the Los Angeles Rams, I never had anything against them, but I didn't like how some of their players have been mouthing off during the playoffs. Also, though it was through no fault of their own, I don't feel like their victory over the New Orleans Saints two weeks ago was a legitimate one. I'm not a Saints fan either, but any and everyone watching that game knows that the refs blew the blatant pass interference called against the Rams that could have likely sent the Saints to the Super Bowl. I never thought I'd be saying this, but I actually felt bad for fan of the Saints. Hopefully the NFL does something in the off season that can remedy these kind of things. Now for who I believe is going to win the big game this weekend, I'm predicting that New England will win the game. It is extremely difficult for me to imagine New England losing two straight Super Bowls. I believe that their coach Bill Belichick is going to have a game plan that neutralizes the Rams offense. I could be wrong in saying that. I mean I didn't think that the Philadelphia Eagles would beat them last year, but that is exactly what happened. I still believe New England wins, but we all know how unpredictable sports, particularly football can be. The Rams and Saints game is a prime example of that. Anyway, I hope those of you that are looking forward to the game enjoys. Alright, now that I've gotten on my soapbox, lets go ahead and move onto this week's topic of projecting your fears onto others.

Now when thinking of a subject such as projecting your fears onto other people, what exactly is meant by this? I'm sure that everyone will have their own spill on what they believe this to be. I've already mentioned on multiples occasions on there that there is no one single way to view anything. Speaking for myself and my own personal experiences, I view this topic as when a person that is afraid of something themselves intentionally or unintentionally cast doubts and suspicions in the mind of another person. Now if you noticed, I mentioned that this can happen both intentionally and unintentionally. Some people may not even be aware that they're projecting their own fears onto other people. For the sake of the point that I'm attempting to make, I want to focus more on the people that do it intentionally. I have to tread lightly with what I'm going to say next, because I believe most people that may do this intentionally often mean well, they just may not know how damaging what they're saying can be. Many people that project their own fears onto others often do it out of care and love for other people. Now some of you may be wondering how exactly can you care for someone, yet you're projecting your fears onto them? I mean making another person fearful doesn't quite equate to caring for them right? Well in the context that we're dealing with, it depends on how the people that are in this situation are able to handle what is being said. For example, not everyone gets scared in the same manner, nor are we afraid of the same things. What may scare or make me fearful may not apply to another person. Projecting your fears on other people go a lot deeper than just scaring someone else. This is something that is psychological in the sense that it plays more to the mind than anything else.

Now I know that I've probably said a lot already, but hopefully you all will be able to see where I am going with this with the example that I'm going to bring up. I know this is something that I have touched on previously on here. How many of you know or are close with someone that don't like seeing other people that they're close with attempt something that they never have themselves? So lets hypothetically say that you want to attempt to go skydiving, and you have a friend that says you shouldn't do that because it is dangerous. Now I've never been skydiving, but I think we can all admit that regardless of whether you've ever done it or not that there is some risk to it. Now the friend that doesn't want you to attempt skydiving has concerns because they care about you; an admirable thing. However, are they really allowing you to live your life if they're discouraging you from doing something that you want? Is it possible that their concerns can create doubt within your mind to the point where you become fearful of even attempting what you want? See what I mean now by the danger of projecting your fears onto others? We have a situation where two people have never attempted something, yet one of them whether intentionally or unintentionally discourages the other from even attempting. This is something that happens all too much in my opinion, and it causes many people to potentially miss out on new things and experiences. Again, much of the potential fear that stems from this is out of care and concern, but it can still be damaging to the other person life. This is why I personally believe that you should always encourage other people whenever they present you with something they want to do.

Now in saying all of this, I'm not saying that you shouldn't never voice concern or care whenever someone you love wants to attempt something. From my perspective, I believe it is important to find a healthy balance of giving them their freedom, and knowing when to interject. Now if you're in a situation where you have previous hands on experience with something that someone wants to attempt, voicing your opinion will likely carry more weight because you have that experience. The crowd that I'm primarily referring to is the crowd that are afraid of trying something themselves, so they don't want to see you do it either. If you are a person that has these traits, I admire you for being concerned about others. However, if you look deep within yourself, can you honestly say that you have another person's best interest at heart if you're discouraging them from experiencing things? When you really think about it, you are likely looking out more for your own self-interests, and you never want to project that onto someone that you love. Be as supportive as you possibly can in these type of situations. Try not to create doubts and fears in the minds of others if they want to do something for their own life. I'm sure that there are many people in this world that live with regret because they listened to what other people said instead of following their own mind. I'm also certain that many of these people probably harbor negative feelings towards some of the people that tried to attempt them from spreading their wings a bit. The main thing that I hope the readers can take from this is to always show concern and care, but also allow other people to live.

Well I think that about sums up this topic. I think I pretty much got everything that I planned on discussing out there, so I'm going to go ahead and sign off for now. Thank you for those of you that stopped by for another installment of 'Brad H.'s Perspective'! I sincerely appreciate all of you and your encouragement to keep on bringing up these topics. As always, I hope that there was some meaning and understanding that could be gained from this. If you found this inspirational or helpful, please feel free to leave any feedback below. You can also follow me or hit me up on Twitter at the handle @BradrickH. I hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend, as well as the big game tomorrow if you're looking forward to it. I also hope that those of you up north and on the east coast, as well as the Midwest stay warm. I know it has been brutal up there, so I hope you all stay safe. I'll see you all in the next one. Peace!

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